Oct 07 - this little piggy stayed at home...

[Dalrymps]

Hey guys sorry for the sh*t title, if there's already been a new thread set up please direct me there???

Good morning all!

Mrs F - So sorry to hear about your Christmas of mixed feelings. I never realsied you'd had such a tough time having Alex. I knew about Robyn but not the 6 mis carriages. Youa re amazingly brave to have carried on and I can totally understand your decision to not try again.
Your dad is still with you (I am a firm believer of that!) in sprit if not in body and I'm sure he would be so proud of your determination to have Alex and also of how great a Mummy you are.

I had my uni friend over yesterday and her lo (born in the same hospital as H and My dh even bumped into them in the lift as they were on their way out -I was in the throes of early labour) She looks amazing and her lo definately looks like her daddy!

H slept really well last night, until 5am. I had to have a double take at the clock as I really didn't believe it! I fed him then felt he was wet so changed him. He was wide awake then so I gave him a little more boob and then he threw up all over me so I ended up changing him again! (And his bed) he did go back to bed and not wake until 9.45am!! He was wet again and had to be changed so I have a load of washing already and it's only 10am...

Ollie is really pushing atm especially when I am feeding Henry. DH seems to think that he associates feeding Henry with cuddling him as as soon as I start he says 'cuddle mummy' and comes over to cuddle me and Henry which is fine but he upsets H as he sqeezes to hard or pokes and prodes him. I get cross as Henry doesn't like it and Ollie looks crestfallen. He's not jealous as such but it's tough when you're on your own as he just goes on and on and on until you either shout or do what he asks.

Oh good god, I'm so sorry Floria not Mrs F

Beat me with a wet kipper now....

Muppet; you can call me what you like!Though I'm not brave at all just desperate to be a Mum...and believe me I'd do it all again and again if I had only met my DH sooner; until him I hadnt met anyone I wanted to even consider having a child with, and I didnt meet him until I was 38, we married just before I was 40 and being that age, having endometriosis and polycystic ovaries as well as the chromosome translocation that would make 50% of any embryos non viable I didnt think having a child would be possible. But I got pregnant the first time 4 months after our wedding and though I lost it at 7 weeks it sparked off the maternal yearning that I haven't been able to let go ever since.Believe me if I found the genie in the magic lamp and was offered 3 wishes, the first would be to wind my physical clock back 10 years so I could try for another of these little miracles.

Thank you ALL for your understanding and your friendship and help over the last year...I just LOVE this forum and all you wonderful women..

...and yes I too think my Dad was "with me" in some way through it all, I just wish he could be here to share the wonder of our little darling now, but my Mum is trying to make up for his loss...she has bought Alex mobiles and toys and books and clothes for Christmas and when the last of the "Butterscotch" mechanical ponies was reduced at Tesco she bought him that too!...my aunt told her at the till that she had more money than sense, but the cashier who has served my parents for the last 10 years turned to her and said "If Neil was still here he would have bought it the moment he saw it, at full price too!" She was so right! and if my Dad was with my Mum in spirit whispering "buy it, buy it" in her ear, Alex is going to be a very spoilt little boy!

I'm still envious of those of you getting a good nights sleep. Alex was very poorly with this water infection on Thursday and had me feeding him every 2 hours day and night!... last night, with the abs kicking in, was a bit more like normal with demands every 3 hours....we usually get about 6 hours from 8ish pm till 2am and then 4.30/5am and 7/8am....I just wish I could get the 6 hours to be from 11/12ish but even if I lift him for a dream feed at those times he always wakes at 2 and 4.....oh well, back to the mantra "this is a stage, it will soon pass"....wish number 2 from the genie would be just enough money for me not to have to work even part time (I hate my three afternoons a week taking me from my darling boy, even if I am still in the same house!...that lovely poem a few pages back is so very apt!)...which reminds me, I'd better go and buy a lottery ticket!

Just done a very brief "catch up"

Alice..so glad that you got things sorted happily re the christening...very brave of you to confront the situation before it became a problem, I wish I had that sort of courage...I would have kept quite and brooded about it...good on you!

