December 2019 babies

[TTc2019BabyNo1]

Hi All,

Thought I’d just start a December 2019 babies thread for those who have given birth in December and want to catchup/chat/rant/need support etc.

We are 11 days in...!
How is everyone doing?

@Fivebyfive2 white noise appears to have zero effect on mine

So I had another weigh in today, baby boy still isn't back up to birth weight but not far off, I'm not sure if they are concerned anymore but have to go to clinic regularly to get him weighed. I'm hoping I will get the referral for tongue tie through in the next few days as we are starting to struggle with breast feeding, his latch is getting lazy as he is having bottles and I am having to use shields to help him as he just isn't feeding well at all. I'm quite disappointed I've not had anything through yet, the referral was the day he was born and I've heard nothing, it's quite a bad tongue tie and it's hugely affecting breast feeding to the point his weight isn't going up, and I am probs my going to have to move him to bottles because of it. It's quite disheartening 😢

Give your gp a ring tomorrow to re send the referral, i have a friend who's baby had tongue tie and she got fed up of waiting for her appointment so she rang go, turns out they had forgot to send the referral but her phone call to them got it sorted quickly !!

So our wee one is just over 2 weeks old now. We've only been home for 1 week though as we spent the first 10 days in Hospital due to him having an infection and being in neonatal care.

I'm really really struggling tbh with breastfeeding. I worked incredibly hard to get back to BF from formula in hospital and he's now exclusively BF but I never thought it would be this hard. He seems okay during the day but permanently attached to me in mornings and nights. Every day is a daily battle to not switch to formula.

It is so so hard, harder than you ever expect. I bf for the first week and naively thought it would come naturally, it didn't. Cluster feeding is completely normal, it stimulates your breasts encouraging your supply. If you really want to bf you have to persevere however I do believe happy mummy, happy baby so you have to do what's best you sending hugs 🤗

Electric went off another 4 times last night
I don’t think I can switch to formula at this rate.

@bespokepaininthearse I’d ring them and chase, it’s good he’s gaining weight but if he’s still struggling to feed getting the tongue tie sorted will help massively! Good luck!!
@Dec19baby same here, she’ll scream if she isn’t attached to boob all night! It’s exhausting!! I have no advice to solve this but I’m told it gets better!
@Comps83 how are you doing??

Hope everyone is well!! We’re three and a half weeks in and struggling with the lack of routine but I did manage to get her out of the house on my own yesterday!
We’re off to register her tomorrow! 👍

Hi all! Had a day in just me and Joe, doing admin 🤓 Applied for his birth certificate, sorted Dr's appointments, set up online banking, did an online shop and put some washing in/tidied the kitchen a little. Also managed a call with my long distance bestie between feeds 🙂 Mum is coming tomorrow to help with baby bath time.

Possibly a tmi area, but how is every one feeling in terms of, ahem, intimate relations?! I made a joke to dh the other night about him never looking at me the same again, post hospital and always with a baby on my boob.... I think he thought I was hinting, he's mentioned a couple of times since about when do I think we'll be 'back on the horse' 🤔😂 I actually feel like it would be nice to have the closeness again soon, but with Joe only settling for very short, very random periods and me not exactly feeling super attractive (I have to plan a shower like a military op!) just not sure?!!

Yes dh has asked when I think we can sex again
Felt like punching him tbh . I’m not overly arsed about it at the best of times but I’m still pretty sore down there and still have the stitches in .

@Fivebyfive2 that sounds a productive day, I’ve also had a day at home with baby curious and I’ve pleased with what I’ve achieved: managed to sort out some of my clothes (charity shop / bin), got on top of the laundry, hoovered and tided all of downstairs and also some admin.

We’ve had a breakthrough this afternoon, he’s currently sleeping and has been since 2ish in his pram top. Recently he’s only slept when held but I popped him in his dream swaddle whilst asleep and he’s stayed asleep since! no idea why I didn’t think of it earlier as he sleeps for 2-4 hours in it at night usually (I’ve totally jinxed it now haven’t I!)

With regards to being intimate - it’s a big no from me! We’ve spoken about it and I’ve made it clear it’s not happening for a long long while as I have a third degree tear! Have physio in a couple of months so will see what the verdict is after that.

