June 2020 Babies - newborn snuggles, recovery, milk and night feeds!

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First post natal thread for June 2020 babies! Looking forward to seeing our birth club thread members here soon!

Thats amazing that you have been able to do that @APD1981 I think Grace just isn’t ready for that sort of thing yet but hopefully in the coming weeks things will fall into place naturally xx

@APD1981 I do very similar to you x

@Gigitree I wouldn't compare yourself to others. Every baby and every set of circumstances are different. A routine will come when you're both ready for it x

@mrssunshinexxx I feel like I'm going to have to be quite rigid with ths routine for a while, until it's embedded, but when he's a bit older he might be able to stay up a bit later now and again if there was a particular reason to. I love bathtime though. My fave time of day because he loves it and we have fun x

@APD1981 yeah I don't want to be stuck to the house but more so for day times I'm getting out abit like to my sisters and sat outside at a cafe I want her to be able to sleep through noise etc but I am less keen to disturb her bedtime routine right now she gets overtired big time so I think it's only fair at the moment I keep it as calm and similar as I can.

Oh it's lovely isn't it she loves a bath but prefers the big rain shower ! Have you had a bath with him yet?
We start swimming lessons in 2 weeks I can't wait x

@Gigitree we have somewhat of a bedtime routine but not a schedule. We bath or sponge bath her every night between 7 and 8, then dress, swaddle, lie down to feed and then she goes to sleep. So her sleep time has varied from as early as 7:50 to as late as 9:30. The timings don’t matter to us, it’s the routine of bath, pjs, swaddle, feed, sleep that’s important as it seems to work to signal to her that it’s time for a long sleep in her crib. Some nights she’s not ready to sleep after the feed and so we wait a bit and feed her again and then she’ll sleep. Sometimes she just needs the boob for a second and it makes her pass out. Our daytime “routine” is feed on demand and nap on me roughly 2 hours after waking, or whenever she seems sleepy, and me running around trying to get stuff done during her wake times. You can see on my huckleberry app how varied the times are each day. Don’t stress about a real routine until at least 3 months, so long as baby is sleeping and feeding well then you’re doing great. I think the benefit of a bedtime routine is that it helps baby sleep longer at night and know the difference between night and day.

@Gigitree I wouldnt worry at all about a routine, it will just happen naturally and without you realising. We only started a sort of routine because of the evening screaming and crying. The bath and settling down seemed to stop this. We even tried to do the bath really early one night to stop the crying in its tracks- but he saw right through it and just cried afterwards as well! Hows Grace of an evening? Hoping you dont have the world of Colic!

@mrssunshinexxx I didnt know you could do swimming lessons so young- how old is your little one in 2 weeks? I think thats brilliant! Mine loves the bath so will look to start swimming whens hes able to

@APD1981 we do similar to you...just hoping for those longer night stretches soon!

@mrssunshinexxx I bathed with him til he was 3 weeks old when we moved him to the bath rest thing we have. It's a lovely time to bond. As for swimming, I can't wait to take him. I was looking at swim times the other day. Sadly no water babies classes have restarted yet but family swims are available. I'm hoping I'll be able to start going lane swimming at the weekends myself soon too. Swimming has always been my main form of exercise and I really miss it. I'm not sure what to do about swimming lessons for him yet. My sister is a qualified swimming teacher so I might just utilise her for now and wait til he's a bit older x

@SRS1311 you can take them swimming from newborn nhs guidance isn't even after their jabs now! She will be 10 weeks old I'm really looking forward to it I've got her a neoprene wetsuit thingy to keep her warmer and hopefully happy as the lesson is much longer and colder than her baths/ showers

@APD1981 I love swimming too it's really nice isn't it I think I will try have my first bath with her tonight I just like mine red hot 😂 but I can top it up when she gets out. Oh really they have started round here but I'm going with swim start as they are cheaper and pool warmer where they are based x

@mrssunshinexxx ohh swimming with baby will be so fun, I’m so jealous you get to do that! I have loved swimming since my auntie taught me when I was a toddler and really want my daughter to love it too. Really hoping the covid situation is under control enough that we can visit my parents in Spain next summer. Keep picturing her first beach day and paddling in the sea. Also feeling really sad this week that my mum won’t get to meet Jia in person as a baby.

