December 2007 - Santa's come early for some of us...

[Housemum]

Thought I'd start off the new thread as I've never started one before - congratulations to those of you who are on here now - hope I'll be joing you in the not-too-distant future!

What time do you put your LO down for the night? I've noticed that 7pm is pretty popular and maybe we should be putting her down earlier than 10pm. But I don't want to fix what ain't broken so might just leave her to the routine we have.
Tried to wean her off the Infacol but had screaming ad-dabs from the wind so will stick to it, I've mentioned to all the professionals that I'm using it waiting for them to advise some adverse effects or "you should only use it for a week" But no-one seems concerned so shall continue until the bottle runs out.
Loucee I watch Lost, got it saved on Sky+ to watch this afternoon without annoying DH making comments all the way though, ie "Hasn't anyone found them yet?", Then me trying to explain it without getting at him!

Skidaddle, snap! DD needs alot more attention than DS

Skid sorry to hear you have been poorly again, hopefully that's the last of it now. I was wondering where you were. Also glad your ds is such an easy baby! Are you following any routine with him or just his own? V jealous of the one night waking! I have the opposite to you and Loucee-dd is really easy (apart from the odd tantrum and the fact she always poos when I am trying to settle or feed ds)and it is ds that is such hard work.

I think actually I didn't really bond with him until about two weeks ago -I was so sure that after dd having been a nightmare newborn he would be easy that I found it hard to deal with when he was even worse than she had been (especially as he seemed to start out easy but then deteriorated)!

I was a bit worried I was getting PND tbh but am feeling much better recently (although a visit from MIL is looming which could just send me over the edge!)

Forgot to add, had a bit of a fright with ds yesterday.
DH decided we should take the boys (dss was up this weekend) for a walk to the park. So loaded ds into his pushchair. I pushed it outside while dh and dss were getting their coats on. It was very cold, so went back in to grab my scarf, as I headed back out gust of wind grabbed the pushchair and it started moving (even though the brake was on!) dashed after it and managed to grab it before it tipped over on its side . Really scared the sh!t out of me! Ds was fine, hardly stirred!
I HATE this windy weather
And today I just cannot seem to stop eating cr@p either.

Hey skid - been wondering where you were!

Sorry to hear about the mastitis, I had my second bout of it a couple weeks ago too. Completely agree with you about having a toddler and a newborn, my DD1 (2 yrs) is so much more demanding and her tantrums have become much worse since DD2 was born. I keep her in nursery 3 mornings a week, but on somedays do wish she was in full time or look forward to when she has an afternoon nap.

Ambi - We usually put Aliya down between 9 - 9.30pm, so at least I get some sort of peace and quiet with my DH in the evening.

Bouncingturtle - agree with you on the crap eating - sometimes still forget I am NOT eating for two and over indulge myself.

hey everyone - im so late in joining!!! didn't know this existed. i was new to mn in late pregnancy and only used for reference really. anyway excuses over...ds born 16 dec, flynn oliver 6lb 9oz now 10lb 3 (last week). breastfeeding going great, thats my story in short!

a big hello!x

Hi Kelbel, welcome.

Glad to hear you're feeling better about breastfeeding Skid. Sorry you've had mastitis again.

Took DS too the docs today for his first jabs. Stupid healthcare people. I've now got to the point where I don't listen to them any more, and I'm really glad I have found that confidence. Poor DS screaming when being weighed and measured and jostled by trainee person. Stupid nurse who gave the jabs looked at me and said 'I think he's crying because he's hungry , he looks like he's got over hungry'. No you daft bint he's crying because he's being manhandled by an incompetant and has had needles stuck into him. They tried to make me bf him but he was so much in a tizzy he wasn't having any of it. They really look at you like you're a bad mum.

The doc was just as bad. First he took DS's dummy away and said he didn't believe in dummies (surely my choice), DS then uncontrollably crying. He said that as DS gets to 3 months, I'm going to have to live my life around his needs, eg get up in the night and feed him when he's hungry. What the f*ck do they think I'm doing . No I bloody leave him to scream all night!

Rant over. But as I said, am glad I've now got some self confidence. I don't take it personally any more. After all, Mum always knows best .

Right Wizzska, what is the name of that doctor? I am going to go and find him and bring him to my house and force him to look after my two dd's for three days and two nights without the use of a dummy...

...I challenge him to say he doesn't "believe" in dummies then.

What a total w*ker. If I were you I would put in an official complaint about that - good for you for not taking it too seriously but some women would be really thrown by that and think maybe they shouldn't use a dummy after all. It's been my saviour recently and has just sent my screaming baby off to sleep so I can concentrate on getting dd1 ready for bed (as well as catching up with Mumsnet of course...).

