March 2007 - where the babies all get feisty and we "make rods for our own backs" or develop arms like a trucker!

[Mossy]

Couldn't help it!

since my nan died.that sounded like she dies repeatedly

he he, I remember old vinegar tits

perhaps I could be "jellyforbrains" something like that. It's strange though, because I want to change my name, but it's me though sad cow.
There was a character in Viz called jellyhead do you remember it?
I think I need a name with a name iykwim?

I don't know what it is about my mother. She has a list of crimes and I dislike her for them more and more. They are not overly shocking, not compared to some dreadful experiences I've read about on Mn, but they are shitty and they make me feel bad AND she doesn't stop

kitty-i had the third session of my self-esteem group this afternoon and sofar i think ive mentioned my mother about 15 times.i know what you mean,i have read about/known people who have had nasty,abusive mothers,and i wonder why i have a problem with mine when she wasn't anywhere near that bad in comparison.

apparently feeling that way is a common feature of low self-esteem though

We crve our Mum's approval and love and when we don't get it, it really screwes us u.

OMG Monti wakes as soon as i tough the keyboard

Rosy you always make me chuckle

Piff - sorry your DHhates his job - poor him that's horrible

arrgghh - must go nd offer nip' to Monti

I meant: We crave our Mum's approval and love and when we don't get it, it really screws us up.

discuss

i would love to talk about the traumas my mother put me through but then i would need a book! lets just say i am trying to be nice to her as she made my life hell when i lived at home and i still hold alot of fear/anger/resentment towards her. now it looks like i am a bitch to her when i see her as i can read between her lines when she talks to me! everything seems tobe a hurtful snide comment said in an innocent way! but no one else can see it!

friday today! yeppee. hopefully going to Bournemouth tomorrow if there are not mass floods!

Mossy - i am the same with fb, i really do need to get out more! such a buzz logging on in the hope that someone has contacted me!

Mother angst here which al blew up after Dad died, we get on, but I refuse to talk to her about some things.
Nuff said she is well known as being one the crazy Clifford sisters of East Yorkshire...

Kitty you need a nice name I like Kettlebell Kitty, it sounds so purposeful and fills me with feelings of shame and rank idleness

Snoo you crack me up sometimes

Mossy did you HV never tell you that babies bounce? They are amazing as they do not know how to tense therefore often avoid injury BRILL! Finn thus far unfallen...

Right have to get on - am painting the downstairs WC - we are viewing the house tomorrow - do has grudgingly conceded on paper that is is a decent idea IF the house is ok...
We have no spare cash to get our place ready, so I'm putting in some legwork to show him we can do it cheaply - as I said " you have to speculate to accumulate" and he said "specualte with what exactly"

Kitty here, how about this name? it's versatile

Piff you can do what most people do and just whitewash everything to make the rooms look bif and bright

Kitty - LOL at your new name - you middle aged woman tottering about on high heaals with a beehive hairdo you!!!

We should start a thread about how our mother's have screwed us up (might get very upsetting though). I just hope I don't make my kids feel the way my Mum has made mee frrl sometimes (she has made me feel unworthy, unloved, useless, ugly, humilated etc etc by her comments over the years)

kitty mrs slocomb are you ready for the deluge of innuendos about your pussy?

have taken my old name back b4 we go all christmassy...

he he, I wanted to call myself
MrsSlocombsPussy, but thought it was a bit of a mouthful (titter).
bring on the smutty comments. It could be very handy one day I could be MrsSlocombsPurpleHair , christmas could be
MrsSlocombsFestiveKnickers. I shall live with it for a while. I could be MissBrahms! Not as much fun though.

fitfox, I just told dp that when MN talks about mothers it is 90% shoite experiences. He was amazed. Makes me feel better though. I just hope to God that my daughters don't hate and despise me when they are grown.

Dd2 has just been ignored when asking sweetly if I will take her round the pond( in a min dear I'm busy talking to me cyber mates). I can see it in x years time "you made me feel so second rate and ignored mum, I was a MN orphan" .
I'm going to a body shop party tonight. I'm looking forward to it, which is unusal for me it must be said,

You can still call me kitty if you like. I could be Kitty here and MrsS whilst stalking the boards

AAAAAAAARRRRRRRGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
Dp has just rung and said he has been sent to TURKEY for work next week... Will be akc late Thursday
Ok I say bloody annoying short notice but whatever...
then he says
I have to leave Sunday
I scream and swear

he says flight leaves at 9.30am
I shriek and throw things

he says
From Birmingham

I hang up.

Am

He could bring you back some Turkish delight?!
Sorry, don't know what else to say. I guess it's not his fault . Did he have a choice?

No he had no choice really, but it is not his project, therefore no one will be doing his work while he is away - he is already struggling to cope with the work load working 11 hr days.
So that's my real reason for major irkdom

Can he look for another job?

He is giving it til the New year to right iself, he has only bene there since August..
Long story...

Am trying to offer unlimited calm and support so that he considers the house move as no problem [hopeful huh]

Anyway....
might have to work off the irk with a kettlebell...

Piffle - my dh is away abroad next week too - and the week after, and it looks like most weeks for the forseeable future. It's not his workload I'm worried about though, it's mine! I need to do about 45 minutes work each morning before I take ds1 to school, and some in the evening to do full time hours around school/nursery runs and after school activities for ds1.

If I'm going to have to do the nursery run, and get the boys ready too (dh usually does those) I'm going to have to be up very early, and be working late at night once they're asleep too.

Crikey Lunar I am whinging over nothing, that's one hell of a workload my dear

MrsSlocomb is a good one. It's original too. Now what shall we call you???? comby, sloey, mrs S, sloke....

On the subject of mothers, mine was quite frightening at times too and so I probably over compensate now and am very soft but recently I've been quite cross with the children on occasion and it makes me feel wretched because I so desperately don't want to be a cross scarey mother, but need to give boundaries and am constantly pushed to my limits by motherhood. ooh it's hard work...

Piffle I've started playing a scrabble game with my brother-in-law and his 2nd and 3rd words have been seven letters!
Good luck with the diy! You can really do alot when you have motivation! Look forward to hear all details of how the viewing goes!

Mossy, I too feel terrible about Hasan falling I know how you feel. Poor wee (bouncing) babies

I mad been composing that message for ages and missed all the developments. Piffle much sympathy. Lunar I don't know how you do it all, you are some woman!

[super woman emoticon] for Lunar

Piff for your DH having a stressy job he hates and [big hugs] to you

Kitty [snigger] at your name!! have a good time tonight. If its a body shop party do they give you a party bag at the end with body shop goodies in?

Hi Rosy [waves]