April 2007 - Plans? Didn't they get thrown out with the birth waters?

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my own personal take on the plans talk

it's snowing here too Dippy

would she wake up if you poked her?

Well in the end DH went in there at 11.50 and she was still snoring away merrily (and VERY stinky!) so I finally went in and woke her up about 10 mins ago so we can go out for lunch - goodness me!!

"See" you all later!

Is the snow settling for other people? Snowed here but never stays on the ground in this part of London.

I think I'm a bit bored with everything at the moment. Not doing enough, too much time to think!

Taking D out to meet my dad in less than an hour, need to go and get ready.

Hello! Happy Easter everyone! Hope you are all having good days

Dh has gone over to see his mum and taken the children. I am here in the peace and quiet, sorting out the roast dinner (yum!), and very pleased that I have avoided the MIL!!! She is once again driving me insane with her continuous whinging about how hard her life is, and how ill she is all the time. She is not unduly ill, but manages to make a cold last a month All she does is sit in her house all day and do f**k all. Sorry, that probably sounds awful but needed to RAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!!!!

Pesha, I really hope that you are ok. Sorry to hear about you and J, although you have given him chances before so maybe for the best? Good for you in having the strength to make the break too. Lots of love xxxx

SOL, glad you sorted out things with dh. I know exactly how you feel

Caz, hope the appeal is coming together nicely

Ok, no more memory so off to finish sorting out the dinner. See you all later xxxx

Hello All

Happy Easter!

Have tried to catch up but am failing as usual.

Pesha - Really sorry. Hope you're ok. Thinking of you.

Oooggs - Love those twin dolls, so cute!!

Where is Ellie? Don't remember reading any posts from here in my catch up?!

No news here. It's our 6th anniversary today, but we're not doing anything because we've got DSDs Still we all went out for a lovely carvery today, which was yummy.

I'm a bit pissed off. After lunch we came home and I put Izzy to bed. DH sat down and started watching sport. By the time I'd finished sorting out washing/general tidying etc Izzy was awake. I feel like I don't have any me time, just doing things for everyone else all the time. DH is still watching sport

Hope everyone having good easter weekends!

Oh yes and belated happy birthday to NL, hope you had a good day!

Oh well I know those feelings Ange - much sympathy from this corner!! .... Sympathy too for MJ and outlaw situ - DH's parents have made me VERY [angrey] and VERY today.

Need to go downstaris because DH can't cope with DC's on his own .......

F*!%£'s sake ......

Since when did angry have an E in it tis what I meant ....

Hi everyone
Happy anniversary Ange
I've been feeling the same a lot recently, although DH is decorating 25 hours a day so I can't complain at him. I just want some time off duty!
Been to my Aunt and Uncle's for lunch which was lovely. T was a little angel.

Hi everyone and happy anniversary Ange.

SPB, glad you had a nice lunch at your aunt and uncle's, and that T was obviously being in just the sort of mood that you want him to be in so you can show off your gorgeous son!

Good to see you posting mj, and glad you got a bit of peace and quiet today, hope you didn't spend it all on housework.

CD, I know your MIL can be outrageous, what happened today?

As it wasn't park weather and I wanted to take D somewhere with some space, we went to a soft play centre again today. Unfortunately the "under 5s" area was overrun a lot of the time by a whole group of kids aged about 7 upwards who wanted to throw things at each other. The upper levels with climbing frames and slides looked like lots of fun, but no, they had to terrorise us. I couldn't even work out who the adults with them were - I wondered if their mums/dads had sneaked out leaving them to it for half an hour.

sympathies re. MILs mammyjo and CD, Ange Happy Anniversary! Hi SPB! Hi Elkie! Hope you are feeling a bit better this evening. and hello everyone else too of course

We've had a nice day, long lunch at SILs house with all dh's famdam. Then when we got home I popped on and saw your comment Ange about not having time to yourself and spending your free time doing house things. So after that, and my comment to Eddas yesterday that I'd love to watch a dvd, I promptly told dh I've realised what I need to do for me. He goes to rehearse with his band once a week for about 3 hours so once a week I will shut myself in my bedroom and watch a dvd/read/ whatever but be ALONE! And I did, while dh played with N, did dinner and bathtime etc. It was fabulous and I'm going to make myself stick to it.

Ok, it's not very exciting but there's little money around to take up a new hobby right now, and it's hard to meet up with my friends as they all have rather glittering social lives but it's a good alternative. It felt so luxurious! The things that make you happy in a post-baby life, hey?

Happy Easter everyone So sorry to hear about everyone's not so good days. I've been doing the lunch etc for my in-laws as well. But - I'm very, very fortunate and my in-laws are wonderful. Babysat for us last night whilst dh and I went out - we had a fantastic meal at a pub in the country - saw a Tawny owl on our way there. FIL is currently reading to dd2 and mil is cleaning up tea, emptying dishwasher etc Does anybody want me to loan them out?

