September 08 - Just ladies with babies

[pacita]

I thought I'd start a new thread before we run out of space...

hopefully when I'm faced with that situation I feed him lying down. It's not The best latch, but he falls asleep and stays asleep as he's lying down on his side. I leave him for a while then transfer him to the cot. HTH

aww barnpot - i hope you get all the help you needed as i found it very hard with my first born as everything was new and i never done it before (and i came straight out from a full time job plus loads of overtime straight into Motherhood) but with my 2nd born..everything is abit easier as i know what to do and plus i had to get into a routine with DD2 very early cos of DD1 as i take and collect her from her preschool every day.

Try and go for a walk even if you dont feel going out as the fresh air do you the world of good.

Star - like if they are sucking on back of their tongue? if yes......yes! it is cute!

and also DD2 is finding her voice now......gone the peace and quiet mornings!!

We still have not done the deed yet, i did offer it to him tonight but only if he went to the chip shop for me he didnt go so his loss.

meglet are you going to the nest bf support group? i go on fridays as its a toddler group aswell, i might see you there.

I am wasteing so much milk at the moment, im trying to cut out the top ups and bf more, it seems to be working i need more confidence sp? in myself that i am giving him what he needs,if he crys i offer him a bottle because i think he is hungry but he refuses it.

Barnpot [cuddle].

I agree with the ladies' advice, do get out even if it is just to the shops, and do say yes to help whenever offered. Visit people, and don't be afraid to ask for help.

Being Spanish and rather brazen, I do find that in an Anglo-Saxon society we are often overly concerned with manners and appearances, neglecting needs that really need attention. ( I should add that in similar situations in mediterranean countries, people are very often going to overdo it and get on your tits).

At any rate, being out and seeing people is all good. I am finding it hard being alone at home all day too, and on the nights when D does not sleep it is particularly hard. But I make sure that I'm out the door as soon as I can (sometimes without having showered or run a comb through my hair and looking like a right old pikey) to keep my sanity.

And you always have MN for a bitch, a rant and a bit of digital moral support. xxxxx

Im mean i go on thursdays i never know what day it is anymore.

thank for the support and thanks for the hug ILTMIMI have persueded mum to come over and play with Elli for the past 3 hours. shes got the next 6 days off so I will be annoying seeing her for awhile.
I know getting out is the key, and I have a poor hyperactive dog that needs walking everyday, so i will get out.
my word calpol is good, knocked him out for past 6 hours, so slept through the worst of the lag pain. just hope we have a better night, when he sleeps hes fantastic, its just getting him off to sleep thats the hard thing.

thanks for the cuddle pacita its appriciated

barnpot - DH is brilliant at helping, but obviously is out all day working, I don't have friends/family nearby (well, they're in another country!) so I get really lonely, especially if I don;t go out, which is normally just for the school run, though don;t speak to other mums as I don't know anyone. but just the walk with DD in the sling and DS holding my hand cheers me up... til I get back and see the mountains of washing....

Ds's cotbed has just arrive, woop woop!! Yes its 10pm, one of dh's friends dropped it off after football training. Yet again we blag free baby equipment. Hooray! Now, can I get dh to build it tonight while I do the dream feed?! We're having the new boiler fitted tomorrow so obviously I need the cot bits to be out of the way asap

Hmmmm.... T technically slept through last night (woke at 6:40am), but what actually happened was that he had exactly the same amount of sleep (about 5 hours) but refused to actually go to sleep until 1:30am after a 10:30pm feed.
Tedious, as clearly he is capable of going a good stretch between feeds, but the two hours of grizzling after the 10:30pm feed were so not worth it!

Pants, my mother is going home again today, no more daytime company . Although also no more being told I need to lose weight . I am going to spend a bit of time today phoning the baby groups I have got flyers for and seeing if I can't make my day to day life a bit more interesting with some more outings!

starlight you kept very quiet about the sleeping through - one moment she was feeding every 40 mins, the next sleeping through. Have you been secretly sleep training?

I'm sure you're right about feeding aoll evening helping. M's been so tired in the evening she's gone to sleep in her cot the last 2 nights and not had the feedathon, but then after i've woken her at 10.30 ish she's also woken 2 hours later grrrr. Last night was better as I kept her in the bed with me so I think SHE slept better (I certainly didn't!)

