September 08 - Just ladies with babies

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I thought I'd start a new thread before we run out of space...

that sounded awful kagey.

what i meant was that the article is a hack job. further evidence of dumbing down at the times. but if you know nothing about carriers then its ok and that is 98% of the public. hilarious to ask GF on her opinions on slings.

Ooh, we managed a whole hour for the afternoon nap. Mainly due to the magical settling abilities of my MIL. She is renowned in the family for being rubbish at playing with babies but astonishing at getting them to sleep. I am prepared to rent her out for a small fee...

I didn't know you had vci as well Foxy. I just seem to make very dodgy placentas.

DD1 uses aveeno for her exzema and I got a prescription for the aveeno bathoil for her as well today as well as some aveeno lotion for Katie. It started on her cheeks and is spreading all over her face now. I don't mind how it looks, I just feel sorry for her as the whole family has been struggling so much with exzema and she's starting so early.

this one was vci. i haven't mentioned it on mn before. wasn't discovered till mw checked that it was complete so i would have otherwise gone for a c/s. i saw your experience when i searched the archives.

i stored it in the fridge and took photos as it looked a better example than in textbook according to mw.

my dd2's face has come up in a dryskin rash and have applied dd1's aveeno to see if it clears. i am fearing the worst. dh suffered terribly as a child. i have given up egg as a strong history of egg allergy in his family and dd1 is allergic.
she reacted to it in my milk.

Hello, not posted for ages and not caught up. Had a horrid weekend, ds had far too much daytime sleep due to our desire to go out, and therefore him sleeping in car/buggy for up to 7 hours, which resulted in two awful nights with up to 4 wakings. Last night I cried for 2 hours coz I was so tired and upset. I'm actually glad its the week now, dh back at work, and me and kids back in our routine. Also I'm v.cross coz AF is back. Ds is a breastfed 7 week old FGS!!!! So the hormones reeeeally don't help.

AND our boiler and shower are broken, so although we have heating, there is no hot water in the house other than what we boil in our kettle. We've got plumbers and electricians coming and giving quotes. Its a madhouse I tell you!

Off to shower at a friend's house now...

Poor you Carrieon. If you haven't caught up on the posts you won't have noticed my post from this morning - I cried lots last night when DS was up for 2.5 hours from 3am. I'm testing the possibility that he's had the opposite problem to you - too little day time sleep - by giving him extra long naps today. It's not exactly paying off so far as he's sitting merrily in his bouncer at the moment, instead of being fast asleep! I know what you mean about it being better in some ways when your DH is at work - even though there's no help it means you can get back into the swing of things.

Ooh, got a nice email from the NCT lady about mum and baby group on wed - feeling less scared about going now!

mustsleep gosh, that sounds horrid - hope they can help you at your scan x

Starlight and plusonemore Thanks for your posts - I completely agree with you re: the writing thing. He is a very clever and articulate boy but just struggles to communicate his thoughts to paper....he is only 5! He has something called an IEP (?) once a day for 10 mins...but I have been out today and got some word games to try with him...I hate the thought that he thinks he isnt "good enough". He gets very upset when we do his homework - I think he must be aware that not everyone in his class has extra help

Sorry to hear so many of you have this virus thing - feel ghastly and fed up today. Will try to be more cheerful next time

hopefully You are doing a great job

dh back from his parents with some more advice, to get him to take to the dummy i should dip it in my breast milk, well i tried it, he gagged then threw up on me.
oh and apparently hes having temper tantrums?? i thought that wasn't until the terrible 2's? can an 11 week old have a temper? i know they are trying to help and i will listen to any suggestion, after all we've never done this before. but at the end of the day I know my son and I know what works with him. ok moan over after all they are lovely people and would do anything for us and Elli.

Absolutely starlight, it is easy to say "oh don't worry" becaroo, but DS1 has only just started learning to write over here - and he will be 7 in January - and you know what? he is doing great! and I think that is because he is ready, whereas at 5 boys are simply not ready.

Bit emotional tonight as my dad just called (haven't spoken to either of my parents in over 3 years) I then phoned my best friend from way back who's 7 month old has a colostomy bag & is going in for another operation tomorrow - which has been postponed and it's my b'day in a few hours and I'm lurching from one rollercoaster emotion to another!

becaroo IEP is Individual Education Plan. Sounds like its low level and good that they're on the ball. I'm a Reception (and have been Y1 and 2) teacher so if I can help at all please feel free to ask.

hopefully don't know how it's gone the amt of sleep over 24 hrs is more significant than over 12. imo taking 1.5 hrs to settle in the evening or at 4 am cuts into a lot of sleep time.

i was reflecting on some pf your dilemma while i listened to dd2 and her awful head cod a little while ago. i know these routine based books advocate 'starting out as you intend to continue'. it made me think if i'd have the same, say,expectations from a 3 yo as i would a 6 yo. for me the answer is 'no'.

