Babies born Nov

[Riebee]

Right oh this should be ok this time. I hope I've done it right this time - If not I'm giving up!!!
Posted the thread under pregnacy last time.

wow - I am a real saddo - was absolutely knackered... out in the sun for the morning at the beach took it out of me.... ( no boasting here ) I fell asleep in front of the TV about 9pm and then staggered off to bed, fed dd2, muttered happy new year to dh for midnight and crashed out... party animal me... mind you - dd1 was bright eyed and bushy tailed at 5am the next morning and new years eve morning we were up at 5am with dd1....

Happy new year! I did manage to stay up, but it was a bit of a trial! We seem to be ending up staying up that late or later with DS still anyhow.

Hi Gingernut! I saw your tip the other day, thank you! Well we have had two nights wrapped in a pillow case without much success. He has stayed in for half an hour at a time, maybe a bit more but soon wakes up and wants back in!! I wonder if the room is too cold? They say the ideal is 19 degress don't they? Well I like to sleep in a cool room but this really is cold! I wake up with cold nose and so does DS! He dosen't seem to sleep as long when it is this cold and frankly I'm not surprised! How the hell am I to get it that cold in the summer? What do you all do? x

Floss, I would try a grobag for him if you think he's cold. ds2 is already in his, crammed into the moses basket! And it doesn't matter if the room is a bit warmer...just check how warm he is and adjust clothing/bedding if necessary. And in summer, you can't keep the room that cool unless you have air con, you just put them in fewer (or no) clothes and less (or no) bedding.

When you say he wants back in, what does he do? I mean, does he stop crying as soon as you lift him or is he generally a bit unsettled and needing to be comforted but still griping even if in your bed?

Hi again Gingernut!! He will go in, and stay asleep for a while, if he dosen't wake up on the way in IYSWIM!! Then he will cry, and will only settle in our arms or in bed with us. The same will happen over and over again. He does seem to use my breast as a comfort mechanism. A dummy dosen't help him sleep ever, he just sucks on that for a few minutes untill I get to him, if not in time will spit it out and get upset again. Don't like to use it much as the only way it is helping is to keep him quiet, which isn't the answer is it? DP is on nights in a few days, so I thought I would just give up on one of the nights and stay up and keep on putting him back!! At the moment it gets to 1 or 2 am and I decide I've had enough and give up. He seems to settle a bit better when DP isn't here too, although I don't know why that might be. I will try the growbag again tonight. I'll tuck the pillowcase into his basket and see where that gets us! Off to cook tea now, then bath time and bed!

I'm trying to feed him in our bedroom in a darkened room at the moment in the evenings so that he gets the hint it's time for bed. In our lounge, with all the christmas lights and the four uplighter lights we have on our walss he gets easily distracted and will just stare and stare and smile at them!! Hasn't really happened for the past two nights. We will go out and buy a cot now, I'm sure other people on here have said that babies who didn't sleep in baskets sleep in cots... I also wonder if it has something to do with not being able to see out of the basket, he might be able to see out of the cot and know either that he is in a familiar room or that we are close. Clutching at straws I know! Thanks for all your advice though Gingernut, you are a star!

Hi again Floss. It is still early days and I'm sure he will settle down once he is more awake during the day (just concentrate on making sure he is awake for a while during the day...it'll come). And you're right to keep lighting low at night. He may well prefer his cot as you say. Some babies hate the restriction of being in the Moses basket. Other things to consider: does he dislike being on his back? You could try him on his side, supported by rolled up sheets to stop him going over onto his front or back on his back (just don't admit it to the HV!!). Try warming the basket with a hot water bottle before you put him in so he doesn't notice a difference in temperature. Our ds2 is similar in that he loves being cuddled to sleep and held while he is sleeping, and he is inclined to wake on being sneaked into his moses basket or rocker chair. But things are improving maybe because we've been trying some of these things. It's worth persevering with the dummy as it takes a while for them to work out how to keep it in, although he may prefer his thumb when he finds it. IMO it's perfectly fine to use one if they want the comfort of sucking which both of mine have (it's probably genetic, I sucked my thumb till I was 11 or 12 ). ds1 gave up his dummy when he discovered his thumb.

