December 06: For my first birthday mummy I would like.......

[Indith]

Here you go Eli!

I almost put 'your clothespegs' on the end there. Ds loves clothespegs. Came home from Rainbows the other day and dp had made a deal with ds. He could play with the clothespegs as long as he did it in his playpen and let dp make dinner.

Bebespain, if you can come up with a strategy for weaning off the 'dummy' behaviour, please share it with me. Please. [desperate] And DD2 generally chooses to ignore everything I say (obviously inherited gene from her father).

I have just spent the most fantastic day with DD1. We dropped DD2 at nursery this morning and then took off for a girly day of shopiing and visiting the science centre. It was the first time since DD2 was born that I've spent that much unadulterated time with DD1 and it was lovely. It reminded me what a wonderful little girl she really is. that I could forget, really.

A friend has loaned me a large travel cot for use as a playpen. It's brilliant - wish I'd had it months ago. DD2 is very happy playing in there for, ooh, a whole 30 minutes at a time

Thanks Indith - what you say makes total sense! Yes he definitely reacts to the annoying musical toys infact he continually presses the music button on his toy robot. Robot = fun Mummy = boring - most definitely!!

Oooh BP if I ever come up with a solution you will be the first to know but don´t hold your breath . Sounds like you had a great day - good for you!

Thanks to accesorize too, am feeling much more reassured now. Clearly first time worry mummy syndrome strikes again...

Ah yes BP DS could well have inherited "that" gene too as DH ignores most of what I say too

Hi Guys,

bebespain - Dont worry about DS. Babies this age can be very selective about what they pay attention to. If DS is not responding to things in 3-4 month then maybe get his hearing checked but if he loves noisy toys I expect he is fine.

My DD1 didnt talk until about 2 1/4 and everyone saw fit to comment. In reality she did respond to everything and I knew she was ok but everyone else had me worrying. Also she is now 3.9 and still cant say her own name properly as there is a letter she cant say yet!

BP - glad you've had a lovely day with DD

My, you've all been busy. I worked an extra day this week and feel so tired.

I will go and catch up but first I must post a conversation between me and dd1 as I arrive home from work.

DD1 - Let's play mummies and daddies. I'll be mummy. You be daddy.

Me - Okay, what do daddies do?

DD1 - Tidy up

Me - What do mummies do then?

DD1 - Shout

Cue DH nodding knowingly (and laughing quietly)

LOL at Margo's dd (I love the way they interpret things!)
bebespain, I spent the first 2 years with ds1 wondering whether he was hitting milestones etc etc, no time to stress about it with a 2nd. If they did a 1 year check (do they in spain?) all they do is see whether they respond to a noise behind them and so forth. Sounds as though he's doing that, so no worries
Snow's gone, replaced with sub-zero temps and rain grrrrr.
So anyone else's lo throwing food and being fussy, any suggestions?? Really fed up with him today, he refused 80% of food offered including toast fgs!! All the things previously fine are thrown on the floor now, surely it's a bit early for this? Never had a fussy problem with ds1 until he was 2ish so don't know what to do. Stressful as he's obviously hungry so have to keep offering different things. Just come out of nowhere, he ate everything before Christmas! And the wobblies about nappy changing, arrrrggggh, I have to use full force to put a nappy nippa on!

AQ, DD2 is exactly the same with nappy changes. Obviously, the things on the other side of the room are far more interesting than getting a nappy on, and she has to get to them the minute her nappy is off! I wrestle with her to get the nappy on, and have taken to using her airflow like a pullup to shorten the length of time I need to have her on her back.

I do hate those days when she crawls off with a dirty bottom and then sits down on the carpet. Yuck. What I wouldn't give for a changing unit that I could use ... or a spare pair of hands.

PMSL, Margo

Oh, well bp good to know it's just not my lo! Although he seems to be objecting to the nappy change itself, really really upset about it poo or no poo. I have a changing thingy that sits on top of the cot but he's in danger of throwing himself off it soon, tempted to strap him in as he behaves himself when on one of those fold-down thingies. He screams as though I'm cutting his throat otherwise

Lol Margo!