likewise i wouldn't have the same learning expectations from a 9 wk old as i would a 9 month old.

in fact, yes actual fact, developmentally speaking, the brain of a 3yo is nearly as developed as that of a 6yo but my expectations from them to learn and cope are different.

the brains of a 9mo old is vastly more advanced than that of a baby only 7mo younger yet the expectation of settling to sleep and staying asleep which these routine books advocate are those that are more typical of that of a 3 yr old. and that last statement, i am afraid, is something with a lot of sleep research behind it.

yes some babies are more easy going than others and some will conform more easily to a pre-cast mould than others but many babies can't and that is no failing of the mum or the baby. that can be disheartening for the baby and the mum.

well I finally got my antibiotics yestrday evening, by this point I had lost my voice COMPLETELY, couldn't swallow anything (it wasn't fun trying to take them - I cried for 10 mins") and I couldn't even open my mouth wide enough to get my thumb in.

I do feel guilty that M will be getting some in her bm.

Had horrible evening as I had to collect DD1 from school, do tea, go to the doctors and then to the pharmacy in the next vilage (as the one in ours was shut). Then ferry DD1 to jujitsu (where she's just got her first belt [proud mum]) and I just felt like lying down and collapsing.

(D)H was playing footy 6-7 so I texted him at 7 to say I was struggling, he ignored it so I tried to phone at 8 (silly idea - no voice!) but he said he'd finish off this drink and come home, anyway finally after many texts etc (he told me I was being dramatic) he arrived back gone 10.30 by the time we were all asleep (just). I have no voice or energy to be angry with him, but I am right in thinking that's a bit out of order. He won't see it though.

M then fed 4 times in the night, but I wondering if milk could be a bit slower as I'm so run down.

Feel a bit better this morning and am just going to chill (and tidy up, do the washing .....) but have to go for M's hip scan this afternoon.

Hope you all had a better evening and night, hopefully we await your night bulletin!

on the positive side though. At 10pm ish (having got into bed at about 8.45) I HAD to go to sleep and while M should have been tired, she was doing a very good impression of being wide awake!

I put her in her moses basket and turned the light off just so I could doze (and deal with her =when I needed to) she must have heavy breathed and gurled for 10 or 15 mins (but no crying) and then went to sleep!! So at least I know she can do it.

Becaroo sorry I meant to post this before - DD1 is in year 1 and they have to split the classes so she has been put up into the year 1/2 class (rather than staying in the year reception/1 class iyswim). However, her writing skills are poor - well below her other skills, her reading isn't great either. She has to be on the table in the class that get extra help - but that's a good thing, isn't it? To get the help you need.

Don't worry, the kids are assessed on a lot more thna just this.

Have to go -awake baby!

Well, despite being crap to settle at 7pm last night, T took a good feed (BF) at 10:30, settled quickly (within 30 mins of feeding), and settled quickly again when DP fed him when he woke at 4am (again, 20-30 mins he thinks). No idea whether it was the bottle or the extra sleep he got yesterday during the day, but I'm hoping and praying it happens again tonight (although preferably without the post 7pm screaming, but I think that was more down to dp's crap settling methods than any colic).
I fee like a new woman today. T of course is supremely unconcerned - he wasn't the one crying at 5am previously, I was! He has had a nice kick about in the baby gym and gone back to bed for another nap.

You poor thing ninja. I know you don't like taking the antibiotics, but when you're that ill you're more use to your children healthy and full of antibiotics than death warmed up but drug free! You DH sounds like he had a bit of a lapse of judgement last night - remember to tell him off when you're feeling better!

Ninja - I'm glad to hear you are feeling better today. Tonsilitis is horrible, I used to suffer from it a lot until I had them taken out in my early 20's. Make sure you rest (as much as you can).

And yes your husband was being a complete arse. You are sounding quite calm about it, I would have been going apeshit.

Oh, and in another breakthrough I managed to have my first shower without DP in the house (to rescue T in case of emergency). I did have to bring the baby gym into the bathroom, and was in and out in about 4 minutes, but nonetheless .

Oh, and thank you for the support and ideas starlight and foxy and everyone else!

ninja hope you feel better soon

hopefully Great news re: T sleep. Toby went from 9pm til 5am not getting too excited - bet it wont happen again tonight!

plusonemore Oooh...you shouldnt have told me that!!!! I will be pestering you everytime I have an education related question! Is there ANYTHING I can do as a parent to help him? Dont want to pressure him, but would like to help him if I can...?

poxtola Just wanted to let you know...took Toby out in the close carrier doe the first time for the school run this morning and it was FAB. Also went to local shops...one question though..what do you do it it rains??????????

Docs again tonight...bluergh....

Have a good day everyone x