December 07 - I'm still standing, yeah, yeah, no!

[Wizzska]

Hello people, is anyone there?

Well I already get CB, and I know I won't get CTC as I am not working, but I presume DH will still get CTC?

BT yes he should still get CTC

arcadie - hee hee at your DS's name! quite like it actually.
I am also trying to persuade my DH to get the snip (at some point) but he is not keen at all. Makes me mad that he is happy for me to muck my hormones up with the pill but won't have a very simple operation. I had a pregnancy scare last week and I think that made him reconsider slightly..

Hi clara and welcome back to blightly. It must have only been 2 or 3 months that you were away, was it? Hope you manage to settle back in quickly, especially your poor DD1 who muct be so confused by it all. Hopefully it has been such a short time that she will quickly get back into her old routine once you are back in your house. Will you stay here permanently now or is there a chance your DH will be posted elsewhere? It's good to have you back if that makes any sense!!

suey - how did it go at the GP? Are you off cerazette now? I didn't know you'd stopped BF - was it difficult? Was Millie OK with it? Any advice/suggestions gratefully received

BT - have you made any decisions re work?

BOO!

Blimey is that the best you can do in two weeks?? I remember the days when it was impossible to catch up after just two days absence.

RE Cerazette I went on it for a couple of months after I had dd and it turned me into a complete psycho! Not depressed but huge mood swings, rages etc that stopped the month after I stopped taking it.

BT I haven't read your other thread but I haven't worked since early 2006 and not in the UK since 2004 and I still get CTC. It is based on DH's wages but whereas WTC goes to the person earning (ie DH), CTC goes to the main carer so me.

Skid I'd also like to cut down BF after he turns one, ideally I'd give cows milk in the day and bf morning and night for a while but like you I have no idea how to go about it! DS wants boob whenever he sees me at the moment. He was left with a maid a couple of times this week though as I was seriously ill with gastroenteritis (was on a drip and everything)and he managed fine without for 6 hours one day and 10 the next so it does seem to be a mummy=boob situation here. MIL kept on telling me it was only for comfort, he doesn't need it, it is a habit, I need to start giving him cows milk blah blah blah, so much for bf being more normalised in the developing world!

Am still feeling very dizzy so will keep this short but just thought I'd sign in to say I'm back

Hey clairey, welcome back! Was just thinking you would be back soon. How was Botswana and the wedding? How awful you were so ill - sounds horrid.

Well I think your MIL is right in that our DSs are almost certainly feeding for comfort a lot of the time(DS is exactly the same - only wants milk when he sees me) but there's nothing wrong with that. The problem is how do you take the comfort away without upsetting them? I have actually started a thread on it but have had no answers yet... I sort of think not offering a feed at night might be a first step but I don't want him to get distressed. Will let you know if I get an tips from that thread.

Now rest up and look after yourself [get well soon emotion]

People people people. Some of us have husbands on shift work this weekend and are in desperate need of some MN entertainment or they'll just have to plan y8 french lessons. Come on girls. Log in. Post. Make some noise.

Skid Thanks for the vote of confidence on DS name! And pregnancy scare! Did you get as far as weeing on the stick? So nearly got there about 3 months ago and then AF turned up. (NB not not to be pg but it's been a happy 3 years without AF!)

Clairey Poor you on a drip and poorly. Can't imagine being incapacitated with LOs to look after. Big sympathy and hugs.

Re BFing - consciously decided to stop about 2 months ago and DD accepted without too much fuss but she is OBSESSED with my boobs. Happiest when nuzzling them and will pull down my top in public to get close. Doesn't want anything to do with feeding from them - in fact has totally forgotten what they do and just bites but deep down wants to be close to the booby. Funny kid.

Sorry Arcadie, went to bed at 9pm, had had a crap night with ds (teething) and then a rather busy day at work (having to cover for another manager who was off sick!).

Awwww your dd sounds cute, she probably remembers that boobies=comfort, so it's nice that she can still get that comfort without feeding! I imagine she'll grow out of eventually!

Clairey - our CTC gets paid into our joint account but we'll get less when I stop working.
Sorry to hear you've been poorly, hope you feel better soon!

Skid - I think it is now a fait accompli that I will be giving up work, just a matter of when! I've told my boss as I was supposed to be doing a NVQ to update a technical qualitfication I have and there is no point in me doing it if I am leaving! He was nice about it, but I think he is hoping I might change my mind.

BT Glad you had the sense to go to bed at a decent time. I watched 28 Days later and was too scared to go to bed for a while! Hope you're feeling refreshed.

