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November '06' - Were blowing up balloons, making cakes, clebrating and feeling very old!!!!! Yes the babies are 1!

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Charlee · 05/11/2007 19:06

I hope no one minds the other thread seemed to be dying out a bit.

I can't belive Harry is one on Friday, he is into everything, such a cheeky chappy!

Mum is alot better they are sending her home to rest and loose some wieght then getting her back in for another crack at op.
The events of this horrible yr have all caught up with her and she is in bits, its painfull tyo wathc especially not knowing what to say or do.

Jack is fine, still hating nebulisers but its for his own good, he is to into everything and looking more grown up by the day.

I hope everyone is well, are we all looking forward to xmas?

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NatalieJane · 07/01/2008 08:28

Had another rush of blood and clots come out over night with quite a bit of pain, then the bleeding almost stopped, woke up this morning with more pain, and what I am guessing was the baby/sac came out with more blood and clots, and more pain, but now the pain has gone and the bleeding is just like a heavey-ish period. I don't think there is much point going to the doctors now.

The really sad thing that I think is hurting more than any of this, is that I have woken up with an instant pregnant belly, just the same as with George, have gone from my very much loved size 12's, back into the 18's I had after I had George. I am dreading anyone asking about it at school, they are all so bloody nosey over there someone is bound to say something. Don't know what I'd say

DH doesn't know yet what's gone on this morning, I can't really tell him till I've got back from school because DS1 would hear everything. And then I have to tell my mum what's happened

Anyway, true to form , I am rambling again. Thanks for your help Sara, love to everyone xxxxx

saralou · 07/01/2008 09:37

nat, it's just bloating honey, it will go down... you want to have seen my belly the last couple of days as i had my period! jogging bottoms were the only thing that fit!!

tell 'em you ate too many mince pies!

NatalieJane · 07/01/2008 09:49

lol, wish I had

I took him over just a tincy bit late (not late for school but later than I would normally), managed to miss most of the mums I usually talk to, so thought I'd got away with it, but then had to nip to corner shop, and bumped into a couple of them, both were eyeing me up, and as they walked away one said "Do you think she is then?"

Got mums and tots tomorrow, there will be no hiding it then.

NatalieJane · 07/01/2008 18:01

So I go to get him from school and someone asked the question, she said, oh so your expecting no. 3 then?, I didn't know what to say, awful silence, then she seemed to click something was wrong and I just said not anymore, and had to walk off So nearly stood there in the playground crying, but didn't, it's the closest I've come to crying so far.

Am dreading DH getting home, he'll hug me and that will be it, I'll be bloody crying all night And I don't want to be.

saralou · 07/01/2008 18:13

cry with dh, get it all out of your system with him rather than some random person xx

Staceym21AtLast · 07/01/2008 18:19

oh NJ, so sorry this is happening to you!

while TTC keiran i had a missed MC, that wasn't much fun either.

to you my lovely!

NatalieJane · 07/01/2008 18:30

Thank you girls, DH still not home, boys are playing up because I am not rolling around on the floor/playing/whatever with them.

DS1 asked why my tummy is so fat, and why my jeans are un-done , told him I got belly ache, he wouldn't understand anything else.

Just hoping DH is late because he is getting me a bottle of wine lol

Staceym21AtLast · 07/01/2008 18:38

oh NJ dont be

bloating shoudl go down soon.

sorry to hear about what happened at the school, cant believe people would just comment like that, i never ask unless im told or its really obvious.

hope you can cry on dh and get some of it out!

NatalieJane · 07/01/2008 23:01

She didn't mean any harm, it has been a bit of a running joke how quickly I showed last time, and how everyone thought I was 6 months when I was actually 6 weeks, I will apologise to her tomorrow, she must have felt awful.

Got mums and tots tomorrow, am dreading it, I don't know if I can handle all the questions and then the looks of pity, but feel I must go, it is the first one since xmas, and they were so good before xmas. It is only a small group (about 5 of us, sometimes 6) but they made a real effort to make sure all the kids took home calenders, home made xmas crackers, an angel for the tree, a party bag, and a load of decs that the kids made etc. and they brought in Santa to give them all a pressie (teddy) each, I do have to go really, though how long we will be there before I rush home in a state god knows!

Just had a nice bath and sent DH up to bed, he is up at 5 again tomorrow, I know I won't be doing much sleeping, would rather be on here than led there looking at the dark!

Staceym21AtLast · 08/01/2008 06:39

NJ, i honestly feel there is no need to apologise to her.

even if that was a running joke, its you thats hurt by it not her!

hope you got some sleep!

as for me its my test today and have been up since half past 4!

saralou · 08/01/2008 07:48

nat you don't need to apologise! hope you feel a litttle better today!

i've got a really horrible pain in my throat... it hurts to talk!

we've been up since 5am... ryans growing new teeth! and ds1 is getting his molars through, 2 teething children, just what every person needs!

good luck stacey. let us know how it goes!

NatalieJane · 08/01/2008 08:39

Thanks you two

my belly has got bigger, how the hell can that be? stupid bloody hormones.

Am still dreading mums and tots, but will die before I cry there, wish me luck please!

