April 2007 - A new year and new experiences, with the support of old friends

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felt like it was time for a mushy one

I couldn't do SAHM full time either, I need those nursery days, so I work so they can go to nursery. If I could send them to nursery 2.5 days a week and stay home on my own I would .

Sorry things aren't good at work hope you find a soloution thats suits you and your family

oooggs - Me too! I too could only be a sahm if the boys went to nursery

aren't we a funny breed I could get loads done, decorating, gardening, cleaning - oh I would be in heaven

in reality, I only work 16 hours and dcs in nursery 2.5 days, it is very good (work based) and subsidised, but I will take home £60 a month after childcare until ds1 starts school in September. But I need that break and dh agrees (thankfully) so April 2nd here we come

That's outrageous runny though I'm not altogether surprised given some of your previous posts about your boss - no wonder people don't care if they're also being treated so badly. I'd hesitate to walk out now but I would look very seriously for another job.

Morning.

Oooggs, enjoy the Twins Cub - sounds exhausting!!

Runny, am horrified by you not being paid correctly. Try to keep calm. They have effectivey witheld (sp??) salary which is a breach of contract. If you get penalised for going overdrawn pass the charges on to them.

Hi everyone else. Need to head - poor K has been dragged round M&S this morning and not had much attention, so better go.

Runny sounds a nightmare Sorry I have no constructive advice to offer.

Oooggs - enjoy twin club, sounds like madness fun!

D woke up around 1ish for a feed, fed for ages then started smiling and cooing at me I had been going to let him sleep in my bed (too lazy to get up and put him back in cot!) but he just wanted to play so I put him back in cot and he went to sleep no problems. DD was the same at his age, slept fine in her cot but if she had to sleep in bed with me she'd just want to play. Stillle ast i dont have to feelk guilty about turfing him out of my nice cosy bed with mummy cuddles back to his cot all on his own, its obviously what he wants.

D is now asleep in cot, dp is asleep on bottom bunk in same room (quieter than our room at front of house) and M and N are playing nicely in M's room so I have lovley peace, quite and calm! I expect it to last all of about 5 minutes before they fall out or wake D up but enjoying sitting here on my own while it lasts! Although for some reason I'm still watching baby TV

And here comes N crashing down the stairs

Sorry for all typos

omg runny it'd be fuming too. I'd feel like you though, wanting to walk out then not actually able to go! But then we really really need the money. I'd talk to the boss though. I talk to mine on wed because they've decided to change our pay day, without notice(was 24th now last friday so 28/29th etc) and now I won't be able to pay the mortgage as it goes out just after I get paid but before dh does IYSWIM. So now i have to change the mortgage payment date as work won't change the pay day back

BUT I have my new pushchair It's Lurvly

shame dd is back in pita mode aaaaaaaaaaargh

hi all
at work here too but I'm having a good day
I am very very lucky with my boss

I am changing my hours, have finally settled on a school for M and they have breakfast club, so he can go from 8am as he does now, and I can work just mornings still. Nursery can take J on thursdays now so I have swapped childminder to fridays. Have also realised I was doing more hours than i need to so have cut back, will now do Mon-Thu 9-12.30, so boys are only in nursery for the morning session, and Friday 9-4.30 while M is at nursery but collected by daddy's family at 3, and J is with childminder which costs less

will cut my outgoings while keeping income the same

fab!

(and hopefully mean things run smoother too!)

Birlliant POTC, really pleased for you

how are you feeling now runny? are you there all day?

That's great POTC - it's such a juggling act isn't it?

Runny - that's awful - tbh - if there are cash flow problems then your job might be leaving you if you see what I mean - I would be wary of doing any work you might not get paid for. We are still waiting for a final settlement from when dh's employer went bust and didn't pay anything - no notice, no holiday pay, no redundancy if you were due it. That was two years ago next month!!!

Oooggs - hope you have a good day with the twins club - you mad woman!

Sorry, just popping in for a rant and a bit of sympathy. C is in a horrible mood, he is exhausted but is refusing to go into his cot for a nap - he's currently screaming up there. I have brought him down a couple of times but all he seems interested in is pulling the zky box of the shelf and climbing up onto the fire place. Not really coping with being a SAHM at the moment, I feel ok when we are out and about, but being in the house just seems to be a constant battle now he is crawling.

playpen?

oh gmm it's a nightmare when they get moving hence why i was so peed off ds started that quite early(not crawling but was moving about!)

My only advice is to move what you can. With dd I tried not to but then found myself shouting at her all the time to leave this and that alone. In the end all our stuff was moved out of reach and my life was much calmer. I had to tape the sky card into the box and tape the doors of the tv cabinet shut it's not fun. DS is now pulling at the tv cabinet doors so they may get taped shut again soon

Am at home now, feeling much calmer

Thank you so much for all your support - it makes such a huge difference.

Just been having a chat with dh, and my decision so far is that I will hand my notice in on Monday. My contract says that I have to give a months notice, which I will do, but tbh, I doubt very much that he will keep me to it.

That sounds like a good decision - well done!

gmm feeling very similar and was going to post the same
when do you get to the stage where you can take eyes off them for 10 seconds?
Can't do anything really unless he is asleep or strapped in

glad you have made a decision runny - sounds as though you will continue to be messed around so not much point staying!

spb - you can take you eyes off them when you have removed everything from your house that makes life worth living, or you have imprisoned them in some way or you have employed a nanny!

lol NL

really if you want to have a bit of peace without watching them all the time you have to have a place where they can go anywhere. In my house all things that can't be touched are not in the front room. I have a gate on both exits to the room and ds is able to roam around.

I have yet to baby proof upstairs so when we're up there I strap ds into his bouncy chair. But my aim over the next few weeks is to get that sorted so he can crawl about. It makes life so much easier. Once they can move that's it so it's just part of life that things have to be moved IMO until they are old enough to understand. Somewhere from around aged 2 i think. Depends on the child though!

aaargh
OK, just going to have to go round the house with DH this weekend I think and decide what we can move and how to baby proof the stuff we can't
SO how do you deal with radiators? Or does everyone with babies just live in cold houses?

radiators? do you mean touching them?

Our front room one is behind a sofa so he can't touch it. actually it was in our old house too!

well he crawls through the hall, and in the kitchen
and in the bedrooms too for that matter
and how do i make breadcrumbs?
will stop the stupid questions now