Babies born Nov

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Right oh this should be ok this time. I hope I've done it right this time - If not I'm giving up!!!
Posted the thread under pregnacy last time.

collision

I've lost 8 of the 18 kgs I'd put on (not bad eh!!) and wearing 2 sizes larger than I was. Spent 50 quid in H&M last week as the only thing I can wear at the mo is tracksuit bottoms and I need a change!!!

MAternity clothes too big though....

WEll everything turne dout ok yesterday, a friend took dd1 to nursery and another tookm her home and they're doing the same today if car's not ready yet.

Must buy HUGE xmas presents to my friends, I don't know what I'd without them, with no family around and dh always at work!!

Dd1 has been an absoluite star since my mum left, hope it lasts!!

I liked your brother's proposal bt the way, Collision, some people just have no idea!!!! [GRIN]

Hello everyone!

Flossam, our ds2 is also mixed up about day and night...waking every 1-1.5 hours at night but going 2-3 hours between feeds during the day. To make things worse, he seems to poo after or during every feed, so by the time we've changed a screaming, wriggling banshee and settled him again, we only seem to get 40 winks before the whole thing starts up again. If tonight isn't a bit better I'm going to try waking him for feeds a bit more frequently during the day. I'm a bit stumped as we were very lucky with ds1 who always seemed to sleep for longer periods at night. Still, it's very early days with ds2 I suppose...he's only just over 3 days old!

My boobs are so engorged today, I am in agony. I can't remember how long this went on for last time. Please someone tell me it won't be long. I can't manage to express anything to ease it a bit (never had any success with expressing) and ds can't latch on with them as they are. He can latch on to nipple shields but nothing much is flowing. So he is on formula and I am just waiting for my balloons to deflate.

As for my size...I am definitely still wearing maternity clothes!

Bad mother alert. This is going to sound shocking but worked miracles for us last night. I left his nappy during feeds last night. It was SO much better. No screaming baby, he fed so much better and the longest I was up for was about 40 minutes rather than an hour (at least before). He fed at 3, 6 and 9. He was much calmer and happier and so was I! He fed and settled so much better. Maybe it was just coincidence. His skin looked fine this morning and I have made it out of bed before 11! Hurrah! I will try and do the nappy changes again tonight and see if it really is that that makes a difference. Thinking about it now, he was awake pretty much all day yesterday, vying for food so maybe he was just bloody knackered! And in which case I am a neglectful mother Glad to have you here Gingernut!

just to say hi
i will be posting more soon but am exhausted with ds1 up all day and ds2 wanting to feed all night i havnt even got the energy to be sociable
B

posted this on another site i go on so thought i would cheat and copy it across

I came home thursday but have to admit I dont really have the energy to be sociable. Jamie sleeps all day and feeds all night.
The more gory bits for people
Had been having pains for about three days but didnt realise they were contractions. At about 12.20 they got so bad I phoned the hospital but got the wrong one and rang bury where she told me if was the head settling and to take some painkillers and to go to bed. twenty minutes later they were so bad steve phoned his mum and I rang the hospital and when the mil arrived half an hour after that we left arriving at the hospital at 1.30. Where after waiting a while for a mw (they hadnt realised how in labour I was) and then being told that if was too late for pain relief (gas makes me sick) I gave birth to him at 2.19. I had a very small tear and no stitches and well thats about it. Hes very good and content, a relief after Matt and his only down side is that he wants to feed all night. Ive taken to sleeping sitting up
B

God, this website is getting more and more complicated!! Hope you've managed to find it Collision!!

Just popping in to say Hi. The umbilical stump fell off today, Holly (formerly known as Abigail) is a doll, she is sooo good. She feeds every 2 hours night and day - she couldnt latch in though so I have expressed from day 3. I dont think I'll be able to fulfil her demands much longer though as she is a real guzzler and expressing is very time-consuming. Hows the pelvic floors? Mine is shot to bits and as I have a bad cough things are not looking good!

am struggling to keep up with dd2's demands.. she seems to want to feed for ages every hour or so. Makes life very complicated where dd1 is concerned. Wanted to breastfeed as I didn;t do it with dd1 ( long story) but not sure dd2 is latching properly. Have given her the odd bottle of formula which seems to settle her more than the breast feeding does?!?! strange but true. Am thinking of popping into feeding clinic to see if she is latching on properly. That would put my mind at ease

sil has said it takes really until about week 6 until things settle and sort themselves out. Poor dd2 is getting a mix of bottles, breast and ebm.

Got the okay to drive from the doc yesterday - within moderation and provided I am careful. Thank goodness - means I can go with dd1 to playgroup tomorrow for her last one for the year and take her to speech therapy on Thursday. HOWEVER the GP made me promise I would not take the okay to drive as a licence to start overdoing it. She said my wound etc looks like it has healed very well, she said it felt very good so tha tis good news. Just no heavy lifting until after christmas. Then have mine and dd2's 6 week checkup.

