March 2008 babies: Why aren't humans born with teeth and other important topics!

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new thread - old one getting too big for some...

2 sets of M&S "dine in for £10" this weekend- though I topped up on their 4 for the price of 3 snack foods like brie & cranberry parcels as well. Don't envy you, I don't like catering for "strangers" (ie anyone who isn't my DH or me) at the best of times, and have gone and invited all the inlaws over on boxing day . Also have no idea why I bother having a cleaner at the moment, as babyjail now takes up 1/2 the floor in the living room so she can't clean under that without messing it all up...and every room bar the guest bedroom is full of clutter which needs to be sorted out before next Sunday when my parents arrive, as I need 2 rooms for them, sigh.
Have to write the xmas cards this weekend and wrap the pressies or they'll never be done, but haven't got round to putting up the decs yet, as I need to find space to actually put them first

On the plus side, cracking night out last night seeing the Steel City tour - ABC weren't as good as I expected, but Heaven 17 and Human League were much better than I thought they'd be. Made me feel my age of course when work colleague told me she'd been born later than the main year they all had chart success .

Would you contemplate cheating and going to Cook and buying something ready made? They do fab casseroles/tagine type things that are dead easy and you could do the rest? The pudding section is good too mmm.

I have friends like the ones you mention, live in a swanky child free pad in Shad Thames and I always feel totally inadequate when they visit. I suggest going out for dinner now!

We're doing the dine in thing tonight, I am already looking forward to it!

You reminded me about Christmas cards, thank you. I don't normally send them but feel I should to DPs family as they have sent me and I need to send some to DDs nursery staff as they have all sent her one.

DD (I should say I) also has homework from nursery this weekend - nuts! I am hungover too much red wine last night with the girls.

Had my hair cut and coloured this morning which has made me very happy although not so good news as the Waitrose really near to my Dad burned down last night so I can't go and visit this afternoon as I had planned so cosying up on the sofa this afternoon!

OOh, that Cook website needs further investigating thanks for the link!!!
Am off to our newish Waitrose now with my £10 off voucher from last week's paper - parents posted it over to my last Sunday and it didn't arrive until yesterday with 1st class stamp, grr!

Thank you all for making me v hungry!! Joy of joys they have just cancelled as their au pair can't babysit...(glee!)

used my voucher this afternoon fnf1! MIL posted it to me this week too

Ah, turtle - lucky escape for you

at Ewe's lamb's homework

After months of staying in and doing nothing much, I've had an action-packed few days. Cookery course on thursday (birthday pressie i've been looking forward to for months) where I learnt how to make every type of sauce, followed by DH's work night out. Did anyone watch Britain's Got Talent? The entertainment was Signature - the Michael Jackson/Bollywood dance act - and they were fab! Then Friday I was out in town with work colleagues and found out that a colleague is expecting twins Yesterday we were up in Oxford visiting friends - went to a live nativity with real animals and baby! DS loved the donkey and loved the singing and then we got a babysitter and went out with our friends last night to Brasserie Blanc (having watched the Restaurant avidly we had to check out how well Raymond runs his own restaurant). I'm knackered this morning as it's 3 nights in a row that I've not been to bed until 1am. Fortunately DS slept well last night and went from 7pm-8am without a feed or a murmur apart from when we moved him from his cosy cot into the car at 11pm!

serves me right for enjoying a night out - spent since 5am down at the hospital again with LO burning a 39 degree fever for hours, and not coming down with calpol or nurofen. They kept us a bit longer as they thought he had a urine infection. I was quite impressed with this as it's something i've only heard of in connection with girls, but it turned out ot be a false alarm anyway. Spent 7 hours in there after being awake since 12.45 to mop up the 2 vomits, and have run out of duvets for the bed

Oh fnf1-That's horrible! Hope E and you are both ok. (((hugs)))

cheers turtle, had another night with him beside me burning up until i dragged the dog's new mattress in (dog doesn't like it!) and let him sleep on that next to the bed.I was able to keep an ear out for him without giving him my body heat and looks like he's (fingers crossed) over the worst - much perkier this morning. It's so frightening when they have a fever like that and the medicine isn't reducing the temp

His gran is luckily not working today and is looking after him since he can't go to nursery and I'm back in bed with a hot drink and box of tissues. My DH was the generous viral donor this time round.

