Feb 06 - Happy 2nd Christmas

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Was there someone else we were supposed to add to stats (flame was recording)? Quick and simple version......

CAMERON, 6th Jan, , Born to Teuch, DC1
PEYIA, 23rd Jan, Born to TicTac, DC1
ALEXANDER, 24th Jan, Born to Yeahbut, DC3
MAISIE, 26th Jan, Born to ellenrose, DC3
JESSICA HELEN, Birthdate 30th Jan, Born to JuA, Twin 1, DC2.
EMILY ROSE, Birthdate 30th Jan, Born to JuA, Twin 2, DC3
T, Birthdate late Jan, Born to ChasingSquirrels, DC2
ASTRID, Birthdate 4th Feb, Born to EachPeachPearMum, DC1
LAUREN EMMA, Birthdate 6th Feb, Born to Morgan, DC2
PIPPA, Birthdate 8th Feb, Born to CSWS , DC1
LEWIS, Birthdate 9th Feb, , Born to Phoenix , DC1
EVIE HARRIET, Birthdate 10th Feb, Born to Hotmama, DC2
RHUARIDH GEORGE, Birthdate 11th Feb, Born to MrsDoolittle, DC2
BEN, Birthdate 12th Feb, Born to Kelbelle, DC1
OSCAR, Birthdate 12th Feb, Born to Chloe55, DC1
OSCAR, Birthdate 13th Feb, Born to JoFan
LUTHER, Birthdate 14th Feb, Born to Otter, DC5
BRAM, Birthdate 21st Feb, Born to mustrunmore, DC2
LUCA, Birthdate 21st Feb, Born to 2boysmacca, DC2
EMRYS , Birthdate 24th Feb, Born to Flamesparrow, DC2
ISABEL ERIKA, Birthdate 24th Feb, Born to Amiable, DC1
RORY JOHN, Birthdate 25th Feb, Born to dewmeadow, DC2
BOY, Birthdate 26th Feb, Born to Jas, DC3
SALLY ANIELA, Birthdate 28th Feb, Born to Thell, DC1
NEVE, Birthdate 4th March, Born to Frizbe, DC2
ALFRED WILLIAM, Birthdate 4th March, Born to damewashalot, DC3
Boy, birthdate 10th March, born to UniS, DC1

Book/Diary/Calander?

CSWS looks interesting, let us know what its like

Phoenix, yay for parking ticket

Chloe, sounds like bedtime could be fun at grans

Flame lol what are you like!

Boiler still working.....

MRM, went to aerobics last night too!! was a good idea, as aching less today than I was yesterday iuswim?
Hula aerobics is exactly that, get your hoop on and get wiggling, with one leg forward, one leg back, swap em, side by side, both together, round the hips (hopeless mine kept hitting the ground) round your waist, (ok at this one) and then round your hand (crap, kept throwing it at people ) very good fun, but you really ache the next day!

Fingers x'd for sleep here tonight, as dd2 crap last night......up 4 times..... but her hands and feet have grown? so that may have been it.

also a bit as I've booked my birthday present finally for tomorrow, that a friend brought me, its an indian head massage, but I can't find the bloomin voucher now had it last week when I booked it, but it appears to have gone really hoping they'll still let me have it without the voucher, they should have a record, right?

Hurray, thre arent many posts to catch up on!!! Er, I notice that no one missed me

So, ds1 had his nativity, dh had a day off, I went out one night, cancelled last night because I was in a foul mood (pmt, big argument with dl the night before...) I was more upset than I've been for a long time. We met on the way home from sep nigts out, so he gave me a lift, but obv had a bad day and came with loads of issues that were then ransferred into having a go at me apparently I'm a very bad parent and he could do it better wth my boys (opinons please; be honest!), very fickle and flippant, I dont have any sympathy for things, etc etc

Secret santa... nice toiletries? Have you got a place near you thats a one-off rather than just Boots? There's a nice one here that you could get a fivers worth, and they gift box it free!

Past Times have some jewellery on sale now too, and there's 20% off xmas things; I'm sure you'd get a nice nick knack in there. Or how about Sainsburys jewellery; you could get a nice neckmolace set for a fiver, and tissue wrap it atractively.

Good morning all...another dark and dreich one here today...

We are back on the teething powders as it seems to be the only thing that stops DS from tantrums and screeching every two minutes I think he must be getting molars as something is wakening him in the ealy hours and, since the house is quite cold by then,he won't go back to sleep in his cot and has to come and wriggle/chat/sing/finally snooze with us... [yawn emoticon]

Fingers x'd for the massage Frizbe!

CSWS I am very as I cannot remember the last time I watched something at the pictures...think it was when I was pg!

Ooo, and alot of the toiletries gift sets are half price in Tescos, so you could get something quite substantial for a fiver!

Bag?

Film looks good BTW, although it'd have to be one I reseved opinion on until i actuslly saw it! Hope you're having popcorn and fizzy too

I found the voucher, phew and it was lovely! very chilled out now, and in shop, as dh is at dd1's Xmas Concert (she chose him to go, rather than me apparently I can go to her school one next year!)
Have also placed Xmas eve order to pick up from the lovely Deli in next town over (although was horrified to discover they only took cash and had to run to cash point and raid the account, was trying to use credit....) and also have a tree too which hopefully will get put up tomorrow night, as dh want's to do it too, and we're open late night tonight.

