April 2008 - the one where Scorpio and Millie show us all the 'through the night' trick

[Scampmum]

Sorry if someone else has already started one - couldn't find it!

Much better night last night, maybe due to gripe water?

oh god that sounded woe is me!

i feel a bit better now, i have 3oz in the fridge, will drag another 3/4 oz out and go out tomorrow night i think, DH can pay, lol

Also will get out for a walk after i have picked up J, will pass the afternoon i guess

Morning ladies

Sorry your feeling this am Scorpio, i think there must be hundreds of women all over world with exactly the same feelings. I can empathise with everything your saying, men don't have to make too many compromises after children and although they have to go out to work they get to 'escape' on a regular basis then come home and everything is done for them. I feel a bit of DH sometimes, although I love the kids and love spending time with them a bit of appretiation for what i do and a bit of 'me time' would be good sometimes. (after saying that I look at one of my good friends DH and think actually I have it pretty lucky compared to her )

DD2 did 8.30 to 5.45 last night, I think she would have gone longer but I used a towelling nappy instead of a disposable and she was wet. DS has given her another cold and the pig has returned, I brought one of those aspirators this am so will try that 4 tonight and see if any better.

I know it's not your appearance, though it is definitely one of the harder things to deal with after a baby, if you feel shite, you think you looks shite and if you look shite, you feel shite
Was just trying to think of something you could do for a bit of 'you' time.

I totally agree with the men not making sacrifices thing denny, although I feel like Alex has just slotted in it's not so easy for me to say I'm off out or get a babysitter for the night, I'm going out sunday but I know I'll spend the day panicking that he isn't taking his bottle, and great though MiL is, she won't do it the way I do, which we all know is the right way

It goes without saying

Agree with the look shite feel shite thing aswell. I'm still in scraggy tracksuit bottoms as I'm in that no mans land between maternity wear being too big and normal clothes being too small. Can't wait to feel like me again instead of a frumpy middle aged mum.

i know you wasnt calling me a minger, lol

ikwym - i bet you will worry but dp won't.... i too feel mimi has slotted in but cos of bf i cannot just go - imagine going abroad for 4 nights!!

thanks, you are fab

i do fit in some of my normal clothes but they are old or some are uncomfy, i am a diff shape still & cos its hot i dont want to bare my skin yet iyswim.

ellie

thankyou so so so so so much

Hi everyone

Scorpio I know exactly what you are saying - I just feel like I am 'on duty' 24 hours a day and some days I am just dragging myself through the day. And I only have the one child!!!

And the house being a shambles doesnt worry my DP - whereas I feel like I don't want to let everything get away on me.

Went to a mother and baby group this morn and it was great - J really loved the toys and the other babies! Going to buy her some more toys now as I think she is bored!

R u sure she wasn't calling you a minger? At least your most of the way there, my old jeans still won't go over my hips. Contemplating getting the wii platform and fitness package, not sure how long i'd sue it b4 it became another dust collector.

i feel the same as well, perhaps i've aapted more as have always 9it feels) been restricted by the biys sn / had bad nights, but its hard atm. and i really do need to lose weight- am gaining now [oops] but i don't feel i can eat less until bas starts to gain. i try to eat well bt trhe boys nick all the healthy sdnacks and there's no easy grocers for top ups so i dig into dh's crisps etc

got a letter fom gp, dh has to go in friday to see him about the extensive bloods he had done last week. am rather worried now.

Hope it's all ok peachy, hopefully won't be anything major, when I was in year 6 my mum took me to the gp for bloods, they came back saying I had leukaemia.
I didn't.

Hope its nothing major, maybe just a little underactive thyroid or something easily corrected.

It's v easy to dive into the snacks isnt it? I havn't put any more weight on but finding the last 2 stone of baby weight v diff to shift this time. When just DS used to get out and do lots of power walking (1-2 hours at a time), with 2 of them home havn't managed to co-ordinate their routines enough to do longer than 30 mins. Def think i need to make the effort to do something extra at home it may mean jusmping round the lounge like an idiot.

While you 2 are around, potty training question, with boys if they get a cold do they tend to go more often? DS has v heavy cold at the mo and has spent the last 2 days weeing loads more, not sure if it's the cold or he's having me on to get more chocolate buttons.

i think i want the wii fit thing too, i have checking them out on ebay.

Peachy - i hope its nothing bad, im sure its minor

that electric pump is great!!

its stomach related, he keeps bloating out hard and getting pain. his stomach looks 6 months pg and he is a thin bloke normally! gp thinking maybe aggravated stomach ulcer / ibs. i'm hoping (as long as nothing serious obv) it wont be something that means a special diet as that will really confuse things

Denny - cant say ive noticed

re the housework/chores. The way I think about it is: I used to do a job outside the home for 40 hrs a week (usually more) & OH and I were both jointly responsible for keeping house clean, cooking meals, doing laundry and running household finances. Now if I add up the time spent feeding, changing, entertaining, etc DS - my new 'job' has more thn replaced my old one. Because my new job is at home & the hours aren't 9-5, mon-fri, then I can sometimes fit some of my other chores in at different times and don't have squeeze it all in at the weekend. It doesn't mean that I've suddenly taken on sole responsibility for all the chores as well as a new job.
Cut yourself some slack Scorpio, you're working 'double shifts' and haven't had any time off for a couple of months, no wonder you're tired!
Being able to organise some time off shouldn't need a huge amount of expressed breast milk, even if you just get out of the house by yourself for 3 hours you could time it so that you do a big feed, then hand Millie over and walk out the door. If there are a few oz available for DH to use if she starts protesting before you're back it would probably be enough to stop her reaching desperation before you get back to feed her properly. I know it's not much time but it does make a difference and if you're feeling like the expressing issue is holding you back it could be a small solution until that gets sorted,

I had the the tommee tippee breast pump but didn't really get on with it - am now using the avent hand pump and find that works for me much better. Fingers crossed the electric one helps you. For me if i don't massage my breast, then hand express to make sure I get a let down, I could pump all day and get nothing but sore nipples. I also give myself a time goal rather than a volume one - pump for 15 mins rather than until i reach 3 oz IYSWIM, for some reason that takes the pressure off and helps to relax about it more, which i thnk helps.

denny could be the cold (cold often maes them drink more) but also could be treats lol- ds3 well able to ask for potty 50 times an evening rather than stat in his bed, knows its the one excuse we'll be unable to argue

there is nothing more hungry or thirsty than a toddler at bedtime

i think that should be an acient chinese proverb

soz 1 hand typing

It's tricky isn't it. He's been doing so well i don't want to tell him off for asking for the loo otherwise might just undo all the hard work of the last few weeks. I suppose I'll have to wait a couple of days and if he's still doing it may have to swop the chocolate for a raisin.

instead of a raisin, onces he's reliable consider a bigger reward for eah dry day (build in a 1 accident thing if needed).

then at bedtime tell him he has earned the reward for tomorrow- no need to play up iyswim?

sadly ds3 couldnt understand if we tried but might work for you?

I could do that with a sticker chart, I think he'll understand that.

Better go and do some housework only 30 mins till next feed. Thanks v much 4 the advice peachy.

no probs lol

30 minutes and dh will be up- dont want to tell him about results appt.

OMG!
I've just come across my mum on facebook.
I put in her maiden name to see if any of my cousins were on there and she came up.
For those of you who don't know -we havent spoken for 6years, my stepdad was abusive and she married him and made me move out etc so since I was 21 we haven't spoken.
IT's so strange though!