Dad wanting to take 4 yo daughter on a trip

[Mumgirls]

Hi,

My dh want to take my 4yo daughter on a trip to see his side of family while I will be here with our second born. My mum and dad will be with me to help me out.

I think 4 year is too young for a kid to go on trips without mum. Any opinions?

@Perroquet @CloseEncountersOfTheTurdKind Here’s me talking about my Dad being vaccinated in India.

Other end of the country for a week- no problem.

Abroad.. not now. Flights, quarantine, isolation rules can change at the stop of a hat and they might not get back in 3 weeks

Abroad (if you have any doubts about your relationship). Never.

@CloseEncountersOfTheTurdKind I am sorry about your mother. But @Perroquet’s thread doesn’t bring anything up. Actually my dad has prostate cancer but it is in remission. Maybe it will kill him one day but for now he’s alive and I was so pleased to see him. My mum had COPD and then lung cancer although her lungs were so bad that it wasn’t clear if that was the primary source. It was discovered weeks before she died and frankly by then she had too many other things wrong with her. She was on a ventilator and got a hospital acquired infection and died from it. Pre COVID.

@ChaBishkoot

What thread?? That does not link to anything. Jesus. My mother died in 2019. Maybe for the purposes of a thread (on who knows what) I changed the details from one parent to another. My poor father is well and alive. Lives on his own in India. And was quite pleased to see me. What did my dad die of btw?!

Here:

@ChaBishkoot

Yep, the screenshot that's just been posted. According to that your mother died 'many years ago' rather than in 2019. How many parents do you have?

Ah right. I did change details because I am sometimes worried about outing myself (I post a lot about my autistic DH as well). It was my mother my dad was calling about. Incessantly. He was in the hospital, she had collapsed earlier and he didn’t want to worry me and hadn’t called and he had just received the diagnosis. She didnt die a month later. (That’s another lie). She died six or seven weeks later. And I flew down three times in the six weeks actually. Once immediately, then one again when she deteriorated and then flew back. And then for her funeral. So it did happen (my dad calling incessantly about a medical emergency but no he didn’t die from it).

Not a bloody chance would I be separated from my child for that long!

And to give the full story about my academic Department. When I got my dad’s diagnosis (mid COVID) I did actually call my HOD in a total panic and flew down at short notice. In fact his condition was serious but prostate cancer even diagnosed late has a reasonable remission rate.

So it’s two stories I collapsed into one. My dad was sick. I did fly down and my Department was kind about it.
My dad did call incessantly about my mum. She did die 6-7 weeks later and I flew down a few times including for the funeral.

Happy to tell people (in private) who I am in real life and then name change if anyone has any more questions.

Also yes I did travel to India and it was fine.

And finally my Dad’s thing happened in late 2019.
My mum got sick in 2018 (late December) and died early 2019.

And actually I hadn’t been to India since that December visit in 2019. I told my dad I would be back over the summer which then never happened.

I apologise to anyone whom I upset but I wasn’t trolling on either thread. I was trying to provide humane and helpful information without divulging every bit of my life story.

OP even without it being India and the length of time I wouldn't have been thrilled for myself dh to take my kids away that young, just because at that age there's so many firsts, and trips like that are lovely to experience as a family.

ChaBishkoot you don't have to explain yourself, I'd say most people change details slightly here. Sorry for your loss

@ChaBishkoot it’s a bit weird that someone looked up your past posts, I screenshot it because you was getting concerned/cross, or seemed to be, anyone wouldn’t worry, lots of people change details.

[quote ChaBishkoot]@Perroquet Please find this mythical thread. (And I might be able to explain the context). Otherwise it might be that you owe me an apology. It’s a horrible thing to say.[/quote]
@ChaBishkoot I think it is you who owe me an apology! I linked the old thread in my post, and others have subsequently posted screenshots of it. With all due respect to your concern for privacy, publicly saying that your father died of cancer last year (when in reality he is still alive today!) is "a horrible thing to say" (in your very own words).

Evening, everyone.

This thread has been derailed a bit by all this. Now it seems to have been sorted can we draw a line and leave it there? The OP would probably like some more answers about her own situation.

Thanks.