April 2007 - Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Email on the way

[iMustBeMad]

hope no one minds the new thread!

pmsl, at Leaky and her lost braincells and at you pair being 'boob' buddies

Eca is tcmummy

Hey ladies

that's it!
cheers, was gonna have to look through otherwise!
and who is runny now?

Christmas concert was abit upsetting tbh. Nathan is one of the youngest having only turned 4 in august, I know he can sometimes find it hard to sit still for a long time and in the classroom he has a 'special place' by miss B so she can keep his attention. In the concert they were all stting in lines on the floor in front of parents on chairs. Nathan however was made to sit at the end, against the wall in between teaching assistant and Miss B. So quite obviously seperated from the rest so not feeling fully included and also impossible for me to see despite me being in the 2nd row. I spoke to Miss B and she said (before I'd even asked) that it wasnt cos he'd been naughty it was just cos he might crawl off. Well for 1 I doubt very much he would it was only a 30 min concert and he loves singing; 2 they could at least give him the chance and 3 its a fucking reception year christmas concert, so fucking what if he crawls forward abit ffs Miss B said would I like him to sit on the end of the line next time (again without me saying anything) so I said yes and left it at that but I'm really starting to worry they're viewing him as difficult and now not giving him the chance to prove otherwise iyswim. There have been a few instances lately that have upset me, and his dinner lady seems like a right old cow. I know he can be difficult and sometimes naughty but he's the first to tell me when he has been and he is trying so hard. It really upset me to see him sat to one side so obviously split apart, I could have cried

Sorry big x post, kept writing more then deleting it cos i was ranting on too much!

Boob getting better still although was still pretty painful with let down earlier. Lol at boob buddys!

oh pesha - that must have been hard. you must have felt so protective as well. bet you gave him a huge hug afterwards. not sure of the score but is there any way to talk to miss b about some of your worries??

Oh Pesha - it's so hard trusting them to other people isn't it - and seeing them just not 'get' our babies. Glad your boob is a bit better - I've just taken more paracetamol so should stop shivering soon I cannot believe I have been so stupid as to get mastitis after 3 children and a cumulative 30 months b/feeding. Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrhhh!

Pesha
I think maybe you need to start asking questions higher up, ask about inclusion policies and such like, and ask how they intend to help N integrate with the class more fully. Pre-empt it, don't let them exclude him more, but don't let on that you think they are either, just ask how they are going to improve it

Its difficult - higher up would mean the head afaik and I'm really not keen on her! I like Miss B and I think so far she has been very good. There was one incident when he was excluded from a cafe for something he didnt really know he'd done which I thought was too harsh and now this. I know rom working at the schol lunchtimes that they all play abit rough, if they squabble or say such and such hit me and such and such tells me yeah but he pushed me I just ell them to say sorry and play nice or play with someone else. It would have to be something very serious or repeated for me to tell their teacher at end of lunch. Nath's dinner lady tells Miss B any little play fight he gets into. Think will say something about that if it happens again. I'm just worried that Miss B has started helping him and is now sticking to it without giving him the chance to improve. But then I realise I dont know the whole picture. He is doing very well, knows all his phonemes, can write letters and is even starting to read a little which is an amazing achievement for him, 6 months ago he could barely draw a face.

Its so hard as I do feel extremely protective over him so I'm liable to over reaction but at same time under reaction to counter balance over reaction! Not sure where I'm at

Sorry for typos btw

ho ho ho

i have heard that eddas has been a very good girl this year and so bigonion will he hotfooting it your way with some gifts.

not to be opened until xmas day - i will still be watching you

pmsl
I know who you are now!

NL, sorry to hear you're in such pain, hope it clears up soon.

Maybe if you like Miss B it might be worth having an informal discussion with her and outline your concerns. Its awful when things are happening at school. Ds was being called names for a while (thankfully seems to have settled now) and I was so upset about it. Entrusting someone else with your child is so very difficult to do.

Runny is now iloveabargain.

i find it hard to think of anyone else having c - so i can only imagine how hard it must be when they go to school.

It really is difficult isnt it? With Maia she was nearly 5 when she started and very advanced (without being G&T mind!) for her age so not such a worry and she's very well behaved (for other people ) and keen to please so never had any problems. And Nathan has been my baby for so long. Add to that the fact that I had an awful time at school with some really horrible teachers right from the word go and ended up effectively leaving school at 14 and missing a hell of alot before then because I disliked it so much.
If I wasn't so lazy I'd home ed!

I think I will try and have alittle chat with Miss B although might leave it till after xmas when they're not so busy. Unless something else happens first.

I remember you saying about the name calling MJ and really felt for you and your ds, so glad it seems to have settled now.

Do we know what's happened to Claricebean? I keep seeing claricebeansmum around and wondering whats happened to our CB. Last thing I remember she was coming to England for a few weeks i think and we havent heard from her since. Or have I missed her?

oo how exciting! hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm let me think, who could me secret santa be

BTW my secret santa WILL be posted tomorrow, was going to do it today but needed to get the address from here and what a suprise the bloody internet didn't wort at all this morning anyway got it at work today so it's all wrapped just needs the address and it'll be flying to it's rightful place

Been SO busy today, haven't read the other thread but have read this one and my emails so I think i know where I am

Pesha for ds, hope he was ok, must be hard for him being so little. The school I want dd to go to do 2 intakes which makes sense really as the late birthday children are then that little bit older. DD will be 4.7 when she goes rather than 4.3 if she had to go in Sept.

Brain is mush today as I had work, i've been 2 whole afternoons in a row now got dd's nativity tomorrow and the christmas bazaar. MIL will be there now, hope she won't mind keeping an eye on DD for me

eddas
did you get my link on msn?

Pesha, I don't think they're the same person. Was wondering about her too.

Claricebean is a book, not that i'd heard of it til I got some leaftlet in the post the other day! from the charlie and lola people I did have a point but after finding the link it's left me brain. Think I was thinking it was a weird name(clarice Bean) til I saw the book. Does that make any sense or should I go to bed >>>>

No, haven't opened msn, will do it now

hi everyone
hope you're all ok
off to bed, sure I'll be up again in an hour or so

Thanks, have posted on it now.I kept meaning to email her but always forgot too many things going round such a small brain

Haven't read anything on here, but just bookmarking it so I can find it tomorrow! Night all. xx

Did get email, no probs. xx

Morning everyone

EPB - hope it wasn't too bad a night?
WO - have you made any progress with your childcare difficulties?
Elkie - thanks for the thought - I am pleased to report I am feeling a lot better! Really grotty last night - but pretty good nights sleep (apart from B feeding at 11 and 2 ) So you may all be free soon of me moaning about my sore boob!