Buffy; sorry you have been so down, no wonder it hit so hard after all you have been through, and I'm sorry I haven't been a better buddy and kept chasing you up to see how things are going.(Too selfishly involved in my own little world, sorry) I hope that Scarlette is continuing to do well and that the new house is fantastic. It is good to hear that you have such a good HV. Look after yourself now and keep posting, I've found it helps to get all those little worries and niggles off your chest so they don't compound on the bigger issues. I'm thinking of you buddy and hoping things get better soon.

Right I'll go back and catch up some more before my lord and master calls again.(He's sleeping off the long pram ride he has had this morning while we walked the dog round the reservoir)

Thanks Ellen Polar Choc and Floria for your supportive messages about the christening! Floria I am also prone to letting things stew and did this before Christmas with the same group of friends and got myself worked up over nothing. So didn't want to do that again!

Floria you had a tear in my eye AGAIN!!!! Talking about your Dad still being with you and what the cashier said to your Mum! Stop it please! And it DOES get easier soon - When I had Sam it seemed that amoung my group of antenatal friends the babies that slept well early on regressed later (hoping this doesn't happen to those of you that have good sleepers!) and the ones like Sam that were rubbish sleepers got steadily better which I actually think is easier to deal with than getting used to good sleep and then getting worse...

Inzi and Stefka hope you get better soon - even the smallest thing that runs you down knocks you for 6 when you have to care for a lo as well doesn't it?

Polar and Choc I was told that you can take your los swimming whenever you like - the advice about waiting until after their jabs is not relaly necessary as the diseases that they are vaccinated for would not be caught by taking them swimming anyway. Think we took Sam at about 8 weeks. Haven't taken Adam yet but only because of being lazy! Choc there are baby swimming classes at Gosforth Pool, I think they are at 11ish most days. The Pool is really warm so its really good for los. I'm going to look into them - do you fancy coming with us some time?

Hello Winnie, LES, Muppet and everyone else!

We have been into town again this am and I have bought yet more sexy undies so my credit card will explode! Since I have been wearing maternity or nursing bras for the best part of 2 and a half years now I think its more than overdue esp as I'm not the same size as I was before Sam so all my old ones don't fit. Will be nice to try and feel sexy again especially as all I wear at the mo is jeans and t-shirt accessorised with Adam in the hugabub and various patches of sick and dribble!!!!

We have our flat pack sofabed to try and put together in a min when I drag myself away from the addiction that is MN and then probably going to pizza express this evening - wouldn't want them to go bust as we haven't been since Christmas Eve!!!! Catch you all later...

Floria, you've been through so much - you must be so relieved and emotional to finally have your little one. I can understand your feelings about wanting to turn your body clock back - I didn't marry dh until 31 and despite trying straight away, dd was born just after my 36th birthday, so I'll be lucky to have another unless it's much easier to fall pregnant second time around. I also have to go back to work soon - I can't afford not to - but I am dreading having to be away from Anya. I never thought I'd say it but I could quite happily never work again and be a stay-at-home mum. Not an option though. The plan is to go back part-time initially and work from home as much as possible, so hopefully I won't find it too traumatic.

Anya's feeding is now back to normal - over 30oz per day. Just need to try and go for longer between feeds now - she still gets cranky at the 3 hour mark.

Oh, thanks for those who suggested humanist ceremonies. I looked at them briefly before - not sure though, as don't really want anything that's too obviously a non-religious version of a christening. We had a civil wedding and my mum went round telling people "well it's not as though it's a proper wedding" because it wasn't a church one. Plus she stuck her oar in over every single decision - who we invited, who we asked to do things, the seating plan. I got quite upset and my dad ended up stuck in the middle, which I felt really bad about. It didn't spoil the actual day, but I don't want to have a repeat performance.

Aren't families difficult?!

Floria, you do have a way with words! Alex is a very lucky and loved little boy. My mum tried for 10 years before she had me, and when she did (by crash c-section - she has placenta praevia and it went pear shaped) the midwives told her I was the most loved baby in the hospital. I bet Alex was too!

Anyasmum, as I said my mum took 10 years to have me, then she had my brother 20 months later - so it can be quicker second time around when the pressure is off a bit.

Alice, at the sexy undies - though my tummy is so doughy now I would look ridiculous anyway. I'd love to go baby swimming though - let me know what you find out.

Winnie - I recall you had an Amby Nest-how long do you think it'll last Shula? Everyone else, are you los still in their Moses baskets/cribs, or are they now in the cot?