Hi Everyone.
Hope things are looking up for everyone. I've mainly gone on to formula with my little one as I just couldn't fill him by BF alone. I've tried to express some as well but just haven't had the time to do it so my milk has pretty much dried up I think. I have mixed feelings about it tbh. I really wanted to BF and enjoyed it while I have done it but also the formula is so much easier to sustain. I sometimes feel like I am missing the closeness BF gives you. However he has been weighed again today and he has gained another 21oz and is now 2lb above birth weight so no wonder I haven't been able to fill him!
What slings/carriers do people recommend?

@jpaws
I also don’t think he getting what he needs from my breast milk
He can literally be on there for hours and still cry for more . He’s latching properly and everything but it just doesn’t seem enough, and then when he gets some formula it seems to fill him up and send him to sleep

We're at 4 weeks now.

As for sex, you have to wait until you've stopped bleeding at the very least.

We tried to have a go about 5 days ago. But DD decided that was the night she wouldn't settle in her basket.... We got 15 minutes... nights prior to that, she'd be down for around 2hrs!

@Comps83 what you've said sounds very similar to how we started on the formula in hospital. He just needed that little bit extra to top him up and settle him down. It kind of snowballed from there.
My oh has also mentioned how long it's been since we had sex ... my reply was like well it's going to be a while longer yet lol!

I tried out one of our sling carriers today, a Caboo and it was a nightmare!! Supposed to be easy to use too, definitely couldn't get it on myself with a wriggling baby! We've also got the baby box sling which is when6 worse, and a baby Bjorn which is much easier but he's still too small for it yet.

@Dec19baby which Caboo do you have?

With regard to sex, my DH won't be going near there any time soon. It's been through an ordeal and just wants to be left in peace for a while. I think last time it was about 4 months post partum. Although I'm so terrified of getting pregnant again I might just never let him near me again. As it is, we haven't even been in bed at the same time since DS was born so no chance of an accidental pregnancy 😂

Sorry to hear some of you are struggling with breastfeeding. I really would urge you to seek support if you haven't already. I really struggled with my first, so we had a midwife or assistant out every day for the first couple of weeks for feeding support and we went to a breastfeeding clinic for a few weeks as well - no chance I'd have stuck with it without all that help. This time round the only thing that got me through the pain of the first few weeks was the knowledge that it'd be so much less faff than formula in the long run 😂 - entirely selfish motivations.

@Comps83 if your electricity problems are the only reason you're not switching to formula, there's always ready made stuff and cold water sterilising? Not sure how much more expensive the formula works out than powdered though.

We got the Ergobaby Omni 360 for Christmas so I’ve been using that with the newborn insert and it’s great! She falls asleep in it and I can have use of my arms! Winning!

Anyone else having a growth spurt? I think that might be what we’re experiencing! She’s nearly 4 weeks old now and at night will constantly feed and cry if she’s not on the breast 🙄!

My dd is so tired, she won’t settle proper or sleep mores than a few minutes :(

Has been fussing and on the boob since 4pm...only sleeping for around ten minutes.

Poor dot :(

Eugh I think the sleeping for a good few hours a night may have been a fluke
He woke at 2.30 last night and would not go back down . He was changed , fed , cuddled and burped but just wouldn’t go back to sleep . He seemed really tired but just seemed to be fighting it .

@Comps83 we are the same. Had a good few nights when we first came out of hospital when he went 3 hours each time. But not now, must be going through growth spurt! Nearly every hour feeding!

Joe slept in very nice 2-3 hour stretches Mon night, but since then it's gone to pot!! He's been waking up pretty much every hour and although he sleeps pretty soundly in the day, at night he seems really restless?! I've told dh I want to ditch the shifts this weekend and to try getting him to settle upstairs. Not sure how well that went down, but feel we need to keep trying.

I’m currently trying to finish college work with a lunch time deadline with a baby hanging off my boob
We are mostly feeding formula now though I must admit

@Fivebyfive2 yeah we have pretty just ditched the shifts
Apart from last night where dh took him downstairs and I swapped at 8am
Luckily dh has got an extra week off due to my mam dying, but it all honestly im kinda looking forward to him going back so I can get used to having the baby on my own .

@Dec19baby
They always sleep well the first few days, because they're tired from the birth! Sorry!

Hello.. can I join please? I had a baby girl (our third) on NYE, so she is two and a half weeks old. Currently cluster feeding like crazy every evening!