May 07 - The one where some of us are already knocked up again...

[barelymorethantwelvemonthgap]

Thanks LG&T. No they weren't mean but one was from a second wife's point of view!!

Bloody Ex. H's

Hi JW..to add to what Lgandt said re your GA..at my hosp they let dh stay with me right up till I had to go in to be anasthetised which really helped..they let him push the bed up the corridor..so ask for that if you are nervous..also be prepared to feel pretty emotional when you wake up..I think you are being very brave, but the nerves before the op and the feeling of it being over might bring on low feelings...

V. jealous of your chucks largegandt..

Am going to adopt that tactic with Lils Mrs JB..I cant keep fighting with her, life is too short..am still thinking of you, glad to hear you are feeling better bit by bit..

Big hi to everyone else..both kids asleep. (miracle)so amk going to call my work as it has been a week now and its starting to set my nerves on edge..

off to toddlers group later God help me..its been so busy lately-its like bedlam in there!

Hi JW - I was also allowed to have DH with me until I went in for the GA and it did help because it can be a little emotional. I was terrified of the GA because I had not had it before but, and this may sound weird, it was almost quite a nice feeling as you start going under - you just relax. I was OK coming round and all i would say is take it easy for a few days afterwards because you will feel a bit wiped out (easier said than done I know). I had a panic after mine when I started bleeding again - the dr pointed out that the fact that I had made a bed (literally - the wood etc not just put sheets on it) would probably mean that I was overdoing it so bleeding was not surprising!

tried to mail you AM but it bounced back

thanks for the advice, am kind of wandering around in a daze today all I want to do is go to sleep and wake up when its all over.

Ooooh one with addresses, now that wouls have been a good idea.... i could always update it but would need everyones consent first Obviously i dont have all addresses but do a have a few. Let me know ladies. Or even email addresses that way you can email each other for addresses....

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JW,

Don't worry it will all be over soon.

Well I have to go in for more bloodwork. Ask me if I'm happy about it. Midwife said she want's to follow my hcg levels back to 0. I should just start donating at this rate.

I'm trying to come up with new and interesting things to say, but I can't. Oh well.

ouch you must be looking like a sieve by now M2lB.

I guess at least they are being thorough with their follow up m2lb..

Am thinking of you JW..

Have just seen a thread by largegandt who is having bother rounding up her hens I am picturing her outside now with all the kids getting the run around from all the chickens..

Well walked to toddlers group today in lovely sunshine, nice and warm, and hence wore only my leather jacket.Exited group to find the sky black as pitch, pouring rain and blowing a gale..had to make a run for it in the end, with both kids wailing like banshees everytime we went through a puddle-felt sorrier for poor M who gets a bit splashed in the bottom of the P and T, if the puddle is a particularly deep one..Anyway it is about a mile and half home, and the kids now weigh a combined 46 pounds,so I was half dead by the time we made it, so have treated self to a golden syrup pancake to restore energy

DH has gone out to practice 10n pin bowling as he is going out of Friday with the boys from work who are having a competition..last time he came resoundingly last..he is the only man I know who can get two nights out for the price of one!

I am making the kiddies some cheesy leeks for tomorrow and then I will watch something lovely on telly before bed..

No word from my work..Do I even have a job anymore? Grrrr

So today I have: managed to let A fall off a changing table, (small graze and bump on forehead but seems fine), measured out milk for the pancakes then poured from the milk bottle instead of measuring jug thus having no idea how much milk was in mixture, grated my thumb and forgotten to meet friends in pub across the road at 8pm. Pregnant? Me?

Friends not answering phone and not in pub. Sincerely hope they forgot as well and aren't not answering on purpose. You'd have thought they'd have called when the quiz started to ask if we were on our way? Hopefully it's not that they were too cross about being stood up. Have left grovelling message and text.

Went for midwife booking-in appt. It was at the community midwife clinic as two of five homebirth midwives have recently left and they're really busy. Absolutely effing knew it would happen; I got the midwife who made me cry the day after A was born. Blood pressure was sky high, even after three readings. She said, "Is this because of what happened before? Am I upsetting you?" Blah, blah. Wanted me to tell her why she upset me so much, talk it over. Argh. Nightmare. There was a student there as well. It was mortifying, as well as annoying. Then she wanted a hug at the end, FFS. AND to make it worse, because the homebirth team are so stretched, she's doing some of the deliveries. Can you imagine my blood pressure if she shows up when I'm in labour?
She said most of the antenatal appts are being picked up by the community team, but she's going to ask the homebirth team to take me straight away because, "She doesn't want my blood pressure up because of seeing [her]."

Plus she made a big deal out of the fact I had been treated for mild depression NINE effing years ago.

It's possible that they'll take on a couple of extra midwives over the next few months. Fingers crossed I won't have to see her too much. I would have liked to have given her the Gospel According to Twelveyeargap, but there's no point in making an enemy of the person who might be delivering your baby.