@UKtoSK I hope you can do that too.
Yeah that must be really tough how is she coping with it?
I wish so bad my mum hadn't died suddenly in April 6 weeks before I had my baby I can't get my head around the fact she's gone and will never meet my baby or see me being a mummy. Life is so short X

@mrssunshinexxx I can’t even imagine how hard that has been for you xx

@UKtoSK it's pretty unbearable every minute but my baby girl helps me to carry on I don't like to think about if I didn't have her. Life is really cruel. X

@mrssunshinexxx I'm really close to my Mum so cant imagine what your having to go through. Hope your holding up okay and have a lot of support x

Thank you @SRS1311 she was my best friend in the world and would of been the best grandma feel heartbroken for me and my daughter

Not sure what life's all about. X

@mrssunshinexxx I'm sorry that you are having to deal with this loss. It's just terrible.

I lost my father a few years ago and he was young. It breaks my heart to think he never got to meet his wonderful granddaughter.

I hope that you are feeling supported during this time. Sending you hugs xx

@mrssunshinexxx I lost my brother very suddenly ten years ago and it gets easier with time although it never goes away. I still feel robbed or cheated somehow. It’s extremely unfair. I hope you have lots of support and I would really recommend counselling if you have the funds. I should have got help at the time and didn’t and it took me a long time to deal with it. You and your daughter are both lucky to have each other xx

@UKtoSK & @Magpie21 sorry your both in the same Both. Never knew it was possible to hurt this much constantly I spend every night feed just sobbing I really hope it's not going to affect my baby because I really can't help it. No I wouldn't say I have great support but I'm fine with my baby she keeps me going. I had 3 sessions of counselling but it really wasn't for me I might revisit in the future.
People keep saying it will get better with time but I know it won't for me we couldn't of been a closer mum and daughter it's just that I will get used to living with this pain for the rest of my life which is quite depressing thought. I thought having my daughter would help but it hasn't it's made it worse as now I know the little human that was in my tummy who should have the best grandma in the world and my mum should have her x

Any tips on entertaining a 10 week old? Ivy is more and more awake now for longer and I find it hard to entertain her, we have play-mats, mobiles and enough toys to look at and touch but it's hard to keep her happy for long or not get to over stimulated! I find she gets grouchy quickly with everything at the moment.

@Busylizzie85 have you tried hey bear on YouTube? It's sensory videos, Freddie loves watching them. We tend to spend a lot of time just having conversations with him and he likes to look out the window as he's not really into toys yet

@Cornishbumpkin ivy loves hey bear too especially the popcorn one and the dancing rainbows but I worry I use them to much 😂 do you allow one a day or how often do you let him watch them?
I do spend a lot of time just talking to her but I have to admit I get tired after a while of my own voice 🙈
I might try looking out the window with her that's a new thing we could do. 😊

@Busylizzie85 he's watched it twice so far today for probably 15-20 mins each time so I could do some housework and shower lol. I'm quite happy to put it on if I need to do something or he needs some chill time.
😂 I know what you mean about your own voice!! Thankfully some days Freddie is so chatty I only have to make the odd reciprocal noise 😂 I saw a post on Facebook about putting baby down on a foil blanket as it crinkles as they wriggle, haven't managed to find a blanket yet to try it

Has anybody else had their 12 weeks jabs yet? DD has hers yesterday and she’s been a grouchy little thing ever since 😭
No nap today really which is gonna be real fun tonight 😭

@Cornishbumpkin I bought two foil blankets for about £2 on amazon and Benji loves them!

Oo Thankyou I'll take a look in amazon

Hey - I'm finding that my LO is losing her dummy during the night and searching for it, meaning I have to pop it in again (often multiple times). Has anyone else come across this issue?

@blizy how are you getting on with your LO in terms of the wind? I have started to use teat 2. Unfortunately I'm not finding a massive difference but I haven't been using it for every feed...maybe I need too. Did you end up trying the comfort milk?