February 2005 Mums (if a little early..)

[Hazellnut]

Well as promised I have started this thread but am waiting patiently for February and the rest of you to come and join in !!

gossifer - my ds won't take a dummy either, tho has discovered thumb in a big way, which i'm not happy with (re damage to teeth, inability to take thub away someday!)....are you getting anywhere with your dummy giving attempts? i'm a dummy novice(!), not having used one much with roo...

Feeding not going at all well really. Have been pretty much on formula for the last few weeks....
we went down to Devon on 20th May and he had a few good breast feeds, but I then had re-occurance of thrush!

Just getting over it, but nipples are SO cracked. I decided to give up completely.... but we're having trouble with formula! nothing seems to agree with Linus. Soooooo, aloha kindly sent me some domperidone, and I am back expressing and trying to build my supply back up so that I can hopefully start b/f again!!!

God, the things I would do for this child! You just don't realise before you have them... just what lengths you will go to for them, do you?

Aside from all the feeding probs I think we're very lucky with Linus. He'll take a bottle (obviously), has had a dummy from a few days old (never interfered with b/f btw), he is SO happy all the time... hardly ever cries, sleeps well.....
I thank my lucky stars sometimes!

hello, a still poorly mum here, i've flu since last weds, and on & off for a week before! exactly how i felt when i was pregnant with leon have app with doc on weds, so hopefully he'll sort me out
roosmum - leon has been exactly the same the last few days! i even had to leave the cafe in our local park because i knew he was hungry but was wailing so much & just wouldn't feed (there was a group of v.new mums in there & i couldn't force leon to bf in front of them!) had to push him home wailing! on top of that all weekend he just fed & fed, a growth spurt perhaps! i'm hoping like you just a phase. as for the dummy, no joy there, leon likes his thumb a bit, but more his entire fist......
starlover - i'm so sorry about the bf, you are a strong woman & you are so right, the things we do for these amazing little things is limitless, thinking of you
have a good day everyone, big cuddles all round

hello all

Hope everyone is well and i get time to read this thread oneday!

Amelia is doing great. She's sleeping through nearly every night ,(well till 5 or 6 which is great) and still loving her milk.
She's giggling the last few days and grinning al the time.

I think she's getting a tooth already though!!

yep starlover, isn't it amazing how being a mum changes your world 100%....& how you'd do anything for your baby!
roo napping atm, he's been a good baby for us as well, sometimes wonder if i'd cope if we had a 2nd that was a nightmare baby, having been spoiled with an easy one!! he sleeps well, plays lots, is really smiley, trying so hard to sit up - it's a joy to watch him still a bit narky abt feeding, but i'm just letting him go longer now between feeds, think i'm offering a feed before he's properly hungry. he went 3 1/2 hrs yesterday pm, by his own choice & then fed nicely when we got home from town - result!
has anyone been to an nct nearly new sale? there's one by us this wkend, wondering if they tend to be any good??
gossifer - are you trying to tell us something, feeling just as when pg
have a happy day all
xxx

oh tipex don't go... i think some of us on here are very lucky to have such content babies... but that could all change any day!

I really do feel for you. And although I can't offer you any specific advice, I would like to think that myself, and the others here can be of some support to you...

we all have our problems... mine is the breastfeeding which is STILL a struggle. I think half the topics on breast and bottle feeding were started by me!

I guess we just need to be a little more thoughtful about what we post.

tipex... just went back and re-read some of the stuff. I have to admit I do tend to just skim through and pick up on stuff from the regulars

anyway, i noticed that you had said that your ds has started to wake more in the night... this COULD mean that he is ready for weaning. Other signs are, crying after feeds, and being very interested in what you are eating!

I am really sorry that you feel like this... it must be hard, especially when yuo get it in RL too.

I know this is a cliche but things WILL get better. It may take a few months, but he WILL sleep through and it will get easier.

and fwiw... it is NOT your fault! If you wanna have a rant about everything that's going on... then please, please, please do!

I am a really good listener usually, even if I have no real advice to offer.....

don't be sorry! it's ok to get stressed out... believe it or not even us with "good" babies have our days! I spent about an hour sobbing at DP the other night because I thought Linus would never breastfeed again!

It really isn't your fault... is he better if you're cuddling him? I think some babies just need to be held, and feel secure a lot more than others... and that's not a bad thing! Just means that he really loves his Mum!

