May 2020 Babies

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Still waiting for my little man to arrive but starting a thread ready. Can't wait to catch up with all the other May 20 mums.

Huge congratulations to those who have already met their little ones. It's been quite a scary time to face giving birth recently and you've all done amazingly.

Congratulations @Moongirl10 and @Naughtysausage hope you’re both recovering well x

Hi! Joining @Naughtysausage and @Moongirl10 from the May group.
Baby was born yesterday night- a day before due date, which we were not expecting.
It's surreal and finding it quite hard to wrap my head round that there's a baby here.

Not sure what I've been thinking of or expecting I would have over the last 40 weeks to still be in shock, lol.

Congratulations @Lady7978 is this your first? I remember feeling like that after my first. I don't know what I was expecting but a real proper baby was definitely a surprise lol. Hope you are both well and getting home soon

Congratulations all the new arrivals.

Thanks all for being so kind. I didn’t want to speak to anyone or admit how I’ve been feeling but after reading all the comments I decided to tell my midwife. Had a doctors appointment today and she has diagnosed PND and put me on antidepressants which I hope will help.

This baby was so badly wanted I’m still confused by this but hope to be back to normal soon.

Hi to all that have had their babies since I was last on here ☺️

@ginunicorn well done, I suffered with PND with my first but didn't seek help for over 8 months. I started anti depressants from thennand the change was amazing, I felt so terribly low for so long that I couldn't remember what feeling normal or even happy was. Within two weeks I felt so much better, I won't hesitate to go to the GP this time when I feel the PND creeping in again, it is just so hard to ask for help. Since then talking about it to people PND is so common and nothing to feel ashamed about. Wishing you all the best x

Thanks @Lu1u I really don’t think I’d have been able to ask for help without all the support here.

@GinUnicorn well done for being so brave and asking for help. In a couple of weeks time hopefully you will be starting to feel much better and you will realise how bad you felt before. You’ve done the best thing for you and baby. Hopefully they told you but sometimes the first two weeks on the antidepressants can make you feel worse - this is completely normal so just persevere and you will come out the other side. Keep talking to someone about how you’re feeling, on here if it helps too. Really hope things start to look up soon, I’ve been there and it’s so hard but you’ve taken the hardest step now x

Well done for speaking to the doctor @GinUnicorn. I hope you can start enjoying your new mummy life soon

Very brave of you @GinUnicorn - things will improve for you now you’ve reached out for help.

I hope everyone is doing well! My little one is just over 3 weeks now and I’m getting over a very bad bout of mastitis! Little one was jaundice as well so we made the decision to combi feed and so far it’s all going well.

We had our first little family of three bbq today - a lot less boozy than our usual BBQs but that’s going to be the new normal now I suppose. Hope you’re all having a lovely weekend xxx

@GinUnicorn just to echo what others have said, you're so brave and strong to seek help! I'm so pleased for you and I hope you're feeling better soon! Just remember this is all part of you're recovery, everyone recovers differently!

Girls I'm a little worried about these spots on my little boys skin. It's mainly around his neck and shoulders, just little white spots. Should i be worried or is it likely a heat rash? I've text my health visitor but no reply yet. He otherwise is absolutely fine!!

@november90 could be acne? Quite common in newborns I think. My baby has a little collection of spots on the end of her nose try some breast milk on it?

If anyone has any tips for recovering after a c section please let me know 😊 terrified about my scar becoming infected and sad because my husband is having to do most of the work with the baby. Feel like I’m not doing enough. C section was nearly 3 days ago.

Hi @Moongirl10 I've had 3 sections now. The first 2 recoveries were so much more painful than my current one. I've felt so good after this one I've no idea why!
My advice would be keep on top of taking pain relief regularly, keep your legs elevated and get plenty of rest. Don't worry about all those little jobs you want done because if you push yourself too much you will set your recovery back. Sometimes it's easy to think you feel fine and can do stuff but when the pain relief wears off you will realise you over did it. Keep the wound site clean and dry. Carefully drying it after washing. Look out for signs of infection like redness and swelling including in your legs and bumpy skin. Also if I remember rightly the colour of your bleeding may indicate infection and obviously any bad smell needs investigating.
Ive been feeling so good I've been on long walks and been driving my car, I have noticed after walking I feel where the scar is and think I've probably over done it. And a few days a go I had some really heavy bleeding after it had stopped for a couple of days, again think I over done it with activity. My baby is 17 days old now. I've also had a lot of help from my mum so I've basically done no house work except tidying the kitchen surfaces and things I don't have to bend for.
Just go at your own pace, won't be long till you're feeling good as new

Thank you @Delbelleber, that is so helpful!

