Jan '07 part 23: Is it a bird? Is it a plane? No! It's 2happy's flying shed!

[2happy]

Watch out cows, here it comes!

Thanks for all kind words.

Of course you should carry on talking about everyday things, Wilkie, it's nice to take my mind of it anyway. And I can do MIL rants with the best of them! Like you, LTH, mine is dead now but boy did she give me a hard time. Dc's have no idea about this though.

Wilkie - I think you should be very clear with him about not calling his toys gay. He might not understand now but it's not nice for you. The time thing is hard though, I don't know how you could ask them to spend less time on pick-up/collection when they're doing you such a big favour but it is hard. It would drive me mad.

Thanks, Kat, I think that is probably the best thing too.

Also, EAH, that's really interesting what you say about your mum and aunties as it's not supposed to be genetic but my mum and sister have had similar troubles, not actual cancer but endless loop excisions and cone biopsy for abnormailty. Seems to much of a coincidence to me.

It is freezing ouotside. Is it meant to snow again?

Oh and Mrs C, SIL had a hysterectomy last year - no problems at all - she is only 36.

I agree re the 'gay' thing. I have specifically said to FIL that I couldn't care less which toys he wants to play with - the photo on the front of the box was a little boy playing with the hoover. He also adores pushing DTNs buggy around with the doll in it. They are too young for gender specific toys. He also prances around with my headband on his head, blusher brush in hand dragging my handbag behind him Have told DH he will make a great boyfriend when he is old enough cos he will know about 'girlie' things

Wilkie - I feel just the same way about my PILs. Although they are helpful they do my head in for many reasons and its different from my parents. Like you say, some distance between you will prob make it easier and even if it means they will both need to stay overnight or come for a long day visit, at least it won't be every week. Hope the packing is going well.

Loosh - shall we hold you to a pic of the knitted nativity? My mum is a keen knitter and has picked up and put down a pattern for nativity set cos she thought it looked complicated. HAts off to you if you do it!

Not in mood for working today. Just want to eat chocolate. British GAs have been to replace my thermostat. The excitement.

Wilkie aidan pushes laurens buggy around and he is nearly 4.

MrsC, just think of all the money you'll save on sanitary towels and tampons etc.

Whip it out and you'll be quids in

Fuck, MrsC, what a shitter. Please tell me that whoever broke the news wasn't the total arsehole who tutted at you whilst slicing into your ladybits. Like everyone else, if there's anything I can do. Like if you're in Edinburgh again and fancy a coffee, give me a shout, I'm up most weeks stopping with dsis.

LTH your bloke is a tit. Men just lack the common sense gene. a) if child is screaming, check nappy. b) if child is screaming, well guess what, we all still manage to cook supper y'know. 40 minutes and the house is in chaos? And I don't suppose that made him immediately realise how indispensible you are, how much he undervalues you, how big your contribution to the house is? He didn't rush out and buy you flowers?? He didn't apologise for being a tit???

god, that last post from me sounds soooooo wrong on the srceen, I posted it just as I was leaving to get the dsses and its been screaming in my head ever since. It was my feeble attempt to make a you smile MrsC, I hope it did and I hope it wasn't horribly flippant.

2H, he has said sorry but not to the extent I want him too. I told him I'm sick to death of being taking fro granted, and he said he doesn't take me for granted. Kind of stale mate really.
He's blissfully unaware of how crap he is and I'm just sick of it. it just goes around and around in circles.
I'm sick of all of it TBH, my life evolves around him and the boys which is lovely and I wouldn't want it any other way but to have them treat me like a scivvy and be so disrepectful(the boys) and uncaring(dh) makes me feel like I'm worthless.

All I want is for him to be thoughtful. Bring me home a bar of choc or something just to show me he thinks about me at other times other then when he;s hungry or wants a shag.

Lal - lovely pic

Wilkie - my Il's are not to bad apart form complete favourtism of sil kids (dh sister) they stay almost every weekend but its always an issue if we ask ( we asked in january about 12th april and it was all umm and aaah still not sure if they are or aren't having them plus the guinea pig issue and lots of other examples) on the whole they are okay and could be alot worse

LTH - my friend (dh best mates wife) phoned me today to say they are seperating (listing lots of reasons similar to yours) they have been trying to make it work for 2 years (she said it hasnt been right since she had her dd 4 years ago long and complicated story!) her dh doesnt want to split but she says she cannot continue to live her life the way it is. He is moving out in few weeks and they are seeing a councillor tonight to find out best way to explain to their dc (5.5 and just 4) they'll eventually sell their house (huge lovely house) and they'll both be able to get a 3 bed house in same area hers will be mtg free and his will have a small mtg all so and dh is gutted for best mate.