Oh Scoot poor you, i remember that about the P&T! I used to have to clean off the back sometimes it was so muddy. Jonah never used to mind though. Not that i regret selling it to you Scoot but i wish i had not. It is fab and so easy to haul in and out the car and easy to push round the shops too. I want another one Did work phone you?

TYG poor you with the scary midwife, you wont need one next time. Mars can deliver a baby, she is as good as any Midwife now i reackon Just leave it till the last minute and call. How is the finger (grated) and the (possibly) grumpy friends? B dived off the couch last night, DH was on duty, he was mortified. I just smiled and said never mind he is fine. Only a little red mark this morning not a graze like your dd got

School run now, buggeration.

I am starting a thread about rabbits this morning > no laughing you lot...

Friends went home again without calling us. Very odd if you ask me. I mean, we can see the pub from our house. I don't really understand why they didn't phone and say, "Are you on your way?" Not that that makes it ok to forget about plans, but it's what I would have done. Eventually got hold of her and she said not to worry about it...

Have a horrible headache this am from clenching my jaw all night. Told DH to pack up and come to bed and NOT watch the Super Tuesday results. Tossed and turned all night, half waking now and then and worrying about him getting up in the morning. Heard him move around at 7am only to discover that he'd fallen asleep almost as soon as I went up and had a lovely sleep.

TYG Or why didnt the friends come and give you a knock to see if you were ok?I think thats odd too!
I would complain about the midwife.Hug at the end?Get lost!!I think thats quite unprofessional actually..she cant come round your gaff a day after you've had a baby, upset you, then 9 months later want to cuddle you..'spect it was all for the students benefit..she knows she acted badly before!

I love my P and T Largegandt..you cant have it back!It was more the speed the nippers were crying at I think rather than the splashing..although I see on the website you can actually get mud guards for it!Chickens all in?And how are the shingles?

How odd too, because M rolled off the bed this morning!She is ok because she landed on Lilys big Ted, which broke her fall, and she actually just laughed...so it must be the day for it..

No contact from my work at all..I sent them an email yesterday to which they have not responded..Am now getting quite paranoid about the whole thing and am fearing it will end up in some horrid tribunal, will make the national news and there will end up being a film dramatisation made about it, ala Erin Brokovich but without the sick people, (with possibly Maggie Gyllenhall to play me).

Taking M to Dr's later to get her creases looked at..and L at cm this aft so planning to go to the tea room in town with my copy of Grazia and have a large cake whilst M (hopefully)had her afternoon nap..anyone fancy it?

I'll join you Scoot but its perhaps a little too far out of my way I can't believe work hasn't called you, how bad of them.

LOL LG&T at the chook situation, I can imagine it looking like a Benny Hill sketch, kids chasing chickens, chickens chasing rabbits and the rabbits chasing imaginary friends I'm glad you are doing this though because we are about to get some chickens too as we have a hen house in our vast acres so I need top tips. Plus do you know anything about Guinea Fowl? We want some.. Wildlife seen in our garden today -

1. almost dead but caught mole rate (too cute especially when it squealed, I almost got the gardener to let it go)

1. A very dead small brown snake of the wriggling variety, which scared our housegirl Margaret (now, now, no chippiness please Scoot) half out of her wits at 6am this morning

1. Three very cute African squirrels bouncing around

1. A rather large kite, smacking his lips hungrily at the thought of a mole rate feast.

1. An enormously fat 9 month old baby who is now slowly crawling to reach juicy bits of twigs and grass to chew on

Sky, perhaps I should send our gardener over to ensnare your rat? Probably cheaper than Rentokil

Julie . I can only echo what the others have been saying, the op is really not too bad, it is more the emotions and tiredness afterwards. You are being so strong, it can't be easy.

JW, am thinking of you today. Don't worry everything will be fine.

Ltinomom i emailed you and it bounced back, will try again later. How are yuo?

Cam i am loving the chickens, go get some at your scary wildlife, hope J doesnt eat too many snakes. Is he crawling off everywhere now?

Julie thinking of you too here in the LG&T house, lots of love xxx

Scoot i have seen those mud guards, they look very good. I would like a nice Green P&T next. Wishful thinking...

LG&T - he is crawling v v slowly and getting v v angry, which is most unlike him Now his true side is coming out! Do you have to cage Beau in? How do you keep Hugs from not letting him escape down the stairs?

Now more importantly, I made some flapjacks without a recipe and without scales etc, tell me I did it right? I melted butter and golden syrup then added in the 'oats' (lets call them that though I'm not totally convinced thats what they are) and I've popped them in the oven - how long should they stay there? Cooking by guesswork has never been my forte.

M2LB, how are you holding up?

Cam, I don't know what it is you made, but it sounds good to me.

