April 2008 - the one where Scorpio and Millie show us all the 'through the night' trick

[Scampmum]

Sorry if someone else has already started one - couldn't find it!

Much better night last night, maybe due to gripe water?

Me too, Pal! Do you know where to send the form? I am quite stupid today, and can't find out where its meant to go, and they never answer the phone.

Scamp - according to GF, a 6-8 wk old baby should be sleeping for 4 hours between 7am and 7pm. And 3 and a half hours for 8 to 12 week old. A usually has about three - I cannot get her to sleep for the 1pm to 2pm stretch, for some reason. Hope your day gets better!

Scamp I don't know what bits you want but i literally just want the cot and cot mattress, that means junior bed kit & junior mattress for you, is that what you want?

Do email me

Scorpio, that is lovely!!! Not sure how I feel about you anymore though, jealousy is eating me up!

Once I get over the jealousy though - I'm almost excited for you, you'll feel a million dollars in that (and look it!) - planning on going anywhere specific or just looking fabulous because you can?

i got it to wear to mates wedding blessing thing next week with some wooden wedges. I got it for £83...bless DH he didnt mind either. I got it in an 8, its a wrap style so should fit.

Then i thought it could be dressed down with flip-flops or up? Also tights in winter.

Hi everyone!

Am having a rare bit of ME time cos I have Toby gluing nd glittering in the kitchen and Chloe and Robyn have both been sleeping for 3 hours!! (AT THE SAME TIME!) This is the longest nap Robyn has had in her cot during the day since she was days old so am hoping is the first of many.

To those who are stressing about how much sleep babies should have- IME it's very difficult for them to have too much. If they won't sleep another time it's usually for a different reason. They are more likely to kick up a fuss if they are overtired. Also I believe they need as much sleep as they are used to- hence my 2 and 3yo still need a nap after lunch. Toby didn't have a nap yesterday as we were visiting friends and at 4pm he had a major meltdown cos I asked him to go for a wee wee!

Robyn settles in her cot at 7pm and usually sleeps till about 3am, I feed her and then she settles till 7/8am. Sometimes I put her straight back in bed till 9.30am!

However she can be quite grumpy in the day and she is sick on me approx every 10 mins! There are little patches of baby sick on the carpet, the cushions, the sofas, all my clothes, her car seat and I have to change her sheet an sleeping bag every day cos it's soaking!!!

Scorpio- can't believe yo are size 6 2 months after havng a baby. The dress is lovely! I'm still waiting for BF to burn all the fat off but I've had 3 babies and it hasn't happened yet!

Yay! Zoe slep 10-3:30 then 4-6:50 last night, possibly best night ever. Tbh I would rather be doing one more night feed and maybe not have to spend all evening feeding but hey ho, not all bad and she's still little.

scorpio, i do not want to hear about you being a size 8, I still have a stone to lose to be a size 12.

I wouldn't get 1 leg in that dress

pmsl i just noticed i did the school run with both my boob cups down good job i dont leak anymore....

so dress is good, yes

they do dress in diff sizes, on ebay. put in kate moss pansy dress

dress is good! actually, dress is great! . still though.

Hi people.
I've had a weird few days, just felt really odd, quite sombre.
Was just talking to dp about it and felt even odder as have been close to tears several times today.
But nothing is wrong, the kids aren't being naughty, alex is sleeping well, dp is being great, I should be feeling happy as larry (who is larry?) but can't get myself to snap out of it.
Plus I have this terrible fear that Alex is going to die, not just a bit worried, am petrified, as soon as he is quiet I'm poking him or watching to see if he breathes, I wake up in the morning filled with dread as I check him, it's mad, I was never like this with the other two.
I'm so desperate not to get PND again but this doesn't feel the same.
Even just typing this I feel like crying, I really need to pull myself together!

PND doesn't have to be the same every time -- and you haven't had the trauma you had with DD's birth so it would make sense for it to be different if you were going to get it. I think it's worth seeing GP on basis it may be PND; if it is, and if you get help quickly, it doesn't need to get as bad as it did with your DD.

VS - part of it includes, sometimes, irrational fears sweetheart. cry if you want, maybe thats all you need? and dont for a second feel you should be something - we are all different.

does dp understand pnd?

you got my email x

VS, So sorry to hear you're not feeling good. What Pal said seems to make a lot of sense...and keeping talking to us, if it helps.

