'January 08 shiny new - year babies , Keep rolling , rolling , rolling !'

[lilyloo]

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madmouse - you are not wrong there!! He was NEVER bad in front of Dcs but the tension must have been there as the difference in DD is incredible. Not one winge (sp) today all smiles & laughter, can't believe the difference in her

It is like a weight off my shoulders TBH that there are other people helping ie my family, hosp etc. Gutted its happened again though as thought the last one was a one off

Nathan is such a cutie and sooo photogenic. He is definitely filling out too

Oh Simpson agree with MM you have done the right thing. Hope he can get the help he needs but you have to put you and dc's first.Your mum and dad sound marvellous!
Take care xx

MM V cute

JKS - ugh! Spiders! I had my hair cut about 8 weeks ago and that was the 1st time since Christmas Eve

Fragolina ? my DS sucks the paper of the A&P too. He?s been very unsettled today, has done 5 poos , rubbed ears like mad and has been very clingy ? poor little guy. Tooth 6 broke though today (top right) he is asleep now and generally has been sleeping but cries in his sleep every now and then the bad nappies are due to acid in the stomach from the extra saliva apparently

Gingeme ? I went back to au naturale a few years back and it?s great, a lot less maintenance! PMSL at the fears for your sexuality if you grew your hair on your legs I am badly in need of some work, it?s DS?s 1st swimming lesson tomorrow so I?ll need to de-fizz before then. That?s the problem here; it?s all back every other day due to the heat/sun!

Betterhalf ? enjoy the hairdressers

Simpson ? so hard for you hon you must feel so torn, keep talking to us xx your Mums sounds amazing and I am really sorry to hear that DH can be violent with you too

LaTrucha ? shattered because I stay up too late, DS is an angel Interesting info from the GP! Hope it works for you sounds like Sabela had a good meal to me.

Hey Filly Lilyloo , Madmouse (love the latest pics!!!), Poltesco

Anyone feeding their babies normal rice or cous cous yet? How about citrus fruit?

DH and I are at each other?s throats all the time, mainly about nothing, he is so rude to me though and swears at me in front of DS which makes me see red and freak out, then I catch the look on my darling DS?s face, bewilderment and it makes me want to cry, I?ve asked DH if we can try harder but every day we fall out over something (and he bears grudges for hours) pre-DS I hated falling out with him and would always make up with him but now I just am not as bothered, I have better things to do than pander to him ? am I all wrong? help!! I know DS needs us both and I need DH too but I?m worried that we are spoiling a good relationship with our constant bickering.

Mrs Mcjnr - sorry to hear that you and DH are having a bad time

Can you go out on a regular basis, just the 2 of you? Or do something together that you enjoy ie cinema or something... You definitely need to keep talking to him and he needs to know if he upsets you but he needs to make effort too. Its very hard to have Los isn't it? Hope things improve for you

Simpson, hang in there, I really feel for your family. Sounds like you did what you had to do, and I'm so glad that your parents are able to support you.

MrsMcJ - Tooth 6!!! I'm still waiting for the first one! T's had brown rice (liked) and cous cous too (not keen) - didn't realise we had to wait . No citrus yet though. on the DH front, I really understand where you're coming from about the 'pandering', as I sometimes think I 'spoiled' DH pre-los by always making the effort to make up after arguments, and started to get irritated by his moodiness. Then I thought it actually must be a bit lonely for him, as I'm so consumed by all things 'baby', that maybe he needs some extra attention so as not to feel left out. Seems to be helping somewhat, but I am still rather irritable. 'Date' time does help, even if its only a quick drink out.

laT - sounds like plenty of food to me . Are you still bfing at night? I'm so relieved on the bottle front now - no fuss and screaming anymore, and she holds it herself. I gave it to her to have on her own in her cot the other night, and sat in the chair watching her and was so proud, but sad too IYKWIM

Madm - he is adorable. Well done Nathan on hitting mummy (the only time he'll ever be told that!!). I'm so proud of the little guy, he's so determined.

I also think men are very child-like in general, and get jealous of the time their other half spends on baby, hence lots of arguments.
Think we got all the rows out of the way when we started fostering!

Simspon - sounds like you've had an awful time. It must have been horrible living like that. I hope you are feeling relieved still.

Lots of us are bickering with our DHs aren't we? I am too. We seem to have at least one set of cross words every day. I put it down to tiredness and work stress for us. I'm trying to take control of defusing things because DH is just overloaded, poor boy. Managed to do it last night!

