May 07 - The one where some of us are already knocked up again...

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She knows what hes like but they sometimes make it worse by joking about it and then they end up taking the pee out of me saying i dont know how to cook/hoover etc (i do, by the way lol) I also get his dad moaning at me that dh hasnt done certain things to our house that he was supposed to do, as if somehow its my fault. Funny thing is dh moans like hell at the ds's if they dont do something they were supposed to Bloody men!!

Gee, maybe if you weren't so busy ironing his stupid shirts (I don't believe in ironing by the just on principle alone) You would have time to cook. And vacuuming (find it funny you guys call it hoovering) with little kids you can vacuum and then five minutes later not be able to tell it was done at all. I tell this being a mom thing is fighting a losing battle. I just say we surrender and in 20 years when the kids are grown come out of hiding.

at him saying he'll go elsewhere. That's really mean! See I think I'm not capable of having a relationship. I know I'm still very young but I'm far too selfish to want one. I love the fact that I have the control to do things my way when it comes to Charlotte. I'd hate having to come to an agrement over things, especially when it comes to dd. I enjoy the freedom of not having to answer to anybody. I used to find it really lonely but I've now made some friends who have children the same age as C, so I get out and about a lot more. And because I'll be starting my course soon, that'll also keep me busy.

My mum sometimes struggles as well. Though my dad does the shopping and cooking which is his choice. But my mum's a full time social sciences lecturer at a college in Edinburgh. The travelling, the work load, keeping the house tidy etc really get to her. She finds it too much most days. I try to help out as much as I can but with C now crawling I can't get anything done lol! Mind I have done all the washing today, I might attempt the ironing basket and dishwasher when I get home from town.......

I find it incredibly tough having one, but Pebble you have three. Which is hard work, I'm the second of three and it's ony since having dd that I realise just how hard my mum must have found it, and she worked full time as well, as did my dad. Could you perhaps do some sort of fun rota style thing for the children, attempt to get them to do their share of the chores? For example, setting the table for dinner, or making their beds, putting the toys away before bedtime etc. If they do it award them with a gold star or a happy face, if they don't they get a sad face. Reward the good, as they'll work towards achieving it. This might take a bit of the strain off the housework for you. Just a suggestion, don't know if it'll help much. Or are the children ok, is it just dh?

I've just been to the post office, and on the way back I thought I'd drop into the doctors. I had some bloods done the other day to check my cholesterol level. Last time I had them done they were a 6. This was still high for my age but generally excepted. They wanted to put me on medication for it but I was only 17 and they didn't seem high enough to be going onto tablets, so I didn't. I booked an appointment to see the doctors today and asked if they could tell me what level they were at now. 9.1! It runs through my family and with my dad it reached 12, which is why he needed his triple heart bypass.

Fags have gone straight into the bin and am now on ultra detox. Am really worried, and they'll stick me on tablets for life!

C fast asleep in her pram. Spoke to my mum last night and have decided to sell my Silvercross 3D along with the carseat etc. I'm not using it now I've got my new pram, and with the money I make I can buy the carseat I'm wanting. Off to touch up my makeup, mum's home in half an hour and we're going late night shopping.

Pebble hope you're feeling a bit better

Thamks M2CM, just found out dh is at the pub isnt of at work which has pissed me off a bit, he goes there every opportunity he gets when he could be at home with us. Maybe if he put the effort in then so would I. We had a discussion about this the other day and thought we had got somewhere but obviously not. Dont mind him going out but think he should make time for us too. Oh well just hope he doesnt come home drunk, think i will make sure im in bed by closing time just in case.

Sorry to hear about the blood results, you are young though so hopefully you can still control it through healthy eating etc. That is how my mum manages hers and so far so good, it is still a bit too high but not enough to warrant going on tablets.

Im holding on to my 'big' pram for a while longer although i havent used it since getting the Jane one. After all the fuss I made about wanting it I want to make sure I get plenty of use from it. The carrycot is no longer used but the pushchair is so big and comfy that I know A will still be ok in it for a while yet. Just a shame it takes up so much room.

Alana is still wide awake, she had her longest sleep of the day earlier, think it was about 45mins (not sure though as I fell asleep as well lol) She hasnt done that for a long time but then again she is full up with a cold so that probably helped knock her out. She has now escaped into the hall so Im off.

Hope all babies and other LO's sleep well tonight

Cruz pulled himself up to stand today, and I missed it. Stupid job!

