Dec 2007: Gummy grins give way to teething tyrants

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morning everyone

clara at your night out and lie in - sounds fantastic

caz - yes today is my first official day back at work. Dropped DS and DD at nursery and managed not to cry - have sent two bottles of EBM with him so hopefully that will be enough and God only knows how they will get him off for a nap without BF him!!! (don;t think that's part of the job description of a nursery nurse, or is it??!

Picking them up at 1pm though so I'm sure he'll be OK. DD is loving the 'taking my baby brother to MY nursery to show MY friends' routine

clairey - at your poo incidents! I remember DD EATING her poo when she was about 11 months old - big happy smile on her face as if it was chocolate or something...

Well good news in the skiddadle household is that I have got a really good job at Oxford University starting (probably) around Christmas so am really pleased. Means we'll be southeners now though - posh accents and cream teas all round

crossed posts Lizzer - CONGRATULATIONS!!! How exciting - Now your DCs can be bridesmaid and page boy

Liz congrats how wonderful
Skid me too supposed to be computer training but MN instead - left DD2 with H am trying very hard not to cry but keep welling up
Also very worried how he will get her to nap without BF - have told him to go up to her room sit in my BF beanbag chair and cuddle her close with bottle very worried but being silly I know - have pump but boobs feel ok so far

Morning all

Lizzer - Congratulations , we've got our wedding booked for Novemebr next year...its exciting isnt it..we'll have to exchange wedding ideas!!!

Skid - Congratulations on your new job ]

clara - Glad you enjoyed your night out.

I was also out on Saturday night, in town with the girls. It was a really good night and i didnt get home until....3.30am...i survived clubbing
Was so tired yesterday though, luckily dp was off so i went back to bed after breakfast for a hour

BT - I've also been a complete pig this weekend, greasy burgers from the van on the way home on sat, and had an indians last night, i must get back on track ive got 13 weeks until my holidays and would like to be all toned up by then!

Congratulations Lizzer - how lovely!

Congratulations Skid on your new job - what will you be doing? Is it still research orientated?
Clairy - will post some soon..

Well have decided to come out of hiding after my blunder on Friday, although still haven't spoken to my family yet....might call today...

is anyone missing the 'kicking' sensation that we used to get when pregnant? Am thinking about wonderful it was....

OMG am completely over emotional! Lizzer first your message and then Skid and Macdoodle's just made me cry!!!

CONGRATULATIONS!! Pics of the ring please (am very into other people's rings seeing as I don't have one -that's what happens when you get married without ever having been engaged I suppose)

Skid/Macdoodle am sure your DB's will be fine but well done for being so brave, must've been really difficult. I think nursery nurses have some kind of magic tricks up their sleeves for getting babies to sleep-my friends DS screams for 20 minutes solid everytime she puts him down (even now aged 2!) but apparently goes to sleep without a peep at nursery. And another friend had the same bf to sleep worry as you but her dd usually settles ok with a bottle of ebm then a cuddle. Hopefully that will work for your H macdoodle.

Clara glad you enjoyed the night out, am more jealous of your lie in tbh!
Fifi I cannot believe you had the energy to go clubbing-10pm is a late night for me at the moment

Am a clever girl, managed to get DS to sleep this morning without rocking him. When I saw he was getting tired I cuddled him for a while then took him up to his cot, lay him down and told him it was time to sleep. I then stayed with him stroking his back for a bit but had to come downstairs cos the phone rang and dd answered it. He started crying but I gave him his dummy back and he settled again, had to give him the dummy another couple of times and then he really started crying so I picked him up but put him down still awake and he was asleep within a minute-amazing! Probably won't work again for a while but is a start. I don't know about anyone else but I find sleep training much easier at this age and older than with a newborn because I feel like they have more of an understanding so I feel less mean!

Am writing all the thank yous for dd's birthday presents , I really hate doing it but don't want to seem ungrateful!

amani - I was just thinking about that - i often feel as if I have just felt a kick although I obviously haven't. Don't miss being the size of a house and waddling round the place though..