Does he have a dummy at all? I bet people have asked you all this stuff a million times already.

Actually Linus has jsut begun to fight his naps during the day. He really screams because he gets so tired, but won't give in.
I think if there is anything that helps, then do it! I mean, people say "oh you should leave them to cry" or "they have to learn to get to sleep on their own"... but at the end of the day, if the only thing that gets them to sleep is a cuddle, or rocking them then do it!

whereabouts are you btw? i was thinking about the possibilities of a Feb mums meet-up of some description... and I promise we won't care if your DS screams the whole time!

that sounded wrong... we won't just NOT CARE... but we won't mind!

i am in sussex... why'd you have to be so far away! lol

i may have mentioned this before... but have you considered osteopathy? I had cranial osteopathy myself for my migraines and they stopped completely for 2 years. And you may remember that I took Linus along to the regular osteopath when we couldn't figure out what was wrong with him...

Anyway, I have a friend whose little boy was VERY difficult... just used to cry constantly. She took him to osteopath who said that his neck was very tense all down one side, and that his skull was slightly compressed from the birth. He had 3 or 4 treatments and was like a different child! It was truly amazing...

forgot to say, we could have a meet-up in London.. or, say halfway between here and b'ham. Maybe take over a b&b for a night.

Oooh, and bring partners/husbands so they can look after the babies while we go out!!!!

Oops here's me hanging my head in shame . Apologies to Jolly4 we were cr*p - no excuse but I tend to reply to the last thing said and then look down. And Tipex it certainly has never crossed my mind to think your bub's behaviour is your fault.... I am well aware I have an easy-ish baby which is nothing to do with what I have done. I like to think maybe this is because I had so much trouble with my pregnancy and dd's birth (i.e. that was MY difficult time). And, as Starlover says, this could change overnight and you could have the little angel when it comes to 'terrible two's'.... On the subject of getting out of the house, I never manage it until the afternoon because I know I might get dd down to sleep in the mornings and she won't in the afternoon and it takes me that long to get ready !

PLEASE don't go Tipex (and please come back Jolly4), we need you to keep us in line and you must use us as a sounding board...

How's about, as this thread is getting incredibly long we start another and start afresh ?? That sounds a bit naff I know but have been thinking we should start another and this seems to be as good a time as any !!

hazellnut I was thinking the same thing the other day! do you wanna do the honours? seeing as you started this one too!

Just read your latest posts - Tipex, if its daytime sleeps you have trouble with you REALLY are not alone... DD really struggles with hers (eg. today she went from about 12 till bedtime without one when she clearly needed one). When she looks tired I always think 'oh no, here comes a fight' as I know it will take a fight to get her to sleep.... Have you tried white noise ?? During the day it is the only thing that often works with dd. It sometimes works like magic - its really strange !! Let me know if you want a copy....

OOH how exciting - I will attempt to post a link to the new thread on here when I'm done.....

Here we go - starting afresh - come over and join the new thread where we're all going to be nice to each other....

new Feb 2005 thread

Tipex, tbh, that's half the reason i don't post much as i haven't time to read through thouroughly and feel i'm sort of saying "i'm alright Jack!", and not seeing what athers are doing.
I am sorry and promise to take time and read this thread +properly*!

Please don't go, i like you!

as starlover says too, we all have our bad days, i post so little nowadays that the odd one liner doesn't tell it all. i do feel awful that you feel we all ignored you and Jolly

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Hi everyone. Life has been very hectic, but hope you are all thriving. Olivia is very gorgeous - she's just had her 3rd set of vaccines (a little late) and been weighed. She's much smaller than the other two, on the 20th centile. I'm just used to large babies! Slightly panicking at the moment that I might be pregnant. thought i'd casually drop that in....Okay. So I could cope with a 5yo, a 3yo, a 13mo old and a newborn baby. Yeah. I'm just going to make a mug of tea and reflect a little on that prospect. Prob. a false alarm but...I just can't imagine being any busier or more tired than I am now. And what would everyone say? They'd assume that DH and I are total muppets with no idea about contraception!! My mum would totally freak out. She sort of did when i announced my 3rd pregnancy. I'll be like one of those oddball women with 40 cats, with all my kids in tow. I'm already slightly deranged with the three I've got..