Hope all is well with everyone else.

Eidsvold_ They first few weeks were a nightmare with ds wanting to feed every hour thought I would never cope. The health visitor suggested I try and stretch the time between feed, but all this seemed to achieve was a screaming baby and a very stressed me. I decided to just give in and feed him when he wanted and last week things just fell into place, the least amount of time he goes between feeds is 2 hours and the most he has done is 4. He has also started to settled down and will now sleep more in the day ( he is 6wks old this wk) I thought I would never get there, just hang in it is so true that the first few weeks are the hardest, maybe your dd is having a bit of a growth spurt too.

I think I am growing a monster!! DS was weighing in yesterday at 9lbs 14!! He really is starting to feel heavy too! Does anyone elses baby suck literally anything? If you put DS up to your shoulder when hungry the nest thing you see if a head wobbling about and a pair of eyes looking before he latches on to your cheek! And tonight he had both his hands grabbing my cheeks and promptly latched himself on to my nose! If only he knew!! But it is adorable.

For my feeding efforts he has apparently chosen me a present for my birthday which is today (well for the past 47minutes it has been!) so I wonder what that is going to be! DP said he insisted on this particular thing!! . How is everyone else? x

Happy birthday Flossy!! That is si sweet, latching on to your nose . Bless.

Im sooo tired, how does one cope with other children to look after. My Miriam Stoppard book helpfully suggests napping when the baby does but I have a very demanding and lively 4 year old to entertain too. I am so bloody knackered. DD is absolutely perfect though so I cant complain, I feel so lucky and so blessed.

Happy birthday Flossty :)

my little one will latch on to anything too...I've had the nose sucking thing.
What I want to know is why do they behave like text book babies when you have nothing to do but the moment you want to go somewhere they won't settle. I tried to go shopping yesterday and ds cried most of the way around the shops yet the day before he slept all afternoon and is fast asleep now. Maybe he was picking up the stressed out vibes from me as everything I tried on made me want to cast myself on the changing room floor and weep :( think I will stick to buying fabulous shoes from now on!

happy belated birthday flossty

can relate to how you are feeling bunny - my 2 yo has decided to alter her sleeping patterns.. and usually when the baby is asleep - the 2 yo can finally get some one on one attention. Then when they are both asleep - need that time to get bits and pieces done.

pleased I can get out and about and drive provided I am careful.

On the down side - dd2 and I have managed to get thrush - dd2 has oral thrush and I have breastfeeding thrush as they call it... very painful nipples and poor dd2 her mouth is very uncomfortable... got some cream and drops today so hopefully Gp said it should start feeling better in a day. Said that is why dd probably wanted to suck all the time and was probably not even feeding properly as it made her mouth feel better.

Hi All -this is us I'm 29, DH is 30, DD1 is 2 and half, and DD2 was born on 19/11. Still breast feeding but she is constantly on the boob from early evening until bed time, so don't know how long I'll last. I'm determined to give her at least 6 weeks. Glad you are all OK!

Have all us Nov Mums given birth now? Where is Pot Pourri? Did she have hers......havent heard from her for a while.

Also, Floss, where is your thread about baby sleeping with you as opposed to the Moses basket?

This site is so complicated now I get lost easily!

Ds2 is lovely and a very easy baby apart from the constant sucking. Am quite tired today as he has a cold and cant breathe very well and my boob is bigger than his head and I keep suffocating him!!

Collision it is under behaviour/development and is titled 'is this normal?'. This site does seems to be getting almost too big now, doesen't it?

Ds still falls asleep with us in bed, although he has actually let me put him down quite a few times now, once only in the moses basket. He seems to quite like his bouncer, and is sat here right now, seemingly quite interested in the toy rail!! Horrible last night though, heard him breathing funny, and found that DP's cushion had fallen on top of his head. He is fine, obviously, but DP nearly wasn't!!

Tried to leave him out in the open air this morning (His bum I mean) but DS wasn't having any of that, thank you very much! His bottom is starting to get a little red, not too bad, I just thought I would try a pre-emptive strike!!

Had a lovely birthday, I was very spoilt,lunch out in the centre of London, champagne for tea with some lovely chocolates, lots of pressies from Dp and Ben brought me a pendant(!). Starting to worry about the big xmas now!! xx

Floss We have a moses basket next to the bed but it appears to be for decoration only.ds3 has seen the inside of it about 3 times!! I try to put him into it but most of the time he just won't entertain the idea at all. The last few nights I have put the moses basket mattress in our bed and made him a little bed of his own in with us. he seems to quite like this and it's very handy for feeding...I just slide him down while he still on it. still hoping to get him into the actual basket one day :)

Floss, sounds like we are going through the same things on a daily basis! I have forgotten to give ds his Vit K from last Friday! Was the consensus of opinion that it was OK to give it late? I thought I would give it today and then Sunday......whaddya think?

