Dec 2007: Gummy grins give way to teething tyrants

[claraquitetirednow]

How about this?

oh and who mentioned stains on bibs - all of dd's bibs and tops are stained already!!

who know squished watermelon was sooooooooo messy!!

caz10 - yes our nights sound similar to your - wakes at 9.30, 1, 3.30 and 5 and that's probably a good night - I'm thinking it might be the 6 month growth spurt? Although tbh DS's growth spurt seems to have started at 4months and continued until now!

Does your DD like fruit btw? I'm sure she will come round to veg in time. I also do the holding the banana while DS chews on it - he loves it!

hi suey - lucky you that Milie loves being spoonfed - you musy have lovely clean floors!

Caz tried some pureed apple today and DS ate a bit, he still gagged but didnt cry so i just shovelled it in! Going to try the apple for a few days. Glad your DD is sleeping better, I am sure it wil improve further if she loves the feotal position on her front. I keep a solution of oxyclean in a wee tub in the kitchen to soak bibs/clothes in prior to the wash and there's a new one out for babies

Suey Millie sounds like she is doing great with the food

Skid oh yes, my stomach is beyond repair I think, still thank goodness for support knickers, I bought a pair for the christening and now feel well over the hill but I feel great in my dress now!

Fifi/Amani I had that feeling this morning, DD is really pushing the boundaries and its such hard work, she didn't have a nap today either so no break at all!

Clairey yikes just read your thread and no advice I'm afraid but hope the sleep improves soon

long shot but does anyone have the address for a website I posted ages ago that had custom made pads for car seats and buggies? My Phil and Teds only has thin straps and I'd like to get some pads for it

BT totally unscientific but my mum holds that view too-she used to boil milk then leave the bottle in my cot for me to drink when I woke in the night!

Ok please can someone stop me eating chocolate? It is super fantastic 70% cocoa and is gorgeous but I can FEEL my thighs expanding.... I think it's the evenings on my own!!

Oh on the sleep front, those waking times sound quite familiar to me. But because she goes straight back to sleep with the dummy I sort of feel it's just the way it is. Do you think it could be a phase and in a month or two she won't wake any more???? At the moment I am assuming I will be up several times a night until she is at least 18.

Caz - it's funny, we have the 5am wake-up every morning. Luckily she does usually go back to sleep until 6ish. Wonder whether its the light? Or perhaps bio-rythms. Perhaps babies are programmed to wake at dawn so their mums can go foraging?

Clairey - re your other thread: you are a stronger woman than me. I would have given in and done controlled crying by now. But I really couldn't cope with as little sleep as you are getting. I would be particularly worried about driving that tired. And how to you keep your temper with your dd? I really find it hard not to snap at her when I have had a run of bad nights. I like Skid's point about making your dh do more though!

Yep I beginning to think that HV is talking out of her arse...

Ds had for his tea half a jar of Heinz Mum's own veg puree and half a tub of pear puree. Absolutely loved it. Only got them as have been a bit disorganised and had some vouchers. To be honest I think I will get the fruit purees until I get him eating pieces of fruit and just mash up veg for him.

morning all

I have a bit of a personal question for those of you who were breastfeeding and now are not (clara, ambi, louise76, anyone else?) - obviously feel free not to answer if you'd rather not!

When you stopped BF did you find your sex drive returned to normal, or more towards normal? I am a bit worried about having none at all and am hoping it is due to BF (makes a lot of sense to me - stops you getting pg again while your baby still needs you) and that when DS is BFing less things will improve - can anyone reassure me? It defintiely wasn;t this bad with DD but she wasn't exBF..

clara - it's only 4 nights, indulge yourself - you can be good again when your DH is back - think of chocolate as your substitute DH! Plus if it's anything like India the chocolate in Pakistan will be vile so you might as well make the most of it while you can

Morning everyone

Skidaddle I'm really glad you asked that question because I'm really interested in the relies as well. I made a huge effort for a couple of weeks but have returned to what it was before..... nothing! Last time for me it did improve once my cycles returned.

Ok, on the weaning front DS took a tiny incy bit of pureed apple yesterday (same here BT, going to buy the pureed fruits, I made some apple of my own but the tiny quantity was impossible to get my hand blender close to it). I looked at a box of baby porridge but the only one in the shop was Heinz and in the ingredients it had sugar so my question is - are these the baby cereal you are using as I am probably being too cautious? What are your views? Does your brand have it in as well?

Clara I agree that whilst your DH is away you should allow yourself some treats, especially as it's the good chocolate and not rubbish candy type soft stuff!

I need to start a thread in parenting section or something about DD (2.4) I am worried about her. She doesn't take any notice of anything I ask/say unless I bribe her (lets get dressed so we can go and feed the ducks etc) and she has so many tantrums and screaming sessions in shops I feel so bad. She also says "I'm not happy" and when I ask why she says "because I'm a naughty girl" ahh it makes me so it really does. I'm trying to build us a new routine.
A question for those with 2 or 3 kids - how much time do you spend sitting down playing with them? DD always asks me but there's so many chores to fit in when I'm home because often we are out everyday at the swings/classes etc.

