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November '06' - Were blowing up balloons, making cakes, clebrating and feeling very old!!!!! Yes the babies are 1!

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Charlee · 05/11/2007 19:06

I hope no one minds the other thread seemed to be dying out a bit.

I can't belive Harry is one on Friday, he is into everything, such a cheeky chappy!

Mum is alot better they are sending her home to rest and loose some wieght then getting her back in for another crack at op.
The events of this horrible yr have all caught up with her and she is in bits, its painfull tyo wathc especially not knowing what to say or do.

Jack is fine, still hating nebulisers but its for his own good, he is to into everything and looking more grown up by the day.

I hope everyone is well, are we all looking forward to xmas?

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NatalieJane · 13/01/2008 17:03

Hello Everyone

Congratulations to Podglet and Kaybee, a girl and a boy, very measured out! I hope DS gets better soon Podglet, can't be much fun for him bless him, and Kaybee, don't feel guilty for wanting a girl, I always wanted DS2 to be a girl, but now I wouldn't change him for the world, and I am sure you know that already

I am feeling much better, the last week I can honestly say was the worst week of my life (bar the week George had that fit and when DS1 had Gastroenteritus (sp?) once) but, DH kind of knocked me out of it yesterday, I had a proper cry (all over him!!) and said some things I hadn't said outloud before about how I was feeling, and I do feel so much better for it. Talks of a no.3 are well on the way, but we have decided to give it at least till DS1's birthday in March, before making a final decision, as DH says I am not in the right frame of mind to make such a big choice at the moment, and I agree.

Other than all this, things are going quite well, I think we are all well and looking forward to the summer, well just looking forward really

Anyway dinner is nearly done, so I am off, see you all later, lot's of love xxxx

saralou · 14/01/2008 14:15

hi everyone!

podglet, i sympathise with your ds, i have a poorly throat too (tonsils already gone though!) yesterday i couldn't actually talk!! congratulations on your baby girl... very exciting!

kaybee, congrats on your little boy too!

we're mostly into DIY at the moment... just doing our hallway and landing, then next week we're getting the down stairs loo replaced! which i can't wait for (our loo broke when i was pg with ds2!) i have the same plumber that did Howard Donalds plumbing... how cool is that!!!! kind of wish we hadn't started all this, my house is such a tip! but it'll look nice when it's done!! dp has agreed i can get a cleaner when he goes back to work (if he has a job that is - who knows)

any way i shall stop prattling on now... speak to ya soon xxxx

Staceym21AtLast · 18/01/2008 10:24

hi everyone, sorry i havnt been around. me and dh have split up...for good. looking like im gunna have to sell the house and move the kids.

everytime he comes it breaks my heart, it feels so different from last week when i thought we'd probably get back together. just feel like my whole world has fallen apart.

only getting about 5hrs sleep a night. just feel like sh*t.

hope everyone else is ok!

FoghornLeghorn · 18/01/2008 10:26

Oh Stacey, I don't know what to say
What happened to make you decide to split for good ?

NatalieJane · 18/01/2008 10:27

so sorry Stace, I replied, on your other thread.

Don't know what to say, please try and look after yourself through all this. xxxxx

Staceym21AtLast · 18/01/2008 10:33

well he was supposed to be proving i could trust him with money and stuff, which hasnt happened, he still kept lying to me and getting credit at my house (which is very obviously a no-no when he owes my dad 18+k)

i told him that i didnt want to be lied to and it as becoming serious. he told me he didnt want to hurt me (since when?) and wants the split to be permanant!

FoghornLeghorn · 18/01/2008 10:38

I'm sorry he couldn't learn his lesson from the last time - I am [shocked] he has still been getting credit to your house

NatalieJane · 18/01/2008 10:40

Stace, you probably don't feel like this at the moment because you love him and he is the father to your kids, but if he is lying and spending money you've not got, maybe it will be for the best to be away from him?

Have you suggested he get's help with the spending? I don't know exactly but from what you've said but it sounds like he could have a serious problem with it.

Money. Sodding money. The cause of and solution to all the problems the world chucks at you.

Do you still want to be with him? Is it him instigating the divorce? Is it just about the money?

NatalieJane · 18/01/2008 10:40

So sorry, the first line was meant to say.... 'be away from him for a while....

Staceym21AtLast · 18/01/2008 10:44

well it was me that made it permanant fixture ish, because i knew i couldnt cope any more with it all.

it is just money but its lying too and i just cant cope with it.

divorce hasnt acctually been talked about yet because he wont sit and talk to me, but from what he has said (by text mainly ) he doesnt want to get back together so its horrible!

i love him and i always will but i know that this is right if i cant trust him, but someone please tell my heart that because whatever my head is saying my heart isnt listenning!

NatalieJane · 18/01/2008 10:52

Stace, if you love him enough, and you want to get through this, you can do. There is help available, it is getting him to accept he has a problem and getting that help, men can be stubborn barstewards.

I really hope you can get this sorted in a way that suits you, you don't deserve all this.