Dippy - sorry you've had a rough day. I'm amazed and at P's sleeping!
Maveta - me time sounds great - you stick to it!
Ange - Grrh at your dh and his incessant sport watching but Happy Anniversary nevertheless!
SPB - glad you had a nice day
Elkie - what a shame about the soft play
Mammyjo - hope you enjoyed your lunch - we had Roast Lamb here.
Pesha - hope you are ok.

Hello to everyone else

Excellent - mil now bathing B!

mammyjo - good for you

ange - happy anniversary

maveta - wow 3 hours on your own

dippy - what have pils done now?

Hi Oooggs - did dh swim back from his run?

lol NL at loaning out your inlaws

Oooggs - well it wasn't 3 hours, that is the gold standard I aspire to but this time it was the length of the dvd i.e. 1hr40mins but it was good all the same and i decided on this plan too late in the day to demand 3 hours (I needed to feed N before bed)

no he didn't quite swim back - but did look like a drowned rat on his return

maveta - I am impressed >>>>

we went to my parents for tea and it was lovely - especially not having to clear up had to rush off as ds1 a bit unwell

hope he's better soon. My dd1 is a bit off colour too - very, very tired.

Hi All,
Just a very quick line to say that I do rather mind that I am not on the edited list, and I am sure others who can post only rarely (but perhaps lurk more often) will as well. As I can never read every post, I'm not clear why the edit was being done, I should add, and there was probably a good reason but it still makes me a bit I was going to suggest a group email to ask everyone to post a 1st birthday catch up, but I now feel that wouldn't be particularly welcome. I'm not having a pop here, I do understand that some of us (me!) are not a regular part of what goes on here and the deep friendships involved, but isn't it rather a shame to exclude any of us who began this journey together?

Anyway, I hope everyone is well, and the babes, and I am sure I will still pop up from time to time with one of my guest appearances
Love,
Bugmum x

Good plan Maveta, hope you enjoy your "me time" - what DVD was it?

Evening all

I can totally sympathise with dh/dp issues. My throat is still sore, but it took a rant from me to make dh realise that me being poorly, means nothing in the house gets done, and won't get done til I'm better. So and that it takes a rant for things to sink in. I said exactly the same things, but my voice was a lot louder. Fgs, are men really that deaf?
Things have been made 10 times worse because W is really poorly too - teething big time, and think he must have sore throat too. So very little sleep going on.

But we did have a lovely afternoon. Went for a lovely walk around Cardiff Bay, and me a J pretended we were in Torchwood

Pesha Such a tough time, but you are strong woman. Thinking of you and your lo's x
CD & MJ Dh never totally got why mil used to wind me up - until he started taking the boys to visit on his own. (I use it as me time) Whatever dh tells J that he can/can't do, she will say it doesn't matter, and does the complete opposite Has really stressed dh out several times. J nearly had an accident at pil, all because she started fussing when he said wee, and wanted dh to take him etc...Think its a catch22 because she is so in their face when they visit (which neither dh or boys like) that they don't want to be around her, so she wants to be with them even more. Iyswim.

Good grief, I don't half ramble on

Bugmum, I'd like to hear from you - and I'm not one of those who was really involved early on, I did read and I think posted once or twice in the autumn but then didn't actively post much of anything for a few months, until I started my maternity leave at Easter last year.

By the way, has anyone heard from Ellie lately?

bugmum - please dont feel like that. I too am struggling to keep up with posting but do read the thread. i only post generally to say Hi and stay in teh loop but i know it is hard for others to do the same. i agree that some of us started this journey together and others joined the roller-coaster at different stages. We are all part of the group - regular posters or not!

Bugmum I'm sure there was no offence intended, the list got incredibly long and there were people who popped on, introduced themselves and we never heard from them again - I personally didn't realise people would lurk without posting, I kind of assume if people aren't around then they aren't MNing at all. A first birthday catch up sounds like a great idea!

oh yep - love the idea of a 1st birthday catch up. it woudl be good to hear more of how we all are, what is our memories of the past year, what are our noted moments from this thread and maybe what our plans / hopes are for the coming year??

what a great idea! instead of email could we start a catch up thread and link to it to try and get everyone to post their own catch up?

Bugmum, it really wasn't meant to offend at all, I'm not on anything like as often as I used to be but everyone is always happy to 'see' familiar faces

And if there are any lurkers out there we haven't 'seen' in a while, would be great to hear your catch ups too!

Evening.

Maveta - Good on you for getting a bit of 'me' time. I might have to try that one!

Dippy - Hope you're ok. What have PIL done?

Elkie - Arse about soft play. It's really annoying when the baby section is overrun!

NL - of PIL. Glad you've had a good day.

Oooggs - Hope DS1 ok.

Runny - Hope you're feeling better soon. Why do we have to rant before men 'get it' Glad you had a good time playing torchwood

Bugmum - Please don't feel like that. There was no offence intended. You and any other lurkers are all part of the group and will always be welcome. I think a first birthday catch up sounds like a great idea.