March 2020 babies

[Jesskir89]

Any new mums about? First timer here. Baby freddie was born last Friday 13th. Could do with some company especially in the early hours!!

@jesskir89 I dont think it is cause he burps well and passes wind ok. I think its more when he is tired and gets frustrated when he cant keep sucking for milk. That's all I can think of at the moment.

He didnt sleep after his 4:45am feed but is finally asleep now so that's good.

@abbs1 what a nightmare hope you managed a kip today. We had a long walk today so me and freddie had a nap when we got back and he's sleeping now. Hopefully he will have another feed and sleep when we go to bed

And I didn't mean three days I meant the days lol tiredness

@abbs1 my daughter has started doing similar, she gets to a certain time in the evening and I try to offer her food and she just screams and screams. She has a usual routine of feed, change, small top up feed but now when it comes to ‘bedtime’ she just screams as soon as the nappy change is done but settled immediately once she is in her crib! It’s really strange! I guess it’s just tiredness but it seems weird to suddenly start at 6 nearly 7 weeks!

@atomcats Joseph is just over 7 weeks and it's been happening for a week or so. Very draining trying to comfort him and nothing working. I think it is total over tiredness and he just doesnt know what to do with himself.
@jesskir89 he only slept like 20mins at 4PM and then was awake till 930pm after being awake all day. Just inconsolable crying screaming no food nappy change or cuddle or even a bath would help and then he crashed at 945pm and slept till 1am and then slept again 120am to 5am so a really good night and I finally got some sleep!

@abbs1 that sounds really hard your DP is working so much. It is good having them at home though, cuts the commute.

Sounds like everyone is experiencing evening fussiness! We have tried a bath to relax and she does seem to like it but then screams when she gets dried so kind of defeats the purpose!

Hope everyone had a better night.

@abbs1 have you spoken to your HV? I called mine to double check about the evening fussiness / screaming fits and she recommended trying infacol. They was about two weeks ago things have definitely improved since then.

@singme yes I'm so glad hes home working or it would be 10pm before he would get home.

@atomcats i did speak with the health visitor and doctor and they said its probably colic.
I have been giving Joseph infacol several times a day but that seems to make the crying and screaming even worse! I dont give it every feed as hes only 8lbs 7oz now at 7 weeks old and he feeds every 2-3hours. When I did give it every feed he sicked it all back out bless him.
I'm hoping it will all settle down. I am gonna try the sensa aptimal milk as the protein has been broken down more so that may help his digestion. My mother in law recommended it so I have some coming in my food shop on monday so will see if that works. If not I will go back to the HV to ask for some more advice.

Glad i found this thread! My DS was born on 24 March so i can count lockdown by his age!

Currently going through six week growth spurt. Spent most of Friday sleeping and yesterday feeding every hour. He usually sleeps on our daily walk - not yesterday - had to feed him under a tree in case the bench police arrived! When he's older I'll point the tree out to him

He also has problems with wind, but infacol and keeping him upright helps.

Funny thing during the day he'll only sleep on us/in sling/in moving pram, but at night quite happily goes in his crib after feeds! Feeling quite lucky with him - he feeds at roughly 11, 2, and 5. At 5.30 ish he goes to daddy so i get an extra hour or so sleep then.

I had a planned c section, but not having my six week check until eight weeks as they're combining it with jabs. I'm desperate to start exercising; I've lost the baby weight and more; love breast feeding!; but just feel really lethargic. Did anyone start exercising before getting the go ahead from the doctor?

Also when do you all think baby groups will start up again? I don't want to ask this on other threads in case i get a sarcastic ' really?' but the isolation is really getting to me, we've moved to this area quite recently and baby groups were how i planned on meeting a few people!

I went to a few ' pregnancy' meetups at a local pub before the birth and it would be nice to meet up with some mums from that now we've had our babies - i didn't take numbers at the time as silly me i didn't think we were about to enter lockdown!

@Minesril I was keen to start running again (not that I was very good before!). I think it is a side effect of lock down. However I read the below blog in the BMJ which suggests 12 weeks minimum.

blogs.bmj.com/bjsm/2019/05/20/ready-steadygo-ensuring-postnatal-women-are-run-ready/

Sometimes I’ve noticed a heaviness down below on long walks so I’m going to keep going with pelvic floor exercises and wait a bit longer before doing any impact stuff. Was thinking of starting some postnatal Pilates if I can find any online but then again if I get a baby free hour I’d probably rather nap.

Sorry that’s probably not that helpful!

