May 2007 babies. Shoes needed? Surely not...

[largeginandtonic]

Here we go ladies.

Jam - you poor thing, morning sickness is the worst, it really is. Are you going to find out what flavour the baby is?

Re: being a "man". My life was certainly more simple as a single parent with regard to getting things done. I just got on with stuff on my own and never had that "resentful" feeling when I need to get on with something, but the fact that DH is lolling on the couch is making me angry and not want to do it. Very childish, but nevertheless, I do feel like that sometimes. I didn't have any money so life was actually less complicated. My house was clean and tidy, because I didn't mess it up. It was also tiny and took about an hour to clean from top to bottom, instead of six or seven. Not that I have ever cleaned this house "from top to bottom". There was a sort of "Forth Bridge" element (it, it was never finished) to the cleaning before the hiring of the wonderful Magda.

I wouldn't swap back, but things do run pretty smoothly when DH is away on business!

TYG - I agree. I do feel a little sense of relief when I know dh won't be in until after bathtime, as when he is there, doing nothing to help, I get very resentful and angry. Whereas if he's at work, we can just get on with it. He does make me laugh when he reflects on how much our life has changed since L was born, because I can't actually see that his has altered that much!

My jeans are hurting my tummy, i need to let them out all the time. Not good when you are walking to the school run. The thing is i have never been this big when i have fallen pregnant. Normally i am back in my size 10's. This means that i have nothing to wear! Everything i wear at the end is huge and all the little bump stuff is to tiny to go over my fat arse.

I cant go shopping, too much like hard work and not enough pennies. So jeans undone it is

Jam left over chinese yuk, i can imagine. I out mine outside last night

MrsJB are they behaving?

Ah, LG&T, I haven't been a size 10 since I was about 16. Keep em open, let the air in, no one knows anyway, unless of course you are wearing a midriff-baring top, which I'm thinking you're not...

How's your sickness? Still as bad?

Sickness definatley abating, more tired than anything else. I am very sick, well nauseous from lunchtime, it fades after tea and the evenings are not too bad. Very odd.

Why is dh useless? Not putting out?

Glad to hear its getting a little better. He's just completely useless with L. He wants to come in from work and watch TV and flop on the couch. I am convinced he deliberately stays at work to avoid bathtime.

I can't have another one at the moment, I wouldn't be able to cope, unless he starts pitching in a bit more. When she woke up screaming last night, he just lies there with his back to us until I actually say, 'Mark, can you hold her while I get the Calpol'. You're not telling me he was asleep. He's doing my nut in, to coin a phrase.

Pink, by the time you are onto the third they have to help out, like it or not. Dh said this weekend, 'now he is this age J really responds to me I said 'he would've really responded to you at 2 months old if you had been the one getting up every night and walking him around permanently attached to some part of your body'

However he is reluctant to take all three of them out at the same time without me It takes a lot of persuading.

He has been at home now for 2 weeks and I feel the need for him to have a business trip very soon.

How are you doing this morning SOH????

MrsJB, PMSL at Thursday not Monday comment, I think we have parallel lives... I am going to take a leaf out of yours and MKG's book and say lots of lovely things about my children, always. Perhaps I'll start next week.

Great news on the cheque TYG!

Sorry, break to fry mushrooms and top with runny egg

for with numpty h, i had one of those once. I used to be so resentful of him. He would carry on with his life unhindered by te children unless he wanted them to be involved. I sympathise with you. You must make him see what is going on or the resentment will build

My ex phoned me yesterday, to ask me if it was ok if he could have the children on my birthday this year as he and his GF were getting married... Good i said, i like her and the children love her

Mmm.

That's good news LG & T. Glad he is moving on, so to speak.

He was moving on before he even left PJ...

Cam when does 007 go off again? I bet he is under your feet!

The poor old chickens are getting a battering Cam, do you think it will get worse now they know they are there? The fox comes in to our garden nearly every night just trying his luck.

At least you are good terms with them and the kids like her.

Dh doesn't go soon enough til next week I think. When he is here he does annoying things like things like eat and finish off the bottle of wine.

Poor old chooks, someone left the hen house door open... Does he come every night that fox??

bad typos sorry

Just off to bake a banana cake.

Oh I love banana cake. Post me a piece! I will eat that with my KKs that Scoot is going to send me.

And will be whale-like on the beach in 4 weeks time next to my sylph-like mother. Last time I went on holiday at this size I threw all the photos away. Although I did lose 2 stone after I saw them. Not immediately, obviously.