2happy - is the shed sorted now?

Vino - is baby still very active (maybe its the chocolate)

Urgh I've got a really sore throat this evening and feel a bit cotton wool head. Probably coming down with something just in time for the long weekend.

Hi UD. Glad to have you back an nice to read things a little better.
Same for you Susie. Hope you have a really lovely Easter together.

Lal - it was lovely to see your photos. Haven't looked at profiles for ages
2H pmsl seeing your photo of the nail varnish again.
Loosh always forget you live in Yorkshire. Do you ever come over to Leeds? And knitting a nativity scene??!!

MrsC how you doing today? Don't really want to dwell on things but am thinking of you.

Wilkie I love my pil. They are fab - help out when asked, see us regularly without being intrusive, and always agree with whatever we say (in our company anyway ). I think it is a grandparent thing to want to spoil the lo's and are frightened of saying no. Your fil sounds like an old school he is always right kindofguy, woman's place in the home etc. Am afraid you will never be able to change him, but you can lay down the law re J - why is a hoover 'gay'?? The distance will help when you move (how is the packing btw?? )

Kat when we got our new bathroom suite, am sure dh picked the most expensive taps in the world. Keep your dh away from the decision! When will you get your new bathroom fitted? At least your dh didn't want to try out the toilet

Eah how was the Easter fair? Did you raise much? And any cakes left...nom nom...
Were you good mates with your dh's friends wife? Will it make things awkward for you?

Vino glad to hear your thermostat is now working. I'm bl**dy freezing here today and am having to type fast to keep my haands warm. Showed the piccy of Pip & E around work today, and eveyone was cooing over both the girls (we were ignored btw!)

LTH will your dh be around this weekend to spend time with you all over Easter? I still can't believe he cannot acknowledge how fab you are. Still can't quite get my head around running a house with 4 kids

2H I'm up in Edinburgh weekend of 24/25 May if you're around. (Although I'll be up in your neck of the woods 3 weeks later so perhaps that would be too much for you!)

Hope I've said hello to everyone. Off to London again tomorrow for the day so won't get back til lo is asleep. She is getting a real pot belly on her at the mo, but prob because she has been eating two portions of lunch every day for the last week .

Catch you later.

Rgee - havent had total yet but loads of kids got impetigo (am now waiting for ellie to ctach it for the 2 week school holiday in april) so not a roaring sucess all ba 1 of Mums cakes went and I brought that one home!

Yes am good friends with 'the wife' she is one of Hatties godmothers, dh in shock and keeps asking me laods of questions I can't answer but he doesnt want to ask his best mate till he has told him (although he has just rung to see if dh home and he is at footie so assuming he may want to go out for a drink one night this week)

Hattie has gone all funny with food refuses to eat if you sit near her and wants a fork and spoon and to do it all herself - it takes so bloody long and if Ellie's plate is to near and she has eaten all her favourite bits (ie mash potato or chicken) then she whips stuff off Ellies plate

TMI alert here .... I have vile wind at the mo its making me feel ill (think I've had to many eggs or beans )

oh poo forgot to swend sympathies for throat rgee

eandh, did you make the docs appt?

Yes booked it for 8th April and now need to ring tomorrow to change it as forgot that Ellie is off for 2 weeks in April (late Easter hols they are off 7th to 20th April) and do not want her there so going to see if I can change it to next week or week after!

Reg - I am quite sure that, despite my quite obviously packed social schedule, I would probably be able to just about squeeze you in in May (sounds wrong...). I rarely have plans Although - did I tell you all we're going to Devon next month. I probably did, I can't remember and can't be bothered to search through the messages
eandh - better out than in . There was a thread on here today about someone doing uncontrollable fanny farts at work, reminded me of being pg and being unable to hold one in at work. To this day, no-one's mentioned it (to my face). Hope the cake was tasty! Sending impetigo-warding-off-vibes. Must try giving ds2 cutlery. He just finger feeds, very messy. We've ordered a new shed, just waiting on it coming. Shit, reminds me I must do the insurance paperwork (no point thinking dh'll do it!)
Wilkie - sympathies on the fil. Was he implying a boy doing hoovering was gay () or that you have a gay hoover (imagining Wilkie's hoover being very pink and sparkly)? How's the packing?
UD - good to see you back, sorry things so difficult with dh, when you say things might look up soon - is there a reason or are you just hoping?
susie - I'm glad he's making an effort, I hope he keeps it up, and pays you the attention you deserve x
PCF - how did yesterday go?

dh is out again tonight. I swear they must have a meeting a week at his work. I also swear it's a good excuse for beers every week . So here's hoping there's some action on MN tonight

Loosh - did dh's consultant say anything else apart from starting the antivirals? What about your mil and whatnot? And what are they going to do about the UC? Hugs to the poorly boyx

LTH - please don't worry, you won't say anything to offend me, I understand though, it's hard to know what to say and you think it might be inappropriate. It wasn't. I laughed.

