Ttc 1st baby catch up 3rd thread!

[Fivebyfive2]

Thought as I'm bored and we're on page 40 of thread 2, I'd make a thread 3!

@MrsEG, aaahh your Halloween plans and costumes sound awesome 😀 I hope they get to go ahead as planned...

I have no idea what will happen in terms of a lockdown?? I think maybe they'll start with closing non essentials again first? My friend was saying she'd rather have a lockdown now or soon and then maybe be able to have things ease up for Christmas. To be honest I think over Christmas, people will do whatever anyway!

I'm so glad you're back on track with the weaning. You're doing amazingly well xx

Well! Saturday night we started in his room and made it until 11pm. Last night we started in his room and made it until 2am. Slow progress, but still progress! He's got 3 teeth now and I think a 4th on its way. Isolation is getting a bit grinding, but we're getting through the house jobs, having time in the garden and eating like little piggies to make it more bearable! Joe is constantly shuffling/scooching around and has been up on his hands and feet this morning 😂

Hope every one is doing OK? We'll need a new thread soon 😛

@MrsR16 @purplefig @ELW85 @LikeTheFruit @cupcakesandglitter @MrsH497 @Larrydavid @lokicat @stormtrooperjulian @thumper59 @ranchorelaxo @TrashKitten10 @delilah7

Sorry if I've forgotten anyone! Xx

@MrsEG the dummy pretty much falls out as soon she falls asleep and it doesn't bother her. I think she just can't link the sleep cycle because she relies on the dummy to fall asleep so she wakes up. How old were the boys when you weaned them off it? I'm wondering if I should wait till 6 months as apparently they need some sucking comfort till then.. I was hoping she'd use her thumb as she does that to fall asleep in the car sometimes but no luck 🤦🏻‍♀️
Sorry to hear the boys had a bad night! I hope last night was better?

@Fivebyfive2 I hope the travel cot works!! That's so frustrating about your work situation.

@MrsH497 I may try that. I usually leave the room after putting her down because I think she stays awake when she knows I'm there.. might have to hide on the floor to take the dummy out before she falls asleep 😂
I hope you enjoyed your new pillows and fresh bedding!! Nothing better!

@cupcakesandglitter your sleep situation sounds exactly like mine! Alayna only naps for 30 minutes (sometimes she manages 40 minutes but it's quite rare!). DH holds her after she wakes from her morning nap to push it to an hour, but apart from that we've decided to just let it be because she rarely wakes up crying from them and we can't continue holding her for all naps anymore!!
Have you heard of the Huckleberry app? Someone here mentioned it once and I've used it since Alayna was 3 months (everything was all over the place before that and I felt like exactly you on where to start!); you need to input 3 days of sleep times into it and it works out the best awake windows and nap/bedtimes from that. The sweet spots it predicts are pretty spot on! Alayna is 5 months and her awake windows are generally 1h45 - 2h.
In terms of bedtimes, previously, if I tried to put Alayna down before 9pm she'd continue waking every 30 minutes until it got to 9pm then had her first long stretch 🤦🏻‍♀️ I wondered if it was to do with overtiredness.. Once I got somewhat of a routine down with the Huckleberry app, I stuck with a consistent earlier bedtime and after about a week or so, she finally started falling to sleep earlier! I used to boob to sleep as well, but once the regression hit that stopped working so I used a mixture of shush/pat, pick up/put down and gradual retreat to sleep train her to fall asleep on her own (she was doing really well but now has the dummy as a sleep crutch, though so maybe don't listen to me as I've created another problem 😂). This only works for bedtimes, though, we still have to rock her to sleep for nap times! I have no energy to go through the sleep training so just going with it for now 😂
I'm sorry to hear you've been struggling with PPD. I know it's easier said than done (because I do it!) but don't feel like you're failing. You're doing an amazing job with Dina; this is all so new to us, especially going through it alone sometimes whilst a pandemic is happening! You've got this mama 💕💕

@ELW85 oh what a cute photo! He does look a lot like his dad. I'm sorry you're still feeling so anxious. I hope the CBT helps. Finn seems so happy and he's getting on so well, you're doing a brilliant job with him. He's got such an amazing mum on his side ❤️❤️

@MrsR16 it seems like sleep is a constant struggle with the little ones 😫 if Alayna has it in her hand (because she's pulled it out 🙄) but if it falls out, I think she's too young to put it back in.. I think I'm just going to have to wean her off it, these continuous wake ups are becoming too difficult! I hope Ethan's sleep gets better again soon!