@abbs1 sorry, I remember us talking about it earlier now! I’m really sorry that things aren’t improving. My daughter had a full on meltdown yesterday and nothing we tried would settle her until she eventually (I assume) just tired herself out. I can’t imagine how hard it must be if it’s a refular occursnce. if it helps his weight was close to my D at birth and she was feeding regularly 2-3 hours at most. When she got to 10lb that’s when the bigger gaps between feeds started so maybe it is a case that his tummy is still little and so he needs the little and often feeds? Have you thought of / tried calling cry-sis? They might have some advice, or be able to at least offer some support in all this. www.cry-sis.org.uk/

@Minesril We have a similar experience with sleep, she has no interest in her downstairs crib but the upstairs one for sleeping overnight is absolutely fine, very strange but I’m not complaining! She’s getting to a point where she only wakes up once in the night which is amazing, although the last two she’s had two wake ups which is still so much better than where we were a few weeks ago! I don’t have any advice about returning to running, I’m planning on talking to the GP (assuming that’s allowed!) at the 8 weeks jab / post natal appointment. I’ve also lost a lot of weight so I’m cautious of overdoing things just in case. I had low iron in pregnancy and feel a little bit like that again, although maybe that’s just new parent exhaustion! I’m also in a similar position about baby groups. We moved her in September and I was counting on groups to help with meeting new people. I know so much is online, but that doesn’t help with the social side of things. Fingers crossed it won’t be too long.

@atomcats I hope you have a better day today with your little one. Sounds like it was a rough one for you yesterday.
I will look into cry-sis I've never heard of them before.
Yesterday Joseph slept a lot and fed but was crying at every feed and fighting it but then he went to sleep at 10pm and slept till 2am and then again 230am to 5am in his cot! So big progress there.
I hope once he reaches 10lbs he takes more and feeds less often that would make night time a lot better. I always worry he doesnt get enough milk as he only drinks 2-3oz at a time but I guess hes still small compared to most 7week olds so he has some catching up to do. He has around 24oz in 24hours but the doctor and health visitor said it should be 30oz so he has a little way to go but hes gaining weight so that's the main thing.

Yes, the lethargy probably is an effect of lockdown. I always feel so much better after a walk (which Apparently I can now do as much as i like - presumably when not homeschooling my five year old!). I'm not a runner - I'm a big fan of Jillian Michaels, who has a focus on strength and abs as well as cardio. The baby likes me doing squats/lunges while holding him (remembering being in utero?) but i haven't done anymore than that. My son is into cosmic yoga; perhaps i should do more of that with him until i see the doc.
And yes fingers crossed about baby groups! Maybe I'll get some in before the end of mat leave.

Hi everyone. Haven't posted for a little while. Congratulations to those who have had their babies :)

Well we have got to 4+6 weeks. Penny will only sleep on my chest but she will sleep from 2040ish-0100 and then its a guessing game what she does from there, usually feeds, I hold her upright for 30 mins on my chest and then sleeps waking every 2 hours if I'm lucky but were normally up and out of bed at 6am otherwise she cries waking my eldest up.
She suffers terribly with reflux like her Dad did. She's often sick so I feed her, she brings it up and I cry as she then needs boobing again due to the burning acid pain in the throat/empty stomach, its gutting at times. I've stopped giving her infacol as she seems to be passing wind so much better now she's a bit older.

I damaged my coccyx during birth so when I do have a rough night of fussing sat up god it hurts!!!!

@abbs1have you gone back to trying skin2skin to help with the crying?

@Minesril I really wish for groups to start up again when its safe to do so. I'm not a "girly girl" but I really feel like Penny is missing out and me too. Maybe we could setup a WhatsApp group to feel a bit more in touch with mums of babies the same age? My sil has done that with both her mumsnet groups and they keep in touch/meet up sometimes.

I definitely like the idea of a WhatsApp group!

@Minesril welcome to the group :) how's everyone getting on? I had a bad night last night. Freddie went to sleep at 1,woke at 3,back down at 4, woke at 5 then woke again at 7.30 I had about 4 hours all night x

@minijmac sorry I missed your post. Sound tough I hope it gets easier soon. I'm up for a WhatsApp group how can I send you my number x

@Minesril @jesskir89
Private message on here maybe? If you scroll to the top of the page, click the figure of the person, click inbox, then the down arrow and new message then send through there??? Don't post them on here then I can create a group.

@minijmac thanks I think I've done it x

I think that worked!

I've set it up :) Anyone else that wants to join just send me a message

@MiniJMac that's a good idea ☺️ can u not send private messages on the app?

@DaniX91 I have no idea as I haven't got the app I just use it on a browser.

Hi I’m a little late to join but with the chaos of lockdown it’s not been on my list of things to do sadly. I’ve got a little girl born 6th March she’s my third, I’ve got two older sons one is 3 and the other is 8. Missing the chance to go to baby groups etc. so much different from my last two maternity leaves