May 04 babies - number NINE

[Bozza]

Here's a new thread especially for Kate79.

(she couldn't access the old one).

My DS's teeth are starting to show through today - will explain runny nose/bottom, temp and unsettled night I guess!

Does anyone else find it hard to cope with the older one during this really demanding time with the babe?

My nearly 5 year old girl is really suffering and I'm finding it hard to have fun with her! She's been off school 3 days now. She's lovely - but SO desparate for one on one PLAY and attention.

Just a quickie before I go to bed. Still no unbroken nights- must be a month now. She still has a cold - has had it for about six weeks now so took her to the GP today - I've been going every couple of weeks just to make sure it's not turning into anything worse - and now he says that the luminous snot probably means it's an infection and has prescribed antibiotics that no chemist in a three mile radius can get until tomorrow.
DH is 40 next month and we're off to London - couple of hours on the train together, meal out, night in a nice hotel then he goes round his beloved Highbury for a tour with an Arsenal Legend while I mooch round the shops. Can't wait. We both lived there in our twenties before we knew each other, but now we're hicks and haven't been for years it feels like a big adventure! Won't know what to talk to him about. He says he's always fancied a massage so I might book him one at the hotel - night not be the sort he was thinking of. Night.

Have a lovely free time Helsy - Oh for a night off....

Hi guys, CAT! happy birthday pudding! have a wonderful time xxxxx

I think we must all be hitting low ebbs at the moment - DP and I nearly came to snapping apart completely this week. I don't think I have ever felt so alone, we are now working on it but I am still feeling out of sorts - I have spent most of the week weighing the odds and I still don't know what to do. It must be bliss to know for sure that you have your soulmate with you. Time will tell for us, as a friend pointed out to us, we have hit the floor running and collided with the wall at the end in the last two years . . . so it little wonder that the fallout is now hitting us.

Cat. I have taken the same approach as you - DP and I are now going to spend Friday just the two of us whilst Roo is at the childminder's to have a short chat (not too heavy) and chill out (cinema or bowling?) to remind ourselves of what we were about in the first place . . . strewth! what a week. You have a great time out toots xxx

My love and warmest wishes to the rest of us too xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Libb- so sorry you're having a rough time hon.
If you fancy a chat or moan then just give me a call and we can meet up and have a drink or 8

IT'S OFFICALY MY BIRTHDAY!!!!!!!!!!!!

And now....i'm going to bed

Night all

Thanks for the offer darling xxx

Why are you here?! it is your birthday!! go woman, go drink and do things that DP can laugh at you about for ages afterwards. xxx

He's out at the moment! A rarity bless him...i have just announced my birthdaydom on a thread

I've had a couple of large red wines, and am feeling nicley mellow.

I'm 23.....NOW!

Oh and libb- i posted our coincedence story (about you meeting dp before you met me) on the amazing coincedences thread, hope you don't mind!

xx

I am very pleased for you . xx

Awwwww dp just sent me a happy birthday text

He remembered i get excited at midnight girlish giggle

Of course I dont't mind! (I was envious about your age by the way!)

You ain't seen the last of me yet!

Well i should hope not!

Don't be of my age....i may be 23 but i still have the life of a 50 year old.

Let's see...few years ago, dancing in a club until 4.00am, many, many coktails, followed by lage disgusting kebab, possibly followed by loud vommiting into a drain while trying to still walk in a straight line.

Now

Having to be in bed by aroun 9.30pm every night, in case kiera wakes up and we need to be responsible.

You "old un" you! where is this thread that takes my name in vain?

I found it! xxx

It was very spooky wasn't it?
I still giggle about that...

happy birthdayyyyyyyyyy cat!!! and don't make yourself older than you are (pffff 50) - you are 23 now so act like it
hope you are having a fab day and not too much of a headache

and btw, what are you 2 doing up so late

ohhhh libb!!! hope your evenings out will bring you together again! ha, i am certain they will! - it's a very hard time with a little one. and dads feel it too (also they would never admit it) - and a very huuuuuuge impact on us mums - so that means we have to be double strong!! but sometimes it's nice when you don't have to be and just snuggle up to you dh and let him do everything

wohooo helsy, enjoy your time in london! have fun with the shopping

WOOOOOOOOOOOAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!

MY BIRTHDAY!!!!!!!

Go on...break out the party poppers

Well i'm paying for my late night i am exhausted, which is silly really, seeing as i'm going out tonight s well! Dp came in about 12.30 and that's when i finaly crashed out.

So far i've opened my cards, got lots and lots of hugs and kisses from dd and dp, and dp has sung happy birthday to me. 5 times.

Thank you Susi, i will do my best to act 23 and pretend i have a 23 year olds lifestyle

Libb- I'm still here if you wanna chat/ moan or generaly need a hug.