Hi VS. I don't know enough about pnd to say much, but just wanted to let you know I'm thinking of you. xxx

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VS, sorry you are feeling down.

Scampmum, I am always tempted to put dd straight to bed when she falls asleep after her bottle, but invariably she wakes up after a few minutes, needing to be burped. And I have to get out of bed AGAIN!!

Sorry you're not feeling quite yourself VS, maybe you could make an appointment with GP about it - if you end up coming out of the trough then you can always cancel the appt, and if it continues and you're worried about PND it would be good to get help earlier than later?

Scampmum - before Ben got his cold he had the non-pooing, more sleepy in the day - maybe your LO is coming down with something? Hope not tho'

Very sad day for me, my grandfather died this morning in NZ. Spent most of the morning on phone to parents and passport offices (both British and NZ) and on internet trying to see whether flights available/possible to get passports sorted asap etc. In the end my parents told me not to come - the funeral is on Saturday and I'd have to be on a plane tomorrow to get there in time, would be a nightmare to get a passport sorted for him and not really fair on him to put him on a plane for such a long flight when he's already sick. Contemplated (briefly) going without him but just couldn't. Mum said it wouldn't be what Grandpa wanted and it would be better to come for a happier family event. Feel really sad at not being able to say goodbye to Grandpa and very very far away from my family

Hi All,

Been away..DD2 is doing better. We saw a cranial oestepath today and have purchased the sleepcurve mattress...she settled this evening by 7.30 for the first time ever...am scared to even think it might happen again tomorrow but heres hoping Thanks for the advice tho.

VS...I hope you are doing OK...I know we could all prob relate to how you are feeling on some level..I know I can, so hugs to you.

Charlie

Ladybee, so sorry about your grandfather, my sis lived in Oz and has been in this situation about coming home, it is hard. Maybe do something nice to remember him at the appropriate time...?

LadyBee, I'm fine thanks, going to see GP on fri.

So sorry about your GF, one thing I want to say though, when my Dad died, it was completely infeasible for me to go to his funeral in Scotland, instead I dedicated as much of that day as I could to him (xmas eve)

Can you go to a close church and light a candle? have a special meal with your immediate family? DS is also named after my dad, any chance of adding name at christening to include your GF's name?

Grieving doesn't have to mean church, just thought
xxxxxx

Sorry to hear you are feeling this way VS - hope you get the help you need. And just remember we are all here to support you.

And sorry for you too LadyBee - I had tears in my eayes reading what you wrote - I so empathise with how you must be feeling right now.

G had her innoculations yesterday - poor baby She gave me SUCH an accusing look - a real 'Mommy what have you done to me' look! Was fine after that, but a coupe huosr later she woke up screaming blue murder. Thank goodness for Calpol. She was also weighed and measured yesterday - now 11lb13oz and 62.5cm. I was rather chuffed with the weight until a 5 week old boy came in and got weighed and was 11lb! lol

I've got vertigo again - 3rd time in about 6 months. I really feel rubbish. Back to the dr again today - hoping she will refer me to the specialist now before my private medical runs out (I took voluntary redundancy from work - yeeehaaa - but last day is 21 August so need to get to specialist before then!)

Hi Ladybee

I cried reading your post - hope you are doing ok - I know it's the one thing you dread being over here that you won't be able to get back in time. I'm really sorry and hope as others have said you find a way of commemorating your grandfather over here.

VS Sorry too that you are having a bad time,as Charlie said we have probably all been there to one extent or another, glad you are going to see your gp straight away, much better to be proactive than to just hope for the best.

Well I have stopped being sick! (sorry for tmi) but feeling very drained and really realising that there is no reprieve at all from a baby at a time like this!

I'm not sure about going to the GP now.
I've put a thread here about it, but we'll see.

hi again VS

I get frightened too about Jasmine, like it is too scary to love someone so much in case something happened to her. Sometimes I worry that I could relax too much and something would happen to her because I took my eye off the ball. So no advice really, just that I do understand what you mean and I think most mothers probably do too to one extent or another. Having said that, if you find that your anxiety is debilitating I think talking to your p is the best thing to do.

sorry - talking to your gp is the best thing to do