Loucee, we buy the baby organix banana porridge or the plum baby super porridge- no added sugar or anything nasty. I'm not super against sugar, but at this age it does seem unnecessary and fruit is quite sweet enough.

I also buy the fruit purees, there are that many brands it seems that there is always one of them on offer at the supermarkets at all times and because ds only eats half a pot at a time, its not too bad money wise and its muuuuuuch easier than the peel, boil,blend approach (feel free to call me lazy)

I hope you get some help with your dd Loucee but I'm sure she's completely normal but its been too long for me to remember dd's behaviour at that age sorry (ie I have blotted it from my memory in order to want another baby!)

Skid, I'm with you-don't know if its bfing or tiredness or what but there is no way I'm interested in sex (saying that dp is working ridiculous hours at work atm so he's not fussed either) Just got my period back last week (yippee-not) so I'll see if things improve but I think its geing worse not better, also we're out of the habit so I think I may just have to start making an effort, maybe at a weekend when we are more chilled and dd is at her gp's house.I am worried I have to say! I was a single parent with dd so I've no idea about such things last time round...

loucee - my DD was also an absolute nightmare from just turned 2 until 2 and 1/2 which coincided with the birth of DS so I put it down to that but now I wonder whether it was her age. She is now nearly 2 and 3/4 now and her behaviour is so much better (although still quite a few tantrums). It sounds like your DD's language is really good and I think that really helps because they can express themselves well and don't get so frustrated. My DD also did the whole 'I sad, I want mummy hug' thing which broke my heart at the time but I think it was because she knew I would react. Hang in there, I really think it will get better soon

Re cereals and sugar, I give DS normal porridge (from my bowl) which is just oats and normal milk. I'm not keen on the processed baby porridges personally, especially as they cost twice as much as ordinary oats becuse they've got a pic of a cute baby on them. I am also a bit of a fervent anti-sugar type and will try not to give DS any sugar at all until he's one - we'll see how that goes! [hopelessly naive emotion]

lizzer and loucee - glad it's not just me not feeling like having sex! I am also making an effort but it is very difficult when you feel about as sexual as a plank of wood! Doesn't help that I read a stupid article in the paper about how 80% of men would cheat on their wives if they weren't getting any sex at home - I asked DH how long it would be until he cheated - he said, 'I don't know, a really long time - I might not even do it ever' Not sure whether to be appalled or quite touched!

I have a low sex drive now, so it is currently non-existant!
If that statistic were true, my DH would have had an affair - but he hasn't and won't!
I buy Cow & Gate Baby Balance fruity porridge as it is gluten free and doesn't habe any sugar added, but once he is 6mo (in a couple of weeks) I'll give him porridge oats, Weetabix and Shredded Wheat.

Oh had a shit night. Down at 7:15, woke up at 8:30, 10:00, 12:15(and did a poo), 1:30. At this point DH said let's put him in bed with use. And he slept to 5.30 and did a ginormous poo! By the time I'd dealt with that we decided to get up!

lol Skidaddle at your DH's comments. I would be really touched, he sounds like such a nice guy. To be honest though in our situation it's not like DH is asking me to DTD every night or making much effort himself so although I know he would like a lot more he is just as tired etc. We are making more of an effort to cuddle up on the sofa, massage each others shoulders, foot rubs etc to be more touchy and it is helping to feel close and we always hold hands when walking etc.

Just made a carrot cake for my good friend who has had a baby and wow it smells delicious! I had an absolute disaster with one last week so lets hope this one is edible!

Maybe you should taste it to make sure

But Skid it has organic amaranth in it, and we all know what a super grain that is () that's why its more expensive- not just the cute baby pic...oh and the packet says its homemade with love [puke emoticon]

No, you're quite right -there's nowt wrong with a bowl of normal porridge and its cheap as chips, but getting out of the shiny baby food aisle without 'trying' something new is as hard for me as leaing the chocolate aisle empty handed

I vow to denounce my consumerist tendancies.... one day soon

Bt, yeah that would help us a lot actually (the making the effort to be close in other ways) and might lead on to more as well...Some days we're just so busy cuddling the baby we hardly touch each other

( leaving )

I too have a fairly low sex drive at the mo - I think it is all to do with ovulation, because when I was on the mini-pill I had zero.

Loucce - poor you with your dd. Can you avoid taking her to those places that tirgger her. Shopping just is dull isn't it? Or can you bribe her - if you are good when we are out we will spent 5 mintues at the park or feeding the ducks or reading a story. My dd2 is just like this - she also needs to know what will happen and when it will happen. I give her three warnings - in 5 minutes you need to put your coat on because we are going out, in 3 minutes etc...And you don't tell her she is naughty but that the thing she is doing is naughty. And you try really really hard at ignoring the behaviour you don't like and praising the stuff you do (I find this really hard) - ca10 will probably know - I aim for a ratio of 5 positive comments to 1 negative (i aim). I am sure you do this already and I am teaching you to suck eggs.

