Oct 2007: This little piggie ate lots of Christmas turkey.... all by themselves!

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Thought this was appropriate given latest discussion and thought I would start a new thread before this expires!!!!

Ok, sorry for that, i just had to share it with you.

well done Anya learning to steer,

How cute of Shannon,

And Dareh sounds adorable as well!

We are trying to get Zachary into a bedtime routine, unfortunatly i am too soft and when he cries i end up picking him up and then can't put him down lol.

He has been whizzing around the flat on his new bike i bought him yesterday, it is an electric one, the little daredevil starts it up and then stands up with it going!!!!

He also has had a real runny belly for a couple of weeks which i have found reason for he has the BIGGEST back tooth i have ever seen on a baby come through and another coming!

Thought they got all the front before back ones came through???

Anyways s'pose i best sort some dinner out, have had mum here but she wasn't coming for dinner so didn't make anything yet.

Is anyone around on Saturday 31st February? I want visitors to my flat (J20000000000000) as it is my birthday on the 1st, and I am going for a meal with sis, Bro (who i have just met) the other halves and all 6 kids, although we have agreed to not say anything to Bro's kids as they are too young and are just going to be told we are friends......

Stef, I am i really really am lol I am sitting here with a stupid grin on my face lol and i can't stop!

Just a quick update - hospital have phoned - still no beds but they should have some tomorrow morning so dh is to go in for 8am . (Lots of crossed fingers please!)

((((Inzi))))) So sorry everything is so difficult right now. What a nightmare. I really hope Jane doesnt' catch that bug. Is there anyone around who can come round to give you a break?

Sorry you are having a crap time of it Inzi

Big Hugs and lots of sympathy coming your way xxxx

WWAJC - hope dh gets sorted tomoorow xx

LES - Congrats on ds1, I would be so proud too

aarrgghhh gotta go, the boys are driving me nuts, fighting

Inzi - am so for you xxx Your poor Grnadad, am hoping he'll take a turn for the better xx

WWAJC - fingers crossed for your dh for today xxxx

I am so confused...
My SIL sent me an email saying that she wanted the little girl in their lives but it was my brother who said he didn't want contact but would pay money. I am so sad that there is a little girl who's dad doesn't want her and very that it's my brother who's the dad. The mum may be volatile but I don't want the little girl growing up thinking that none of her father's family wanted her.
Apparently the reason they didn't tell me and dh was because 'we knew how you feel about family' not sure whether that's meant to be a compliment or not but if it means that I wouldn't turn my back on my family, whoever they are and however they came about, then yes it 's true.

I feel she (the mother) is trying to manipulate me and I feel my brother is also and I don't know what to do.

Inzi(((((BIG HUGS)))))I'm so sorry about your g-dad, and about your dh and about Jane's sleep problems ... I dearly hope that neither you nor Jane catch Dhs virus.

WWJC. Hope Dh got his bed this morning and the op goes smoothly. Well done Anya for getting steering!(as J20 said...that is better than I can do too)

TLes; Well done DD1! As to teeth, I thought they got all the front ones first too but it seems Adam, Zach and now Alex too have all just had their front 4 then the molars arrived, so it can't be that unusual

Alex got a massive back lower right last week and is now struggling with a lower leftIt has given him the usual nasty nappy/potty thing and affected his sinuses so he has a dreadful runny nose,intermittent temperatures, sore ears and sore eyes ... he wont eat anything but lots of little bfs..(and covers me in snot while feeding [eeewwwww emoticon])and can't sleep he is so bunged up. Doctor says just keep giving the calpol, keep bathing the eyes with water or ebm, keep using saline drops and vaseline for his nose and bonjella on his gums and sit it out

Just got the news that our friend passed away in the early hours of this morning ...

Muppet x-posted. I understand your feeling about family...I'm somewhat "clannish" myself..my Dh simply does not comprehend the blood tie thing, perhaps it is a masculine/feminine thing?
In defence of your bro...he knows the woman involved and she is obviously someone he did not want to inflict on involve in his life/family and did not "choose" to have a child with (perhaps this is what prompted him to stop sowing wild oats and find someone he did want to bear his children?)I dont think he would consider his decision not to tell you manipulative, he was just trying to protect you from his indiscretions or avoiding unpleasant arguments truths. The fact that the poor little girl is half his and will be a very different personality from the mother especially with input from her father is something he either hasn't considered or has decided that the maternal influence would be too hard to overcome .
The mother does sound like she is being manipulative however.
I hope you find a solution that satisfies your need to keep the blood tie without over familiarity with the mother.

FT-so sorry to hear about your friend Deepest sympathies to you and her family.

muppet-Why do you think she would decide after 5 years to contact you other than the little girl asking questions? Its weird isn't it, surely she should have moved on with her life. Maybe she has changed? Will your brother be OK if you do decide to meet her and have her in your life?

well...I found out yesterday that Rich logged on to read what i had wrote on this thread, I don't know why, and he can't answer why either, then he lied about it, i don't even know why i asked him-just a hunch. I'm angry and upset with him, but i think its more about the lying than feeling violated-i mean it is a public forum after all, i feel a name change coming on! Not sure what i am going to do yet.

Shannon went to (the cheaper but closer)nursery for a couple of hours this morning, i was so tired after very little sleep that i rung them to see if they had room and they did, so i took her to see how she was, and she just ran off to play without a backward glance! I got a half hearted wave when i left and when i went to pick her up she didn't want to leave, so i guess thats a good sign, may put her in again for a few hours next week and see how she goes.

hope everyone is doing well

Heinz-We stil don't know your theory on the Sep thread!

FT so sorry about your friend. Thinking of you.