Trying to remember what other people said, and failing as usual... Strawberry/Dal, how's the feeding going? And Stefka?

We've been out for lunch and then to Sainsburys for deli food for dinner tonight. Easier not to attempt hot food as we have more of a chance of eating it at the right temp!

Hugs to Muppet, Mrs F, Buffy, Greedy, Winnie, and everyone else I haven't remembered...

Flora - I know how you feel about your father. Mined passed away aged 59 on 15th Jan 05 (My nans 80th b'day), I was 5 months pregnant with Sam at the time. He became ill with flu on Boxing Day got progressively worse with a chest infection and we then found out he had leukemia, which they couldn't treat because he was too weak with the chest infection. Its a real bummer because if it wasn't for the flu he could have been treated for the leukemia. I miss him every day, and my two boys have sadly missed out on a fabulous grandfather... oops must go, I'm making my self cry...

Chocolate - I put Ben in his cot at 6 weeks old

Choc - I am hopingt that the Amby will last until she is AT LEAST 9 months old. She is suc a little thing that it should last that long unles she really put on the weight. The spring is good up to 29lbs.

FT - you brought tears to my eyes AGAIN. My grandpa assed away when I was pregnant with DD1. He never got to meet her, but I am sure he is looking down on her and Shula.

Alice - I too am at you sexy undies. even when not bf is it difficult to find my size at a reasonable price.

I hope everyone else is ok.

HI all,

Had a good day today, we took the boys and the dogs to our local statley home + park and it rained and rained so much that Oliver couldn;t go o the swings. Dexter, or black lab, was still suitably scared by every dog we met today which is a shame as he goes through stages where he is happy to 'chat' to other dogs but today he gave them all a wide birth -even the black lab puppy we met

Managed to do the irong with H in his chair and the extracter fan full on -yes, it really does work! It was noisy but at least he was clam. Have just bathed him, boobed him and put him to bed. He wasn't that impressed but hey ho, he'll get the idea! I think he chuckled to day though it could have been a sqeak...

Dh at tennis now and I'm cooking whilst trying not to throttle Ollie. He's soo lovely but very demanding atm as he's had his own company for most of the hoildays. We have had a couple of playdates last week but even he says 'when can I go to school mummy?' Roll on next tuesday, though are now dreading the long summer break.

Hope all are well, whoever asked (sorry can't remember!) Henry is in his crib which should last him a long while yet. Oliver was in his cot by now -9 weeks as he was long and had grown out of the moses basket.

Speak soon
Emma
x

Hiya peeps,
this is one very tired and exhausted LES popping in to see y'all. Zachary has been snuffly for a few days now and today i had to rush him to the hospital in an ambulance as he was making terrible noises as he breathed, Turns out he has the beginning of a cold and viral infection and i am to give him calpol to perk him up.....he is still chattering away but is not totally himself poor boy......and on that note i am off to down another 60000 coffees to keep myself awake for a bit longer.

HOPE YOU ARE ALL OK XXXXXXXXXXX

Hi Les, hop Zachary gets better soon, thinking of you

dear all
I wish you would all stop making me well up with your postings - seriously though, sorry to hear that so many of you have lost people close to you. They would be very proud to see what wonderful mums you are though.
And its nice to meet other mums who have had their LOs later in life. It took me a while to find my DH, but after that we seem to have moved quite quickly into the marriage and baby thing, so we have been very very lucky. He is a fab dad and DH, even if he does snore alot!
Stefka/Ellen/Choc ? thanks for the messages of support re: the bf. Stefka ? can you remember what treatment you had for the thrush?
Polar ? tell me what sort of things your brownies are into and I?ll put my thinking cap on
LES ? hope Zachary is feeling better soon ? must have been quite scary with his breathing thing
Today we went into town and did a bit of shopping ? mostly Xbox and DS games though ? how sad are we?!! Tomorrow we are hopefully off out with our friends and their two year old for some lunch
Hope you are all ok!

tell me why is it when you're dead on your feet you cannot sleep for love nor money?????????? whyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy lol. make no sense at all lol zachary asleep, ds1 asleep dp asleep and me??? i am on the coffee again.....insomniac alert (sirens)

just had a quick skim through........