Flame can I nominate you for eco business woman of the year??? there's a thing in this months Eve magazine?!

MRM sorry didn't mean not to reply, just trying to get a message down before another customer! lol....
Grrrr at lodger for you, so very easy for people to judge when they're not doing a job themselves I find I'm sure your doing just as good a job as the rest of us

@ DL - does he not remember the agreement on his door??? Commenting on parenting is NOT allowed.

If it makes you feel better - I came away from your house determined to parent more like you.

I have scanned the thread, but a bit chaotic and not really taken any in.

Also @ lodger. You are a great mum mrm, and could give me a few pointers wrt my big ones, I know.

Back later ....

Thnks Although I have my doubts about what I could poss do with 2 big dd's, or what on earth Flame could've learned from being at our house, as ds1 certainly wasnt v well behaved I'm glad you took in the rules though But they've gone in the bin in a tizzy now! As did his bedding nearly go out of the window that night! Am feeling much better after discussing with friend who is fantastic at listening and givinf impartial guidance (if thats possible?!) Texted him today, wasnt happy with his patronising answer, so sent a very blunt email back. Along the lines of how n oone had ever upset me that much before, and how its funny that all the things he criticised me about are things that are shit in his life. Did I mnetion I'm a bad mother for not affording a car to ferry the kids round in? And not being hocked up to the eyeballs with credit cards to buy a bigger house and stuff? Remember this man no longer owns and is bankrupt, and is a real part time parent. Ok, so I'm still wound up!

Flame

Lwt me share a moment of pathetic pride today though..... ds2 said 'wee wee' and got the step stoll up to the toilet, undid his sleepsuit, tried to undo his nappy . He diidnt actually wee, but he did remember to flush

@ ds2.

Well, you stay calm, consistent and positive. All things I know I should do (and tbh found alot easier when they were smaller) but don't.
Sounds alot like he is punishing you for his own shortcomings. You live in London fgs! you don't need a car!

Exactly. And even if I could drive and we could afford one, would I really justify having it? I'm not especially environmentally conscious, but a car for us would be such a ridiculous extravanance when we live where we do. My friend once said that I could then take them to PWP ans Willows every day. But would I want to? Ds1 went once a week as a littley, and that was educational for him. But if I took them every week now, what on earth would they have as a treat? Am I wandering off-subject here?
I'm interedsted to know what you think you should be doing with the dd's that you arent doing? As I do very little with the boys compared to what I should, I'm sure. I also know a few parents who think their entire existence shoulds revolve round their kids. I'm not suggesting ignoring them, like MIL did with her kids, but surely they have to br able to entertain themselves? I also know a 3yr old who feels short changed if he hasnt had a trip every day, just cant play alone without breaking things or whining for someone to basically play for him.

It is more what I shouldn't be doing Like shouting at dd2 every morning because we arealays late for school because she dihers abou in a dream.

Benign neglect is my pareting method of choice. Encourages independane and self sufficiancy

We shout to get to nursery on time at 1pm! He gets a 5 second countdown for about 4 diff things before he gets ready!

Certainly Oh, and another small covering up the word "cheque"

Jas - put it through as "pay by cheque" and I will clear it from pending.

Does that mean you havent got my cheque? I sent it in a xmas card last week. Er, when i said I did . Will try and search the date later.

Does that mean you havent got my cheque? I sent it in a xmas card last week. Er, when i said I did . Will try and search the date later.

BTW, after a series of texts last night, he's not coming back Its very complicated, but what it boils down to is that a genuine apology would've gone a long way, but instead he decided to carry on denying any blame for the argument and generally being a thoughtless wanker.Then he tried to call my bluff, but I didnt fall for it. So, weighed up against everything, I just cant have that to deal with, so its 'better' to write it off and concentrate on the rest of the people in my life. Thats only the second time I've ever lost someone from my life that I really care about, so its a very steep learning curve

You can have virtual sympathy from here.
Come to Holloway wih me today and go round the pound shops if you want real company. Tha is my plan for today....

God, how I widh I could!!! But have friends arrivinf for an overnight stay, and dh is on a rubbishy split shift (7-9am then 5-8pm), so I'm stuck! Cant even find time to go to friend who lives 15 min walk away, as I dont want to talk to her about this with kids around.

Oh MRM If I could, I would get on a train and come to you

Cheque - I have a card here that I thought was my aunt's handwriting so I haven't opened it because it is usually a money containing present card, but thinking about it, she normally sends presents for the kids so one lone card could be odd... will open it now.

Nope, was my present from my aunt

hmmm. You're looking out for a long thin little envelope. I sent it the day after you emailed me with total. If it doesnt turn up amongst the xmas post, I'll do another (or rather, dh will!) and trust you not to cash both How long do you want to wait? Or I can paypal, but then ther'll be costs!

Thank you. I really appreciate it BTW.