M22LB, i cant remember who looks after your bubbas but could you not ask them to just not tell you when C does something special? The nursery that J&E go to dont tell you if they have started crawling, walking etc etc as they like you to find that out for yourselves.

Pebble, sorry you are having a rough time with your dh. My bil is very much the same - down the pub / out with mates when he should be at home with his gf & ds. He then wonders why his gf kicks him out!

My poor p&t has been relegated to the downstairs loo as we are only going to need to use it when we go out with both the kiddies for a long period of time. Think i might give it a clean and try and make it feel loved again

Dh has taken the kids to nursery and had gone off to work and i am here supposidly getting ready myself and packing for our trip to Wales but instead am drawn like a moth to a flame to you ladies

M2CM, well done on binning those nasty white sticks . Just think how much money you will save (to buy lovely baby things and nice bits for yourself) and also how much healthier you will become. My dh started smoking at 16 and gave up at 19 and hasnt had a single cigarette in 10 years so it can be done. Hopefully this and a healthy diet will help to reduce those numbers.

Hope you all have a lovely weekend xx

AM, That is a good idea, but it's dh that watches them 99% of the time. He said it in passing like he thought he'd done it already. I did get to see it before he fell asleep so I'm not totally unhappy.

Where did everyone go?

Hi all, hope all ok

Sorry to hear about friends tenants baby JW

Glad all well being back at work AM, it is strange not having them about, i still find myself listening out for G when i am working from home.

G is doing well, he has got loadsa hair, two teeth, is eating well and weighs 19lb, changing his nappy is getting more challenging every day as he rolls around all over the shop

He is now settling himself for his sleeps and not having a dummy, he just wouldn't stop struggling if we held him so we decided to let him cry, he cried for 30 mins first time, and now only cries for a few mins before he goes off to sleep - it was really hard to let him cry, even though i knew it was a tired cry rather than getting really upset cry, now he is sleeping through from 7 til 8, before he used to wake up at 6.30 every morning, but obviously just gets himself back off to sleep rather than us having to go in if he wakes to put his dummy in.

just got a shock as it will be a £1000 quid to get my thesis proofread before i resubmit it - when i think of what else we could do with that money!

Sorry to hear about Dh Pebble, Men can be right arses sometimes

Good luck on the conception front LGT!

£1000! Are you serious? Isn't there a student you could pay half that for doing it???

I let A cry too. If I hold her she struggles and goes mad. All she wants is to be left alone to chill out. If G is crying at nap times, try putting him down 15 mins earlier. It might cut out the crying altogether.

Pebble - I'm sorry to hear your DH is being a muppet. I can't bear that sulking over refusing nookie either. Does your DH ever look after the kids all day? Or even a few hours?

I have on occasion left DH for a long while and come home and casually said, "What's for dinner?" or similar. When he said words to the effect of, "Dinner? I assumed you'd be getting it." I just go, "Oh, usually when I'm at home I get dinner, so I assumed you'd be doing it because you're just minding the baby". It works a treat at reminding him of why sometimes (ok most of the time) the housework isn't done.

As for today... I minded my friend's 9 month old for a few hours. Wasn't too bad at all. He was asleep when he arrived, then when he was awake he wanted to be held - poor thing was a bit confused as he isn't familiar with my house. Only difficult bit was trying to give two bottles at the same time, with him on my lap and getting A to bed and having to carry both of them upstairs. Phew! Still, managed it and A was very good and didn't get jealous of me holding him so that bodes well for the summer. She just got on and played by herself.

Have been baking today and did brownies this morning and banana loaf and brown soda bread this afternoon.

DH is buggering off skiing with clients early tomorrow morning. Not jealous at all. His client "mate" has decided to drive to Switzerland so am doing some "good wifery" and getting up at some God-forsaken hour to heat up baguettes and cook bacon and eggs for breakfast rolls and pack some nice food for the journey.

Think I might "pack" some food for myself. I'm a bit at all the lovely goodies I'm giving them, never mind the skiing.

I did negotiate a spa weekend in return for letting DH go, so I think with all this effort I deserve Babington House or somewhere lovely and posh like that.

Babington House I wanna go too...

You are a good wife, lovely infact. Hope he knows it

Easy looking after 2 under a year?? You will find it easy peasy with a big age gap then

I was thinking of you today LG&T when I had friend's baby on my left him as I was cutting brownies and mashing bananas and measuring flour etc. I was thinking, "This is LG&T all over." Hehehe.