Well, I have so much milk and keep leaking so I thought I would express. Got 5oz in 5 mins and Dh did the 4am feed last night. Bliss! Got lots of sleep and ds took the bottle well. DH even managed to put him in his basket and he woke at 7.30am.

Am sorry to keep asking but where is Pot Pourri?

They told me that if he was older than a month that it wasn't worth having. So DS hasn't had his last lot, apparently if they are bottlefed they don't get it in our area anyway. I think I am pretty much the only woman breast feeding in the area!! Everyone looks shocked when I tell them I am 'What, exclusively breast fed?'

Not having as good a nights as yours sounds though Collision! We were up till 4 30 last night. Just coming in to our bedroom at night seemed to be what was unsettling DS. So (and in retrospect now I can see why maybe it didn't work) I got DS to sleep in the lounge and managed to get him into (yes our!) bed and down and still be asleep! Maybe waking up in na different room to the one he went to sleep in didn't help. Typically I couldn't sleep, despite being knackered and the first time I had been to bed before 12, since I don't know when.

Think I got maybe about half an hours sleep before DS woke again at 2. He had a huge feed as one of the reasons why I couldn't sleep is that my breast was uncomfortably full with milk. Then I just couldn't get him back to sleep! He was quite happy just sitting looking at us with the light on, light off = crying. Tried putting him in his pram and rocked him back and forward in that. 'Hello mum!' Not a flicker!

He went back on me several times, but he wasn't really that interested. I think he may be doing it for comfort. But he gets really angry! His little hands are flying everywhere, gets them in the way of the latch, he shakes his head from side to side and won't let me latch him on, he has to latch on himself. Then when he is latched on he pushes and pulls with his hands; pulls my breast towards him pushes it away, so much so that he breaks the latch. I do think that he maybe isn't hungry, but he will suck for a few minutes or more, and it is the only thing that ever gets him to sleep.

A dummy hasn't worked. He just lies there, eyes wide open, watching me! Needless to say I'm getting sore, not to mention tired and tearful! He does this, to an extent, every night. Some are worse than others. I don't think he has wind. I've emailed la Leche this morning to see if they can shed any light on the situation, as I lie there at night thinking how wonderful it would be to have a bottle of formula, and I really don't want him to have that at all really. Dreading tonight as we have an appointment at the doctors to register that we have had to wait 4 and a half weeks for at 9! Do any of you know what this might be? I might do a thread in breastfeeding as well, sod it!

Hi Flosty, sounds very similar to what we have at the mo. Only difference is that DD2 feeds constantly from early evening onwards and wakes up whenever i put her down. I think it's comfort sucking and i'll have to get her in a routine soon so she doesn't rely on me to get to sleep

Floss...are you watching your diet as you BF? I had too much caffeine last week and ds was def up all night because of it! Also, I would def recommend a breast pump, the Medela one. It means DH can do a night feed and you could sleep and then you can see how much he is eating and whether he is latching on for the comfort or the food.

I did give him a bottle of EBM the night before at 2am when he wouldn't settle. Wasn't really interested in it, and since then he hasn't had such good suction on me IYSWIM. I'm managing to express by hand at the moment, when I do. I was hoping to have a couple of bottles saved up for xmas day with different (latex) teats on so it would free me up with the xmas dinner (and maybe an extra sherry! Going to try swaddling and a dummy tonight to see if that helps, otherwise there will be two parents asleep in the waiting room of the doctors tomorrow morning!

Foss...The first few 6 wks with DS were a nightmare, he had no feeding pattern at all,did the clenched fists,head bobbing thing seemed to latch on for comfort and feed every hour in the night and would only sleep in our arms. He hated is pram/car seat/bouncey chair in fact anything apart from being held by me or DH I thought it was never going to end and seriously thought about putting him on a bottle, I even went out and bought all the gear.The HV suggested I make him go longer between feeds but to be honest that was an absolute disaster and made me even more stressed, I gave up and just let him feed when he wanted and after that he just seemed to settle. He is 7wks now and is like a different baby, much happier and content,there are not so many tears now....especially from me.

There was one more thing that helped...we put a ban on people picking him up for a while. We weren't very popular but all the passing him around for everyone to have a cuddle would really unsettle him. He would be fine at the time but later on I could never get him to settle. The HV said it was probably overwhelming his senses with all the different smells from people especially perfume.

Oh yeah unfortunately me eating chocolate gives him terrible wind and tummy ache. mind you I did eat rather a lot of posh chocs that day He's better on cheap stuff.

Had a better night last night, tried a dummy and a cooler room, much calmer!! DS has been rewarding us for our efforts with some smiles though! Had 5 in the space of 10 minutes earlier today! He also started to purse his lips when I kissed him, bless!!!