Hope everyone else is recovering, what's the latest on the chicken pox?

Oh I do wish winter would go away. We are all suffering because the babies are suffering. Poor FnF1 and E

My DS has a terrible cough and snotty nose and is generally a bit grumpy, and we now have to go into central London to finish the Christmas shopping Just three things for DH and my brother that have to be bought in a specific shop that only has one branch and no online sales. Grrr. I'm planning to be in, shopped and out by 11.30!

fnck me this time of year is hard work! please each of you accept a tinsel wrapped and generous doses of endurance and stamina sprinkled lightly with a crust of hope of easier days

right. off to do next 72 things on the list of endlessness

commiserations to all suffering, we all do seem to be having a tough time atm

i now have a mobile baby, he has decided to bum shuffle and is still quite lazy, will move only a bit then really s-t-r-e-t-c-h and pull things to him, but now nothing if safe, and believe me baby proofing is farr easier without your toddlers crayons, puzzle pieces and paper keep appearing

went to london yesterday, after a massive fight with dh in the car we went to the stalls on the southbank and had dinner in wagamama, ds loves it there and he tucked into mangetout and red peppers, slight shame that i found a bit of chicken when starting my supposed to vegetarian dish and they didnt even knock something off the bill

fnf1- i was in the pet shop the other day and was thinking some of the pet beds would have been good for babies

LD! That is outrageous. I would have demanded they take your meal off the bill, but then again I'm American.

No signs of the pox a week post exposure. Nephew #1 is almost over it, and nephew #2 doesn't have it yet. I have seen a couple red dots on G but they seem to have gone so probably not the pox. I'm really hoping we make it to at least next Sunday when we fly out.

HQ you are too brave to go into central London. I've told my family that all the nephews and nieces are getting Amazon vouchers, and the adults stopped exchanging gifts years ago so that's a relief. DH's family, though, require gifts so will have to sort them out in the States, I think. No time or energy to shop for them before Christmas!

So sorry to hear about horrible illnesses and trips to the ER. NOT fun. Hope you are all on the mend.

Central London went better than expected - DS slept for most of the morning then had a lovely lunch in John Lewis Brasserie. He ate loads of bread and mange tout and fish, and got a marriage proposal from the waitress (she said he was so cute that she would be willing to wait 20 years for him )

I'm very very nervous tonight. I have a formal meeting to discuss my flexible working request tomorrow morning. I want 3 days a week and my manager's initial reaction was surprisingly favourable so I've got psyched up about only going back 3 days, but now I think he is backtracking and the meeting is becoming all formal with my head of dept and HR also involved. Eeek.

ooh hq, had similar when i went back after ds1. but we had the money saved so coyuld have bought me out of slavery if required...so they had nothing to negotiate with tbh. it was 3 days or i leave. only lasted about 9 mths on return mind you. but that's what happens with daft amounts of work, then deciding to pay me less than the PR twinkies (apologies all pr people...but we're talking a non-commercial environment here, pr never really helped us), when i was the one generating all the turnover of scientific output and developing interesting data mining outputs and standing stoicly setting up data streams in the face of polonium poisoning panic GRRRRR

and breathe<

sorry about fight littleducks. hope all is love and peace again.

my DH went to the doghouse briefly last week. yet again asked me what i wanted for xmas. i mean, god how hard is this? aren't i the love and sex siren of your life, whose heroic and tender mothering of your perfect offspring and witty and outgoing support of your career makes you think of me endlessly?

...and i've only mentioned a thing a month all year. TAKE NOTES! so i told him the above, pointed out i love baubles and jewels. found myself a major jewellery box. that's my present this year, and he can fill it as finances allow every xmas and birthday from now on in. plastic in the poor years. and diamonds in the good. and no more upsetting me with obvious lack of thought.

