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Flamesparrow · 21/04/2008 20:24

There

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Phoenix · 28/06/2008 19:09

Flame - Email me your address and i'll send it

Jas · 28/06/2008 20:14

Low attendance at the jumble sale, which meant Brownies made money,but not as much as they hoped, but I got to take whatever I wanted for free

Clothes for me, ds, both dds, loads of cakes and biscuits, board games, nice books for ds.

DD1 got a great black hoodie with the grim reaper on it.....if it had been a bit bigger I'd have had it, but it looks great on her.

DD2 kept bringing me high heeled shoes and clothes in 3-4 yrs that she wanted

Well done on the run mrm

CantSleepWontSleep · 29/06/2008 07:07

Hello ladies. Have struggled to find time to catch up since getting back, but been awake (just me) since 5:50, so figured I may as well make use of the time now.

Can I start with a rant about builders please?
Firstly the one that was doing our utility room now refuses to come back and finish off his shoddy job, despite the fact that when it rains one of the internal walls gets wet, because there's something wrong with his roofing (flashing?). Wish we hadn't paid him. In fact I wish we'd never asked him to do it in the first place, and waited for the building works this summer.
Secondly, the building works this summer. We are supposed to have a 'pre-contract meeting' on Monday, and sign all the papers, and the builder is then lined up to start work later this week. We finally got the actual quotes through yesterday, and the cost has doubled from their initial estimate, despite us not changing anything except making the conservatory an aluminium frame, which they said at the time would add about £5k. We are . It means we can't/won't afford to do all the work (don't want mortgage levels back up to where they were 5 or 6 years ago, with me no longer working), and we just don't understand why the costs have soared, especially given that the conservatory has actual shrunk in size!
So, for those in the know about our house, we can either not do the loft conversion (meant to be new decent sized bedroom for dd - if we don't do it then v little room for guests to stay, and we do have lots of guests), which will save us around £60k.
Or we can not build the conservatory, but still demolish the rose arbour/raised flower bed and put the cafe style doors on the back of the living room with a nice patio behind it, which will prob save about £40k. This would mean no dedicated play room / cross trainer room / extra sitting area. Dh says we'd put the cross trainer in the 'library' upstairs, and have to move the bed from there to be either dd's new bed (handy that there's the spare underneath for when she has friends to stay, but not as handy as the cabin bed with lots of storage under that I was hoping to get) or the seating in the existing conservatory (is day bed style, so not a prob in that respect). We'd then make the existing conservatory more of a sitting/play area, so we wouldn't be able to eat in there (currently do for almost every meal) and would have to use the dining room for all meals (with no tv for dd ). We would poss then redecorate the dining room in lighter colours (but leaving floor and huge table, except the addition of a big plastic cloth to protect poshish table).
Or the third option, which we think would prob save only around £20k (thus making the whole project still way more than we'd anticipated) is to not change the existing conservatory, which is meant to be getting a more modern frame, a solid roof, a gable end, gaining about a foot (to level it up with living/utility rooms) and cafe style doors. If we don't do this then maintaining the existing conservatory will cost more going forwards (but not masses more) and we will really need to buy new conservatory blinds, which could set us back a few grand in themselves.
So, if you've managed to read all that, what would you do?
The driveway/patio resurfacing and fencing round the front are non-negotiable, as they really need doing.
We think we know which way we are inclined to go at the moment, but have changed our minds several times over the last day!

Right, on to other things. Would someone like to tell me why dd screamed for 2 hours in the night, after going to bed absolutely knackered at 7:15 and then waking nearly 3 hours later? Poor dh - if he went to see her or tried to comfort her whilst she was in with us, she would hit him, scream that she didn't want him and tell him to go away, and yet they'd got on so well on holiday . We finally opted for nurofen, an extra feed (she was asking for this, but this alone only settled her for a few mins), and lots of cuddles and calm talking. I'm guessing teeth, but only because I can't think of anything else!

How is cystitis now mrm? I do hope it's getting better.

Ysy for bargains at jumble sale and results from school fayre.

And yay for scan, but for not being as pregnant as you thought EPPM. Hope you're having a lovely holiday and that you 'catch up' at repeat scan.

Jas · 29/06/2008 07:45

Option two. Wll post properly later.

Flamesparrow · 29/06/2008 08:47

Brain melting!!! I have no idea

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Frizbe · 29/06/2008 10:41

OK CSWS this may beat you for mamouth post, purely on reply!

Cripes CSWS what a dilema.....I know costs have gone up a bit, but not that much, know loads of out of work builders at the mo! (sends some down to Herts for some work) I think I would get some more people round for quotes again, as it sounds to me, like the builders may just be not wanting to do the job.......Can I ask, just to possibly lob a spanner in the works, why don't you guys extend sideways? you have a whole driveway you could remove there at the side with another two rooms up, two down? I appreciate this could cost mind, but just wondered if you'd considered this? do you need access to tanks etc in back garden?

