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June 07 - Piling on the pounds....and we're not talking about the babies!!!

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DaisyABandyBoobToo · 28/09/2007 22:10

I'm off to bed too now...good night!

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BadZelda · 29/09/2007 21:06

Bumper I'm NO expert, but is it possible that expressing is overstimulating your supply? Could possibly try cutting that out for a couple of days over the WE whilst DH is around to cover all the chores etc?

Dontknowmyarsefrommyelbow · 29/09/2007 21:06

Bath was lovely - so was the gin!

PMSL at your 'lady garden' BZ!

bumperlicious · 29/09/2007 21:09

Possibly daisy. I don't know what to do. Got bf group on Tuesday.

There also seems to be a lot at our sure start community centre. Baby massage for £1.50 a session! I'm going to try some of the other groups like "mellow mondays"

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DaisyABandyBoobToo · 29/09/2007 21:12

bumper, another thought, if she is used to having a bottle of an evening, is she maybe just getting frustrated with the breast that it isn't coming fast enough. Maybe try no bottles for a bit and see if that helps (forgive me if that's been suggested already or it doesn't make any sense)

I've eaten crap all day today....curry for lunch and for a second lunch, egg and chips for tea followed by a pack of haribo sweets and two packs of crisps...I'll need to starve myself between now and Wednesday weigh in.

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trendaverter · 29/09/2007 21:15

GRRRRRRRRRRR

AIBU

My friend is getting married in a couple of weeks and she has not invited DS... I emailed her today saying that since going back to work, I don't really want to leave DS with the childminder AGAIN, weekends are for us to be together... plus the expense and the likelihood he would have to stay overnight would result in a lot of £££ for us - so, I said we either bring him and remove him from the room if he creates, or DH stays at home and looks after him.

Her response?
"I want both of you to come so I will pay whatever it costs for a childminder"

AIBU to feel COMPLETELY offended that whilst her gesture was generous and made in good will, that she really doesn't want DS there, so much so she will pay to keep him away? (She hates kids).

bumperlicious · 29/09/2007 21:16

You're right about the bottles, but she hasn't had one in a week until I had to give he that ebm a couple of days ago. She is going to have one tonight so I can get an early night as I am getting a cold, and then I'll give them a rest for a while. Going to go and express then go to bed. Hope DD lets up tonight!

sputnik · 29/09/2007 21:17

I would be seriously pissed off TA

riabutterflew · 29/09/2007 21:19

Just watching the Full Monty. It might well be grim up north but we don't half have a sense of humour

am off for a bath so I can put my pjs on - these jeans are too tight to eat any more and I'm starving!

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DaisyABandyBoobToo · 29/09/2007 21:23

I would be very annoyed TA....

Could you get her to pay for your folks to stay at the hotel as well and they can watch DS whilst you are at the wedding but you can have him afterwards and of course in the morning.

Surely that would be cheaper than using a childminder for an overnight....as well as the fact that leaving your DS with someone while you are at work is a totally different proposition from leaving them overnight with an effective stranger.

where's the wedding, I'll come and be baby sitter for him

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foxybrown · 29/09/2007 21:23

TA - I totally get why some people don't want kids at their weddings (not my personal choice, but it creates a different atmosphere I think). Anyway, its not like your DS is a romping toddler who will get overtired and romp around. Babies of this age are still pretty self contained and capable of sleeping in their car seats under the table.

Perhaps she doesn't understand how good babies can be in this type of situation and how good a parent you can be to read him and remove him if you think he might get upset?

You could maybe explain it to her and see if she'll make an exception? Be a shame for you and DH to miss out.

riabutterflew · 29/09/2007 21:24

no yanbu ta.

foxybrown · 29/09/2007 21:24

Leaving him overnight with a childminder??? (Just reread your post). Er, no, you are not being unreasonable. She is.

riabutterflew · 29/09/2007 21:29

tell her your childminder doesn't do overnighters so you have no choice.

foxybrown · 29/09/2007 21:30

I have just had a very lovely Sainsburys Be Good To Yourself Low Fat Chocolate pudding.