Staceym21AtLast · 18/01/2008 11:03

but he wont, he keeps saying he's gunna stop and hes gunna deal with it, and its just one thing after another. i dont know, im begining to resent what hes doing to me now. he knows how much i had to wrestle with myself to say that he had to leave until he paid the debt but could then return if i could see he was trustworthy.

but hes not trustworthy and thats what hes proving, nothing else!

NatalieJane · 18/01/2008 11:07

You need to decide if you want to keep trying or if you want him gone so you can move on.

Either way it is going to be hard, if you stay it is going to be very hard to get the trust back and to start living normally again, not too mention hard paying back the debt. If you go, I can't imagine it being easy bringing up two kids on your own. You need to decide what is best for you and the kids.

Is there anyone who knows you both in real life that you can talk to? Your mum?

Staceym21AtLast · 18/01/2008 11:21

i have been talking to people which is great, but i need to talk to him and hes not co-operating.

i just dont knwo atm i just dont knwo!

thanks for listening to me!

NatalieJane · 18/01/2008 11:28

Don't be silly, if the only thing we can do is to be here to listen to you sounding off, at least it is something

If I were you, as hard as it is, I would play it cool, don't ring, text, or go to him. Give him time to get some things sorted in his head, give him time to see what life is like without you and the kids. See how he likes it.

It will also give you some breathing space, give you room to decide what you want to happen.

He will be back, just make sure you are ready to either take him back, or tell him it's over.

NatalieJane · 19/01/2008 11:01

How are you today Stace?

Thinking of you xxx

Staceym21AtLast · 19/01/2008 11:28

we talked last night. and we are still not together. but he has a year to sort out his spending and pay a majority of his debt off. if he hasnt managed to make a difference then its game over.

until then im staying in the flat as no point in selling and buying again when we aren't sure whats going on.

i think i acctually believe him this time. we did have a really good talk and im feeling a lot better (although still planning on going and getting p*ssd tonight!!)

thanks for thinking of me!

NatalieJane · 19/01/2008 18:06

That sounds like a very good plan Glad you feel better.

Hope you have fun tonight xxx

littlemissmischief · 21/01/2008 21:55

Hi ladies, I know i havent been on for a while, just wondered if anyone was around for a chat? x

NatalieJane · 22/01/2008 07:06

You OK LMC?

littlemissmischief · 22/01/2008 08:59

hey, yeah im ok - i feel awful not coming on here for ages and then coming on to moan but dont feel i have anyone to talk to and dp doesnt know how to help so i immediately thought of you guys
Basically everything is a bit up in the air at the moment, where we are living and family and stuff and alfie has beenreally poorly and in hospital and stuff but now the icing on the cake - i think i might be pregnant! Problem is i dont have regular periods so cant look at that for a sign and ive worked out at most i would be 3 weeks so to early to test- i was scared but now im really excited and know im gonna be so upset if im not, my boobs are sore (which was the 1st sign with Alfie) ive got bad cramps and am soo tired all time (more than normal) but the not knowing is killing me and i dont know when to test???? I cant stop thinking about it and i think im slowly going mad! x

NatalieJane · 22/01/2008 10:14

Aww poor little Alfie, I hope he is feeling better?

If you are having real pregnancy symptoms, then a first response test may well pick up enough hcg to show a positive.

If it is a negative, it doesn't mean a definate no, the only way to be 100% is to arrange a set of blood tests with the GP, they measure the HCG in your blood (if you have any, no hcg = no pregnany) then they will test it again in 2 days and if it has gone up, you can be sure you are pregnant.

What contraception were you using? ( or not using?!!] Is it actually possible you could be pregnant? i.e. did you miss a pill? Condom breakage? etc.

I know how you are feeling, just over two weeks ago I was going through the am I/aren't I pregnant thing, and then I miscarried, but we have now decided to TTC in May.

So my advice is either do a FR hpt, or see your GP. I hope you get the answer you want.

BTW, you never have to worry about coming on for a moan, that is what MN is all about

FoghornLeghorn · 22/01/2008 10:17

LMC, I am 12 weeks pregnant with DC3. I lost count of how many tests I did before I got a positive and I was definitely pregnant when I was getting the negative's.
Try a First Response as NJ suggests, but don't be disheartened if it's negative, it could all change

How are you feeling NJ - Is your bump going yet ?

Stacey - Glad to hear you had a chat with DH and feel better about things

NatalieJane · 22/01/2008 10:24

I am OK thanks, got a yukky cold/bug thing, which I am not loving at the moment, but hey ho Yes the bump has gone down, it went over the weekend, still couldn't face Mums and tots though I told her I had a doctors appointment I hate lying, but I really couldn't have gone.

How are you?

With George I was 9 days late before I got a BFP.

FoghornLeghorn · 22/01/2008 10:26

Yeh I think I was about 10 days late and I know I ovulated on about day 5 so I was definitely pregnant.

I have the same bug as you and it's horrible - I've had it for over a week now and it's just not budging which is not good . Sickness has started to pass though which is nice

Glad to hear you are getting back to normal - don't worry about M&T, just do what you need to do.