June 07 mummies, relentless in their quest for sleep, peace and a nice cup of tea

[nowbringussomeJammypudding]

Here we go again...

Daisy - I think you should go. My FIL saw us a lot more regularly when he was ill - he knew why...we didn't have to explain....in some ways it helped him come to terms with it all......but he was always pleased to see us. One day we went up on a Thursday (we'd had a call) and he was still really pleased to see us even tho it was . I really feel for you....go and see her....you will feel better for seeing her and I'm pretty sure she would love to see you (and the DCs).

Morning Bumper....I've been up a while as well.....coughing though

morning all

daisy defo go see your mum she will love it when mil was ill my dhs parents were in denial and they just carried on as normal never mentioned the fact she was ill etc so we hardly saw her before she died and my dh was very very It will amke you ansd her happy

Morning norty and bumper I am having trouble sleeping too even when lo sleeps well

off to buggy fit this am must go school run

Morning all. I have also been up early. For some reason T&G decided to get up at 5.45!!! They went back to bed but of course I couldn't go back to sleep after that.

Daisy, I'm so sorry that your mum isn't getting any better. I also think you should go. Your mum knows what is happening to her and I'm guessing that she would love to spend as much time with you all as she can. And please go on as much as you want - that's what we're here for .

Morning all.

Daisy, you should go see your mum. You'll regret it later if not.

LOVE those boots, Foxy. Would be no good for me as I'm terrible in heels but they look devine.

DD woke twice last night, at 2.15 and again at 4.45. And if you count her coming into bed with us from 6.15 - 8.00 as being part of her sleep (she did fall asleep with us for a bit) then I guess she woke 3 times. But I feel better thinking of it as 2 wake ups in the night and an early start.

morning
sorry about your Mum Daisy - i agree with everyone else. and we are all here to listen to each other, so talk away.

daisy go see you mum! i lost mine to cancer 4 years ago i looked after her all the time i hated seeing her ill but glad to be there for her, my other sister was not there as much and now they feel gulity because of it, even thought there was no need to, so please go.
if you still want to meet on monday thats fine but i understand if you dont we could meet up again some other time.
if you ever want to talk am on msn its same email as you already got

Morning all.

So sorry to hear about your mum Daisy. I hope you are OK. I agree that you should go - I think it would benefit everyone, you, your mum and also MRR. We're here whatever you decide, when you need us. I'm so sorry I missed you last night.

Morning all! Am taking the path of least resistance this morning - DD1 is painting and listening to the radio and I've wussed out of thurs morning playgroup. Maybe I'll get lucky and she'll decide it's a nap day today (would be the first since saturday...think she's finally growing out of napping).

Daisy: don't have anything to add really, as others have already given you the best advice - except that you've been so generally supportive and ace over the last year that you should never feel embarassed to vent your own troubles. That's what we're here for!

Path of least resistance? I'm trying that this morning, but even that is giving me grief . Why can't she admot she needs to sleep and just get on and do it? She's as stubborn as her mother at times!

You mean LO jammy? Mine has just awoken after a 2 hour nap - and gave me the most beautiful smile when I went in to investigate the chuckles coming out of the bedroom. Ahhhh makes it all worthwile

Maybe a quick spin round the block with the buggy will do the trick?

From experience, I know that she'll probably sleep for a little less time than we are out walking. But I'm not sure I've got the energy to take her for a long walk after being woken 3 times last night. Rubbish of me I know.

Doesn't help my mood that I've just had to ring my line manager and ask him to hassle HR yet again to confirm my leave entitlement so I can arrange return to work. I have to let them know in writing by Monday, and they won't give me the info I need. Why is everything such effin hard work?

Sorry to hear you are so tired Jammy. A walk will probably do you good too.

Perhaps you could write to HR setting out what you want and what you think it should be. Then its up to them to pull your finger out. And if they don't you might benefit

LOL at "path of least resistance" I've done 'milk making' this morning. (i.e. sat on my arse eating porridge and toast).