I completely understand why you want to get him out of your bed, but don't be too hard on yourself (or him)...if that's the only way you can all get some rest at the moment then do it, just work on getting him used to sleeping on his own whenever you can. It will probably happen gradually, as most things do. I have realised that we solved almost all the things I worried about with ds1 eventually (things like getting him to eat solids, use a cup instead of a bottle, then use a cup without a lid, and getting him used to his bed). It just takes a while for them to get used to each new thing.

Well, I'd better go and get ready for bed...dh back at work tomorrow after lovely long Christmas break so I shall have less help from now on.

Hello everyone

we made it to midnight..just, and mainly because dd2 is always awake until then.

She's always very unsettled in the evning and wont sleep until 11pm or midnight...

Anyway when she does she eventually goes in the moses basket, so I'm not complaining!! Dd1 hardly touched her moses basket so I know how you feel Floss...sorry to say I have no tips for you though, she just gradually learnt to sleep in it.

DD2 is still feeding a lot at 8 weeks...at least every 3 hours, except at night when she does a 4-5 hours stretch, what do your babies do?

Gingernut, thank you so much for taking the time to post all your helpful advice. You have been lovely. I hope the past couple of days withoug DH have been ok. I used to suck my thumb too, I put myself through an intense weaning programme when I was ten!! You say about wanting him out of our bed, well in truth I suppose I don't really, I love waking up with him in the morning. But I worry that he will be 'spoilt' or that it is too warm for him etc. I try not to have him under the duvet, but wake up with him in it etc. I worry that he should be able to sleep without me otherwise I have visions of him aged 14 waking up and asking me for his breakfast!!

I have been putting him in his growbag, and we have been able to get him in the basket for half and hour to three quarters of an hour at a time. With picking up for a quick cuddle back to sleep he was in there for two hours last night. He's had his jabs today so I'll be a little more gentle with him tonight! I haven't tried the hot water bottle, but atm it just seems like he opens his eyes briefly, realises where he is and wakes himself up.

Webmum, DS is still so erratic with feeding. Whatever he is doing is working, he started on the 25th centile and is now nearly on the 75th. But feeding varies from 2-6hrly, no matter if it is day or night. I hope your dd settles soon. How is everyone else?

life is slowly settling down - dd feeds around every 2 - 3 hours during the day and then goes from 10 until 5am or so at night. Am a little concerned as it is sooo hot here... trying to make sure she ( and dd1) do not get dehydrated.

started back at weight watchers last night. Had been going prior to getting pregnant with dd2 and managed to lost 2 stone. Was really worried I had put it all back on but was pleased to see I had only put on 3 kilos... since my last weigh in around March last year. So hoping for a slimmer, newer me by the end of the year.

Dd2 is almost 8 weeks - can't believe the time has flown. She is really smiling a lot now - expecially for her dad. Dd1 tried to help me yesterday by tring to feed dd2 her bottle sooo cute. Poor dd2 is getting smothered with kisses and hugs at the moment... dd1 is going through a phase of wanting to kiss everyone all the time - big smackers too!!

Not much else to report here - just moseying along trying to keep cool. Off for a family portrait next weekend ( our first) and dd2 is due to have her first lot of vacs.

otherwise all is the same old same old in the eidsvold household.

Hope all is going well for everyone else.

Great to hear all your news. Dd is so gorgeous and peaceful but she does still feed every 2 hours through the night. I spoke to my hv today hoping for a solution but she basically told me I have to put up with the frequent feeds if it is what dd needs . I am knackered. I didnt make it till midnight on NYE but I was awake and feeding shortly after.