Hope everyone had a good night
xxx

Well the bumps aren't too in evidence this morning thanks to judicious applications of Magic Pot - hardly any bruising at all. I may keep social services at bay for a little longer

It suddenly occurred to us last night what this "nasty virus" is - mainly because now dh has got it he can describe his symptoms better! I think it's 'flu - sudden onset of temperature for the first couple of days, aches and pains, exhaustion (dh was hardly able to get out of bed yesterday), severe headache... no wonder the kids are feeling shit.

And I haven't fully succumbed yet. Oh joy.

Oh well, at least it a) seems a mild variant of flu and b) I figured it out well after the kids were on the mend. Think I would have completely freaked out otherwise. Last year a 2 year old died of the flu just a few roads away from us...

HAPPY BIRTHDAY CAT!!!!!

Yeah Casmie proper flu can be quite nasty can't it. Of course, we all know some people who have flu with the slightest sniffle but the temp and aching body/exhaustion sound like it to me. Just hope that you can fight it off or if not at least its nearly the weekend and DH will be around.

Cat Happy birthday again - jsut posted on your thread. You are certainly behaving like a 23yo (as opposed to a 50yo) just now.

Libb sorry you are having a hard time in your relationship. I think this is incredibly common after a baby, especially the first one. It changes things so much and you have so little time for yourself. And now that you are working your time off is spent on the baby and leaves little over. Think you are doing the absolutely best thing sending DS to the CM and having the day just the two of you. DH and I have a tradition (since DS was born 4 years ago) that we both take a day off work in the run up to Christmas and go shopping - to a city not a mall (better atmosphere) and have lunch in a restaurant and buy the kids presents together. We both look forward to it for ages. Actually we were having a hard time before Christmas because I was incredibly stressed out with everything that needed doing but we have put a bit of effort in and things have improved.

Happy Birthday Cat! thanks for your offer. I will most certainly take you up on it as soon as possible (not a moan though, just a good old fashioned chinwag!) By the way, my neighbour has only just turned 21 and has a 10 month old DS and is 20 odd weeks pregnant. I think you are taking it easy if you ask me! She and her partner are also feeling the strain so in a perverse way it makes me feel better that it isn't uncommon. Thank you, everyone, for your kind words - we are gradually working through it all. Money is our biggest stress factor, both working full time and seeing nowt for it. Then there is the time factor as well . . . heyho.

Casmie, at that price I would expect Gandalf himself to come and administer the cream! glad that things are settling at home though.

Right now I am waiting for the courier to bring me some photos from Photobox for a leaving card I am making for someone at work - I should've plumped for the "no fuss" first class option as that came 2 hours ago . . . am trying not to panic.

On the DS front we now have 4 teeth and lots of dadas, mumums and babas. He is pro at sitting and rolling - sadly my fear of what lies in the depths of "that carpet" (trademark) means I tend to hinder his attempts at world domination - for the moment anyway.

LOL... no, I know Libb - it's very pricey. The small pot does seem to last for ever though... had mine since ds1 was small and it's still almost full! Can't see me ever having to replace it until maybe the grandkids are here bumping themselves

Happy Birthday Cat! I had it written in my diary you know... that's how seriously I believe you are all real people, not imaginary characters (dreamed up by a spotty 14 year old computer crazy boy with nothing better to do) (though I know in my heart of hearts that is an outside chance)()

23 is a cracking age, I remember it well... sigh... But using it to be a mum is a fantastic idea, wish I'd thought of it at the time!!! Could have saved my liver a couple of blows.

Libb, I am late in catching your sad post and now you sound a bit more optimistic. But it does sound like you are dealing with it well. You know, I think for what it's worth that you have a pretty unforgiving schedule at the moment! It just sounds like you have no space for 'quality time' for yourself or for your relationship, during the day. Would that be fair to say? If you'll forgive me for sticking my beak out.

Do you call your Ds Roo? That's so sweet! Anyone else have a nickname or ten for their baby? I am currently calling DD Snowy because she has a little duck's arse of white-blonde hair emerging at the back. But she has a new name about every week. Which can't help her perception of herself.

LOL Spots. I'm busily trying to remember 23. What did I do? Oh yes moved from London (was only there 3 months) to Yorkshire and working where I still work now (in a rut, me?) and got engaged to DH. He used to visit me one weekend (and we spent all weekend in bed) and I used to visit him the other weekend (and we spent all weekend out with friends drinking and dancing). And went on first holiday with DH to Portugal.

My liver is still frazzled i'm afraid spots

My nickname for Kiera is my Bug. I always call her bug...poor thing may have a complex when she's older- i do mean it affectionatly though, honest!