Jan '07 part 26: The Rule of Sibs: If your sibling gets something you want, you (1) try to take it; (2) break it; or (3) say it's no good

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The thread title is for the January babies who have become/are soon to be big brothers and sisters

Can't remember all from last thread except
Wilie congrats on the move and hope visit to vino goes broodily well
eandh - potty?!! Aleady?!! I'm only just getting there with ds1!!
DH - I went to a wedding on due date with ds1, but that was because I wanted him out. Alas, despite energetic ceilidhing, to no avail! Also went to Halifax for a wedding when about 38 weeks with ds2 (on Loosh's ds's bday in fact!), was a little nervous in case I went into labour so far from home, but didn't exactly expect to go early (just as well, eh?). But I guess is different if you're going for a c/s

Wilkiw i think I saw a space cushion in laura shley catalogue

wILKIE - PICNIC SOUNDS FAB (whoops caps off) any particular occassion? Next have the whole rocket range in the sale so you may be able to get cushions etc from there

vin - it does get so much better I think I found first 14-16weeks hard (I know that seems ages away but it'll fly) then all of the sudden E&H seem to settle and we got back on track iykwim

Good luck for MrVin for next week

Well here you all are then ....

Eeew infected cradle cap. Don't think I need to know anymore about it, but I do hope he gets better very soon.

Good luck to Mr Vino, hope he gets some sleep before next week. My DH can sleep (and does) through everything and yet still has the cheek to complain he didnt sleep well.

Car boot sales never again !

I did one once with my mum and it was awful. The moment you draw up you are swarmed with locusts inspecting the contents of your car before you even get out. We made about £22 pounds after the £7 for the car was taken off! I sold hardly anything.... although looking back that was probably for the best as we kept it and used it for number 3 My mum sold loads of tat... china.. plates... broken record players, she was well pleased. Not my thing anymore, but on the other hand if I were to make £155 then I think I might change my mind !

So the jury is out between vanish and 1001. Those non spill cups can be crap. I've got a Nubu one from mothercare and LO took it up the stairs and it leaked. Nice big blodges that need something doing with them.

Loved the goldfish story. We've all been there.

Crocs..... Nahhhh, but lol at the lesbo shoes. I think I'd ebay the uggs as well. I'm admitting another fashion faux paus now in that I've got a pair of birkenstocks. Terribly unstylish but oooooo so comfy

EaH. 53 days is nothing. DS has 9 weeks off You just have to learn to love it.

Wilkie are you getting at me Sounds like you had fun. Hope you didnt have to 'suffer' too much in return

Hurrrraayyyy. For the first time in yonks DS2 has done a solid poo which could be just pinged off into the loo. I've been having to scrub shitty nappies to get most of it off. Yeuck. Long may it last

Need to pack... off on hols on friday, well sort of, DH is cycling the coast to coast route so need to be back up van carrying bags from hotels etc

Have to say the beaker I linked to is a great success. (apart from same problem as PCF in that he dribbles out a lot of each mouthful - I think he likes the feeling of it on his chin?!)
He is drinking tons more, I guess as its easier to suck from (its free flowing) - but it has a flip lid thing over the straw so it doesn't spill.

Am having a very lazy morning, put DJ down for a nap earlier whilst I slobbed out got ready for the day. But kept hearing him say poo poo over and over again, so thought I'd better check as I'd put him down wearing only a nappy....
...PHEW!
He had taken his nappy off - but only wee'd all over his sheet. Not poo'd (unless its been hidden somewhere) He'd also sat on his pillow with a wet bum from his wee.
But, it could have been so much worse!
Plus, the sight of him tugging on himself saying "willy" over and over really makes me laugh! I must video it for his 16th birthday!
Am supposed to b making a shopping list for Tescos. I have NO inspiration for a menu for the week. I swear I end up doing the same things over and over. Boring!

We are having Cumberland pie for tea here tonight.

Just been to see the mortgage woman at the estate agents, and she thinks we are in a v strong position, but advised us to wait until after summer unless we saw something we really liked.

