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April 2007 - round pizzas and egg shaped bumps

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PillockOfTheCommunity · 18/02/2008 18:53

(no idea what it refers to by the way, I have been very bad at keeping up with chat )

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weeonion · 24/02/2008 20:25

wow ooggs - you have a walker!
C is only managing bum bouncing and shows no interest in crawling as yet. teh downstairs neighbours must love us with this 22lber bouncing over their ceiling!

Pesha · 24/02/2008 20:32

Hello!!

Started to catch up but to tired to concentrate! (thats me yawning btw!)

Had a great weekend but totally exhausting. 2 hours sleep friday night and maybe 4 or 5 last night Was going to stay up for lost but might have to record it and head to bed at 9! Cant decide if its good that the older 2 are back at school tomorrow so I can get a little peace in the day or if its bad because it means I have to get up at 7!! Not that theres anything I can do about it

Oh I met the sparkless man friend and thought he was very nice!!

Ellie - did I leave Dylan's tommee tippee cup there or should I search the car for it?!

Pesha · 24/02/2008 20:33

'too tired

AngeG · 24/02/2008 20:37

Hello

Have skimmed to catch up.

Hooray to J taking his first few steps Oooggs Now the fun starts Don't think Izzy will be long, she is standing pretty well now!

Ellie - Hope you and Pesha have had a good time very I couldn't be there too.

A big hellloooooooo to everyone else I can't remember anything...sorry.

It's been pretty hectic here. Half term week not helping, but also my brother was back from Greece for the week so have been spending time with him and the family.
Izzy hasn't been very well, not really sure what was wrong with her, but has had a pretty high temperature and is very snotty and cuddly which is very unlike her.

In more exciting news, we have just bought a softtub for the garden DH has just had a really good month at work so decided to reward himself (and give me an early birthday present) with a bonus and buy something he has wanted for ages.

Will try and be around more. xx

AngeG · 24/02/2008 20:38

x posts Pesha, hope you left it behind then it can replace the one Ellie left here

oooggs · 24/02/2008 20:42

good to see you ange can't stop huge family issues here - bloody families - bloody brother - bloody wedding

AngeG · 24/02/2008 20:47

Thanks Oooggs Sounds serious, hope you sort it out.

Pesha · 24/02/2008 20:54

Lol Ange - so who is gonna come and stay at my house to leave their cup here?! Anyone...?

DD keeps telling me she wants ahottub!! In fact our conversation in tescos today in front of the check out guy went like this -

DD: Mummy, you know Jamie?

Me: Er yes I think so darling

DD: Not daddy jamie, the one on the telly who cooks

Me: Jamie Oliver?

DD: yes, we were watching him on telly this morning and he made champagne and strawberries just like the champagne and strawberry ice cream we made in the summer I like champagne and strawberries mummy can we have that more often mummy? Mummy I want a hot tub for my birthday so I can sit in my hot tub in the garden with my champagne and strawberries will you get me a hot tub mummy that would be sooo cool

Me and check out guy:

Me: Why do you want a hot tub?

DD: Phoebe has a hot tub.

ME: Ahhh I see!!

[phoebe = spoilt child in dd's class with rich parents!!!]

DD after thoughtful pause: Mummy, what is a hot tub?!

AngeG · 24/02/2008 21:03

lol Pesha. She's going to have to find a rich man to keep her!!

We're not rich by the way!

Pesha · 24/02/2008 21:15

Damn Ange No point trying to match her up with Jake then?!

Was just coming back to add a disclaimer that in no way was I suggesting that all rich children are spoilt/all people with hot tubs are rich/all children with hot tubs are spoilt etc (well if it was their own hot tub they might be but I'm assuming this is actually her parent's!) just that I'm always hearing stories of all the things she has! Although she is lovely and so are her parents!

oooggs · 24/02/2008 21:19

love her pesha

not sure how the issues are going to get resolved ange I am upset about an email my bro sent this evening. He is getting married abroad and we are not going - this is not an issue, have a young family and can't afford it, but they are having a reception in next town.

they invite us so I reply, oooggs, dh, J E & J would love to attend, email:

Hi, all,
We've got your acceptance card, thank you it's lovely. C and I had already agreed that there is to be no children at our wedding reception, just like at yours. If you are unable to get someone to look after the children then we could accommodate them.
Regards
M & C

Eddas · 24/02/2008 21:20

oh oooggs I had this issue when dd was 1 and my dad got married and decided no children. Even though she was the only child in either his or her families

oooggs · 24/02/2008 21:27

what did you do eddas??

we either all go as a family - or non of us do

I have had a row with my dad over it

AngeG · 24/02/2008 21:27

Oooggs. Not sure what to say What is your gut reaction?