DD just gone to sleep, but I have to go and pick up her big sister now. Its tempting to leave her as I literally have to go across the road. But I won't. Bugger!

God my DD has just done the biggest poo ever....blardy antibiotics.....every single piece of clothing she was wearing got covered. I just dunked her in the bath (clothes n' all) and went from there .....these things never happen to daddy.....

Should I wash those clothes on their own? Or can they go in with the rest? there's still a fair amount of poo on them ......

Thanks Foxy. I'll take her for a walk before we go to baby group this pm. She has finally given up and dozed off on my lap in the meantime.

If I thought that writing to HR would help then I would. But they are the biggest bunch of useless gimps you could imagine. I have phoned the, emailed them and gone in and spoken to them directly on several occasions, and I still have 3 issues to be resolved, one of which I started asking about in April or May.

Lo has woken, got to go...

Norty, re the clothes, id swish them out in a bowl with detergent to get the worse off and then bung them in with the rest of the clothes.

jammy def put it in writing and keep a copy.

hi guys...thanks for all you lovely messages of support

I think I'm going to go up next weekend to see her.

so trace, I'm OK for Monday . I'll e-mail you and we can arrange exactly where we're meeting (I'm a bit wary of doing that on-line).

Jammy....can you just write to them saying you will be returning to work on such and such a date, but you are going to take yur accrued holidays from that point, so could they kindly confirm your leave entitlement to allow you to confirm your actual start date back. Thay way you have complied with your end of the ML rules.

Mine is a bit easier as I finished on the last day of your holiday year so I know I've got my full entitlement to take at the end of my leave........if I go back.

If I don't go back not sure how it works and whether I'll get paid for it or not?

back from buggy fot

Daisy I was wondering that as well I'm not planning to go back but haven't told work yet, they will ask for my maternity pay back but do they take off the acrued holiday from that money or do I just lose it? could be interesting have heard a rumour that people might be made redundant so am hanging off telling them

buggy fit of course

Shame I missed allthe chat last night, had to whizz off to attend to little one then decided on an early night.

Daisy, go, as everyone said.

Fairy, I could've written that post about ferrying children about and the war on clutter. I live somewhere it's impossible to go anywhere without the car, DD's school is 15 minutes drive away sowhen you factor in getting everyone in and out of the car etc that eats up nearly 2 hours a day. Then I had to take the baby to docs today to get his ears looked at, another trip. We are back, he fell asleep on me and I'm surveying the clutter, powerless. In an hour I have to go and pick up DD so wondering if I'll even manage lunch (lucky I had second breakfast)

Oh, and the secret to bees is staying cool. They work by smells and, like dogs, can tell if you're scared. They also dislike perfume and beer smells.

Foxy, love those boots. Like Jammy I would fall over just looking at them but they are gorgeous. A wise person once said, re should you buy som new boots, "always" (I bought some last week )

Not sure andim....I am only getting statutroy maternity pay, so nothing for me to pay back.

I had thought of telling them I'm taking my accrued leave (5 weeks plus 9 days public) at the end of my year of maternity leave, then two weeks into that handing in my notice.....but that's a bit sneaky, and I might need them for a reference in the future.

I got some new boots today, but wedge heel ones for everyday use. I have some high heel ones which I wore on Sunday an nearly fell over in them twice.

We were at DSs school assembly this morning telling the story of Divali. DS was Hunaman, king of the monkeys and was just fab. I was so proud of him. DD was very interested in it all until the clapping and cheering started and she burst into tears with the fright. they had a reception afterwards with lots of indian savories and sweets.....yum yum!

Oh and ps, that hair colour is cool . I saw someone with similar colour the other day (bit pinker) and was wondering whether I would ever have the courage again to go for such a colour (in my day I have been bright red, pink, purple, blue and green. But that was sometime back when dinosaurs roamed the earth)

Right, that was a nice chat . I am going to attempt sliding Baby Sputnik onto some cushions so I can make lunch. Wish me luck