So my little boys spots have got worse! He's still absolutely fine in himself, no temp or anything. But his head is covered and there are more on his chest!!!! I have just bathed him and rubbed some breast milk on them. I'm not sure whether to ring the doctors or not....

I think I'd call them just for peace of mind @november90 even if it is just "newborn rash".

You're welcome @Moongirl10

@november90 - my son also has/had those spots. Midwife has been out twice a week here and said they are baby acne. She said its common in breastfed/ breastmilk drinking babies as they are getting all the high hormones from your body adjusting. So the high hormones basically the same as teenage acne. My son had it worse at 2 ish weeks old, he's now 4 weeks and its disappeared from his chest now, just on his face and mainly a bit each side of face near temple.

Hi everyone, nice to see some familiar names from the Due in May threads, congratulations on your lovely newborns. Our gorgeous little girl was born 8th May.

I don’t know if what I’m feeling is PND but I feel so detached from her sometimes, I don’t think I can get my head round her being mine and that this is my life now. I think she’s amazing and gorgeous and I love cuddles with her but other times I wish I could go back to how things were and I hate myself for wishing her away. Sorry to be so negative, just feels better to say it ‘out loud’ for the first time.

@november90 oh look at his gorgeous full head of hair!! What a cutie ❤️

@sazzlerazzle really don't worry - lots of FTM feel like that. It's really a bit of a loss of the life you had before and when you aren't running on normal hormones it's really easy for that to feel awful! I definitely grieved for my previous pre-baby life with DS1. But, as you start to feel better, you love what you're creating more. But don't feel guilty, you can't possibly imagine beforehand what it'll feel like to give up your normal life and replace it with (tbh) a noisy and demanding baby, and not a lot else.
Do tell people though. Tell your OH, tell your Mum and your HV.

@sazzlerazzle I’ve been diagnosed with
PND and felt very detached generally. The doctor has put me on anti depressants which have already begun to help. Here if you want to chat x

Thank you @Naughtysausage I told my husband last night that I felt sad and low and he was great, but I didn’t go into detail, I didn’t feel ready to say it. It feels awful to say that I think my life was better before she arrived but I really miss how things used to be and coronavirus has just made things worse because I feel like I’m missing out on so much - even just going for a stroll and sitting in a coffee shop. I have so many friends and family and yet I feel so isolated.

@GinUnicorn I’m sorry you’ve had a hard time. Did you find the GP was sympathetic? Did you go there yourself or did your health visitor suggest it? x

Hi everyone!

Sorry to hear of those of you struggling with PND- just to echo what others have said make sure you talk to someone ( hubby/partner, family, HV or GP) try not to worry, take it a day at a Time - you will get there. Plus we are all here if you need to talk.

I am after some recommendations if anyone has any- my little one is going through the "please don't put me down mummy" phase- hubby is back at work & I struggle to do anything round the house- has anyone got/recommend a baby carrier? Xxxx

Hi everyone!
I hope everyone is doing well and enjoying their babies 💕 after a traumatic long labour and third degree tear I’m starting to feel a little bit more like myself 11 days on. I tried to go for a walk today but I was very aware of a feeling of something ‘down there’ now I’m terrified I’ve got a prolapse. Is this normal to feel like there’s something there? The aftercare has been pretty poor, I’ve not even had my stitches checked since leaving the hospital. Feeling quite overwhelmed at the birth injuries I encountered and feel like my partner doesn’t understand ☹️

@CharlieB93 I've felt like that with both of mine! The first time I had an cut (I don't know the medical term sorry) and this time I had a 2nd degree tear and I've felt that sensation both times. It's so uncomfortable but it will pass! I think everything is just very swollen and healing and just very uncomfortable! I hope you're feeling better soon ❤️

My little boys milo a rash is so bad... I actually cannot believe how many spots he has. He must have hundreds and they are just getting worse and worse and worse! His head is completely covered... literally back to back. His face is starting to fill up as is his body. I don't know what to do :( it doesn't feel right to not do anything! I've been bathing with breast milk and sterilised water... but they still look so bad :(