Mixed success with the sleeping advice. She woke at 11 and DH gave her porridge which she ate greedily and then went straight to sleep, but it didn't seem to have any effect on her wakings. She is still teething, though.

I had gone to the GP because DH had had a 'we can't carry on like this' coversation about the baby's sleep. Now we've got the advice - which we can take or leave as there seems to be as many different methods as parents - DH says the baby is 'happy and healthy and she can do what she likes'. I'm not inclined to controlled crying myself but I think we're just going to lurch from one tiredness crisis to the next. I persuaded him to try a gentle PUPD and I stopped myself going ballistic with him for changing his mind all the bloody time. He's just scared of being awake all night with a crying baby because he's already so overloaded.

Brother seems to have gone AWOL again. I'm very worriued because my Dad just called but did not leave a message, which is totally unlike him and has now been engaged for ages. Every time something like this happens I think my brother is dead. He's been threatening to top himself for years.

God that's an awful note to end on. And a big splurge from me. It is a sunny day and DD is grinning all over.

Fragloina - sorry remind me - are you totally on bottle now, or just during the night. Sorry for being absent minded.

Men gah! don't get me started. Dh returning to work this afternoon and not before time.
Had a 'busy' night with ds's. ds4 awake at 10pm with a bad dream. ds5 awake at 3am for a bottle. ds3 awake at 4.30am for a drink ds5 awake at5.30am not sure why . then all awake at 7.15 for the day.
Needless to say I'm knackered now and its only 11 ds4and 5 asleep now too. Bloody typical isn't it?
Well atleast I've done all my housework and a wash is on so it's not all wasted.
How are things today simpson?
MrsMcjnr tried George with some kiwi which he realy loved and a peeled piece of satsuma which he found a bit of a challenge to eat. Lots of gagging and crying
madmouse on the more fat on Nathan. All the better to bite
Right better get the washing in the dryer and have a quick coffee before I pick ds3 up.

Hi all

Reality is hitting now and am terrified of losing my house

DH was not good last night. My mum bless her was with him for 5hrs at hosp and they gave him some medication to sedate him which he took. My mum dropped him off at home and as soon as she had gone he rings me saying he wants to go out into town Much screaming by me "don't you bloody dare!" etc but I think he did. Was so tired with worry that i thought he will just have to manage by himself. Rang him at midnight and he was home and sounding fine (for once)

This morning he is not great. Was supposed to have mental health specialists round and I wanted to speak to them but he has sent them away saying he is ok. They came back at midday and my dad spoke to them but they seem very chilled and say if he wants to go to work tomorrow (which he does) he can. WTF

Just spoken to my dad and he says DH refusing to take medication.

I think the only thing I can do is to get his sister over to take him back to Ireland

Its all very hard...

Bloody hell Simpson so sorry don't know what to say but at the 'specialists' saying he can go back to work!
Hope the other ladies on the mental health thread have better advice!

simpson, have no advice to offer, but just wanted you to know am thinking of you!

Cheers guys

DD is bored bless her as she has no toys at all here.

My dad has managed to persuade DH to allow some to come here so that will help.

Have not had DS all day as he went to playgroup then my dad took him to see DH which will be ok as DH seems fine infront of kids as he has something to focus on iyswim.

They are on their way back now and I need to talk to the specialists when my father gets here with the tel no.

Awful Simpson. It seems so hard to get any reliable help with mental problems. Glad your parents seem to be so supportive.

Brother has been located but seems sure to lose his job - the one secure thing he has always had. He's been off sick for most of the last two years and has now been put on half pay. I don't think that lasts for long and then that's it. None of us can think of any future for him that is not disasterous. A grim day.

Nice sunshine though!

Hi ladies
It seems so sad on here at the moment
George was clapping his hands earlier. Waves his arms about franticaly too. In fact he flapped them so much he made himself fall over He's fast asleep now. Normaly were out and about in the car so he nods off then so atleast today he'll have a proper nap in his cot.
Not sure what else to say realy.
Ah well see you all later then. x

LaT - so sorry to hear about your brother. At least he has been found.

My dad says DH is in a bad way, think there is no going back for me and him which is sad but a weight off my mind in some ways. Just worried about Dcs and the house.

I need to get into the house with Dcs and find somewhere for him to go...

HAve you spoken to the IRish relatives?

