June 2007 - cheesecake, chocolate cake, newspaper, dog biscuits ... What DON'T they eat?

[milkyJammy]

Couldn't resist, hope this is OK with y'all?

I'd love to come "down south" and meet up with you all. DD and I can escape for the weekend and leave the boys to dig holes in the garden. Let me know the where and when and I'll do my utmost to be there

Quick question. I stopped BF about three weeks ago, fairly uneventful, a bit sore. Would it be usual for me to have a leakage episode today? Have just been laid down on my side on DS2s bed getting him to sleep and my tshirt and the inside of my fleecy jumper were all cold and damp and clammy (TMI), but not the outside of my jumper, and also it was circular which makes me think it wasn't a bathtime splash. I do have a small red patch but I don't know if that's where I had a tissue stuffed in my bra. It hurts a bit too, but that could be because I keep poking it to see if it hurts.

Tis official, I am bonkers.

Ria I found this on kellymom, so it would seem that it's not unusual. Maybe lying on your side/boob caused your boob to leak. I would keep an eye on that red patch though, and if it feels hard or hot at all, then it's probably a blocked duct.....apply hot flannel (as hot as you can stand), massage towards the nipple from the blockage, then cold flannel to calm it down afterwards.

Ria, afaik the leakage is totally normal once you give up bf. Keep a close eye on the red patch - does it feel hard underneath? You could manually express to get rid of the excess and if it is a blockage would unclog it.

thanks for that guys. normal then .

still might magically lose a stone then

lol Ria; I was hoping that the weight would fall off me too after stopping BFing DD.....not likely now, eh?

Evening all, I would love a meet up!

BTW, DKMA, if you are lurking, I know you forwarded that email, bless your heart but check this out. Any email where they promise to pay per email forward for whatever reason is a load of bollox as they have no way of knowing how many times an email is forwarded.

Things aren't great here. This job shit is really putting a strain on us and DH and I are barely talking. I was trying to cook a curry, make something for DD, fit in a feed before getting her off to bed so we could eat and she had done eating and I went in and DD was sat on the sofa next to him while he was trying to apply for a job, knowing full well it's her bedtime and once she is done eating she gets ready for bed.

He's got all fucking evening to do the application for while I am busting a gut in the kitchen cooking and washing up because he hasn't done it again. When I whinged he said "we'll we didn't really eat properly last night" (we had toasties) and obviously I fucking made them on fairy dust, and we had takeawy on sunday, but obviously used our hands and ate on thin air. Last time we had this argument he pointed out that I am home all day and make most of the washing up - obviously he never uses a thing to make his lunch, have breakfast etc. and I barely get time to do it with DD and between cleaning the farking high chair 3 times a day. I might have to go on hunger strike and decide not to feed DD either so I won't generate any washing up for me to do.

I'm really sorry, I am just sooooo angry over this job thing right now. And it's win win for him he'll either get his PT hours or leave, and I will be the one who has to fucking go back to work full time, leaving my baby, and god knows how I'll keep up the bfing

'spose not daisy. I have no such good excuse.

I'm off early tonight, Hotel Babylon (a poor substitute for my new favourite The Hotel Inspector on ch5) and have to scour my cross-stitch patterns for a birthday card I can make for my sister by Friday, the idea being sewing will limit the amount of food I can get into my mouth in the evening because my hands will be busy

G'night for now, might pop back before bed...

Evening all.

Big hugs to Bumper. Sorry the stress is taking its toll on you guys. Try to chill a little (easier said than done, I know!) because the last thing you need is to be at loggerheads

I'd also love a meet up!!

bumper

I am going to be really stupid now and look at all the brilliant jobs on caterer that DH could have had if I was less pathetic and could cope living away from my parents...

Bumper. Did you check out Norty's link?

{{{{{{{{bumper}}}}}}}}.

I don't know what else to say lovely lady, except that if the worst comes to the worse and you have to go back full time, your supply should be established to the point that you can probably BF first and ;last thing, and DD will mamage without you all day on water or some ebm. You may have to express for a bit midday to make things more comfortable, but your body will soon adjust to what she needs. Not much consolation I know, but try not to worry about it too much, or fight about it.

lol at my typo.....mamage

I know I am only working part time Bumper, but I am expressing twice a day at work so that I can send some EBM into nursery with the jamlet. I don't manage to express enough to send in all EBM for her, but I reckon some EBM is better than none and by expressing I keep supply going so I can feed her on days that I am with her. As far as I know employers do not HAVE to give a BF mother time to express at work, but they are strongly encouraged by the HSE. And if you are expressing they have to give you somewhere suitable to do it, and a toilet is NOT deemed to be acceptable. Try looking at this for more info. (Btw I always take some paperwork with me to read when I'm expressing so I don't get accused of slacking, so you could volunteer to do that if they're "funny" about it?)

Basically they can say "it will affect the business" and don't really have to elaborate. However it works out the biggest problem is they have left it sooo late. Urrrrggghhhhhhh!

Anyway, I will stop going on about it. Think I am going to go and have a bath.

{{{Hugs}}} for you Bumper.
you have really been going through the mill lately.

are you going to accept that Bumper?

Oh you know me, I'm always ready to go into battle with the bad guys!!!

Well, whether we do or not it doesn't really help us in the short term, as appealing could take god knows how long and I need to know this week so I can tell my work what I am planning to do and hope they are ok with me messing them around.

Thanks for the support guys, sorry to vent.

bumper I thought they had to have a strong business case why PT wouldn't work. As it's retail he's in, and there must be thousands of part time employees, I would imagine they would find it very difficult to justify saying no. I also thought they had to write telling you why it would affect the business.

jammy regards expressing; your employer is legally bound to provide a safe and hygeinic area for you to express in and somewhere to store it. So, they can't expect you to do it in the toilets, and they must provide you with suitable storage facilities. info here.

So, grumpy old bald ken in the corner might have ishoos with it being in the fridge next to his left over shepherd's pie, but tough

and bumper, if DH does end up not working, you would be perfectly within your rights (professional and marital ) to get him to bring babybumper to you for a BF. that way you would get some more time with her over your lunch hour

I would be 99.99% certain that there are women with young children working in that company on a p/t basis.

And if not, it would be a scandle. They should be at the forefront of family friendly policies. Or they are breaking the law.

Grrrrrrrrrrr!

Don't you feel sorry for my kids? Woebetide anyone who does them an injustice!

at grumpy old Ken

I keep my milk in the vaccine fridge in our medical room, which is where I express, for most of the day. Then after I've expressed for the last time I transfer it to our kitchen fridge for the last bit of the afternoon. So far nobody has asked what it is or anything.

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