Skid - sorry about the mastitis and illnessbut very that you are back in your jeans! I'm another who is finding the toddler a lot harder than the baby. But I really am finding a quick re-read of the Two Socks book very helpful as it keeps reassuring me this is all normal and it will get better! Glad Milo is an easy baby though and Claireybee sorry you're still finding ds tough, Good though that things seem to be getting easier.

Bouncingturtle - I remember something similar happening with my pushchair when dd1 was a baby. I thought I had the brake on; I had turned away to read something in a shop window and suddenly heard these women shouting behind me - turned around and the buggy was in the middle of the road! It was on a slight slope and had rolled away. Luckily there were no cars passing at the time. It was still one of the worst moments of my life! (and they let me have another child!?!)

Loucee - a big Lost fan here and I am exactly like you - I remember when the old series ended and I was thinking forward to when the next one started and what my life would be like.

And here we are and it's total chaos!

Day One on my own; only another 14 to go.

just uploaded pics of ds

loucee - I have no idea what is helping ds sleep, all I'm doing is eating loads (still) so I'm hoping its keeping my milk very calorific because I'm still losing weight and he's a right bruiser
as for potty training ds1 is only having pants in the house but no accidents at all today we're trying it out and about tomorrow to see if once he's distracted whether or not it goes down hill... and finally v at sky+ I'm working on finding a good deal to justify getting it - apparently sky+ box was free before xmas if you got refered by a friend, wish I'd known that!

skid - sorry to hear your been ill but glad feeding is getting easier

wizzka - agree with clara what a w#nker! the dummy is your decision and there is loads of advice out there that saying how good dummies can be, I have a friend (speach therapist) who works with neno natal babies and they actively encourange dummies to aid development, sucking is the only way they have of comforting fgs, and HV advised me to introduce dummy when she saw ds1 sucking his thumb as dummies are othordontic and thumbs aren't....

Wizz - that doc was an arse!!
Kelbel - welcome, your ds is a cutie!
Clara - if you do get wizz's doc round, i'll drop my ds around too

Thanks for all the reassureance about the spots, ladies, I wasa getting too embarassed about them to take her to postnatal group (what she really looks like).

Ambi, re the Infacol. It isnt absorbed by the body, just passes through the gut. It works as an anti foaming agent on the stomach contents, making all the little bubbles join up into big bubbles that are easily passed. It is based on a large silicone molecule which is too big to be absorbed. So it isnt harmful to babies and is fine to use for as long as you need it. My niece went through a bottle a week until about 4 months.

Nice bit of news - the last lady from my AN class as had her baby - another boy!
So we've had 7 boys! We managed to get 5 of them together last week, hopefully we'll get all 7 will have to take a pic

glad for the posts about spots as lo has them too. Had clinic on Thursday and he put on 11oz in a week sp was wieghing in at 12lb1oz at 5 weeks. Still bf although he seems to spacing night ones a bit more. He is also have more waking times when he is interested in surrounding and not just wanting to feed. No proper smile yet tho.

Once again, first half of the night good, put him in his moses basket at 8.30, he slept through to 10.30, fed him & and changed his bum, put him down again. Fed again by bottle at 12:30am, then he woke again at 2am and all hell broke loose. Full blown hysteria. Changed his pooey nappy first off, then spent nearly an hour trying to calm him down afterwards because he was too hysterical to latch on. Eventually he did manage and fed for 40 mins, in bursts with winding in between (and lots of farting from him!). When he was finally satsified and a bit sleepy, put him down at 3.40am, awake but he soon drifted off. Woke again at 5am, screaming and arching his back and again with the farting! Took combined effort of me and dh to wind him, eventually got an almighty belch out of him and he went to sleep - clearly wasn't hungry.
Managed to get another half an hours sleep before it was time to get up!!!!
Now he is awake and in his bouncy chair and we are are watching Buffy! Seems happy enough though!
I'm wondering if it was something I ate that caused his really bad wind last night! Don't know what though...

in a rush to get to music group for DD but Bouncing - that is exactly how our night goes, DS really tired and goes to bed at 7ish then slept til 11.30 had a feed, woke at 1.30 had a feed, woke at 3.30 had a feed, woke at 6.30 and didn't really settle then was sick at 7am and I am sure it's all wind.