Hello - Gingeme - sorry for being a downer!

susie sorry about your brother hon, awful isn't it to watch them throw it all away and because they are adults there is nothing you can do to stop it

simpson it is awful worrying about your house and you must act now. Your nearest citizen's advice bureau seems to be here. As you see they have a ticket system so get there early and make a list of questions you need help with.

If you feel there is no way back for you and dh ( without trivialising anyone who has been through it it must be easier to lose a partner to another woman fgs - at least then you can claw someone's eyes out)you must seek legal advice, and no that it is not the same as applying for a divorce, but more about preserving the family home for you and dcs.

find one here that offers free legal help for those that qualify (and that would include you at the moment). Take your mum for support.

Whether your home is at risk depends on mny factors like whether the mortgage is being paid and whose name it is in.

It must be so overwhelming but please seek advice now. You are in an incredibly difficult position and I wish I could do more.

If you want me to call you email me a number.

Take care

All well here. Nathan fell asleep on his left side after first beating me up with his right hand, and I just spotted him on his back on the floor with both hands in front of him touching each other. Something is changing and it is so exciting

Simpson - I'm so so sorry to hear about all this. I'm afraid I have no ideas how to help but just wanted you to know i'm here.

La Trucha - Glad your bro has been located but shame about the job.

MM - So glad nathan is getting better with his arm.

Ginge - DD has started clapping hands lately as well, its really cute. It's since Tues at babyclub where the rest of them we're doing it and I think she's picked it up.

DD is now crawling like a buggar and we're gonna have to Ali-proof the house I think. Can't find a fire guard though

We're getting some cats today a mum and her 4 3week old kittens I'm looking forward to it but know it will be difficult but to be honest it's something I'm looking forward to as its an achievement.

Anyways.... Gonna go tidy up now.

lucky - have fun with the cats

LaT & Simpson - we are all here for you, so sad for you having such difficult times at the moment
keep venting on here, it's not good to bottle things up but can be hard to find RL people to talk to about such difficult things...

ds1 and i went to playgroup this morning - left ds2 sleeping with dh working from home. then we all went to the beach for a fun hour or so. then garden time at home again.

ds1 shouting v excitedly at teatime 'circles, circles, mummy'
any guesses???
not buttons, cos he knows their name
not the circles on the teapot...

hula hoops so he had 5, one on each finger

right, tv time before bath and bed, i had mums round for pizza (& wine) last night so early to bed for me later

hula hoops and Nathan's hands

LaT - am speaking to one of the sisters who seems to be ok but hasn't told the rest of the family as he thinks they can't cope.

Madmouse - Thanks so much Think my nearest CAB might be in Hillingdon as that is where I live and I am near there daily to drop DS off at playgroup. At the civic centre?

One of my distant cousins works for CAB in Grimsby. Am going to get her email address. My mother is going to help me compose a list of questions.

She also said don't make a decision about me and DH in the middle of a crisis as not thinking straight. I need to find out what benefits I am entitled to etc.

I think this might be caused by the pressure of being a sole earner so I may have to go back to work

Going to see HV tomorrow to ask her advice re delaying Ds's place at pre school and keeping him in playgroup a bit longer as my dad works in the afternoons and can take him (pre school place is afternoon)

Mortgage still being paid and in joint name.

Just put DD down she has been a little star

Lucky - good luck with cats. Can't believe your DD has got the hang of crawling so quickly!!

Hi to everyone else

Simpson - I agree with your mum. Allow your DH to get help before you decide to end things. If he refuses to get help and just gets lower and lower I could understand it but give him a chance.

Cats are here... piccies on FB - cats

Simpson just checking in to see how you are ?
Agree about one day at a time but think it may be good for his sis to help and you can go back home and he can go to Ireland to get the help he needs.

DD not well has turned from cough and cold to much worse am thinking her and dd1 have chest infection now! Am hoping to get doc apt tom for both of them neither sleeping i like walking zombie thank god dp home tom!

to everyone else!

Cheers for all your support guys!!

You lot are keeping me sane I can tell you!!

Lucky - crappy intetnet connection won't let me look at your pics how old are kittens and how long have you got them for?

Lilyloo - am doing ok trying not to make rash decisions. DH seems ok ATM and has cooked pasta for himself for dinner. He did not handle seeing DS very well ie "tell mummy you want to come home" etc so may need to limit contact

DD might be easier as he can't hold her anyway due to collar bone. My mum might take her round on Sat...

Gingeme - Have been clapping madly infront of DD for around a week now (and waving) but no copying yet!!