when i found out i was pg with zach i made the decision that somewhere in his name would be Michal, if he had been a girl he would have been Lilianne all one word. Michal was my darling dad who i lost on 13th dec 2003 at the hands of a stupid nurse who overdosed him 55 yrs old. and Lilian was my nan who i lost june 25th 2006. I have lost my grandad the year before dad went and others in between dad and nan. I sit here often and wish i could hold my new baby up and my dad tell me what he thinks, i wish i could phone my nan and tell her what he is doing etc. I guess I am just a quivering wreck and for some reason having Zachary has made me this, i could just about cope before but now i would give anything to have my dad back for 5 minutes.

this is something i wrote when my dad died...no laughing please

Daddy My life feels so empty now
No joy in what I do
The reason I am telling you
Is dad because of you.
You went from me so quickly and never said goodbye..
Now every waking moment I fight the urge to cry.
I wish that many things I did had never taken place
I keep remembering when i did and the hurt upon your face
You smiled through the pain and filled our lives with joy
Now where you once were is just a terrible void.
I sit and wait for you call and hope that it will come
Then i remember daddy you life is now done
I wish I could think of you and not remember pain
I know that no matter what I do my life will never be the same.
I close my eyes to sleep and see you laying there
I wish I could have stopped it and showed you that I care.
I held your hand so tightly and said I love you so
Whether you really heard me I guess I'll never know.
So with these mild words I'll tell you once again
Daddy I'll always love you ......... Now who will take away my pain?????? © Vaunda Hoscik

that is beautiful, trying very hard not to turn into a blubbering wreck.

MrsF, i found that the best way for me to express how i was feeling was to write it down. I miss my dad so much it is like a stabbing pain daily, i had just about been able to cope when i found out i was pg with zachary and i stared falling apart again. I don't know why i guess in a way i am jealous FOR zachary as ds1 and cousin both knew my darling daddy and zachary will never know him and he wil never know dp's parents as they won't speak to him as they are asses but thats another story for another day lol.

I have a lot of writings about my dad and i may just get the confidence to share them with y'all one day xxx

one to make y'all smile lol

My True Love
My true love isn't wealthy
He doesn't have a car
He can't take me out for dinner
But us we'll go far

My true love isn't working
But he thinks of me each day
He can't take me on holiday
But us we'll go a long way

My true love, wow what a star
He really cheers my day
He makes me feel on top of the world
Us we'll always be true

My true love likes to hug me
And tell me "I love you"
And when he sometimes offends me
"I am sorry this is true"
Us we'll always be together

My true love often tells me
The sun will always shine
Then he looks in my eyes and asks
"WILL YOU ALWAYS BE MINE"

My true love holds my heart
In a way nobody else could
He has the softest hands
And also the warmest heart

My true love let me tell you all
He isn't very tall
But when I watch him smile
I know I have it all
Us we are strong just like a wall

My true love yes he is young
But he means the world to me
My true love have you guessed it yet?????

My true love is............. MY SON

© Vaunda Hoscik
written about ds1 but shhhhhhhh don't tell him i love him so much lol

I was grateful that I had my dad at my wedding six months before he died, but like you a little jealous that he never got to see Sam, although he did know I was pregnant. He got to see my brothers little girl,but wasn't there for my brothers wedding, which was 7 weeks after he died, so at least we both had dad there for one important aspect of both our lives. I miss dad every day too, life is just too unfair sometimes xx

I like that one

Its too early to be this emotionsl - STOP IT!!!!

LES hope Zach is ok - Sam had bronchiolitis when he was 10 months and its terrifying watching them struggle to breathe isn't it?

Off swimming now with my lovely boys - hope the rest of you have great days xxx

hi all..
sorry not been around much, don't seem to have a lot of time...hmm wonder why!?!

Ronan doesn't sleep a lot during the day unless I take him out... nightimes he is still co sleeping despite trying the cot.
I shall have to toughen up soon though as sleep throughout the night is very broken, lots of feeding still.. every 2/3 hrs, but he seems to be thriving even if I'm not!

I can't bear to see his little face so distraught when I try and leave him in the cot - any top tips?

Has anyone got a baby bjorn sling they don't need anymore?
I just need an easy on/off one really, and he is such a big boy he really would do my back in if I tried to carry him all the time!

Will try and catch up with all your postings as soon as I can.

All the best for 2008 xx