I just don't seem to have any willpower. Its this last bloody stone. I can't shift it, mmm that packet of Skips I just had was yum!

LG&T--why is your ex getting married on your birthday?

Now about the man issue. I may have children that I praise like crazy, but my dh on the other hand. It's rare that I have anything good to say about him. The other day he was complaining that something stupid was done yet he said, "How come this isn't done, what have you been doing all day?" I looked at him and screamed, "EVERYTHING!!!"

My neighbour who has two dcs and is expecting her third made me laugh the other day, she said, 'dh is saying he's going to be less hands on with this one, I can't remember him ever being hands on with these two, any less hands on and he'd be in another post code'.

Feel a little better that its not just my dh! Why do women assume all responsibility, in this day and age? I'm not generalising, I know some dhs on here are marvellous, but why is it all up to me? Why, when I left her with dh on Sunday did I feel the need to prepare lunch and dinner for her? Why did I have to get up and dress her and give her breakfast? Why couldn't he just play with her at home, rather than going 70 miles to his mum and dads, where no doubt he sat on his arse all day while they ran round after her.

Why does the buck stop with me? Ooh, I'm off on one now!

Don't get me wrong, you all know how much I love L, but why does it feel like all the responsibility is mine? Why didn't he wake up last night when she was crying? Because he knew I would, that's why. Grrrr.

They are just not programmed in the same way Pink. They don't have that in built guilt gene that we have. I also say to dh why do I have to prepare lunch/supper/water/snacks/get them dressed His response is that if he does it he will do it wrong and I will shout at him. True enough.

To be fair to him he is willing. He just doesn't do it right iykwim.

He also takes the dc out, always doing something together, but rarely sits at home and paints with them for example. In fact we were talking about this last night.

OH, it's the price we all pay. TBH dh doesn't really have a clue. So I don't mind doing all the child oriented stuff myself. I get angry when he doesn't do the supportive things, like put his dishes in the sink or his clothes in the hamper. I mean if he's not going to do anything to help, at least give me one less job to do.

DH lets me write him a schedule if he's taking A for the day. Not so important now, but was good in the past for making sure she got fed and slept at the right intervals. He sometimes comes home early especially to bath A, so I can't complain there.

It's more the "blue jobs" in the house. I'm not generally colour-ist about these things; I'm the flat pack queen, I was plunging a toilet last night , but whilst I'm seriously up the duff (and feel like I have been for ooh, two years now, I can't get stuck into things like hefting boxes around the house, putting things in the loft, hedge trimming, decorating and so on. If I could, then DH would feel bad and help me. As it is, I have to keep reminding him about things and then I become a "nag". Tis very frustrating. And if he's not doing his "blue jobs" at the weekend, then I think, "well if he's not doing the blue jobs, I'm sure as sh't not going to kill myself doing pink jobs all weekend" and then nothing gets done and I'm actually more annoyed than ever. Dammit.

Mind you, I've had about 4 lie-ins in the last year. It's generally me who gets up with A at the weekends and if he's been out, he gets to see through his hangover in peace. I am obviously storing all this up for when I give up breastfeeding the next baby and then I will be out every weekend.

Now, just need to find some friends who aren't going to be pregnant or breastfeeding when that time comes. Any takers?

as long as you like 80s music and Lambrini, I'll be there

Do any of your babies still puke a little when they've eaten. I don't mean vomit, I mean when it just comes out of their mouth, like a posset. L does it very occasionally, but my mum has just (kindly) phoned me to say she did it at lunchtime.

OOh DH/P bashing woo hoo

Dont get me started it would take me all afternoon to list the things I do and the stuff he doesnt notice.

L&GT I am the same at the mo put mat trousers on and they fall down look ridiulous put reg stuff on and am wondering round with my knickers on show.

Can you send the fox my way cockrals still driving us barmy had to stop DP buying rat poison the other day. I looked out the kitchen window last week and they were in a tree! I did not know they could do things like that.

SOH, come back, I've just seen you on that mastubation thread...

BTW, I can spell, just wasn't sure if the IT guy would run up and forcibly escort me if I typed it correctly.

I can't join in the dh/p bashing. I get breakfast in bed every day, he gives me a lie-in every weekend, always baths her if he's here, takes her off to give me a break, plays with her, interacts, sings to her, cries when she's cute. He also cooks, cleans, tidies, gardens etc. I think I married a woman. I would say labour division and childcare is pretty evenly split chez SOH.

Sorry I was crap yesterday. Will type more when M isn't shouting 'tickle tickle' at me and demanding I chase her.