And fait accompli? I thought I was the French teacher on the thread! Really pleased you get the chance to choose SAHMing. Not everyone gets to decide that they can stay at home.

I know I feel quite lucky, but it will be hard and I will have to find some ways to earn some money by working from home.

hello all
Clara get well soon
Skid, no secret but I always have the bottle ready before I get her up in the morning. She doesn't even go for the boob amy more! Very painless.
Well, tonight is my first nght away from dd. Hotel, spa, nice dinner to come. So why do I mss her? Having a fantastic time: so quiet!

HELLO - just trawled through massive amounts of posts. I have been on half-term and now am back. It has been so nice not to have tp get us o early.

Clareq - welcome back.

Suey - hope you are on the mend and are enjoying your spa

Hi all been in and out lurking but no way can catch up!
So hope everyone is ok??
Lil is fab Pulling herself to standing, crawls like a demon, and has a good few recognisable words, and 4 teeth......which is a little uncomfortable at times...as am stil BF bedtime and first thing
Lots going on with H so only my girls that keep me sane!

Sob. Have been reduced to reading the AIBU threads. Come back to me people.

LOL arcadie!
Nice to see you back macdoo: sorry to hear h is still being an arse. How's work going?

Hey Arcadie, anything interesting going on then
Hi Macdoodle!!!

Just a whole load of people shouting troll. Those of you who've been here long enough to have an opinion and care. Why is being a troll such a bad thing and how do all these people know it's a troll posting????
(Feel like you are my peer group to ask as opposed to the AIBU thread where everyone gets very cross!)

Hello Arcadie I'm here
(apologies to rest of Dec 07 thread for the hijack but you seem like a nice bunch!)

Hi carrieon (I hope you are not a troll )

Arcadie - some trolls can be genuinely funny (like the hamster in the soup). Those tend to be name changers out for a bit of fun.

You do get some people though who come on deliberately just to wind people up and post on something very controversial - favourite theads tend to be about M&T parking (which has been done to death and then some!) and so called benefit scroungers.

I think why people find them annoying is that they can distract from real posters who are genuinely seeking help.

agree bt.
the AIBU threads used to be quite interesting moral dilemmas in the main but seem to have deteriorated of late into deliberately provocative questions and answers. Not worth reading a lot of them now IMO.

where IS everyone?!

I'm here suey - just trying to do some work and also feeling neglected because no-ne has answered my thread here !

I find those AIBU threads absolutely addictive which is why i hardly ever allow myself to look at them because I get no work done. I am obviously an archetypal MNetter because I always agree with the dominant view (but not with the thrashing some poor people get)!

hey macdoodle - great to hear from you. Sounds like your DD is doing brilliantly. Sorry to hear your H is being a nightmare again.

BT - that's great news you are stopping work. I hope you manage to make it work without being too stressful.

has anyone thought about 1st birthday celebrations or is it ridiculously soon?

Hello all

It seems quiet on here.

I'm just enjoying some peace while dd has a (late) afternoon nap. DH is also snoozing on the couch as he is off work ill. He's got shingles the poor soul!

Clairey - hope you are better now

Suey - enjoy your night of freedom at the spa. I really look forward to having some time without dd but really miss her when she's away!

Re 1st birthdays - I've already planned dd's and have sent out invitations today! I've organised it early as I know that a lot of people are busy so close to Christmas (DD's birthday is 13th) Having a mixture of family and friends with kids in the house, possibly about 30 in all so it will be chaos but I'm looking forward to it! My mum is going to help me with the food etc Hope dd enjoys it too!!!

wow louise, you are very organised. I was thinking more in terms of one or two babies (and their parents) round for a cuppa and a slice of cake but our house is quite titchy so I will use that as my excuse. Nothing to do with being a lazy old bint...

I am the same missing the DCs when I am away. I have a weekend away coming up that i have been looking forward to for ages. Now that it is nearly here I am almost dreading it as I know I'll miss them so much.

Hiya everyone.

Skid, I'm thinking of giving up bf now too, although I'm not feeding as much as you are, just morning and night, just for the comfort factor. I think I've got so little milk now I'll just go cold turkey, so I'm not really in the same boat as you. I guess gradually is the best way to go, although I did go cold turkey on the night time feeds when I was feeding quite a bit. I had just over a week's worth of nights waking up in a pool of milk then it slackened off. I should post that in your other thread really shouldn't I.

I've booked the day off work for DS's birthday, just for a family day. Me and the other NCT group mums are organising a knees up in January for our little ones and families in a local pub so that's his real party.