December 2007 - Santa's come early for some of us...

[Housemum]

Thought I'd start off the new thread as I've never started one before - congratulations to those of you who are on here now - hope I'll be joing you in the not-too-distant future!

Thanks for the support everyone. I think I'm beginning to get more confident, and bless the little boy, he slept until 5 am last night so I feel a little better.

hi everyone!! Hoe exciting that I can join you!!

clairey - what you have written about douggie is almost identical to what I would say about my DS (Ruari? But not finalised - i.e. DH isn't completely convinced) and I would second what clairey and clara have said wizzska - bf was horrendously difficult for me last time too - I wept my way through the first three weeks and if my DH hadn;t been as amazing as he was I would definitely have given up. But at about 3 weeks it stopped hurting so much and things slowly started to improve - it will be the same for you although I know three weeks seems like an eternity when you have another agaonising feed facing you.

Poor Ruari has tongue tie so feeding isn't going too well with him and nipples are killing me too - but have an appt at the hospital in the next few days where they will assess him and decide whether to 'operate' - i.e. cut the little bit of skin under his tongue with a pair of scissors

otherwise he is so beautiful - I can't believe how much I love him so soon - think it took longer with dd because of the bf difficulties and DD is so gorgeous with me it makes me want to cry!

anyway he needs another feed so sorry for the long rambling message saying nothing and will try and write a more coherent one next time!

clara - feeding feels like that for me too - think it is just the result of an intial bad latch? what did the bf counsellor say about it?

oops better go

Wizzska - tried to send you an email through the contact another mumsnetter thing but it says your settings don't allow it?

Thinking of you - I agree with Clara and Clairey, first time round it's so different to anything else you've ever known and recovering from birth is a total shock.

Hi Skidaddle - and HUGE congrats - what an amazing birth you had! Hope all is well with little boy-with-no-name...and that you get the tongue sorted (is it obvious that he is tongue tied? It seems a very common problem but I am not sure what to look for).

Unfort hospital's bf'ing counsellor still on hols so off to our local breastfeeding support group (BAPS) tomorrow to see if they can be of any help. I am mostly using nipple shields at the moment, to try and let my poor nipples heal a bit, but I think it is slowly getting better.

I don't know if the problems were down to poor latch at the start or just one of thoe things. I think some baby's just suck harder than others!

Loucee - sorry never replied to your earlier question about thrush. I don't think that's it as m/w hasn't said anything and I have not had antibiotics but may check just in case.

Wizz - glad you are feeling a little better. Just keep talking (to us, to your other half, to anyone really), it sounds like you're doing great.

PS agree with Claireyb that although it's easier 2nd time, it's not EASY - I was in tears at 2.30am when I couldn't get Martha to sleep and I knew she'd be needing another feed and was dreading it...

Felt better when she then slept until 6.40am

Wow Wizz, 5am?? From what time? Thats brilliant!

Douggie slept in his crib for the first time last night which meant I slept a bit better but then this afternoon he has needed to be held the whole time! Not sure which I prefer-being able to put him down in the day (only asleep mind, he only sleeps on the breast and hasn't yet learnt the art of self settling!) and having him in bed with us or him sleeping in his own bed but wanting to be held all day!

I'm definitely not cut out for cosleeping, I love the idea of it but don't sleep well when I do!

I too am teary. Just emotional generally I think, and suffering from lack of sleep. Not coping at all well with visitors. I love people coming to see Rosie, but then I want them to go immediately!

hello,

just found the thread and coming to join you! Toby Simon - 16th Dec (due 18/12) (although ds1's middle name is simon and MIL says we shouldn't have it twice not sure as I like the idea of them having their dad's names and it goes really well any thing else wouldn't be significant enough...)

I'm just worried about having enough time for both my boys - ds1 is at mum's as he's got sickness and diorreha (sp?) and I'm loving ds2 but feeling a little detached from them both... I know its early days but it worries me to - feel like I've farmed ds1 out and missing him

hope you're doing ok x

Good luck to you all.....I was due last Dec, came end of Nov though1 My little monkey is just 1,and has just climbed out of her moses basket here in the lounge....

I seem to have caught another horrible cold
Really hope DS doesn't catch it-he is too young!

Am so unhealthy!

Insy please don't feel bad about DS1-I am only coping with dd because dh is doing most of it-if she was ill too I wouldn't be able to cope. Your parents will be looking after him and he won't hold it against you! I know it is hard but you need to rest and concentrate on DS2 at the moment and you can't do that if looking after poorly DS1

Just popping in, can't wait to join you guys! (hope I don't regret saying that in a few days...)