Phew!!

I'm allergic to public shows of affection so I'll just ruffle your hair in an annoying fashion if thats ok

Morning all,

Wilkie - I know what you mean about sometimes feeling like your space is invaded, I think that now I feel so much better mil does feel a little suffocating but they have been so kind to us I find it hard to get cross really.

2H - when is the shed landing? make sure you secure it to the ground properly!! Dh is on vangancilovir we are hopeful it may actually help the UC - the consultant has been on a recent conference so I think she has got a little over excited. Hopefully he won't become neutropenic otherwise easter in isolation.

LTH - tell us more about the mil from hell we need details!!

laughalot - cute pictures - we have a bouncing tigger which is the most annoying thing ever - come on lets bounce, bouncy, bouncy, bouncy, bounce...... aaargh

KwK - ooh new bathrooms lovely we are hoping to get a new kitchen soon very very excited.

Vino - if I do manage to knit this thing I will post pictures but no laughing. We are waiting in for British Gas again - this will be the 9th visit and I kid not over £3000 in parts!!!! Why they will not replace the sodding boiler I do not know.

eandh well done on the easter fair how you pack it all in I don't know.

Rgee - mammouth post good to get your news have fun in London

Mrs C hope you are OK

Right ds safely in nursery need to clean clean clean (eandh you wounld be proud)

cooo-ee!
quick post pop in.
Hope you are all having a nice day.
I dont see parents or PIL very often at all, so don't feel suffocated. I think its a real shame that Dj will grow up not really knowing them as they both live so far away.

DP is taking him to Wales this weekend from Friday-Monday !!!! for a family weekend, and I am getting the weekend to myself! Can't wait to sleep and sleep and sleep!

Right, off to wear out LO a bit more, nursery seems to have put him in a hyper mood today.

zzzzzzzzzz so very tiered! x

ps - EAH 25% off sale at argos on branded toys. (if you didnt know all ready!)

I did know that but only because I was looking for a birthday pressie the other day.

Do you not fancy going to Wales with them Lizz?

Ellie had a good morning at school, Hattie & I popped to town (bought a new toilet seat/cleaning stuff thats on offer (was v.excited baout that ) picked eddas dd up from school and dropped her to her SIL as eddas car in for MOT, got home baked some baguettes for lunch and fitted the new toilet seat (shame about the extra little hands that were helping me)

My Mum popped down to drop a few bits in for girls for easter (they are going away)and pick up some up to date pics to show the friends they are going to visit.

Am now debating between doing the ironing or going on Next website and ordering some sandal for me, ellie and hattie for summer

Go on next and spend

ds1 has decided he is a vet. This involves having got one of CM's OH's shirts which is white(ish - he's a plumber), and refusing to take it off. Which means we've had to take it home with us too. I'm not entirely sure what CM's OH thinks of this - ds1 was wittering about "Daddy's going to bring his stoffoskoke home for me to play with" which CM and I understand, but I'm not sure her OH quite got it

(it's stethoscope, BTW, in case you're unsure!!)

loosh, how about her hitting me while I was holding a 5 wk old ds1 because I'd had to call the police to get her out of our flat.

I could make your hair stand on end with some of the stuff she said/did/called me and my family.

Really, she was horrible. She despised me because I just wasn't good enough for her baby. She thought i was a gold digger who only stayed with Dh to get a few quid.

13 yrs and 4 kids later is a little excessive if I am one.

Knowing that this hosue was bought with inheritance that DH got is part of the reason I'll never be truelly happy here.

She messed my head right up I can tell you....but at least I know that I'll never be a shite MIL. I'd never put someone through what she did to me.

That was happy and jolly post wasn't it?

Nothing much to report here, I think G is teething, its either that or he has tonsilitus again because he's awake most nights and tetchy all day for the last few days which is what he was like whe he had it before.
Grrreat!!