Pressed post too soon!

I ordered 50 free prints from Snapfish to create a scrapbook for Alayna from the day she was born. Found the sweetest Peter Rabbit scrapbook from paperchase to put them in. Currently sitting on our living room floor tearing up at how little she was and how fast time has gone 😂 I can't wait to go through it with her when she's older!!

@LokiCat - thank you. It’s just hard knowing that he’s behind in something (ie most babies push up on hands at 4 months).
It makes it hard to find the perspective and think “well yeah, but most babies transfer objects at 6 months and he’s been doing it since just before 5 months”.
Thank you for your very kind words ❤️

@LokiCat, we use Snapfish, they're good aren't they?! Absolutely love going through photos 😀

@MrsR16, we've filled some of the questions in, but will leave most of it until the night before, in case he starts doing stuff in between. I'll let you know how the call goes! Sorry to read Ethans sleep is bad again. Joe's has gotten absolutely terrible recently too 🙁

@ELW85, that's great about Finn passing things from hand to hand 😀

Omg ladies, I hope I'm OK to say this here and not offend but I am so ready to stop breastfeeding at the moment! Joe is 1 in December so I'll be stopping then, but for the first time in months I'm just tired of it! I have to really try to get him to feed in the day (when he's too distracted) and then he just wants to feed in the night! Also, his new top teeth mean that when he's messing about and doesn't latch properly... Ouch! 😬😮I'll miss it in a way (especially if he's still not sleeping!) but I feel like I'm ready to finish soon.

Here's a pic of him having supper at my mums on Friday night 😋

@Fivebyfive2 - oh he’s absolutely gorgeous! How is he 1 in December?! The time is absolutely flying and it’s terrifying.
Yeah, it’s great about the transferring but I’m having a proper freak out today about him not being up on his hands. Like a major freak out. Xx

Hi girls, hope everyone has had a fab weekend!
The boys are 8 months old today, I can’t believe it. I ordered their nursery bags and clothes name tags this week; it’s all been very emotional! In some ways, I’m so excited for them to start - they’ve been so deprived of playing with other babies this year and I can’t wait for them to be able to do that. Selfishly I also can’t WAIT to have days where someone else looks after them between 9 and 5 haha, be it nursery, DH or my folks! But some days recently I feel just so sad about it all; this year has just been so far from what I expected. I’ll never get this time back and I just hope I’ve done enough with it, and them. I know it means nothing to them really, in the grand scheme of things - and how wonderful it’s been to spend so much one on one time together - but I can’t help feel a bit sad about the whole state of affairs at the minute. My mental health has absolutely plummeted and I’ve spent days and nights just in tears. I can have like, 2 hours of absolute joy in a day, but then 22 of hell. I almost want to apologise for being so honest! I know it’s not the best way to feel after 8 months with the twins you so desperately wanted.

I’ve taken a bit of a MN break the last couple of days but I’m still checking in, just feeling so overwhelmed by it all at the moment if that makes any sort of sense! But I’ll have a proper look over the thread in the next few days and really catch up. Xxx

Oh @MrsEG The last 7 months have been so tough and to have got through it with not one but TWO happy, thriving babies is a credit to you.

I've completely had those feelings of the 'wasted' months of maternity leave and anger over it all. Bitter I was stuck on my own whilst other people's partners were at home. Bitter I was on next to zero pay sat at home whilst others were on furlough being paid infinitely more to do the same. Bitter that this was MY time and the whole world had got in on it. And I realise that that's selfish and irrelevant when people have lost loved ones, jobs and businesses but I think sometimes it helps to get all those moans aired. Because it has all been mightily unfair and- frankly- shite.