Shells, hope to catch up with you after Christmas. Would love to meet Rosie but fully understand how you're feeling right now.

Clairey - I managed to give DD1 a cold week 1. It wasn't fun but saline drops helped a bit and she seemed to recover quite quickly. It was a lot harder for me - all my immunity seemed to be being channeled into the colustrum or something! In the end echinacea tincture in heavy doses seemed to work to kick the lingering cough. Hope you get through OK.

Howdy girls, I've come to join you. Baby Louise was born yesterday at 6.53am weighing 6lbs 4ozs. Will post more a little later but must tidy this messy house.

Ambi - STEP AWAY FROM THE CLEANING!!!!
Trust me on this one with DD I tried to do everything cleaning ironing etc it is very hard - a new born baby is 24/7 work do not do anything else just look after you and baby everything else can wait

Hello - I am home - I am am bored. God - why didn't I do any Xmas shopping before hand. I never ever thought I would need a cs. Hope you are all well - this is quick note to touch base before I am off to try and do some online shopping.

Thanks Macdoodle, I'm just pottering really, DH will be hoovering for me later, will go for a nap later once more visitors have been, but generally feel ok at the mo.

Posted a pic that was taken this morning before she woke up.

Hi everyone and congrats to Ambi, Insey, Cazzy - anyone else? Good to see it's filling up a bit in here.

Cazzy - sorry you ended up with a section, it's not much fun (although am finding recovery 2nd time round a lot easier). It's very frustrating when you want to get on with things but know you have to rest. Luckily as I guessed I would probably end up with one I was very organised and did all my shopping in advance.

Claireyb - am also having nightsweats about how to look after dd1 when dh disappears. He's going up to London tomorrow for meetings/Christmas lunch so it will be a dry run. I thought my parents were coming but got the days mixed up and they are here on Thurs instead....

Have had a breakthrough with the breastfeeding. Saw the hospital specialist today and she was excellent. Went through the exact positioning in great detail and when I tried it when I got home ALMOST no pain! Fantastic....

Now just need to get Martha to sleep all night instead of all day....

Better go, have left her asleep upstairs in her chair and keep hearing her making funny noises throught the monitor - hope she hasn't collapsed sideways or something!

Ambi honestly don't clean! The first 2 weeks you feel like you could fly to the moon but afterwards it hits you and you'll be exhausted! I completely overdid it after dd and the recovery period was horrendous.

Good luck for tomorrow Clara-will also be my first day alone with both of them. As I'm not 100% though I'm going to see if my dad can come and help me out, really hope he can.

Think I spoke too soon about the breastfeeding going well, ds made me sore last night, wouldn't latch on properly and kept clicking as he fed. Also my right breast has a really fast let down which is choking him and means he stops feeding. Had the same with dd and she eventually got used to it-I fed leaning back to slow it until she did but ds doesn't like me leaning back when he is feeding so not sure what I can do!

Congratulations Ambi. Louise is a lovely name. Hope your house is still messy. Mine certainly is! I'm also fed up with still being in pregnancy clothes. My tummy has gone down loads, but can't fit into anything different and SO SICK of wearing the same stuff. Especially since a lot of it is now covered in baby sick and so even more horrible!

Hi everyone and congrats ambi! As everyone else has said you should DEFINITELY NOT be cleaning. clairey speaks wise words re recovery - I think I have already overdone it this time as I felt so great after the birth and am now suffering the consequences - increased blood loss and generally feeling rubbish - why oh why didn;t I listen to you clairey!!

cazzy - can;t BELIEVE you are BORED You have THREE children

claraq - fantastic you got to see the bf expert and hope things improve quickly. Milo (his namer for today at least ) had his tongue tie snipped yesterday so am hoping to see some improvement soon but still hurts like hell plus my milk came in yesterday so my boobs are all engorged nd he can't latch on properly

Had a very scary thing happen last night - went to the loo and there was this massive thing hannging out of me - it was completely grotesque and I almost started hyperventilating through shock. We think it was a bit of membrane and the mw is coming to give me a swab etc today but if there was any placenta in there I might have to go in so they can manually remove it - makes me shiver just thinking about it - DH had to pull it out for me because i was shaking so much - now that it true love for you!!

clairey - I think it's so up and down with bf - you have one great feed and you're on top of the word and then an awful one and you feel like it's never going to get better - hopefully we will all be beyond this horrid stage in a week or two

btw I have been using a sling with Milo and it is the best thing ever - he is so happy in it and it means I can do the washing up/come on mn/phone people etc without worrying that he'll need picking up - would highly reccommend one to anyone with a baby who finds it hard to settle

What sling have you got?? I had a Baby born with DD (many moons ago) it was okish but am wondering whether I should get another time ???

macdoodle - it is called a mobywrap - one of those long pieces of cloth that you tie round youself - really comfy and easy to use although best for round the house as not v. warm
you're not officially here yet are you? can't be long though

claraq - forgot to say - think they would spot tongue tie in the hospital - the mw spotted milo's within 20 mins of birth - it is quite obvious
also good luck with having the both of them by yourself tomorrow!