Muppet - that is such a difficult situation to be in. I don't know what I would do. I also think it is sad that she is growing up without knowing her dad or his family. What do you want? Would contact with her wreck your relationship with your brother? It's really difficult.

I am having more stress over that stupid job which is daft because I am worrying about something that hasn't even happened. I was out teaching as a favour in my old school and they were all saying I must go for it as I am never going to get a part time job and that I should get it then work the system from the inside. The headteacher has already put in a good word for me to the school which is nice of him. I feel like it has taken a life of its own if that makes sense. I am so daft worrying about a job that I might not even bloody get. It is on the doorstep though so perhaps I am being insane to consider not going for it. I've started the application process anyway - I guess it will be interview experience but I just keep thinking it would just be my bloody luck to get the one job I go for that I don't really want.

Floria - sorry to hear about your friend

Inzi - Hope you are all feeling better soon.

Inzi you poor thing - take it as easy as you can and I hope you all get better soon.

Hope you are all feeling better soon Inzi xxxx

Just a quick one as am off to bed...

Things went ok with my parents apart from a blip at the end caused by my mother, just her being a drama queen, will update yoy all soon.

Floria - Deepest sympathy on the loss of your dear friend, am thinking of you at this difficult time x

Inzi - So sorry you all have the bug, hope it passes soon ((hugs))

Stefka - What did your dh do today that was annoying?

J20 - Glad Shannon enjoyed the nursery, sorry things are strained with rich.

WWAJC - Hope the op goes ahead this time! Fingers crossed for you.

Les - Thats great about ds, you must be so proud.

well, am knackered, off to bed, speak to you all soon, sorry if i've missed anyone xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Inzi(((hugs)))I hope you are all better very soon.Remember flat 7up or lemonade.Glad your grandad is well enough to come home...hope the cat scan results are ok.

Dal. Sounds like it went better than expected. Excellent. Are you going to be continuing contact?

WWAJC.Hope all went well yesterday and Dh is recovering.

J20 How fab that Shannon loved the nursery..I doubt Alex would go off so happily

Thanks all for the sympathy...funeral is next Tuesday...its dreadful for her daughter (v.close friend) and husband and her brother (dhs bestfriend/bestman)but it is her Mum I feel most for...you just dont expect to out live your children and this year has been dreadful with the loss of one of her son-in-laws to bone cancer and one of her grandsons having a seizure and now in a coma/vegetive state he is not expected to recover from and now losing V. .......as I said, sometimes life just is not fair.

Inzi - big hugs to you hun. So sorry everything has come on top of you at once. Hope you and Jane feel better soon. Glad your grandad is out of hospital.

Muppet - would your brother mind if you had some contact with the girl? (If you wanted to of course.)

FT - so sorry about your friend - big hugs to you too.

J2O - hmmm - I must admit I always feel as though I'm just talking to you guys when I'm posting and I'd feel a bit weird if anybody from rl read the thread (let alone dh!) - not that there's anything I wouldn't want them to read, it would just feel a bit strange. Can understand his curiosity though - we post on here far too much . Glad Shannon liked the nursery.

Dal - glad things went ok with your parents.

DH finally had his op ! Yesterday was ridiculous though - we went in for 8am - took Anya with us as the plan was for me to stay only until we knew dh had a bed. That turned out to be 10:45!!! Couldn't believe how shambolic it all was - there were 4 people waiting for a bed, one of which was urgent so they were getting her sorted first (dh was 2nd on the list) but all the paperwork and checks (blood pressure, blood samples etc) were done in the day room (tiny room with half a dozen chairs) as they didn't have any other space. No privacy/confidentiality at all - and they were having to ask all sorts of medical questions (would you admit to incontinence in front of half a dozen strangers? - not that dh has it I hasten to add ). They were apologetic but it was disgraceful imo. Luckily dh's op went well - he got his own side-room as the surgeon was a bit worried about complications (it was in a very tricky place apparently) but the surgeon's very happy with how it went. I'm going to pick him up this afternoon (dh, not the surgeon). Anya was as good as gold at the hospital - considering we weren't really prepared for a 3 hour wait - she walked miles up and down the corridors and entertained the other patients. Didn't whine once. Love her so much .

Floria - So sorry for you re your friend xxx

Inzi - really hoping you'll be feeling better soon -how is Janes' sleeping?

WWAJC - Wehay! for your dh having his op. I had the same situation when I had to have an erpc (D +C) after my miscarriage. We were in a tiny room with 2 beds and a reception for the early pregnancy unit where wman were coming in and having scans that were good and bad results. It was awful I went in at 8am after no food snce the previous night and they kept moving me back then said they had an emergency of a bike crashe w'rer he was pretty bad. I got quite hysterical and then started saying I'm so awful as that poor man needs the space more!!!! [bush] They were talking about putting me on a drip as I was getting dehydrated to which I said I was going home....this was in the middle of the depression and I think it was horrible.

Well, my brother would be angry if I had anything to do with this little girl and dh is right that I would have to choose between them which I just can't. I feel terrible that she'll be told that her fathers' family don't want her but I am in a really tough situation. I feel like writing a letter and placing it with a solicitor dated this week so I can show her one day that I did care but had a really difficult choice to make. My brother supported me through my parent's divorce and stuck up for me when she got very drunk and abusive so I feel my loyalties are with him. Still doesn't make it an easy decision or even a right one though but at least there were/are reasons.

must spell check more [bush]?????

INzi - that is absolutely appalling . I hope they get their act together and don't make any more mistakes. Here's hoping your parents get some answers. (((hugs))) to you, hope he's better soon.

Hope you feel better soon too x

Inzi ..ditto exactly what Dal has said ((((hugs))))