When do the boys start nursery? I've found getting back to work a really positive change. Daisy is loving time with her grandparents, I'm loving talking to other adults and we are both loving my renewed energy for mummy time on my days off :) I was in a rut before but getting a routine back in my life has worked wonders. I hope the same happens for you and you start to feel better soon. Keep your chin up, you're doing a great job ☺️

@MrsEG - I’m so sorry you’re feeling like that; you’ve been through so much but you are doing an incredible job, and the boys are gorgeous, happy and thriving.

This year has been horrendous and has obviously massively impacted our time with our babies, but certainly mental health too.
You’re a wonderful mother and a really strong person, and I know that the boys are lucky to have you.

I completely get the overwhelmed feeling; you just do you and make sure you have what you need, and if we can help with that, we’re here. Xx

@MrsEG, I'm really sorry to hear that you are having such a hard time. Don't beat yourself up at all, you are an amazing mum! Quite frankly, I'm in awe of you a lot of the time; the time and energy you put into those boys and oh man is it ever paying off, I mean they're just absolutely thriving! We're allowed to have times (as many times in fact!) where we aren't loving, or even enjoying, this whole malarky. No matter if we've struggled to get here, it's never what you expect, how can it be?! Do whatever you need to do and we're all here for you xx

@ELW85, I hope you have a good start to the week. Totally off topic, but how's the house move coming along? Xx

Well! Joe was up every 90 mins last night (not much better the night before either!) and at 4am I basically gave up and just held him until 6.45... Gaaaaagh! It's like having a newborn again, except that instead of being able to hold him and watch Friends in the day, I'm following him around as he crawls/shuffles around and tries to climb and stand on everything... Fun times! Oh and he ate half of my tea last night 😕 I tell you ladies, it's a good job these babies are cute or we'd all be around the twist even more so 😂😛

@Fivebyfive2 - hiya, the house is kind of progressing. Had an update from solicitors earlier to say they’ve got draft contracts out to our buyers but haven’t heard from our vendors...so chase them?!?! They really irritate me!

The sleep sounds familiar. I’m hoping that Finn sorts himself out soon and does something else gross motor wise so I can have the same issues of chasing him round!

@ELW85, I'm sure you'll be chasing him around going 'noooo, not that wayyy' before you know it!! Xxx

Joe is asleep in his room... In a travel cot my parents had from a neighbour. I climb in and sit with him, then climb out once he's asleep 😂 It is very comfy to be fair!

How's everyone doing on this wet Monday evening?? Xx

Omg... He actually spent the whole night in his room, first time ever 😁

The first half I was up constantly, but after midnight he seemed to settle a bit so only up for his usual 3am feed, then asleep till 6. I'm still shattered because I didn't get any proper sleep until about 12.30, buuuuut at least we made it a whole night!

The travel cot seems to be working out, it's so much easier to settle him than when we try the full cot. I think the reason for the disturbed first part last night is that he's got a bit of dhs cold, he kept waking himself up coughing and spluttering bless him. So we'll persevere and see how we go 🙏

@Fivebyfive2 - I really hope I am chasing him around soon! That would be lovely 😊
And well done Joe on sleeping well and in his own room, awesome progress!

It’s our first baby class today. Not sure what Finn will make of it 😂

@Fivebyfive2 Yay Joe! Well done for your hard work and perseverance getting him into his own room, fingers crossed tonight will be as-or more- successful :)

It's @FlapJackered due date today. Hopefully she'll be joining us all here v soon!

Good luck @FlapJackered!

Thanks @LikeTheFruit @ELW85 ❤️
Hope you're all doing well with your gorgeous babes.
Definitely feel ready for this chap to vacate and give me my body back! 😂
Hopefully will be joining you here in the very near future or I might just lose my mind!! 🤪

@flapjackered, looking forward to seeing you and your little one on here soon 😀

After 2 horrendous nights, we had a verrrrry rocky start least night, followed by 2 decent stretches of sleep, thank God! Woke up this morning to find tooth number 4 is through!