Can I ask those of you who have nightmare frequent wakers and are breastfeeding a question? Sorry for getting personal, but DH and I have had huge row which ended in him threatening that if things don't change in next few weeks/months we're finished....
How much shagging is really going on in those households where you are the only one getting up to DC and they are waking 6-8 times some nights, and sometimes (like today) wake up for the day at 445? OK, so we've only managed it three times this month and two of those were baby-time induced, but I AM TIRED!
Am feeling very down as I have explained 4million times that if he would just get up with him one night a week I could catch up and not feel like a zombie. I would love to WANT to do it, but bed just says sleep to me.

turtle - your DH really is a selfish a**e
We've still only got round to it once - nearly on Fri when we had a night off but I was so shattered I couldn't, and I'm not going through all that you're doing with the BF.

MB it's not that hard in this household, but then I've known for 2 years what I'm getting this xmas as it's the 3rd in a sequence of 4 very pricey special edition Sandman books I may get the 4th for my birthday as I don't want to wait a year for it! But some of them don't do subtlety so just write him a list or do an Amazon wish list or something like that.

HQ fingers crossed for today - hopefully the gang approach is just to formalise things rather than to change your mind for you!

LD I'd have sent the meal back since it obviously wasn't veggie...but then you run the risk of certain other things being added to the revised meal when it comes out

Lo much better now, been asleep for 12 hours, DH taking him to GP for 9mth check today so will have him checked over again no doubt. Meanwhile I'm going through guilty bad mummy feelings for not being able to take him as I have to go to sodding work for year end shoite.

JFly fingers crossed for you on the flights, and send happy weather vibes that you don't get fogbound or have any other crappy delays that they get over xmas.

I'm pretty sure I've had sex, I have the children to prove it but lordy- 3 times a month feels like a long time ago!
Someone go and shake some sense into Turtle's DH's head.

I am getting my presents in the Jan sale - romantic huh?!

Oh turtle, your DH is being really out of order. FWIW, I wouldn't wanna sleep with him because of his attitude regardless of sleep situation!

When DD has been waking up in the night lots we have been at it less frequently and that is with DP getting up just as much as I do. We still do it quite a lot but that is certainly in part to my Mum having DD one evening a week!

turtle - of course he wants sex more, all men do. and while i suppose he has every right to ask for it more, he has no right to expect you to comply or issue ultimatums! v on your behalf. fwiw, we've had a baby who has had terrible sleep spells at various points - as bad as P, but not as consistently bad as P IYSWIM. we have sort of developed a habit of going back to bed for a 'lie in' at least one weekend morning when DS goes down for his morning nap. add in maybe once or twice more for luck and we're at 5-6 times in a good month. my DH (and me as well really) would probably like it more, but we aren't making a big deal of it as we think we're doing okay for now considering.

meeting at work went not as good as i had hoped but not as bad as i had expected. my job needs to be done 5 days per week apparently but they don't want to lose me so are already talking to other depts about possible part time opps for me. if that doesn't work out then i was able to negotiate a 3 months phase back so i have 6 months before i'm back full time to find a part time role. advantages of working for a big company i guess! now just need to organise childcare while not knowing what days or how many days i need to go back for

turtle- so sorry you're going through yet another thing! I think HQ speaks some sense- of course he's allowed to want more, but not to issue you with conditions!

I had a brilliant day out in Central London today. Caught the boat from Canary Wharf with 2 of my NCT friends to Bankside, had lunch at the Tate Modern (they were extremely baby-friendly, have space to park buggies and lots of high chairs!) then had a wander past all the market stalls and riverside stuff while they all slept like angels! DH is working late tonight though so I'm beat now!

Bit of a and : I got a good look in dd's mouth today whist tickling her and she has 4 teeth coming through on the top! 4!! The 2 middle ones are lines, but the 2 beside them are proper little white things!!

Hope everyone else is doing well

i've been on this site too long: just posted my first AIBU thread!

ilgb - your day sounds lovely will have to check out tate modern with DS.

Turtle, as you know my DS is also a hideous sleeper, and up until recently bf at night. As others have said your DH is being an arse v unrealistic. 3 times a month is fairly good going in my book! I would definitely echo HQ's suggestion, and make use of LO's daytime naps when possible