Job will be doing research but actually getting paid for it plus I will be working with a world class professor whom i have always dreamed of working with so all in all my ideal job

You poor thing with your blunder last week - that sort of thing just haunts you forever, doesn't it? Good luck with phoning your familty!

macdoodle - I sympathise - it is so hard leaving them, isn;t it? But once they have been fine once then it is much easier to leave them again. Stiff upper lip!

fifi - out clubbing?! Very very impressive

I had a night out on Friday actually but we had only just sat down at the restaurant and ordered wine when my mum phoned to say DS had woken up the second we left and had been screaming ever since so we had to get a taxi back again. But then we just chucked him in his buggy and took him with us - had a lovely night and he slept peacefully beside us. I actually think he doesn't like my mum's house because it stinks of smoke (she's a 40 a day kinda woman)- he actually has a horrible hacking cough now . I have wondered if I should stop taking the DCs there at all but it seems a bit harsh on my mum...

Skid I forgot to congratulate you on your job, us southerners aren't all bad you know

That's a tricky one re your mums house...I know I hate taking the DC anywhere smokey but it must be different when it is your mum. She probably doesn't even realise that it smells of smoke, dh could never smell it when he smoked. Does she smoke when they are there?

clairey - she says she won't smoke in the house but she just stands next to the open door/window - or else doesn't even bother with that. She thinks I am being ridiculous and hysterical by trying to insist that she doesn't smoke around the DCs. She always goes outside when she comes to our house so maybe we should just stop going to hers. It does make me angry though that she can't make that small sacrifice for the sake of her grandchildren but she just says things like - I smoked when you were a child and you've turned out OK blah blah

Morning all! (just)

wow this has all made me a bit teary, engagements, new jobs, leaving babbies at nursery, missing being pg....sniff! I am such a cry baby but at least now I have hormones to blame! oooh times are-a-changing aren't they, 6mths really does seem a bit like the end of the baby bubble when people are off back to work etc.

lizzer congrats!! very exciting! we just got married a couple of years ago after being engaged for so long that people stopped asking if we were ever going to do it - at first I wanted to shoot off to Vegas and do it but in the end we had a church wedding and it was lovely. The best part was just having all our friends and family in the one place it was so nice, relatives came from abroad and got on really well with my friends, that kind of thing, so nice to see everyone mixing like that! the confetti website is great - but make sure we don't lose you to their chat forums!

oooh tripp trapp I DO love it, although so far only for its looks! we haven't really used it yet, just had dd in it a couple of times to play with toys etc. but it is so lovely looking and takes up hardly any space which was the main thing for me as we have a weensy house - my mum was down the other day and I asked if she liked dd's new highchair, she was like - but where is it?!

Hi ladies. Sounds like a few of us had really good weekends!

I was out for lunch with 2 friends on Sat and I thoroughly enjoyed it especially the wine!

Congrats, Lizzer!

Skid - how did your first day back at work go? Well done on the new job too. Tricky one with your mum's smoking. I'm very anti-smoking and won't have anyone smoking anywhere near my dd (or me for that matter!)but luckily hardly any of my friends/family smoke.

Clara - sounds like you had a lovely night out and peaceful sleep

Re eating - I was lucky enough to lose loads of weight whilst breastfeeding, even though I ate like a pig. However now that I have stopped I still want to eat biscuits and chocolate but really must stop or I'll put it all back on!

DD has been a bit out of sorts today but I can hear on the monitor that she has just woken up from a one and a half hour nap (almost unheard of!) so I hope she is better now.

Better go before she starts wailing again!!

My friend is in labour! Has just gone into hospital...am very excited! Will also be very when I see her baby

Wow congrats all round - lizzer well done on the engagement. We had a really small wedding (us and two friends as our witnesses) in Jamaica, where we used to live. If you want something stress-free I would thoroughly recommend it!

skid well done on the new job! I remembered you mentioning about moving to Oxford - is your DH going to be working there too? It sounds excellent if it's your ideal job, that must make you very happy. I love Oxford for the shopping and night life but not sure what it would be like to live in. Are you thinking of finding somewhere in Oxford itself or the surrounding area?

I hope your and macdoodle's first day back at work went well - and that your baby's were good at nursery. I am sure they are used to getting baby's to settle - I think we always worry unecessarily about how other people are going to cope with our children as we have a particular way of doing things. But what I have learnt is often the children behave better for other people.

amani I don't miss being pregnant but the one thing I would love to have again is that little secret feeling I had when I was first pregnant with my first dd1 (and to some extent with dd2 but not as much). I absolutely loved knowing I had a little life growing inside me but no-one else knew about it (apart from my dh).

claireybee my friend haa little boy last Thursday. I haven't see him yet, but I keep thinking about what she must be going through!!