I better go and get ready as I'm meeting Imoscarsmum in the trafford centre to see a film

lollyheart - you sold yourself short there. A shag is at least worth an Indian take away and a bottle of wine

barnpot - come over this way for a cuddle anytime We all need one every now and then. We get so engrossed looking after our lo's every need that we put ourselves on the back burner. That's the way it has to be when you're a mum, however there are times when it all catches up with you and you need a good cry, a good cuddle, a sympathetic ear who just agress with everything you say, and last but not least the biggest god-damn bar of Dairy Milk

I also need to listen to my own advice as I've got another cold (2 in two months) - what a bummer.

carrieon - let us know how it goes with the students. It sounds like a really interesting thing to do.
hopefully - good luck with the baby groups today.

iltmimi I will def be an indian and a bottle of wine next time i offer a shag

Hopefully it was the best thing i ever did was go to a baby group when dd was born 4 yrs ago, i met all my best friends there all 10 of them, we still see each other a few times aweek. most of us have had more children, its great watching the dcs play together, they are all best of friends to

arrrggghhh the washing issue gets worse. DS1 was up all night (well until 1.30am) being sick so now there's even more washing to do. I wonder how long its acceptable to not change our bed covers for I really can't face finding somewhere for them to dry too but don't want to think about how long they've been on the bed.

arrrggghhh the washing issue gets worse. DS1 was up all night (well until 1.30am) being sick so now there's even more washing to do. I wonder how long its acceptable to not change our bed covers for I really can't face finding somewhere for them to dry too but don't want to think about how long they've been on the bed.

whoops

hopefully - its too early to start worrying about your weight as what your mum had said to u. im overweight by 2 stones but im v happy and my weight is very slowly losing. its takes time.

Soooo.... blocked duct that I've been unable to clear (eased it with rugby ball feeding position, but it hasn't gone) is now burning hot and have red rash on my breast. Am I facing the beginning of mastitis? Have persuaded myself I feel a bit weird, but probably being hypocondriac (sp).

biglips thanks - my weight is also falling off v v slowly, and I was perfectly happy with that until my mother started making comments. I will continue with the custard cream habit as soon as she goes!

Debi if it wasn't for the regular visits from my mother (poor DP has seen more of his MIL in the past 10 weeks than in our entire relatioonships!) and MIL to do a spot of laundry or cleaning, I don't think we'd have changed the sheets since t's birth... Hope DS1 feels better soon.

Oooh, swimbabies, musical babies, library babies, baby yoga, baby and mummy pilates... The choices are endless!

starligh t suckles in his sleep all the time. it's so unrelaxing listening to it on the monitor, as occasionally he wakes himself up and wants a real feed!

AAAARRGGGHHHH! rant alert !!!!
DS had anothe bad cry night (keeps on getting pains in his legs, but we keep on being told it's just growing pains...), then wouldn't wake up this morning, so no school (well, he was up most of the night crying), woke up after DP had left and he had soaked the bed (am I ever going to have a no-washing day!?). went down for breakfast and booked GP apt for DS ,DD wouldn't sleep, then DS wanted to go to school, and time to get ready, they were both hungry, so fed overtired DD, who vomited all over the two of us, then she filled her nappy and DS needed the toilet too (why is it that they need to have a poo just when we have to get out of the house!?), got them dressed so mad rush out of the door with screaming baby, drive to surgery, parked the car but some had parked a scooter between the only two empty car spaces, so couldn't get car seat out, so had to carry DD who was just about to doze off, get inside the surgery with screaming baby and 5 mins late... oh, what a nightmare, by the time GP saw us, she must have thought I was a lunatic, bouncing screaming baby and trying to talk to her at the same time! at least we got sent for X-Ray, probably tomorrow, and took DS to school...... was meant to go to shops but just got back and sat in the car in the drive for about 20 mins, just couldn;t make myself get out... at least DD is sleeping, though that means the rest of the day is all messed up... was soo looking forward to a nice walk around shops with DD in the sling as I really needed to get out, but soo exhausted now and DP will have to pick DS from school as can't predict what DD will be doing at that time...

!!sorry - long rant!!

sorry again all, but feel a bit better now...

ok, re weight - my mum always complains that I'm too fat/too thin, so immune to her comments now... was getting worried as hadn't lost anything really since coming home from hospital til 2-3 wks ago. then checked a couple of days ago and I've lost 4 kg!! still 6kg to go before I can get into any of my decent clothes, but feel better about myself now, haircut helped too. but I know it takes time so trying to remind myself the weight did go in about 6-7 months last time...

hopefully - it could be, I'd get it looked at as had mastitis twice with DS and wasn't fun!