April 2008 - the one where Scorpio and Millie show us all the 'through the night' trick

[Scampmum]

Sorry if someone else has already started one - couldn't find it!

Much better night last night, maybe due to gripe water?

LadyBee it was the guy that played Jim, the lad who saved Adelaide (not the photographer, the other one)
I watched it for ages thinking how much he looked like him then said to DP about 20 minutes before the end "he looks like a guy I went to school with, if his name is Matt Smith, then it's him" almost as a joke, then when the credits rolled it said Matt Smith, I was quite

Alex went down at about 9:30 last night, I bathed him about 7 and then he went to sleep as he has a feed straight after his bath, so I woke him back up after half hour and kept him awake til 9:30. He woke up at 3:£0 for a quick feed and then slept til 8 this morning, only waking because DP got up and he had a soaking wet nappy.

Ladybee bumbo's r seats designed to hold the pelvis in such a position it allows more support for LO's b4 they can sit unaided. Also supposed to be diff to escape from DS didn't fit in them v well as he had v fat legs, have hopes of using it for DD2 though.

Well done on the sleep last night. We didn't do as well last night. 9 till 5 then back till 9 again.

thanks for the welcome Peachy, and lol at your no routine at eight, you seem pretty together to me even if you have no routine I think I may be a control freak really

Well done Denny on a great night, fingers crossed for a repeat performance. We had a good night once she went to sleep...woke at 4.15, up for 30 mins then back until eight am. Now, if I can only crack the bedtime routine...

I'm officially at our next door neighbours for the third weekend in a row they have been doing their patio. V noisey angle grinder to cut slabs, they always seem to start at mid-day just when DD2 and DS r going for lunchtime sleep, then instead of just working and getting the job done they seem to do half hour on half hour off all bloody day. Raaaahhhhh

Hi

Hi charlie have already donated my pearls to others further down the htread, cannot be arsed to say it all again, lol

We went to a bbq this afternoon, i had some magners, lush sunshine etc, but a few knobs there going on about BF-ing and could they have a go?? errr, no you prick, how about growing up? (said something v similar, pmsl)

DH has gone out to the cinema time for big chat soon me thinks.

Mimi last night 9-715

phew past 7 yay! DH made coffee and croissants in bed

hi all

mum & dad can see bas is doing well- [sock] as theyre not exactly wild about bf! yay!

my stupid bil almost killed the bumbo by plonking their rising-5 in ot, it must be made of stern stuff as hasnt stretched at all.

Sam been really silly tonight, got Stirling to help him remove a tooth because he wanted tooth fairy money! - blood everywhere. thank goodness it was a baby tooth at least. got is school review on the 3rd, think i need a word....

bas has had smiles for all today- gorgeous little man.

Peachy thats great about your parents. You know you're right.......

Please Help Me:

I am tired, in my bones, in my brain.

I want to give Mimi formula so i can get out but i really don't, i think it will hurt her, i dont want to give up bf, slippery slope, i can hardly get anything when expressing, 1/2 an oz? even in morning

She fed for 3 hours straight last night, dont i have enough anymore? woke up at 5am but i went to sleep she fed

Please help me, i need break but have no milk, dh is always at work, he took my mate to the cinema last night

Formula is not the answer is it?

No, it's not

You have plenty of milk, if she is feeding more it is probably a growth spurt.

It is really rare not to have enough milk, especially once feeding is established.
Every time she takes some out, your body puts it back, and at the same rate so there is always enough there.

She is just increasing feeds ready for your milk supply to get used to supplying her a larger amount as she is getting bigger. It will last a few days only.

Does she sleep in the buggy or car when out?
Could you get DH to take them all out for a walk so you could have some time to yourself?

WHAT THE HECK IS HE DOING TAKING YOUR FRIEND OUT?????

Yeah she is very good; its not her iyswim, she would sleep in her buggy or something if we went out, i said to dh i think that is the answer

He decided he wanted to go to the cinema, i didnt mind at the time but then he text his mate chris and said do either of you (his gf is one of my close mates)want to come cinema, she said she did so off they went.

i was and about it TBH. its nothing like that, she is pg with db3 and i have known her for 20 yrs

I'm so worn out iyswim? i feel like i cannot cope

we cant afford for dh to have time off cos he is going to Norway a week thursday and needs alot of money to go away; so our savings are used now iyswim (about £500)

sorry i am rambling

i have no RL help

is it growth spurt time? she is 9 weeks and 3 days

also he gets back from norway and there are fights in town on the following sunday. i said can i come for a bit he said well yes but i expect i will be there all day

OH DO YOU

i feel like a fucking mug

and mimi feeding all the time just doesnt give me a break

Growth spurts come whenever, there is no set time, they average out at about 7-10 days, 2-3 weeks, 4-6 weeks, 3 months, 4 months, 6 months and 9 months.

Alex had his first real noticeable GS last week though and he is a week older than Millie.
I'm not suggesting him going with your friend was anything up, don't want to make you paranoid! but he shouldn't be going out leaving you at home.

If he wants to go to the cinema he should get a babysitter for Jamie&Reilly and you should take millie with you (if she is anything like alex she'd just sleep& feed anyway!)