Good luck again with the test Stace, let us know when you can how it went

NatalieJane · 08/01/2008 09:13

OMG, the whole frigging school knows

The woman that runs the mums and tots is a CM who drops her mindees at school/nursery, she came running (literally - she is about 60) up to me, while I was with DS1 "ah Nat, we won't be seeing you today then at mums and tots?" me "why?" her "well, y'know with you losing the baby and everything"

DS1's face, he thought she was on about George, he said but George is there, woman only just clicks what she's said infront of him

I walked off, I couldn't say anything, took me everything I have to get home before I broke down.

What a stupid stupid stupid selfish bitch, stupid fucking bitch, why do people have to be soooooooooooooo fuckingggggggggggggg stupidddddddddddddddddddddd arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

God that feels better...

saralou · 08/01/2008 10:06

what a stooopid woman, she probably thought she was being supportive, though bit unnecessary in front of your ds1! interfering busy bodies! i like being a southerner where no-one give a s**t!

NatalieJane · 08/01/2008 10:43

Yes I agree, if we are not in Spain by this time next year, we will be back down south, and I can't wait for either of them to happen.

Debz99 · 08/01/2008 12:34

Hi all

Sorry not been on for ages seems you all had good christmases as we did !

NJ I'm so sorry you're having so much grief with the outside world not thinking .... bloody people they have no idea when to keep their mouths shut !

Hope you are feeling a little better lovey.

Podglet ... what a brave lady you are, Ryan is certainly enough for me to cope with at the moment ... may be one day LOL !

NatalieJane · 09/01/2008 10:08

C'mon Stace, we're all waiting for the news
Thanks Debz

Just read my post from yesterday again, I am so sorry I swore like that I am a old fishwife at heart I think LOL And I hate the word stupid.

Had another woman comment on my bump at home time yesterday, but then this morning the woman who runs the group actually apologised, she said she didn't realise she'd put her foot in it till it was too late. I asked how she found out, and she dropped her 'friend' (the woman who noticed first on Monday) right in it - nice! I just said well what's done is done, can't change it and walked off, saying I'll see you this afternoon, I didn't want to fully accept the apology and get down to talking with the gossiping cowbag, but I also don't want a situation where I am ignoring them and them me, and I like going to mums and tots and don't want that to feel uncomfortable.

Just wish the bump would bloody go, it is still growing by the day, it just seems so cruel, the MC is bad enough without the constant reminder, just wish it would go.

debbsyandsonn · 09/01/2008 13:53

how are you feeling today Nat
hello everyone else i still keep checking in when i can x

NatalieJane · 09/01/2008 14:48

I am OK thanks, but just about to go and face them all again to get DS.

Have decided any more commenets I am just going to come right out and say yes, but I had a miscarriage, will either shut them all up or at least show them that I don't care if they all know or not.

Just got to do it without crying

KaybeeandZak · 09/01/2008 19:52

NJ so sorry to hear about your MC :-( Can't believe the thoughtlessness of the other mothers at your baby group, as if you haven't got enough to deal with without worrying about them.

Zak is walking properly now, it's so cute , he is doing so well. Thank god I don't have to lift him quite as much anymore as it wasn't the best for my back...

Hope everyone else is doing ok

xx

NatalieJane · 10/01/2008 14:06

Thanks Kaybee, I am OK I think, just trying to get on with things.

Bless little Zak walking, George is just like his brother, and he didn't walk alone till he was 14 months, so I'm not expecting George to do it anytime soon!

How is your pregnancy going? Did you have your scan?

Stace, You OK lovey? Come and rant about the stupid high way code or whatever Bet you can't match my swearing spree

Staceym21AtLast · 10/01/2008 20:35

im ok, better than i felt tuesday anyway!

have booked another one and lookign forward now!

hope your feeling a bit better!

NatalieJane · 11/01/2008 09:06

Good on you

I am still a bit up and down TBH, sometimes think this is stupid, I have no right to be feeling this bad, and then othertimes (normally the when the kids do something) I think how lucky I am, two gorgeous healthy children, and here I am being all grumpy, but then I hit rock bottom again.

It doesn't help with the bump, I think once the bump has gone down and the bleeding stops I will feel much better - more normal.

podglet · 12/01/2008 19:50

Hi all,

NJ - so sorry to hear your news - hope you feel better soon. I've had 2 mc's and they are horrid, so be nice to yourself, enjoy the boys and allow yourself time to heal.

Stacey - DP failed his test 4 times! Don't worry lovely, am sure you will get it next time!

Hi to everyone else, hope you are all ok, I am now 24 +1 and huge again. DS is still lovely but a bit poorly, tonsilitis and yet another chest infection - he's just catching everything from nursery we had our 4d scan today and - it's a GIRL - cannot believe it, really thought she was another boy

KaybeeandZak · 12/01/2008 22:57

Congrats Podglet. I am now 26 weeks or so, and we are having another BOY

I was hoping for a girl to be honest, but at least now we dont have to buy any new stuff.... I feel so bad wanting a girl so much, I think it must be some childhood thing as I never had any siblings and always wanted a sister.