With 2 scoops of ice cream and a curly wurly stuck in the top

It was blardy marvellous!

trendaverter · 29/09/2007 21:35

I am going to drive him to Essex for my mum to look after him.
It means - working all week, saturday driving to essex to drop him off, driving to Milton Keynes for the wedding, back to essex, then next day back to reading, than work all week. And my commute is a 75 mile round trip each day.

I am just so pissed off. She knows what babies are like. She said only kids older than 9 are allowed as they are 'fairly self-sufficient then'.

I just don't think she has any concept of the fact I want to be with him actually.

She means well, she means to be generous, but (and I hate saying this), I think you need to be a mum to understand

foxybrown · 29/09/2007 21:37

Better be a bloody good knees-up for all that trouble TA!

trendaverter · 29/09/2007 21:38

Tell me about it!!
There's only 10 of us going, I just have to go as I am the sodding photographer!

foxybrown · 29/09/2007 21:41

Nite all.

trendaverter · 29/09/2007 21:50

yep me too, night x

Charlie999 · 29/09/2007 23:44

Oh god...tonight was a mistake and a bloody disaster .

Arrived at huge Chinese restaurant...all my family already there...DD asleep in car seat...put her in the corner...she woke up just as the Crispy duck arrived....immediately looked for me or DH (she hasn't seen anyone else for a week due to us being away)...she panicked as we weren't sitting close to her and she couldn't see us and she SCREAMED and SCREAMED.

Took her to the disabled loo and tried to calm her down and still she SCREAMED. Tried water, food, dummy, finger, daddy, nanny, Aunty, everything . Ended up stripping her off and giving her some calpol as she was so red and hot and she still SCREAMED.

Left resturant early having eaten 2 bits of prawn toast, nearly in tears as it was an important evening for my mum (her ruby anniversary and lost dad 2 years ago) but nothing would calm her. Got home, put her into bed, and she's now sounds asleep...

God, what a day... think she was just over-tired and pissed off

and I'm hungry...

bumperlicious · 30/09/2007 08:58

Oh charlie, what a crap night for you. Is she ok now? I'm sure your mum understands, but it was a shame you couldn't enjoy your nice meal out Hope DD is better this morning.

I have a stinking cold and I just want a day off being a mum! I want to crawl into bed with the sunday papers and eat croissants all day.

I don't know how any of you manage to co-sleep. I have finally cracked bfing lying down and we have all been in bed DH and DD sparko but me laying there wide awake, partly because I was cold and uncomfortable but also because once I am awake I find it difficult to get back to sleep, so I have left them to it. DH has to get up for work in a minute so I will be back on call [feeling sorry for myself emoticon]

Btw daisy here is a conundrum for you, DH gave DD a bottle last night (I needed a break!) and apparently DD did the whole refusal thing to him and the bottle too

andiem · 30/09/2007 09:20

aww charlie how upsetting for you they are unpredictable little beings aren't they I'm sure as bumper says your mum will understand

my lo had the screaming heebie geebies when dh had been away for nearly 2 weeks and he tried to pick him up

bumper sorry you are feeling ill awful when you are in sole charge I find take to the sofa and watch telly

daisyandbabybootoo · 30/09/2007 09:59

Charlie, sorry your night out wasn't a great success. I'm sure your mum will understand. Maybe you can take her out for a nice leisurely lunch sometime soon.

Perhaps the journey home and then out and about again was just too much for her? I know that if DS got overtired he was inconsolable. Fingers crossed with DD so far. If she gets in a state, I just stick her on the boob and it calms her down.

Bumper, I hope you feel better soon. Have you got any lemsip? A nice duvet day on the sofa is definately in order. I wish I could have one of those

DH is irritating the hell out of me this morning. I need order and calm and he and DS have bickered the whole morning and my nerves are jangling. He was also taking the piss out of my shiny sink (although I must admit I'm now getting a tad obsessive about it).

I've sent him out for some random bits of crap that he'll need to go to several shops for just so I can have a bit of peace and quiet

daisyandbabybootoo · 30/09/2007 10:00

bumper, stumped at your DD. Could it be related to reflux? is she maybe uncomfortable when lying down to feed?

bumperlicious · 30/09/2007 10:38

don't think that's it daisy. how's boo today?