Clairey - Very of your friend.

Me and dp got onto the subject of babies today and i said id like another one, dp says no
I feel really upset actually to think that i probably wont be pregnant again and feel the kicks etc.

Lizzer - congrats on the engagement!!

Skid - well done you on the new job, sounds fab!

Fifi - clubbing! Where do you get the energy

Claraq - glad your night out went well!

Big hugs to Mac and Skid - it must be very hard the first few days, I'm not looking forward to it!

Thought ds was about to roll over - but he didn't quite make it!!

BT - Loads of vodka and red bull seemed to help keep me going

Same here fifi-I want at least one more! DH says no though and is really miserable about the whole thing. Maybe I need a new DH...

She had a little boy at around 2pm-made me cry AGAIN!

clairy - i saw my frirnds new baby today....oh my goodness she was so tiny. i want 1 more too.

evie has started to go forwards and backwards on her tummy and so press ups...crawling won't be long i fear.

Hi guys thanks for all messages - horrible day
Work was same - politics finances moaning blah blah and didn't even get to see any of my lovely patients yet - though am sure they will ask after LO which may make me cry!
Not sure how many of you know me and dickhead sorry H are seperated - he had baby today and picked DD1 from school - I rushed home as DD1 has swimming - both to pool hot bothered bursting boobs manage to feed baby at pool - back home (house an absolute tip - he had her here empty bottles and bibs everywhere) - fed DD1 tried to feed DD2 but to grumpy - bath DD2 BF (first time for sit down) - DD2 in bed - DD1 dowstairs playing - have 10 mins then start her bedtime routine - the need to tidy sort out babies stuff for tomorrow packed lunch put bins out - must do mortgage papers - and the may get 10 mins to myself before bed .....this is going to be hard work Miss just spending time with baby and actaully having time to do things that need to be done

Oh dear Macdoodle... I really hope it gets better once you get a system going, and tell that lazy git of D(ickhead)H of yours to tidy up, it's not his fecking house anymore!

Lizzer ? that?s fantastic news, congrats! You?ll have give us all the details, I enjoy big fancy wedding chat despite having a quiet beach wedding myself. Let us know if satc film is good - hopefully going with my best friend, well it?s the least he can do since he got me into it. Yep you guessed it he?s gay. I couldn?t live without my dishwasher either, love it.
All you ladies enjoying nights out , but once I?m earning again, I?ll be out on the tiles ? if I have the stamina.
Oh Skid ? back at work so soon. It?s gone so quickly hasn?t it. I can?t imagine that nursery drop off, feeling a bit blubbery for you. Does the new job mean moving from the NE down to Oxford?
Fifi ? are you doing the big fancy wedding thing too?
Amani ? I?ve been missing my pregnancy quite a bit, not the aches and pains and tiny bladder but the ?I?m carrying my child? kinda way. But I?m not broody though since won?t be ttc til DD is nearly at school. But yep, missing the kicks. Especially since the baby boom at work, one little baby in the office already and another is pregnant.
Macdoodle ? that sounds awful, I suppose the first day back is the worst, I hope so for you anyway.

Updated my photos finally.

Congratulations Lizzer that's really lovely. Especially as you've been through a lot. I love happy endings.

Macdoodle, it is very hard isn't it? The only thing to do really is develop systems and try and gather as many support people around you as possible. And I'd probably exclude your (ex-D)H from the definition of support - maybe think of him as more of a last resort?
I've been back at work a month now and its been OK largely because I still have the student nanny living here. Having said that DD2 will start at creche full time from 7 July and I'm quite looking forward to getting us into a routine TBH. I hate it when everything is ad hoc and you're not quite sure what's happening from one day to the next! Tuesdays are manic for us too as I have no "help" as such and also have to get DD1 to and from school and to "Variety Sports" then swimming after school, with DD2 tagging along for the ride. We're pretty tired when we get home around 6pm but I have a few strategies to cope. For example, I keep an "emergency kit" permanently in the car that consists of snacks DD1 that have a long shelf life (so she has energy for swimming etc), spare nappies, an empty bottle and sachet of formula as back-up for DD2, tissues, change of clothese etc.
Some days it goes a bit pear shaped despite my best laid plans tho - like last Friday when I arranged for my Mum to pick up both DDs around 3pm - then she rang to ask where I'd left the carseat for DD2. The answer was it was still in my car parked at my work - DOH!