2nd/3rd timers - how are you finding your older children are coping with the aarival of new baby? although dd loves her little brother she has been acting up something rotten - 10 tantrums a day at least! i'm trying to be patient with hwe but must confess i really look forward to times like this when it is just me and ds - makes me feel really guilty - does anyone else have these evil thoughts?

insy - just saw the pics - he is gorgeous!

ambi - just read your birth story on the antenatal thread - sounds really hard going - hope you are feeling ok now and all the more reason not to clean!!

adding myself in...

3littlebears - BOY 5 Oct (due 27 Dec)
Beachbunni - BOY end Oct (due early Dec)
Kerioke - Logan Vann 5 Nov, 5lb, 7oz (due 14 Dec)
Kitsilano GIRL, Lana 19 Nov (due 6/12) 7lb 11oz
thelady - Frances, 23 Nov (due 4/12)
Wizzska - Boy, Rory, born 2nd Dec, (due 2nd Dec)
Beanstermummy - Girl-Freya Elise, born 7 Dec (Due 30 Nov)
Claireybee - Boy - Douggie - 10th Dec (due 10th Dec)
Claraq - girl - Martha Erin - 11 Dec (due 1 Dec)
Shells - Girl - Roisin (Rosie) - 12th Dec (due 6th Dec)
Fifisworld - Boy - Ethan - 13th Dec ( due 17/12)
skiddadle boy - Milo - 14th Dec (due 11/12)

Hi everyone, hope you're all having stress-free days!

Skid - Congrats on chosing a name for your ds - Milo is a lovely name. Sorry to hear about your horror experience - I hope they get whatever it is sorted out!
I agree about bf'ing - I go from utter despair (in the night when it was excrutiating again) to utter joy (this morning when it hardly hurt at all and was like I remembered it from a few weeks down the line last time).
I thought it would be easier 2nd time round but if anything I think it's harder.
Claireyb - hope you are getting on ok on your own.
I have actually found today on my own pretty easy. For some reason dd is behaving better than when her daddy is here - maybe things feel a little more "normal" for her?
Otherwise she has been mostly good but is obviously a little upset by everything. She seems pretty keen on her baby sister but I think she was hoping she might be a bit more exciting and actually play with her!Could ramble on but have left them both upstairs asleep witout a monitor so better check they are ok!!

Hello everyone

I havent had a chance to catch up properly yet but i will do.
Congratulations to any new babies. The ante-natal thread is quite quiet now, i think this one will be filling up soon.

Ethan has settled in really well, ds is still bessoted with him. In fact ds hasnt bothered much with me which is a bit upsetting but hopefully he'll be ok soon. I feel awful that i cant pick him up yet

I'm feeling all teary and hormonal today, dp has 'man flu' and is getting on my nerves and he's snapping at me coz he's tired as his sore throat kept him awake, i feel like kicking him i really do. I dont want to be near him atm.

hi fifi and clara - glad to HEAR YOUR DD AND DS ARE TAKING SO WELL TO THEIR NEW BABIES.

oops sorry for caps lock

have just been to the doc and I have mastitis and a vaginal infection for which I need two courses of antibiotics, one of which will turn my milk sour - I was so determined with the bf this yime round - I just knew I would do it 0 but what can I do if ds doesn;t liek the taste of my milk?

oh no there he goes, sorry for depressing message

Hiya all, just a quick one to say thanks for stopping me cleaning. Had a tiring night so can barely function today, am off to bed shortly. Love being a Mum though and am totally in love with her. She's slept most of today, feel cruel waking her up when she's well away but I think that this doesn't bode well for tonight!!

I'm enjoying BF too, she's got a powerful suck so it stings but it's not agony like some of you are experiencing, (not yet anyway and I hope it doesn't get worse for me) I hope that you get help and it does get better for those that are soldiering on. I'm hoping that although my nipples are tender, they'll strengthen. (Thanks beanster for the kamillosan tip, good stuff) Also pleased that my swollen bruised undercarriage is starting to heal, very scary at first touch, thought my insides had come out !

Oh skid, just read about mastitis & infection, you poor thing, here's a hug from me before I slope off to bed.