On the weight thing, cant bear to get on the scales but I am very very wobbly and big round my middle. If I can summon up the energy I am going to venture to Slimming World next week, I really want to be my old slim(ish) self by summer.

DS2 slept from 11pm til 4.30am this morning which was bliss. He took 3oz of EBM and then slept til 9am. Hurray.......a routine is forming!

Had him weighed on the 27 Dec....average weight increase in 2 weeks is 480g.....ds had put on 860g!! The dr couldnt believe it! I must have great milk! He is growing out of lots of clothes and I have to give them away which breaks my heart as I know I wont have anymore!

Weightwise......I am in shock. The week after I got home from hospital I tried on my size 12 jeans and they fit! I had 2.5 stone to lose after ds1 and nothing this time. I weigh less now than I did when I got PG. This is only amazing because I have been on a diet ALL my life and this is the first time Im not.

Ds1 is so sweet to Ds2 and the other day I heard him say, 'Joshy, I love you so much....you are my best friend!!!'

Hello all

Well a pretty crappy start to the new year for us....just got home today after 4 days in hospital with ds3 .we all had colds over christmas and his developed in to bronchiolitis
I took him to the doctors and they gave him some antibiotics in case he had a bacterial infection and gave me an appointment for the next day, when I went back, the doctor examined him and told me I needed to take him to hospital.It took me completely by surprise as I didn't think he was that bad, I burst in to tears in the surgery and the lovely doctor mopped up my tears.After that things happened really quickly and by that evening ds was in a little oxygen tent/car seaty thing and was being tube feed . He must of been really poorly because normally he hates his own car seat and he just sat in there and slept on and off for 24hrs.I spent most of my time being milked like daisy the cow on the expressor.
I'm glad to say they he seems to be recovering well now and we are so pleased to be home. We have had some lovely smiles off him this afternoon.. It is so nice to see He is going to have a nasty cough for approx 6wks and I am banning anyone who has got a cold from coming to see us as we are due to fly to Florida on 2nd of Feb and I just praying he does catch anything before then.

Off to buy a cot tomorrow as he has been sleeping in one in hospital and I'm not sure he will want to be wedged back in his moses basket...he never liked it much anyway!

Collision- lucky lucky you with the old weight loss . I think I may have stressed off a few pounds this week, hoping to resume diet on monday as the hospital food scuppered it a bit, they don't seem to be in to slow release carbs!

Hope you all doing well.

Merry Christmas and a happy New Year everybody!!

Hope everyone had a good one.

We had a fab new year. We flew out to Cyprus on boxing day and had 10 lovely days of being in some lovely weather. We even went up to the mountains to show DD and DS the snow.

DS was2 months last week and he has a fab evening routine. He goes to bed at about half 7, the same time as DD, so we get the evning to ourselves which is nice. He was waking up only once during the night but this has increased recently to 2, sometimes 3 times. Don't know why. Am still breastfeeding and really proud of myself!

Ds is a strong little mite. Likes to try to push up to standing a lot, and also lifts his head like he is trying to do sit-ups! Hates lying down which is a nitem,are as I have to wlak about with him a lot. Graco electric swing thing is a god-send tho!

First injections tomorrow so I will get him weighed then.

Riebee - Sounds like you have had a horrid time recently. Hope things perk up soon and that you can enjoy your holiday.

Collision - nope. No pressie from DH this time round but with DD he bought me a pretty expensive Tag watch so I can't compain too much. And for my birthday on Jan 1st he bought me a white gold bracelet. I can't compain really!

x

Riebee

how scary it must have been, I'm glad ds3 is better now.

Dd2 is starting to space out feeds a bit more, still goes down very late in the evening, but she does have little naps on her bouncy chair and seems quite happy to lie there even if she's awake, so we odn't have to rock her all the time, and I manage to have my dinner without breastfeeding at the same time!!

mil has finally left and I ahve 2 whole weeks without any visitors before I go to see my family, but then its different as I'll be staying with my mum!!

good to read about all your little ones. sorry i havnt been around everythings good here but ill have to update you all another time
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Webmum I wish DS would just sit there and have a look around. He's not happy unless he is being carried around so he can see everything. But he does go down easily in the evening so I can't have it all I s'pose!