So anyway 1st I'd get more quotes again from other builders, its the customers market at the mo, imo. 2nd though, I'd go with Jas, and go for cheaper 2nd option for now. Loft/roof rooms can always be done later and people staying can always sleep on your numerous random floor spaces! (PS I do love your dining room table)

Yay for good run time MRM, so how much do you weigh anyway now???? So you off to get a job then? well done for 7 hrs in heels I think I can only do that drunk now!

for bargins Jas

To make you laugh dh's bro turned up at shop yest, 1st time we've seen him in ages. He's lost 3 stone looks ill on it, but he thinks he looks great personally I think he needs a stone back on, he then tells me sil (not with him at time) has lost 1.5 stn, which must put her at 9stn or 8.5 which is as she looked great before, and was a size 10/12 max, so now pondering if she looks ill, even though he says she looks great apparently they're the same size now as when they met, over 12 years ago......hello your lots older! and more grown up, sigh. I'm not saying I'm jealous or owt, I just think huge weight obsession in someone whose heading for 40 is not very good particularly when he's pressing it on his wife.

Can you belive this as well, took kids to mums last night, drive all way home (abt an hour each way)as she's having both girls overnight. This is to be 1st night in a year, that dh and I get a whole night to ourselves..... get to pub, order a drink, which never even gets to table, as mum rings, dd2 thrown up, please go get her So Apologise to the 12 people we've invited out, and promptly have to leave the pub, drive another hour each way to get 2 fast asleep dd's who sleep until 6am today and are both fine now
Spent last night being soooo pissed off, in a selfish mummy way.

Frizbe · 29/06/2008 11:46

Ya know I feel like a right hormonal wreck this morning.....I have random zits, tired, and the reading those lovely posts on the fostering thread (the one you posted on Flame) has nearly had me in tears....I hope I'm not pregnant.
Dh gets to test again on monday.....fingers x'd its worked this time.

Jas · 29/06/2008 12:56

Probably because you're still cross about las night, Fri..be. I know I would be.

Isn't option2 doing the loft and old conservatory but not building new one? (Original job being all three, option one being all downstairs and nothing up,)

I'd get pstairs done now, as in the long term the dc will want their own space more, and won't need a downstairs playroom. Assuming you plan to stay that long?

CantSleepWontSleep · 29/06/2008 13:57

Yes that is option 2 Jas, so not sure what Friz thinks option 2 is! That is the option that we are swaying towards . We have no plans of (ever) moving at the moment - we bought to last! Besides which, I'd rather spend money on an extension than give it to the taxman in stamp duty if we moved.

Friz - absolutely not a hope of getting planning to build on the side of the house, as it would mean that we would join up to next door, making both us and them a terrace instead of a semi!

The builder def wants the work, and 2 gave quotes already. The Home Extension Team, who are running the whole job for us (they did drawings, applied for planning, organise and manage builders etc, so we just have one company to deal with) have about 12 sets of builders that they regularly use, and they try to match up the builders to the jobs. We have one who loves loft conversions for the loft, and one who specialises in conservatories for the conservatory!

for your night out Friz, but for the girls being fine today.

We've been out and bought a new slow cooker this morning, as dh broke mine bringing it back into the house after holiday. Got one that Which? recommends with a tenner knocked off because of some supposed scratches on the outside. You have to look bloody hard to find them!

Off swimming this afternoon, as dd expects a pool all the time after holidays!

Frizbe · 29/06/2008 14:48

got that totally wrapped around my neck then didn't I agree with Jas in that case. Shame you can't go sideways a bit and leave a little gap so your not a terrace!

for dd and the pool, I think our garden is turning into a pool at the mo, tis chucking it down.

mustrunmore · 29/06/2008 18:38

I'vr tried to have an poinion twice, but its just not sinking in

Flamesparrow · 29/06/2008 19:42

thank f*ck for that - thought it was just me

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Jas · 29/06/2008 20:15

Useless pair! Not a poinion between you.

Flamesparrow · 29/06/2008 20:23
Grin
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CantSleepWontSleep · 29/06/2008 20:53
Grin
Frizbe · 29/06/2008 21:20
Grin
Frizbe · 29/06/2008 21:20

Right come on MRM I need your weight! stop avoiding the issue.

Jas · 30/06/2008 07:41

She's hiding again.
I saw her last week, and she has lost weight. Even I can see it and it is not something I notice.

Flamesparrow · 30/06/2008 08:53

I have been sending her messages on facebook, but no replies Have I upset her do you know? Twas not intentional if I did!!!!

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mustrunmore · 30/06/2008 09:07

Lol, you know I take no notice of facebbok. The only person I reply to is ds1's teacher!

Friz, I'll tell you on Friday, I swear.am weighnig again then.

Me and dh ran toghert yest, did I say? It was lovely. Just like old times.

Flamesparrow · 30/06/2008 09:10

I want to know what an x pole is though!!!!!

Runnign together sounds nice DH came with me to a party yesterday, it was nice to be all familyish for a change

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mustrunmore · 30/06/2008 09:16

Dance pole.

I've got some pics on facebbok that apprentky have some privacy setting (I did nt put them on there). How do i unprivacy them?

Flamesparrow · 30/06/2008 09:17

I have no idea. Possibly in the "privacy" bit top right?

Where you gonna put the pole??

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mustrunmore · 30/06/2008 09:18

Tell you what though Friz, at last weigh in I'd lost a totoal of 1 stone 12 since a while after having ds2. I think 1 1/2 of that is since last october.

mustrunmore · 30/06/2008 09:19

Bedroom. My side. Shoving the bed over so dh has even less space Neighbours Dad has to build be a thing on the jost though, as out ceiling is sloped remember. And I need to but an extension for it as its about 11ft tall there.