June 2007 - whoever said 9 months on 9 months off needs a slap!

[BumperliciousIsStillNotDressed]

Well?

DH has disappeared! He said it wouldn't take him long to do the buffet. My kitchen looks like a bomb has hit it and everywhere needs vaccuming, not to mention the cooking.

and how do I deal with the pressing jobs - MNET!

I have bunged all the DCs crap off the floor in big bags and will hide it in the bedrooms I hope he comes back soon.

I have printed out a quiz to keep DMs eyes off the dust though

Happy Birthday Ria! Enjoy your day!

I'm so sorry to hear about your Gran Annobal. Really hoping she makes a good recovery - she will, she has to meet DC3!

Yes, Annobal is lovely, isn't she?

But I am rather annoyed at her for buggering off to the otherside of the world just as we were getting on so well .

Annobal, text me and I will post on here for you . Libraries have computers too you know! The Bon Voyage and see you in a year or two.

So, we won't get to meet up again. . But I will be to say goodbye, I am glad to save myself the humiliation of weeping openly saying 'bye to a RL friend I made on MN

Ahh Foxy friends on here can be just as good (if not more so) than RL friends!

Yes Annobal sorry to hear about your gran. I hope she gets to see DC3

'Tis ok, he had gone to buy me flowers and a really nice bottle of wine with some tips he was given from last time he worked for the people he was with today. He's lovely and I'm SO lucky.

Just seen friend - 30 second visit to bring my card. No mention of pets. Oh well.

Almost ready for later, just upstairs to finish (the "public" bits[grin) and me to beautify (big job!) and then it's kick off. Just off to farm shop for eggs and hopefully chocolate cake.

So I must turn off the PC so I don't get distracted

I may be back later as a teary drunk! Thanks again for all the birthday wishes. I'll have a drink for you all

lol Ria, obviously your e-mail worked! She is maybe trying to "out-assert" you!

hey foxy, you've been quiet the last few days.

I gave DD a bottle this afternoon as I just couldn't face another painful feed

and I feel sick as a dog

Happy Birthday Ria . Have a lovely meal.

Daisy, hope the ms passes soon

Annobal, sorry to hear about your gran. Have a good trip and 'see' you soon

We are off to a wedding this weekend, with no DCs. DD will be absolutely fine, she's staying with my parents who she adores. I'm a bit fretty about DS though. He's staying with DH's Aunt, because my Mum can't lift him due to a hip operation so he can't stay with them. I have no worries whatsoever that DH's aunt won't look after him, he'll be worshipped and cuddled all weekend. She really adores him, he sees a lot of her so he knows her, and she'll do whatever he needs and more. He's stayed with her for a night before when he was 6 months'. He's going through a very clingy phase though. Please tell me that it's ok to leave him, he won't feel deserted, etc (even if you have to lie). I know that some of you never leave your DCs but Dh and I DESPERATELY need a couple of days off with each other and some friends. I can't help feeling stressed about it though.

Hi Annobal if you're still around. Hope your gran OK. Safe journey. Have yr details so hope to meet you in July - Mall's Balls, perhaps?

Fairy - DD hasn't hit this phase yet so no experience. But I doubt that he will be in any way 'damaged' by the experience of being left with a loving, responsible carer. Enjoy the wedding, relax & let your hair down, knowing the DC's are being well cared for.

thanks tallulah. i may have spoken too soon anyway. Have just had a call from DMum who's not well. She hopes to be better by friday evening when we need to go but, if not, then it looks like I'm staying home while dh goes on his own

oh fairy, that's a shame. Can't you take him with you? 9mo old babies don't really take up that much room and at least you could still get away.

Are you staying in the hotel where the wedding is being held. If so you could take it in turns to sit with him so still enjoy some of the party.

DS could still stay with Dh's aunt but if my Mum can't have dd then there doesn't seem much point in me going at all - I really don't think we can take her with us as it's a child-free wedding. I have put a question in the childminder's topic to see if I can find an evening babysitter just in case.

shitey shite. I've got an email from my boss saying that he's expecting me back at work on Tuesday 6th May and will let my line manager know so that they can programme work in accordingly (he stressed how unbelievably busy they have been and that they are desperate to have me back ). I feel sick and panicky just thinking about it

arse! can you go on mat leave straight away or do you have to go back?

I'd only be back three and a half months. I'm going to see the doc about getting signed off as I'm still struggling with PND (or I suppose it's AND now ). But I feel really guilty about doing that as I know they are really busy. If they programme some work around me and then I'm not there it'll just get dumped on someone else . DH thinks I'm being too kind as they shafted me before when I was signed off with stress......all the shite I was stressing about was still there, untouched, when I went back after three weeks off, only it was all overdue and so caused me even more stress. They are not the most helpful/supportive of employers, and it didn't get any better inspite of them saying they would give me more support/back up. Within a week I was flying by the seat of my pants again.
I would love to hand in my notice and walk away, but we could use the money (such that it is)

That sounds crappy. I can totally sympathise with you on unsympathetic bosses, etc. I was off with stress when pg with DD - Once I told them that i was pg i felt like i had more work dumped on me to 'get their money's worth' rather than any allowance being made. Definitely worth seeing the doc.

btw, don't feel guilty. It's not your fault that you have PND/AND and it's not your fault if they don't have enough staff.

Hey! Good evening

HAAAPPY BIRTHDAY RIA!
Hope you have had a lovely day and you are having a wonderful evening!

Have a safe journey, Annobal and I hope your Grandma is ok although you probably won't see this now before you go to sunny oz .

Oh that's crap Daisy! Were you planning on going back?

FF hope your mum gets better otherwise I'm sure your DS will be fine.

Hee hee DD bit DP and drew blood.

I wasn't really planning on going back so the getting signed off strategy was always there . It's just now that I have a date, it all seems a bit too real and I'm panicking.

The time is going by so fast. How did my little bundle of helplessness turn into a 9 month old, nearly-walking chubster?

Try not to panic, you have a plan and it sounds like a good one to me. You don't 'owe' them anything

Don't feel guilty about it! As FF said it's not your fault that they don't have enough staff or that you have an/pnd.
I can't believe how fast time is flying! They're gonna be 1 soon. Where has the time gone?
I was looking at pics of DD when she was a newborn the other day and I couldn't believe how much she has changed!

Evening all

izzy, you do realise that you need to put a newborn and now pic of DD on your profile don't you?

hi Sputnik

Evening all.

Fairy don't feel bad, the only reason we have never left DD over night (well apart from bfing, but that's not a huge issue) is that we have no-one to leave her with nearby!

How far away from DS will you be? He will be fine, he probably won't even notice you are gone Seriously though, I hope you enjoy yourself. There is no point in going if you are going to be worried the whole weekend.

Daisy sorry you have to go back to work. Think of the money though.

It really is passing quickly isn't it. I just realised the other day he was 9 months and I couldn't quite believe it.