Well DS had his firsat lot of injections yesterday and boy did he scream (I could hear him from the waiting room - I'm a wimp - get my mum to take them in!). Think it really shocked him as he went to bed last night at 6 and didn't hear a peep from him til half one. But then he was up most the night with a blocked nose so he couldn't breathe properly. Has slept this morning since half 8 and is still sleeping now, bless.

He is 10 (i think) weeks today and yesterday weighed in at 12lb 5oz. Although he seems a lot heavier to me!! And he has got that cute fat coming on his legs that make babies look sooo gorgeous!

Hope everyone is ok.

Anyone broody again yet? Nope? Just me then!!

x

Mum2E.....Broody!!!!!!! good god NO
I can honestly say that ds3 is the last of the bunch. It really weird but I think I would rather walk on hot coals than be pregnant again, maybe it's because I had a crap pregnancy this last time.I must admit to feeling a tad sad that he has grown out of some of his 0-3mth clothes
Ds seems to be so much better today and fingers crossed his cough doesn't seem to be as bad as the doctor predicted. I got him weighed yesterday and the is 1oz short of 15lbs and thats with him being ill aswell!. I don't know where it all comes from because he's not really that chubby, he is pretty long so maybe thats it. It's no wonder my back is killing me!

M2E, I was lying in bed last night hoping I get another chance to experience labour again! Although with dd in our bed most of the time I cant see us actually getting as far as conceiving another baby for a while!

Dd is so sweet, lots of cooing already and some really gummy smiles that melt my heart. She is 10lb already so growing fast. I am determined to enjoy every minute of her babyhood as I know how quickly it ends.

Hi everyone! Sorry you have had such a rotten time Reibee, hope you are right and DS is recovering super fast, bless him!

We are still the same, DS causes problems at bedtime every night and refuses to settle, although, not wanting to spoil my luck, he was much much better last night and slept through from 1 till 7.30. I'd be amazed if it was repeated. Am wondering if it could be still to do with an over supply of milk, it's so hard not being able to open them up and see how much you've got in there!

M2E, broody, umm yes. That completely vanished for me whilest I was pregnant, now back with avengence! DP says he only wants one, which makes it all the worse. Labour wasn't as bad as I was expecting, and DS is growing up so so fast. I want him to stop! I can't bear the idea that I'll never have a baby that tiny again . I can't believe it's already an issue really. I was an only child and didn't find it fun. Last week DP did say we could think about it nearer the time (whenever that would be... umm, how about now?!!!) though so hopefully the writing isn't on the wall just yet. Now hands up how many of you think I'm completely barking mad?!

Floss......yes you are bonkers!! Sorry you are having a bit of a hard time with ds.....it is hard work being a Mum!!

We are definitely sticking with just the 2 boys! I think I would go for a third but the logistics are awful. I wouldnt be able to work in the restaurant, we would need to move house and need a bigger car and we cope well with 2 and I think if we had another DH might have a breakdown!!

DS2 slept from 12.30am til 6.20am which was great. He BF for 5 mins in our bed and went down again til around 8am.

With the expressing, Floss, try and do it a few times in the day to make up a bottle. Even if you sit down for 10 mins with a drink, you can express. I am building up a lovely supply in the freezer. If ds wakes up and needs you, just leave him to cry for a while - it wont hurt him and when you have a full bottle you will be so proud of yourself!

bunny2 I know what you mean, I am also determined to enjoy every second with dd2, time with dd1 just flew by ina hazy mist (due to lack of sleep and depression) and ahve no idea what I did during the first 3 months of her life.