Maximo the cat is NOT impressed with Joe being mobile... He looks at me like 'this was not part of the deal when the tiny human was introduced' 😂

How is everyone doing? Hope you're all having an OK week? Xx

Hi all! I'm still avoiding MN as much as possible, because I just get sucked into the negative threads about covid etc. and my mental health just cannot take it. But just wanted to pop on quickly to see how you all are and let you know I'm still alive!

@MrsEG so sorry to hear you're feeling like this. Big huge hugs. If it's any consolation, I'm feeling a lot of similar things. It has been a really, really, really hard year. What a year to have a baby or in your case two! I'm glad the MN break is helping, I think it's always wise to step back when you feel like you need to. Go and give those beautiful 8-month-old twins of yours a big scrummy cuddle. You'll get through this and one day life will be less bleak. Until then, please know you are not alone.

@TrashKitten10 so pleased your enjoying being back at work - it sounds like Daisy is doing amazingly. How many days are you doing at the moment? I've started tentatively dipping my toes back into the world of work (I'm self employed) and at the moment I'm thinking one day, but might stretch to two.

@Fivebyfive excellent work Joe! Sounds like he's definitely getting there!

@ELW85 Sorry to hear you're worrying about Finn's development. It's really hard isn't it? Because there's all the books and the apps and everything, but I really do think it's true that it's normal for babies to progress in their own sweet time. I have one friend who's 5.5 month old was crawling and pulling up (!) and another with a nearly 10-month-old who still isn't anywhere near crawling. These little mini humans are already wildly different even at this tiny age! Glad the house is moving along slowly but surely too.

xxx

Hey all,

Hope everyone is ok, I've been majorly out of the Mumsnet loop, sorry I've been useless!

I now have a 4 month old 😳 not sure where that went!

Going to try keep up again now I finally feel like this parenting malarky has clicked

Ah all the best @FlapJackered so close now, was wondering how you're doing

Hope things get going for you soon @FlapJackered

@purplefig - I hope you and M are continuing to do really well.
Totally don’t blame you for avoiding the internet; I’m trying my best to do the same (particularly google).
I’m sure you’re right about Finn; I don’t mind if he takes a bit longer as long as there’s nothing underlying that isn’t being addressed. I’m sure I’m just overly worried though!

Hi all, how is everyone? We've spent the weekend tightening up the baby proofing as Joe now crawls at quite a pace and loves to pull up on everything... Our poor cat is, not impressed, but Joe is determined to be best buddies with him 😂 We had to move the food bowls because little man decided the water bowl was great fun! @ELW85, the Jaws music is definitely playing now 😛

I'm cooking dinner for mil today, wish me luck! Her newest thing is worrying to death Joe will have some sort of horrible accident now he's mobile. Honestly I don't know how this woman raised 3 kids, it's like she's never seen a baby before sometimes?!

@purplefig @ELW85 @MrsEG I hope you ladies are all doing OK xxx

@MrsR16, how's strapping Ethan getting on? Xx

@lemonysherbert,lovely to hear from you and so glad that things are falling into place 😀

Thinking of you @flapjackered and hope you're little one doesn't keep you waiting too long before they arrive! Xx

A pic of me and Joe earlier, excuse my ridiculous dressing gown... I love it 😂

@Fivebyfive2 - Hahahaha I’m pleased you remembered that reference! Poor Maximo 😂
That pic of you and Joe is just gorgeous! So pleased for you that he’s whizzing round the place now.
Finn obviously still hates tummy time but has started pushing his bum up and moving his legs a bit like mountain climbers so I’m hoping he’s starting to get it?!
I’m astonished you’re cooking for MiL. I’d have put a full on ban on that woman a long time ago, but you’re a much better person than I am 😊
I thought your dressing gown was a hoodie and I loved it!!
Mental health wise, I’m kind of ok. Wobbly every few days I think but better than I was. Thank you for asking!! Xx