What pump are you using? Maybe it's because she is feeding more that it's harder. Do you feed from both sides each feed?

i didnt notice the other GS but i am noticing htis one, if Lex had one a week ago then maybe Mimi is copying

He never arranges a babysitter. Mimi is very 'good' and quiet, i could take her anywhere really i just never think to iyswim

Its a tommee tippee hand pump. Ellie has sent me an electric pump so waiting to try that

I feed on first boob for longest then 'top-up' from 2nd boob. i have tried just feeding from one side and expressing at the same time;expressing after, after a bath, you name it i have tried it

I can get 2oz MAX but only if i didnt feed from that boob all night and until 8am ish, then express it

this mornig i got 1/2 oz from my 'super' boob despite not using it since 10pm last night

I'm crap with hand pumps.
I've got the toys r us electric one and even then I can get 5oz between about 6am-11am, nothing any other time, and only from my left side so I've had to find the right time for expressing iyswim.

Have you tried hand expressing? I find if I can get let down I can express much better.

I know what you mean about them being quiet and could take them anywhere, but you end up getting so tangled up in the day-to-day stuff that a break doesn't seem possible!

I've been shitty with DP this weekend because he woke me up sat morning to ask if I wanted breakfast, but I ended coming down, making mine, his and the DC's, then cleaning the cupboards, gutting the bathroom/bedrooms making a huge roast dinner etc etc and he spent the whole day on the PC, I even said about 4x, 'I'm really bored' to be practically ignored.

Anyway he took us out for dinner after we went to his mums yesterday and it wasn't too bad even though Alex woke up just as our food arrived!
I think sometimes they just need it spelling out for them! Every so often I don't feel appreciated, get upset about it and ten he feels guilty as hell because he doesn't seem to realise but it doesn't help us does it?

Oh was going to say, as your body is used to not feeding during the night now I'm assuming you aren't engorged by the time you wake up? Maybe try feeding just from one boob for a feed or two and see if you can get it to that point then try expressing?

Thanks

No im not engorged anymore, that has stopped within the last week. i guess i could feed fro my right before school and then express at about 1030 from left - i just tried again and got 2oz just like that

the other day i did at about 1030 and got lots too, iyswim about 'my time' now

dh text to ask if i was ok earlier and i said no, he rang me and was helpful' i think he knows im needing him at the mo. He did say the other day he knows he is taking he piss lately - Norway, fights, etc and he will do whatever i need, but why do i have to tell him? its nearly as much energy to tell him as to do it myself iyswim

i want him to take a day off to do school shite and dinner and stuff, he says to leave the housework until he gets home but i cant (dont feel its far and cannot look at mess all day whilst i sit on my fat arse)

Sorry im going on today, have no RL person to talk to today or RL help and needed it putting in perspective i guess

plus, TMI, my period is really heavy and i guess thats dragging me down both physically and mentally iyswim. sonographer when i had scans says i have fibroid?

I'm the same with the housework, he says leave it but I can't.
If he is at work I feel like it's my 'work' to do y'know?
Also I'm here, and when Lex is asleep there isn't much else for me to do!
How about a date night?
Could you get the kids fed something easy (beans on toast or something), put to bed and eat later just you and DH, get him to pick up a take-away and some wine on his way home or cook for you whilst you have a bath? But get him to do it for you

Yeah he will do that, he is quite good at al lthat, we have wine here & a stir-fry for just us

yes, its my work, i cannot justify him working all day to come home and do my work too iyswim

I can't put my finger on what will make it better - i think its a combination of dh being about more, going out leaving mimi with a babysitter, and i know this sounds silly but getting my hair done; also going out and leaving dh at home so he knows i still have my life, my friends etc.

Its Golowan week here, late night street party this weekend; dh said he will take kids home after the fair98 ish) and i can stay out with mates; think i will. was a right laugh last year

i think i might feel like dh wants wants wants, and gets. the things i want i have to fight for - silly things like that cot i like, but also children, respect and fairness. DH seems to be having alot of money from the pot at the mo too.....after Norway i think im going shopping and to the salon.

And im fat still. I can't diet can I? I feel huge for me

You can 'diet' as in eat sensibly, they just reccommend no dieting during BFing because you need your strength.
I'm starting a 'diet' this week, but by that I just mean I'm drinking only water and not snacking, with smaller dinner portions.
Plus instead of getting the bus fro town to the school I have been walking it, just that little extra exercise works wonders.

I do know what you mean about getting everything he wants.
DP has just got his BMW back on the road, we were going to sell it but have decided to keep it, for fathers day he was spoilt rotten, he calls me up and says he is going to go play squash or go for a pint after work, mentions meeting old friends from uni for lunch etc and I think, Oh yeah, I'll ermmmm, feed alex, and referee ella&bobby.
I want spoiling! I want appreciation! Even a £2 bunch of flowers from the garage on the way home, something to show you understand how hard it is and that you appreciate what I'm doing.
I dont want to stop being mum, I love it, I just want people(E&B as well as DP) to respect it.
And most of all I don't want it to be something I tell him to do, I want him to do it off his own back.

Oh, and I got my hair done last week, just a cut and blow dry, but that hour of me being alone was bliss.
Book it up!
Book yourself in for saturday and get him to take the DC's to the park whilst you go.

you have just spelt it out for me! that is exactly how i feel.

It costs alot to have my hair done, it needs colour too - its about £85 so i will have to wait for a fortnight which i can cope with.

How about a spray tan, or a manicure or a massage?
All you can get done for about £20, take about 30-60 minutes and makes you feel a bit better?

I am fake-tanned already, lol

I guess its not just my appearance, i feel ok, im a size 8/10, exactly 10st, but feel massive for me.

it's the whole thing though - DH, BF (at the mo i could just give up tbh), and the boys are being very trying at the mo'. and im tired, have no time to myself - im bound to feel shit arent i?!!