I think we should do a London meet again! I am off into London on Monday for the breastfeeding protest/picnic, which should be a laff! Would be well up for clambering up the Long Man though - Ali would have to put Z on his back though I think. Not sure we'd manage with a buggy - tis blardy steep!

Lizz ha ha when we went on holiday I put l down with just her nappy on went to check on her about 40 min later and her nappy was off and she was lying next to the biggest poo you have ever seen . The worst bit was I got a nappy bag scrapped the crap out and left her there it was so I could sunbathe I mean so she dident wake up ratty

LAL - I don't see anything bad in that you were on your holidays!

UD - Hah - stuff that, DJ is walking up the long man. I may buy a flexi lead though. The pub at the bottom is a bit dangerous & not toddler friendly (too near the open road)

UD - buy this one.
Its my mates house and its LOVELY!
5 mins from mine, and 2 mins from the shopping centre, 5 mins from the train station and 8 mins to the beach!

Thoughts please

More help please. Want to do a pass-the-parcel at the picnic. What could I buy for the main present that would suit both boys and girls?

For a birthday I went online and bought a ready made pass the parcel because I was being lazy had no time. You could have a unisex one and the final present was a puzzle.

book?

Book good idea EAH

LAL - I really want to make it myself, never done it before so am a little over excited

LTH. These are YOUR children. Yes, it is unlikely that you AND DH will both die BUT it IS a possibility. I don't think people take making wills seriously enough.

Would you WANT your children to go to BIL? If not, and you would REALLY want your children to go to your brother then you MUST stand your ground.

What exactly are DHs reasons for wanting DSs to go to his brother?? Just so he can have the 'nice' gesture of telling him he will be guardian???????

That is NOT what a will is about. It is about making plans for your children.

Stand your ground. God, this has made me cross and as a mother, I wouldn't want to compromise on what would happen to J if we died. My parent's are his guardians.

agree with wilkie - in fact we now need to change ours as after parents we chose our v.close friends, they seperated earlier this year, tried again (for the kids big mistake made things alot worse) so have officially speerated and sorting finances etc through solicitor (in a way they are lucky as he earns v.good money so think he is buying her a 3 bed house with no mortgage in area they live in so no need to change schools etc and then sell family home as she doesnt want it as its to big)

DH went out with his mate last night and he said they'll never be together again so need to rethink but tbh I wouldnt want my brother and his gf to have them (issues re discipline/food there) and not sure sil would want ours

wilkie - what age group are the kids for the picnic as thinking of some good books I could recommend

free ladybird book!!

If my sis asked me to be the DTs guardian I would have to give it serious thought. If the worst WAS to happen, I'm not sure DH and I could cope with our own PLUS the DTs.

I think people underestimate the enormity of what they are being asked to do - should the worst happen they HAVE to follow it through.

Average age about 18months but the twins are 2 and a half

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I'm the legal guardian for my godchildren, and my BF is a single mum, so (hopefully not, touch wood, spit over shoulder etc etc) there could be a real chance they come to us. I haven't put her down as my kids' guardian because i think she has enough on her plate, tbh! We were going to ask my brother and SIL but then decided that we did not want our dc brought up as Christians (SIL quite devout) so now we're not sure. Don't really want to put parents as - not being mean - they're quite old.

LTH - have you asked dh why he wants to put BIL down as guardian? In a calm way? If it's just a gesture thing, then maybe you could suggest having him and SIL as godparents, or spiritual guidance thingummies or whatever you'd like to put them as. That way he gets the gesture and you get your brother as guardian - which I think would be much better, knowing what I know about your BIL and your dh's family in general!! (They're all a bit nuts, aren't they?!)

I don't think you should give in on this. If you feel that the ds' would be better off with your brother, then put him down as guardian. I know they are G's children too, but you are the primary caregiver and you know best IMO.

Then you HAVE to stand your ground LTH. At the end of the day, who is with them 24/7?? You. Who gave birth to them? You.

Yes, I know he is their dad but you are their mother and I'm sorry, no matter what anyone says, YOU have to be happy with this decision.

What are the circumstances for both your brother and BIL?