AQ ds seems to have 2 nappy change modes a) Scream as though the end of the world is nigh or b) flip over and crawl off. Sometimes kissing and tickling his feet helps with 'a' but to be honest he just seems to go through phases where he hates it.

I'm attempting to lose £15.50. I hate end of year accounts! Anybody want a set of Rainbow accounts to play with this weekend? I have far better things to do involving banging my head against a brick wall involving Russian.

Lol @ Margo's DD

Indith - sympathy ref accounts. Yawn.

BP - all babies/toddlers go through a phase of nappy escapim. Hold them down and ignore it,,,,,

Lots of nappy escapism here too, not good when there´s an explosive number 2 in there

Sympathy bp on the carpet front - at least its tiles here

Ok ds has done about 7 HUGE poos today! I gave up at some point this afternoon and just left his nappy off with a teatowel under him as he stood at the coffee table playing! They just kept coming and coming!

He did several yesterday too. I am starting to question if there is something going on. I started a thread in allergies about excema as he has been having flare ups but didbn't get too much response. I really think it may be diet related now as it has calmed right back down again since yesterday as he has pooed loads so that is now twice that we have had lack of poo and flare up followed by loads of poo all at once and it calming down

Still because of where it is (cheeks and back of neck) I'm avoiding all wool jumpers and hats and plastic bibs for a couple of weeks to avoid anything irritating it non diet wise and then if it hasnt gone completely or we get another flare up a GP visit. Grrr.

Still have £15.50 more than I should have. This is going to involve a loooong stretch with a calculator and everything printed off so I can tick things and cross things. Always so much easier when not on a computer screen.

DS hasn't asked for a bf since.....

around 3pm Friday!

am

How do you feel about that Indith?

Any ideas?

Odd

Not fed yet today either, and not looked for it even through a meltdown this afternoon.

But on the plus side I finally met the second college baby today, he is almost 8 weeks and I had a lovely cuddle and he fell asleep on me

So amazingly broody now though having been reminded of what that perfect warm weight of little sleepy baby feels like

So who is going to be the first of us lot to have another then?! AQ, Indith? Me, I feel like giving up after 5 months of trying (well, giving up getting my hopes up every month anyway). So not fair when AF came back when ds hadn't had a morsel of food pass his lips and was still bf'ing up to 7/8 times a day and then I hear about others who had no AF for 17 months!!!!
7 poos - yuck! Glad I'm not in your house Indith!

Well, you can count me out Sacha! I'll just keep my fingers crossed for those of you who are trying

I can't believe your DS, Indith. What a strong willed little person he is. DD2 just has to see a flash of nipple and she starts nuzzling and nudging. She does quickly lose interest though, so maybe it's more out of habit than anything.

DD2 has given me the most enormous scratch - across my forehead. She drew blood and everything. I'm so excited about going back to work tomorrow looking like ScabGirl At least my annual spot-from-hell has subsided!

Did feed today, ds had another meltdown. More for me though, he was more interested in his thumb and dou dou but I thought I'd offer

Sacha we've decided to start trying in Feb

I'm sorry you are getting down about lack of a BFP. Do remember that while you are still BF your body will do its best to not conceive even if AF is back. The luteal phase can still be all over the place iirc.

BP...felled by a small child

So odd not having ds looking for milk though. I cuddled him til he stopped crying during his second meltdown of the evening, then pulled my top up and he just looked at the breast and sucked his thumb!

I had 3 nights on the trot where ds just bit me straight away so he had 3 nights of going to bed with no milk (on 1 of these I offered a bottle instead) - he slept fine each time and then on the 4th took milk again. Phases!

Lol @ BP's scab.

Indith - my DD got to prefer her thumb !

Sacha - It took me a year to conceive DD2 after getting pregnant straight away with DD1. It can be soul destrying but it really does make sense to try and relax about it (if at all possible). I ended up having tests which all came back normal. Then the next month I got pregnant so I'm sure stress was the inhibitor. Not sure if that is helpful really...

Please all give a round of applause to baby glass who has been looked after my friend/childminder today and didnt cry once Even had a nap for an hour.