June 07 - Happy New Thread

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A new thread for the new "us" inside

Good luck to DH ria. And well done for getting through the evening!

Poor dd has been v constipate. Every time I changed her nappy today she was trying to poo. Then the blockage cleared and the rest came out (when DH was changing her ) and it was closer to sloppiness again, which makes me think this has been building up for a few days. I didn't know, she's only been weaned for 2 weeks so I have no idea what her nappies are supposed to be like. i gave her some diluted oj (thanks Andie) so maybe it was that which cleared it. But how can I prevent it? She has fruit and fibre. Any tips?

Thanks Fairy, I feel all warm inside now (and not just because we had curry again)

Bumper, when DD has been constipated we put OJ in her food (mixed a little in with the pureed veg). And we found the best thing to stop her getting bunged up is to NOT give her bananas.

While the GP was very nice all she's done was give me ADs. I am wondering if I should look at getting some counselling? I wasn't brave enough to ask if she can recommend anyone, but might ask when I go back at the end of the month. In the meantime does anyone have any experience of counselling? (Not asking for recommendations of a particular counsellor, just opinions on the pros and cons etc)

My mum is a counsellor and therapist. If you get a good one they are superb. Ask for recommendations if you can as crap ones are expensive and a waste of money but a good one can make all the difference.

Try contacting RELATE for a list.

The only 'con' is £££. If you have health insurance with work that might cover some of the cost.

EVENING ALL
Jammy - dito what all the others said - I, like you (and practically everybody else) have been there - you have made the biggest step on the road to recovery by seeking help so well done you ~I have had counselling and it was one of the best things i did during my depression - (almost as heplful as MN!!) My GP surgery has an NHS counsellor attached to it - it's worth asking if there is anything like that in your area.
I also have a counselling diploma (although i've never actually officially worked as a counsellor) and due to my training etc i would say that a good counsellor is worth their weight in diamonds so if you do get referred and don't like the person then, move on to someone else ASAP.
How was work Fury?
Ria good vibes for Me Ria

WE HAVE SNOW (enough for sledging and snowball fights

oops MR ria not me Ria!

Thanks Fury and Derlor.

I know I've done the right thing in going to my GP. I feel a bit rubbish in that I've been here before 2 years ago, so it feels like a real backwards step restarting the ADs. But I guess I have had a baby in the meantime, which is enough to make anyone feel a bit wobbly if you ask me (it is of course wonderful at the same time). I'm hoping I can get myself sorted properly this time (hence enquiries about counselling) even if it rakes a while so i can then get on with my life

Good for you Jammy - it's stepping in the right direction and NOT a backwards step - jeez I always thought of myself as a pretty stable cheerful kinda person but having a baby has at times made even me want to throw myself (or DS !) out the window - just ask Derlor

Having a baby is so so tough and of course it's going to take it's toll - not only are you wholly responsible for a new person, your relationship, body, career, goals etc are all different. Nothing will ever be the same again as it was. If that's not reason enough to cut yourself some slack and be kind to yourself I don't know what is.

You are doing the right thing!

Jammy I had counselling for 8 weeks after having DD due to my anxiety (HV sorted it for me) and I saw someone on the NHS attached to my surgery. It was excellent. I was very sceptical - especially when he couldn't explain to me how it worked (like you, I am a scientist ), but I have to say it was great and although it didn't cure me, I got a lot from it. I think it works because they let you talk and talk, and you work out the problems and answers for yourself IYKWIM

Definitely worth a go IMO

yes we are settled, and having a xmas in it was lovely.

i had an abortion 2 months ago, and it triggered depression, as i felt awfu labout it. tried to commit sucicide, and basically hated myself.. but im over it now, i didnt expect to have such a reaction to it tho shocked me really, cos im such a upbeat person i never expected to ever get depressed cos its not my nature..

but like i said im ok now and missed you all

I've never talked like that to anyone before either, and actually had someone LISTEN to me properly without getting pissed off / bored / trying to give me their opinions / experiences etc.....its very odd and very liberating....am interested how my experience fits in with your training Derlor.....

oh, and work is good. 3 hour+ daily commute though - ugh

Also I am annoyed as I wanted a minion role and I started today to find out I am responsible for a whole new big project. I said I wanted little - no responsibility - so I get a team lead job. Great.

Anyway the company seems great, friendly people, not a twat-faced idiot shithead eco warrior or cumbag Nazi boss in sight. So it's all good.

Good to hear that Norty, thanks.

Natty - sorry you've had such a tough time But lovely to see you back here, and glad you've come out the other side OK.

Fury, glad work's OK. Shame about the responsibility.

NTE so sorry to hear what you have been through, must have been an awful time.

Hope things are a bit better now.

Evening all

Natty good to see you back - so sorry that you've had such an awful time these last few months - hope that MN will lift your spirits and that you're in a better place now.

Jammy glad you too got some help today.

Oh Natty that's awful - it sounds like you're putting a brave face on things but it must've been such a tough decision for you . i don't know what to add really just hugs and nice to have you back.

that's terrible Natty - glad you feel like coming back now though and very pleased you feel comfortable sharing that with us

Norty - that sounds like the perfect counselling experience - mine was similar, i used to go in feeling like shit and come out feeling fantastic
My training was the toughest thing i've ever had to do - to become qualified you have to go through EVERY step of counselling yourself there were tears EVERY night from at least one of us in the room. Also made me question A LOT about my childhood unfortunately and has created a big hole in my relationship with my parents
Sometimes the things you uncover can be very interesting in the way you have turned out.

for you Natty. That's awful. I am so glad you are out the other side, make sure you look after yourself and remember we are here. Don't ever think you can't talk/rant/cry - there's always someone here.

Usually me Really must get out more!

Fury job sounds good - you in charge of nice people then?
at your 3+ hour commute (I must remember NEVER to moan about my 45 min commute EVER again )

Hi Foxy - want me to send you some snow

Yes please! I do get a bit over-excited

How are you Derlor?

i'm good thanks - oooooooooooooo it's all gone eerily quiet on here - where'd everyone go?????????????

I'm going to se my sister tomorrow (snow permitting) with DD2 and DH is taking the other 2 to the science centre sucker how lovely for him

knickers, I just deleted a really deep post about counselling! my surgery have an adult MHW, but not a child one, so your surgery might.

I have had NHS counselling with two different surgeries, and am on a waiting list again, but stupidly I had a brain-scramble moment and cancelled my gold-dust appt (long story) so have to wait again. I'm not very keen on it, but as I consider my problems are mainly due to letting people get too close, that's probably why. And just because it's not for me it doesn't mean I'm against it, and when you are depressed anything is worth a try.

glad you don't have to work with wankers fury, must make for a better day? Shame about the responsibility, but they must think you're good at what you do.

BTW thanks for the good luck messages for gordon DH. He's not back yet but I bet he's loving it.

Hope's he's not too cheerful though IYKWIM!

I have managed my evening - sort of. DS3 even went down in his cot for about 11/2 hrs (that would not have happened if the baby-cuddler had been in). Also my kitchen is sparkling at last(because it's not a stainless steel porn palace DH doesn't shine it).
DS2 went to sleep by himself in his own bed for probably the first time ever, and DS1 watched Star Wars (so I'm not perfect)

and I am starving and knackered!