Hi everyone

I havent posted for AAAAAAGES but always read to keep up to date with everyone.

Things are great here - after a really horrible time when she was about 3 months not napping and lots of screaming she is now model baby sent straight from heaven!

She has an hour nap in morning, 2.5 hour nap every day after lunch, half an hour in the afternoon and sleeps 12-13 hours EVERY NIGHT I LOOOOOOOOOVE it! LOL

She is still fully swaddled and dummied but to be honest, she sleeps so well Im in no hurry to do anything about it just yet!

Ive been on slimming world for a few weeks to shift the last of the baby weight, not going as fast as I would like but Im sticking in!

Taking a pregnancy test today to hopefully rule out being pregnant Im 90% sure Im not but we had a mishap and I took the MAP but not until the day after the day after and I want to just be sure !!!

lol at the 'homemade with love' lizzer!! Know what you mean about the shiny baby aisle though - hard to resist its magnetic pull...

loucee - aaahhh you're right my DH is a really nice guy. However, unfortunately, unlike yours he's never too tired for sex so i do end up feeling really bad. We also do lots of holding hands, cuddling etc but don't think that quite makes up for no sex in his head (or elsewhere!)

bouncing - not for a second insinuating that any of our DH's would cheat on us now!!! I think it's totally normal to be having not very much with a new(ish) baby in the house but after say a year or two or three of literally no sex, I don't think I would blame my DH for looking elsewhere (although I would blame him for doing it behind my back). Fortunately I don't think it will ever come to that

Pecka lucky lucky you with your lovely sleepy baby, very VERY
am fingers crossed for the pg test or does your lovely baby make you want yet another?!!!

forgot to answer your question loucee - i think I spend quite a lot of time sitting andplaying with DD but of course I'm away at work quite a lot so want to make the most of the time I see her. We always leave all the tidying/washing until the DCs have gone to bed which meanslots of playing but a house which is an absolute tip until the evening..

hmmm can you tell I'm not doing much work today??

Hi all, thanks for your good wishes! Am not feeling quite as bad as I was, I think just talking to the HV helped me out a lot TBH. I have got an appointment in July with another lady, she does a lot of work with ladies feeling the way I do to try and help them before it gets to the stage where they need medical help. She also does CBT so perhaps she can help me kick some of my OCD habits too!

Clairey, yes Evie is one of the youngest (8th Jan), my boys were quite early to roll too and DS2 was a proficient crawler by 6 months (cruising by 7 months . I think it is because they are fairly big children, their strength must help them master these milestones well.

Skid, they definitely do seem to learn new things overnight don't they?! On Saturday DD could not sit up unaided even for a few seconds. On Sunday she could manage a few minutes and is now very sturdy and can sit for quite some time (and play)! I totally identify with you on the tummy front, judging from the state of the skin on mine I seriously doubt it will ever recover. As for sex drive, I am still BFing and have very little but when I stopped BFing DS2 it did pick up again (much to DH's relief!).

Wizz, DS1 hated savoury foods too when I weaned him, I used to mix his veg with petit filous . He did get better as he got older though.

Lizzer, my DH said no to a Tripp Trapp too, said it looked cheap! Love your new chair though, very funky! I ended up getting a chicco one off of ebay, brand new in its box and about £35 cheaper than in the shops!

Bouncing, so glad DS is okay, they know how to worry us don't they! Well done on his rolling too, before you know it he'll be off round the room - Evie never stays where I put her anymore!

Loucee, I would try the baby porrige or one of the baby breakfasts which cow and gate do. I think that Clairey is right about more liquid foods confusing them, especially if it tastes so much of their normal milk. DD tries to suck her baby breakfast but happily opens her mouth to eat pureed fruit and veg which are much thicker (more like mashed really). Your DD does sound normal for her age but with lots of reassurance from you I am sure she will come through it. It is also really hard to fit time for them in around all the other stuff that needs being done too (this is why I often stay up until 1am ironing...).

Caz ah yes, stains... Evie is still quite sicky and so her bibs and the necks of her tops/dresses are all getting stained too. I sometimes soak in hot water and washing powder for a day before washing and sometimes put washing up liquid on the stains. Not really helping with the bibs but doing the job okay on the clothes.

Clara, if you are having a problem with the choc you could always send it to me! Does sound like good stuff though so there must be some health benefits in there somewhere!

yes, skid, my DH is gagging for it: we maybe DTD once a week, but if it goes to 2 weeks he really gets frustrated. I am a little concerned after going to see the SATC movie and i do make the effort, but normally i would prefer a cup of tea or some sleep tbh: although i do enjoy it. I also find it a bit sore still which is another reason for me not to be keen.

Caz- ever thought about using plastic bibs? I use them and rinse them off after each meal- no staining

Bibs - my friend with the 10mo uses the Tommee Tippee rubber ones, they roll up neatly so handy when out and about.
Went out for lunch with my mum and my above mentioned friend, offered him some of my peas, he wasn't bothered, but happily gummed away on a piece of cucumber!