AngeG · 24/02/2008 21:29

Sorry x posts. I have to say I agree with you. If you were friends of theirs it might be different, but I think weddings are family occasions and as you are his sister and your children are his neice/nephews you should all go.

What did your dad say?

oooggs · 24/02/2008 21:31

my gut reaction (which I didn't do) was to reply to the email saying

"we won't be going to your wedding as you don't want our children there, but best of luck with your marriage to C (you are going to need it), who has 3 children by 3 different men, is 9 years older than you, has had 2 divorces already and has loads of tattoos"

well you did ask

instead I rang my parents, ranted at my mum then spoke to my dad who told me not to spoil it - so I hung up (in tears)

what a mess

AngeG · 24/02/2008 21:34

Oh Oooggs I'm so sorry

I can completely understand your reaction, I'd have thought the same and would probably have sent it!

I do feel for your parents as they are stuck in the middle. Are you usually close to your brother, could you ring and tell him how upset you are?

Eddas · 24/02/2008 21:35

I told my dad he was out of order basically and that dd should be there and I thought he was wrong Wasn't a simple invite though. He wanted he to not be at the ceremony or 'food' bit but to be there for the evening As I explained highly inappropriate to just invite a child of 1 to the evening ARSE! Anyway he put the phone down(didn't hang up, just said he'd call back) a while later he called back to say hey presto she's invited all day! Me thinks step mother to be was over-ruled I am sure it was her decision and another reason she isn't my favourite person.

Unfortunately weddings will course arguements I can't believe they didn't specify on the invite. and tbh find it weird that there are no children invited, but I don't understand no child weddings. Especially when close family have children. When it's just friends children it's different.

However, I went to 3 weddings when dd was 1 and actually wish I had left her with MIL for all 3 so that I could enjoy them. DD would be ok and enjoy them now though.

Such a dilema. I guess you just have to do what you feel is right. Is it just an evening thing or are they having the wedding breakfast first?

Eddas · 24/02/2008 21:37

oh x-posts, she has 3 dc? but yours aren't invited? even more weird IMO. will they be going?

Not suprised it has upset you WOuld a {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{hug}}}}}}}}}}}}} be ok?

oooggs · 24/02/2008 21:39

just an evening thing from 7.30pm - anyone elses wedding and I would have declined, but thinking better go as its family just for an hour

the invitation said to oooggs & mr oooggs, but the Christmas card said to oooggs & mr oooggs & family so I just thought they didn't know the childrens names

not close to brother since she came on scene he is 31 she is nearly 40

AngeG · 24/02/2008 21:43

Oh what a shame Oooggs about your relationship with your brother.

If it's an evening thing, I'd probably go for an hour or so to show willing. Could you/do you want to get a babysitter for DC?
If you're only going for an hour I wouldn't see any problem with bring the children.

Eddas · 24/02/2008 21:44

hmmmm, tis hard. I would've thought being his sister he would pre-warn you about the no dc thing. If not directly then through parents. Just to invite you and not put them on it is odd. I would have assumed the whole family was invited too. Are you able to get anyone to babysit for the dc for a while if you go?

Make sure you get them a really tacky gift and also sign the wedding card just you and dh Get the naffest card you can find too

I'm trying to think up ideas of crap things to get step mother at christmas I have forgotten when her bday is I am such a child

NorthernLurker · 24/02/2008 21:44

Just popping in and seen your situation Oooggs - we got a wedding invite today for some friends from church - I was quite surprised as it's for all five of us. Had these friends said no children I wouldn't have minded a bit - it's just friends after all - but if any of my in-laws had attempted to have a wedding without the girls there would have been BIG trouble!! So I am very on your behalf. Personally - I would go, all five of you, dolled up to the nines and with ds primed and if necessary bribed to be angelic. I would swan round the wedding reception a few times so everyone can see what a lovely family you are - everyone will love to see the twins and ds1 together won't they. And then I would exit with my head held high!

BTW - your new sil sounds....interesting (eeek)

AngeG · 24/02/2008 21:45

Eddas

AngeG · 24/02/2008 21:47

Meant to add to my first post earlier thanks to all those who missed me