APRIL 2008 - The One Where They Can Eat Food & Shoes & Toys ........

[FrankenSoph73]

Thought as the messages were coming in thick & fast I´d start new thread. Don´t know if it´ll work though. Fingers crossed.

Morning all.
PFJ - yes, he´ll get used to it & if you sit in the chair next to his cot and just rest your hand on him & don't look at him if he cries instead of getting him out that might help. Unfortunately Sam has been at nursery since he was 4 months because I couldn't afford to stay at home any longer & maternity leave over here is only 16 weeks He absolutely loves it, I absolutely hate it
Thanks for the tea & toast - just what I needed
Chip day today - hooray & DS1 is off to the Science Museum so he's a happy bunny & he's also wearing new tracksuit trousers so all's right with the world ... oh to be 6 again

aw PFJ - you can try the chair thing but I suspect it will just make him cry even more. I think PUPD might be the best bet to get him used to the fact that this is his room, his cot, and that he doesn't sleep with Mummy anymore.

(I don't mean that to sound harsh but I think that the longer you keep going and fetching him, the more likely it is that he will learn that you will keep doing that IYSWIM).

I'm sure that he will get used to it - you could also apply Scorpio's rule of three which I find works wonders

and ROFL at chip day Soph - every week I read it and think mmmmmmmmmmmn must have chips too.....

DonDons Poor DS1 though is having packed lunch due to his being on a trip so I couldn't get too excited this morning about chips otherwise he'd have sulked! Will be nice to him & let him have chips when he gets home Sad isn't it when the most exciting thing about being back at work is chips

well Friday morning is sausage butty day at my work so I know exactly what you mean (in fact I have decided that when I go back to work I have to work on Fridays just so I get my butty - so I really can't comment!)

Rule of 3 should be the law - just write three nights sleep off in your head, then it will be sorted!

Soph i love your chip days too for some reason, you always seem so chuffed!!

Am ok here, bit man angry at mo but alot alot better.

PFJ, for no-cry sleep there are two main solutions.

Either the PUPD technique or Gradual withdrawal.

Would he go to sleep with you next to him in a chair? If he would then I'd try GW. You start off in the chair, hands through cot bars if need be, once he is satisfied with that you just sit in the chair, no contact, then you sit by the door, then outside the door, etc until he sleeps without you. It takes longer than PUPD but is a perfectly good way if it's just your company he needs.

DP has two weeks off next week so we are going to do PUPD consistently (I'm too crap at it when I'm tired and know that DP has work in the morning etc) and if there is no change after a week we;re going to try GW as I'm not sure if it's just that eh wants company (thing is with company he stands up at the side of the cot laughing)

but I like sleep.... damnit.

Soph its brill your LO loves nursery already

So what we're saying here is that I need to face a tough 3 nights with him in his cot, just doing PUPD if he's really crying badly and keep at it... and if I sit in the chair not to look at him but maybe hold his hand?

Scorpio - hi. The thing is DH won't agree to him going at all. His mum's on her own & she gets upset very easily & she only gets to see us a couple of times a year. It's just me being selfish & I could easily put him in over the hols but then my family wouldn't see him while they're here (& nor would DH & I), so it really isn't fair to put him in when MIL is here, especially as me, DH & DS1 will be in school. This way she isn't on her own all day.

With GW I think Scorpios 3 day rule would apply to each stage btw. So 3 days of on the chair, 3 days by the door etc.

I think PUPD is the best bet, myself. just 1 lot of 3 days

Like VS I am crap when I am tired... but this will be for the best. Ok girls I'll keep at it and keep you updated on what I tried and how tired I am LOL

Soph - whatever makes everyone happy!

Scorpio - pleased you're feeling better. Men will always be a PITA though I think the reason I get so chuffed about chip day is because it's the day before Friday so it's nearly the weekend iyswim.
BSqualor - LOL at your LO laughing at you, also completely gobsmacked that he's standing already, wow. I take it you lowered his mattress then
PFJ - I'm with you on love of sleep. I'm feeling a lot better now that Sam's antibiotics seem to be working and he's sleeping right through again. You'll get there though.

I thnkk your DH and MIL are being unreasonable Soph - babies thrive on consistency don't they? five weeks is a long time to take out of nursery then have to go through putting him back in again. Maybe half days like Scorpio says or something but if it was me I would be putting my foot down with DH and MIL - I just don;t think that they are the priority in this

Sam was very impressed this morning because we got his new car seat yesterday so he was sat in the back with his big brother. They were holding hands - it was so cute The weird thing was sitting in the passenger seat in the front again. Realised how much I hate being a passenger - would much rather drive.

DonDons - tbh if I put my foot down it would cause a massive argument & I hate arguing at the best of times so I'm not going to cause one if I can help it Also he'll not be going for 9 weeks in the summer because that's how long our summer hols are so he's going to have to get used to not being there for long periods of time anyway. At least while he's this young it's easier for him to adapt & he's so laid back he's practically horizontal

oh I see - in that case probably better to keep the peace then

Forgot to say yesterday that Sam's having a week off from his physio. His physiotherapist said that she's really really pleased with how much progress he's made & how much stronger he is. She also said that going to nursery has helped him as well so I was a very proud mummy yesterday. It also means that I´ll be able to drop DH & DS1 off at school then spend a couple of hours with Sam before I start work, which will be nice for me, although he'll probably spend the whole time asleep DH promptly said "but what will you do with that time" er, derrr!

DonDons - anything for an easy life me

I would like to say that I don't have a MIL.

Now I feel bad for saying that. Bad PfJ. Wicked, naughty PfJ...

just ate yoghurt with Jack, he's fallen asleep so will try to catch a nap.. see you all soon

Don't feel bad PFJ, sometimes I wish I didn't Now that was bad Enjoy your nap.

just ignore yours, like i do.