On my left hip, obviously...

M22LB - I forgot to say to you. Don't worry too much about "missing" stuff. You could be at home all day every day and the one time you go out for 10 minutes they'll do something you haven't seen before. It's already happened to me.

You spend loads of time with your lovely children and don't forget that whenever they fall over, they'll still cry for Mommy, even though you work sometimes. Mommy is still always best.

Returns from whizzing pasta sauce whilst balancing baby on hip and toddler on foot, while fielding "what is my best eye" questions from the 9 year old...

PMSL or i would be if it was not BATH time

Just popping in to say had scan today and all ok. 11 weeks tomorrow which is just as I had thought.

Just off to put C to bed

TYG I love my kids too much to leave them with dh for too long, he would get stressed and send them to bed at some stupid time just to get some peace or he would take them round MIL's knowing that she will take care of them while he sits down and relaxes (as usual)

We had a few harsh words last night and i told him that if things carried on the way they are now that i couldnt see us staying together. I admitted that some of it is my fault and said i was willing to try harder if he was, now its up to him. Hes been quite nice and loving today but he still buggered off to the pub tonight. He had taken the night off work to spend time with me Am just waiting now to see if he goes to the pub today (Saturday)The annoying thing is I dont mind him going to the pub, i just want him to spend the odd weekend at home with us, I dont think thats too much to ask.

SKY congrats on the scan, oh how I loved having them, seeing the LO on the screen, always makes it seem more real. We want to see pics Those of us not having any more need to have something to coo over, the May babies are growing up so fast

Pebble.

Great news on the scan Sky. What's your due date? My scan is Weds. DH will still be away. Tsk. Still, we had the early scan at 8 weeks and that was fine and since DH is away for this one, we're going to get an early gender scan done at around 16-17 weeks in Harley Street. Not long to wait because I'm at least 13 weeks now. 14 from LMP, but 13 according to the viability scan.

I'm starting to regret staying up til 1.15 helping DH get organised and getting up at 4.15 to make breakfast rolls. And I forgot to put the lovely soda bread sandwiches in the cool bag. I'll have to eat them for lunch instead. Ho Hum. Made them last night to be organised and forgot all about them. I did go back to bed, and again when A went for her morning nap, but it does make me wonder how the hell I got up three times a night for months and how the hell I'm going to do it all over again!

Gagh! And one of the reasons I was up so late is that I was downloading the Western Europe map for DH's TomTom so he could put it in his mates car. Paid £50 and waited a million light years for the thing to download only to be told I couldn't load it onto the device because there wasn't enough memory. How annoying is that?

A is so good these days about naps. She knows that going upstairs and getting grobag on means nap time or bed time and makes no fuss at all and sleeps for 1-2 hours. It's great. Well worth all the fuss and nuisance of getting a routine going in the early days. It's really going to help a lot when the next baby comes.

TYG Cruz is the same with bedtime. He sees his blanket and he smiles and starts sucking on it. And when I give him his stuffed cat he's in real heaven.

Got my first e-mail from my mom. She said her flight was good, and she flew over the north pole. She mentioned to say that she couldn't see Santa because it was too dark.

I've put some pictures of Cruz standing up. Although Mateo is stealing the show.

Mum2G - I did a proof reading swap with someone for my thesis. Do you know anyone you could do that with?

A has chicken pox now.... He has it much worse than DS1 did. His poor little back looks like red porridge. I think he is starting to feel a bit better though. He was making happy baby noises rather than miserable baby noises this afternoon. He has managed one developmental leap though, waving! it's so cute. He waved out of the window to his daddy the other day.

TYG you are a good wife, hope he got off ok. I cannot believe your scan is so soon! Are you going to share the gender with us >

Latinomom Mateo looks HUGE since his last photos, Cruz is so cute. He stands so well on his feet.

Beau is just staring to pull himself up on to his knees all the time. He is everywhere.

Pebble i have heard you say the same things about your dh on here before. He seems to improve for a while and then slip back in to old habits You must be exhausted with it all. Lots of love to you xxx

Benson hope the chicken pox go soon they can be awful. Bicarb in the bath helps and the calamine aqueous cream too.

Thanx LG&T, Cruz stands really well, but then he screams because he hasn't figured out how to get down yet. It's funny.

Benson I'm sorry that A has Chicken pox. Just think that he'll get it and will be done and you won't have to worry about it later.