I am also quite sad at how fasts he's growing. She's changing so quickly!! It's lovely to see her smile to us, but I also miss the misty eyes of her newborn days when they can't quite focus yet, and her smallness and curled up body.

I'm not exactly broody yet, but I definitely want another one, just not sure when yet, I want to fully enjoy dd2 first!!

Well DS has had his first cold, so the slight resemblance of a routine has vanished, not least because I've caught it now, so one very late and naughty lie in this morning after a very broken night (DS, not me!). Hoping that we'll have a chilled out day today, early night again tonight and start afresh tomorrow. Last night was the first night since my last post that he hasn't gone at least 5 hours between feeds.

I do think that it might have been caused by my milk supply decreasing at night, since giving him the bottle he needs less from me and has been generally happier. Also, if my boobs feel particularly deflated during the day (today for example!) He seems to need to feed more frequently and is not such a happy baby.

Had a disasterous day yesterday, DS was feeling poorly and wouldn't settle on his own so carried him round, manage to catch his little head on the cupboard door. The later when I was thick with cold, i put him in his basket to sleep,and i really have no idea how, at all, he managed to fall out. I had stayed with him for a minute to see if he would settle and walked to the other end of the flat by the time it happened. Absolutely horrible. I've tried to recreate how it could of happened but I just can't. Ds is fine I think, no marks or lumps on his head and all his little limbs seem to be fine. Just all in all a horrible horrible day yesterday and I'm left wondering whether I should be allowed to be a mum. Poor, poor DS.

all is well in the eidsvold household. Both monkeys continue to be cheeky - dd2 is so full of smiles and coos and chats away like mad. SHe also loves watching to see what dd1 is up to.

We went and had some professional pics done on the weekend - hopefully they will turn out all right. We got a free sitting and pic as part of the bounty bag I got when dd2 was born - unfortunately the photographer's customer service skills left a lot to be desired and had I paid for the sitting I would have been even more unimpressed than I was ... will try a different studio or just go to the local guy and pay for the sitting - perhaps then we will get what we want...not that I wanted much - jsut some pics with all of us, with the girls separately and then the girls together. ANyway better stop raving.

Dd2 had her first set of vacs today and so is a little grumpy. She managed to scream the docs surgery down - the GP is fab though and she didn't care... although dd1 gave her a filthy look as if to say - what did you just do to my little sister.

Dd2 continues to sleep through from about 9 - 10 pm to 5 - 6 am ... last night she went off about 9 and woke at 5.30 when I stirred her figuring she might be a little hungry. Then she went back to sleep until it was time to go to the docs... managed an 8am sleep in.... unheard of in this house.

I can;t get over how gorgeous dd2 is - dh and I did a great job - they must get their looks from their dad - dd1 is soo gorgeous too. I can;t stop looking at both of them... lovely blue eyes, long eyelashes fair hair.....and big smily faces.

Flossam - we all do things like that and there is no rhyme or reason as to how little babies do things.....

I had dd1 who never moved an inch( she was not rolling voer or anything!!) suddenly roll herself off the couch one day... I had just popped into the kitchen to get her bottle and all of a sudden she starts crying - I came back to find her on the floor wondering how the hell she got there..... She is contantly falling over and hitting her head and doing things like that.

So don't beat yourself up - things can happen. I hope you and ds are feeling much better.

Eidsvold is right Flossam, we all so it! I left dd on the floor yesterday and ds tripped over and landed on her. She screamed for 15 minutes solid and I felt awful. Babies are tough little things though.

Dd is completely bottle-fed now - I couldnt keep up with the 2 hourly feeds and constantly espressing milk. Since she has been on formula only she is sleeping much better but I still feel very very bad about it. She is very content thoug so I assume she is happy on the formula. She is so beautiful, I do feel very proud of myself for producing her!

not sure where to post this but my 7 week old has just been sick all of her feed has just come up never seen so much sick in my life whats wrong do you think what should i do shall i ring hv