LG&T give me your email so I can try you.

I'm doing really well actually. Of course I'm really too busy to sit around and feel sorry for myself. I'm too busy to sit down and have a meal in peace come to think of it. I think it would all be worse if I was going through this by myself so thank you all so much.

The rat is caught and in the trap. The man should be coming back today to clear it and reset it. The bloody thing looks huge with its tail and back foot stuck out the trap - disgusting!!

I worked an extra day this week and was going to claim for it but I have decided to have Friday off instead. I told DP last night that I wasn't up to working 3 days yet! C will be at the CMs so I am looking forward to a "me" day.

I would like a 'me' day too..ha!Chance'd be a fine thing..rats are grim..

Housegirl?!What you want is a lovely young house BOY Cam..about 19 ish...

No word from work..t***s!!!Honestly think am going to go a but Britney Spears on them soon and sue for damages..

Tea room closed for refurb!Outraged!Have bought Atonement for £9 instead from Tescos and am going to watch that and eat my bun bought from the bakers (Chelsea bun in case anyones interested in having a bit before I scoff the lot)if M ever goes off for her nap..child will not stop rolling round though..its a right faff..I leave her on the floor on her back, I find her underneath the cot about to suffocate on a stray nappy bag..
She had rolled over in her cot just now with her head wedged against the bars..

If I could've afforded a new one I would've had the Apple Green P and T too Largegandt..it looks so spring like I think..but I do so love my one..What have you go now then?Just a single buggy?Where does Hugs go, or does he walk everywhere..(Lily tried to walk everywhere, but as she is only just 2 her little legs start to go after about a mile or so)

Its a lovely day here I must say..should be outside doing something outdoorsy..sod it, Mcavoy awaits!

I have an apple green P&T and i loooooove it

Scoot - can't believe your boss hasn't responded to your email. They really suck! Let me know what you think of Atonement as I missed it at the movies and just adore Mr Mcavoy

LG&T - keep telling us about the chicken antics...just hilarious

Cam - I have a fab flapjack recipe. I always make the double the amount below. Made some just last night and now there are...none

4 level tablespoons golden syrup
3oz marg
3oz soft brown sugar (light)
5oz rolled oats

1. Carefully measure golden syrup (warm spoon helps) with marg into saucepan
2. Stir over low heat until just melted
3. Stir in sugar and rolled oats
4. Grease shallow square tin, spread mixture evenly and cook for 25 mins at 375
5. Leave to cool for 5 mins then cut into 12 bars
6. Leave in tin until completely cold

M2LB - been thinking of you last few days. How you going? I know what you mean about not being able to think of things to say some days. Life sometimes is just that blah

JW - You will be just fine. Going under a GA is a very gentle process and with DH close by I reckon you will feel fine. It's like you just close your eyes for a second and then you are awake again.

TYG - sods law about the bloody midwife. Can't believe she wanted a hug...arghh

Anneme - Tild isn't crawling either. Just lots of rolling and sitting on her bum and moving round in circles. I gotta say I'm quite happy with that as I know the relative peace will be shortlived once she starts crawling around

Hi to CharleyM, AM, M2CM, Pebble, PJ, Abby, SkyTV, MRsJB and anyone I might have forgotten.

Left Tilda with nanny for the first time today for 4 hours while I went for meeting about potential work. She did fine. DH had to rock her to sleep for her nap which only lasted half an hour but otherwise she did just fine. I was a wreck to begin with - it's only the 3rd time I've left the house without her since she was born!!!! Bloody hell i need a life. Meeting went fine just hope something suitable comes up so I can start working March/April as money is very tight and if anything goes pearshaped requiring funds we are completely screwed.

Off to see how slow cooked pork is looking then settling down to some shitty TV and an early night xxxx

Thinking of you JW

As others have said it's not GA and a D&C are not that bad of themselves. Emotionally it's harder, but at least you have A to keep your mind off it a bit.

Let me know if you need company any time xx

I hope she is ok..have texted but of course dont expect reply...

My work have still not responded..am vering between Towering rage and misery really now..I cant believe they cant even be arsed to send me an email..w***s!

I saw Atonement at the picos after reading the book and in both genres it had me in bits for weeks..sobbed so much after watching it this afternoon that when I went to pick L up from CM she asked me if something awful had happened..doh had mascara all over my face..

GP has referred M to the hosp as he could feel a weakness in her hip..I dont even know what that means really..but he said she would have to be X rayed and we would know more..am quite upset really,more the not knowing..anyone any experience of this?

Am going to add a new thread title I think..just out of respect for JW and M2lb's (but am not forgetting you dearest TYG)
Well am going to try..here we go..

Oh Scoot, just when things are sucky enough! I don't know anything about it but there a few threads in the archives if you can't be assed trawling through them...maybe post one yourself?