Hi everyone just a quick catch up as am at my grans ready for my cousins wedding tommorrow.
A lot has gone on...
I had said to dh ages ago that I didn't want to move yet, not because i didn't want the bigger house but because |i knew it would be down to me to scrub the house to ensure we got our deposit back, do all the packing etc. He suddenly pushed on with looking at houses anyway (don't get me wrong | am glad he did because I love the space of our new house) but it did fall onto me to get everything organised and not only with a 2 year old and an 8 month old but also on 2 hours broken sleep a night! Anyway i was getting really stressed out because ds wasn't sleeping and I was spending so much time trying to get him to sleep so i could gte on with other things that in the end I thought sod dh saying not to let him cry I am the one dealing with this all and rushing around trying to pack up and clean an entire hopuse in the 30 minutes ds would nap for so put ds in his cot and let him cry for as long as it took me to have a wee, or eat breakfast, or vaccuum the living room etc. I'd already done a few days of that babywhisperer thing of staying with him and lying him down 100000000x but it wasn't working, just seemed to enrage him and I was getting so stressed out with it. leaving him to cry for a few minutes was actually far easier for me because it meant I wasn't stood over the cot thinking for gods sake just SLEEP so i can do stuff.
Anyway it also seemed to suit ds better because he would cry when I left the room then settle and go to sleep with me next to him when I went back in whereas me staying with him the whole time just made him cross. Also getting on with stuff while he was crying meant I wans't sat there listening to him and made it far easier for me too! Now he usually cries when I first leave the room but settles as soon as I go back in, although sometimes it takes a lot longer. he has also settled a coupkle fo times without any crying, the other night when i posted being one of them.
I was also unsure about cc because I didn't think I'd be able to do it in the middle of the night, but i read a few things that said that it is ok to use different methods for night wakings than for bedtimes so that is what i did. basically i feed him the first time he wakes then not for 4 hours. if he wakes before 4 hours I settle him using whatever means I need to. his sleep is so much better now, looks like is just what he needed! Last night he woke at 9.45 then slept until 3.30!
Anyway enough about sleep!
Ds is standing unsupported now and walking really well pushing the bricks trolley, he tried to take a step away from the sofa yesterday though and fell on his face
New house is good, so much space. DD loves it, cried this afternoon when we left for my grans saying "I want to go back in my new house". The previous tenants have changed the phoneline from BT though ad we don't know who to so BT won't give us a line. Previous tenants have disappeared so no way of finding out who theri line is with so no landlijne and no internet. It is killing me!
Also person who was moving into old house pulled out so landlord and agents called us and said we were still liable for rent until end of sept (when our notice period would have ended if they hadn't found someone else). REALLY annoyed as if they hadn't found anyone we wouldn't have moved out and would have just paid the holding deposit on this one until the end of our notice period. paying both lots of rent is more than our income so no way we can but we argued it and fingers XXX'd-CAB seem to think they can't make us pay because we moved out after they told us someone else was moving in, after all she couldn't have moved in if we were still living there.
sorry abou t the typos and ramblingness, different keyboard so keep hitting wrong keys and am rushing which makes it worse. will try to get back on and catch up properly soon