June 07 - Happy New Thread

[thisisRialifebaby]

A new thread for the new "us" inside

Afternoon everyone. We're waiting for a friend to come over to play and getting a bit bored. It looks like it is going to snow any minute - it's blardy cold out there...

I'm seriously bored, baggins won't settle and I can't put him down (I blame DH.)

I fear I will end up buying something from La Redoute, or ordering the next Midsomers DVD box set that I haven't got (though I should wait til my birthday, or maybe it could be a joint valentines present...)

well we had 2 mins of measly wet snow which dissapeared staright away it is not on

ah ha! i found the weight loss thread by mistake .. anyway i'll post again!

hi guys
ive had a really bad few months, and been avoiding other mums, but im ok now, so you wont be able to get rid of me.

im now back in a size 10 jeans.. but i feel sorry for my boobs which are in a very sorry state after 2 children!

how is everyone else? any crawlers yet?

ah ha! i found the weight loss thread by mistake .. anyway i'll post again!

hi guys
ive had a really bad few months, and been avoiding other mums, but im ok now, so you wont be able to get rid of me.

im now back in a size 10 jeans.. but i feel sorry for my boobs which are in a very sorry state after 2 children!

how is everyone else? any crawlers yet?

i posted twice

Hi NTE. glad to see you back.

Gawd it's cold.

does anyone do tarot reading? There's a home-based tarot-line job advertised on the jobcentreplus website. jobcentre ref FTS/115664 if it's of any use to anyone.

Hi Natty, good to see you again.

And thanks everyone for being so supportive. I daren't tell RL friends somehow. I know I shouldn't be embaressed but...

Went to baby group this afternoon, very quiet, only 2 other mums there. Some of the conversation was MIL rants. And One of the mums and the center organiser were saying how their MILs have/had depression and this made their DH's (ie the sons of the MILs) childhoods very difficult/traumatic. I sat very quiet, thinking how I don't want my problems to ruin DD's childhood Feel pretty awful now tbh. Sorry.

She seems happy enough now though wriggling around on her mat playing with her Xmas bear chattering away.

jammy. You WON'T ruin DDs childhood because you are able to recognise the signs of your depression early and you are willing to deal with it.
Depression is not such a taboo now as it would have been when the MILs in question suffered. Also, MILs can never do right in DILs eyes, so it may have been exaggerated.

I sometimes feel a bit sad because my worst bout was when DS1 was a baby and I have forgotten some things from then, but we did have some good times too. DS1 doesn't seem too disturbed (he's not any weirder than most 10 year olds). He does have an old head on young shoulders, but I think that's because he's been brought up around adults.

back in a minute, DH crisis

but DON'T feel bad. You are a loving mum with a supportive DH.

thanks Ria

hi to nt&e. how are you doing? hope you've been ok in your absence.

jammy, you have no need to be embarrassed although i completely understand where you are coming from. i'm a by training (not a proper one but ykwim) & my background is neuro psych & i'm always banging on about how depression is often chemical & there's nothing wrong with chemicals to treat it, but when the dr's gave me ADs i didn't tell any of my friends (& i am usually very forthcoming). it makes you feel like a failure, that you can't sort yourself out doesn't it?

well that's rubbish! you don't go into hospital with appendicitis & the dr's say "sorry but you've got to sort yourself out". depression is an illness, you can't help having it.

I agree with Ria, depression, anxiety etc is not a taboo subject now - but would have been more so in our mothers / grandmothers day and would have often gone untreated. I'm pretty certain that was the case with my father / grandmother....but recognising it and being treated is the RIGHT thing to do.....

however, like you Jammy, only my HV, GP and DH know about my ADs

The internet and anonymity is very therapeutic, don't you think....I tell you guys more than I tell my RL friends sometimes....

What a very good bunch of friends you all are

Hello Natty ....good to see you...sorry you've had a shitty time....hope things are OK? How are the DCs?

You ladies are lovely

Hi natty welcome back glad you are feeling up to chatting with us again mad bunch that we are

jammy everyone is right you are dealing with it and aware of it it will not ruin your dds childhood she will be the better for having a mum who can recognise when she needs help and gets it

does anyone else have to cook tea feed lo and play blardy bingo at the same time tell me it isn't only in this house

Jammy, couldn't agree more. Our parents generation didn't acknowledge/deal with depression in the same way.

There is no shame in it.

Strikes me that the majority of us have some exprience of depression and ADs, so you are in jolly good company!

Hi Natty, welcome back. Hope you are OK.

What's been up? Are you settled in your new home?

phew.

no bingo andiem, but I just had to cook tea for the boys and feed LO at the same time by myself!!! And they ate it (although DS1s body has been taken over by Frank off the Vicar of Dibley - "thanks for making noodles mum, yours are the best, although I've never tasted Dads, but yours are the best, apart from one recipe but I don't know whichg recipe that is, but I think..."etc etc. I had to make him sweep the floor to shut him up
Now I have to clean up, entertain them, bath them and get them to sleep. I've got too used to DH being here.

During my last post DH was ringing someone about a job ad. It turns out their current chef can't get to work tonight because of the snow, so he's gone for a working interview, with about 1/2hr notice and I had to iron whites and print CV etc. Fingers crossed...

bugger the italics. Am off to eat ds2s trifle as a reward for coping so well!

Good luck for your DH Ria

good luck to dh ria

Ohhhh fingers crossed Ria - is his shoulder all ok now?

Hi everyone

Welcome back Natty.

Jammy - don't worry about DD, she's got a Mum who's recognised she is unwell and is doing something about it. they were probably talking about people who went untreated (or weren't properly treated) - as was much more often the case in the past as the drugs weren't as good, counselling didn;t really exist and depression was misunderstood.

I don't know you in RL but I can tell that you absolutely adore DD and would do anything for her - what better childhood could a lo ask for.

and good luck Mr-Ria