I've just ordered a new pump - can't remember if anyone has it, the medula swing? Suey am in awe of you being able to pump 5-6 oz from one breast, I will be lucky to get that from both. I am convinced boob size does factor in how much you can pump - I have tiny tiny boobs and although I fed DD well for 18 months I have never been able to express very much at a time.

oh heck I hope this music group is ok, the childminder usually takes DD but he's going to a funeral today so although she would still be at their house with his wife (it's a retired couple who have minded children for 10 yrs now) she would miss the group

Thanks thingamijig, feel very reassured I'm not poisoning her now. Insy, Sky+ is the only way watch TV, I can't watch normal telly now (and I watch a LOT of it!) Hope you manage to get it soon, they aren't cheap though.
Aww BT, you must be knackered, god I'd be dead on my feet with a night like that. I hope that you all get some real sleep soon cos it's not fair on you. Is it the DS's that are worse sleepers than DD's?

Yes we have a little spotty one here too, I'm blaming Daddy though cos he had acne when he was younger!
I'm glad we've found out it's the hormones /over producing oil in winter babies cos I've been trying to figure it out; Sleeping on her dummy/ allergy to washing powder/ grobag catching her face in the night. Phew detective work over.
Wizz - what a tosser, I'm dreading the injections but having people like that do it makes it so much worse.

Spent yesterday taking photos to get her smiling, We were finally successful, just uploaded, (God, I'm such a proud mama!) I love that she gurgles away now too. It's just a shame she's losing her hair bless her.

Hello, aww ambi you've every right to be proud she's gorge

BT, we had awful week with wind last week, I blamed the curry i ate (4 times!) but who knows?

Wizz that's awful treatment from GP, I've just changed mine this morning cos of last weeks debarcle with dd's rash - he made her cry by being so thoughtless and harsh. I was due to have my 6w post natal today and i thought sod it i'm not beig treated like that anymore and changed practice-feel really empowered! (BTW this is also the doc who said to me, oh just go buy a home test, when i was worried I had miscarried a few years ago and wanted confirmation )

We had spots too but they're gone now (funny you mention your dp's acne ambi, i was thinking the same about mine )

For all LOST fans-OMG!!! Watched it last night, I was scared out of my mind from start to finish-its sooo good. I've also got Heroes 2 to catch up on and prison break3, oh the joys of american tv!!!

Hi all! Have been trying for days to catch up on all that has happened in the last 4 weeks but I finally give up so I hope that you are all well and so are your LOs!

Right - start afresh!

Evie is doing well although she has a cold at the moment and is all phlegmy at the back of her nose and throat . She also has a temperature today and is not too hungry. She is still feeding at her usual times but not for long so am worried my milk will dry up. Guess we will have a few days of feeding loads once she is feeling better! She seems to be growing by the day at the moment too! She is wearing 3-6 month clothing now due to the length of her (although widthways her sleepsuits are massive!). She's very content in the daytime, sleeps a lot though! Have no idea how to wake a baby who wants to sleep (have tried) but thankfully she still sleeps well at night. She is also smiling more often and I was greeted with a beautiful one when she woke this morning! (Ambi, your DD is gorge BTW! Have put a couple more pics of mine on my profile too). She is often unsettled in the evenings but if I swaddle her in her fave blanket (no other will settle her) and hold her she is quite happy (and so am I). Don't honestly know where the last 4 weeks have gone, she feels like she has been in my life forever and I am totally in love with her! Between her, the boys, DH and the house there is not a lot of time left over but I am loving having a baby again!

As I was trying to catch up I noticed someone asked about winding techniques? The best one I have found for DD is to hold her in a sitting position facing me with her bum on my knees and then rotate her body (if that makes sense), gets the wind up nearly every time and much quicker than the other techniques which tend to send her to sleep!

Anyway, I really will try and check in a bit more often, keep forgetting that I could use the laptop in the evenings when she wants cuddling! Take care all, Beckle & Evie xxx

Insy do you already have Sky in your house?

Ambi your DD is so cute, lovely photos

Yay, made it to the music group and everything was fine, although I was a bit disappointed in the group (since I've never actually been before) and now am questioning if it's worth the £4.50 a wk to send DD (bearing in mind I am also paying the childminder to mind her for that hour).

Is anyone else finding it hard not having anything else to concentrate on other than babies? I love them so very much but at the moment I feel like I live for when I see my friends or the weekend. Maybe it's just catching up on me having a DD (whos 2 at the weekend!) and a newborn or maybe I do have PND?

OMG Heroes 2 is out? when did I miss that??

It is hard Loucee, my eldest are both at school so at least I get to see other Mums in the playground but when the DSs were small I often didn't see anyone other than DH for days at a time and it can get you down. He worked both days at the weekend and I felt quite isolated - sometimes I feel he is lucky to get to go to work and also pop and see his friends/work on his truck whenever he wants to.