December 2019 babies

[TTc2019BabyNo1]

Hi All,

Thought I’d just start a December 2019 babies thread for those who have given birth in December and want to catchup/chat/rant/need support etc.

We are 11 days in...!
How is everyone doing?

I use the perfect prep when we are home both day and night, and I honestly love it. It's so quick and easy, and I bought the older version which is much cheaper now the new Day and Night version is out. I don't mind getting up to make the bottles in the night, I need it to help wake me up a little!

When we are out and about I take sterilised bottles and the small ready to feed formula bottles. Luckily my LO doesn't seem to mind it room temp/a little colder than the prep machine makes it so I don't bother try and warm it. I know the ready made bottles aren't the cheapest, but I love the ease of it and think it's worth it.

We take up two clean bottles, a thermos flask of hot water and one of them little pots that separates formula (for when your out and about). We fill each section with 6 ounce then when lo is ready for a feed, pour the water in and the formula as it's already measured out, cool and good to go. We didn't get on with the perfect prep as he prefers his bottles quite hot and when made with prep machine it almost took his breath and he wouldn't drink it.

Just curious for those that breastfeed, do you feel like your body holds on to the weight?! I find this so annoying. I want to continue to breastfeed, but every time I feel like it makes me hold onto fat and baby weight comes off so damn slow! Initially the first two weeks a lot drops off. But then it’s only a kilo a month. I tend to gain around 23 kilos each pregnancy, which is a lot! My body tends to just slow way down metabolism wise. I’m on my third dc and I always lose the weight. But just frustrating it comes of sssssooooo slowly!!

Anyone else thinking to start a exercise routine? I want to start to exercise three times a week. Would be easier if I got solid 8 hours of sleep!

Well, we're super lazy. DD is being supplemented with formula at the moment.

I make up two bottles around 9pm....and out them in a cool bag with ice packs.
She wakes around 2 and 6 for food.
When she wakes I take out a bottle, out her in the boob, then when she's done, the bottle has lost its chill, and she has it cold....

I know you're supposed to make it fresh when needed, but.... She's never hand it warm from a bottle so knows no difference.... I can barely stay awake to feed her and burp her, let alone get out if bed and make a fresh bottle zzzzzz

(She gets her nappy changed in bed too.... I just use antibac gel and have everything right by the bed. Don't get out if bed at all really.... Unless it's a poo, and we're up and in the changing mat and hands properly washed)

#LazyMum

My exercise is currently walking. Take DD out most days for her nap.... And do some fast paced walking....

Getting a bike trailer soon and will cycle places...if it ever stops raining!!!

OMG WHY DO PEOPLE INSIST ON TRYING TO TALK TO ME OR ASK QUESTIONS WHEN IM WRANGLING A SCREAMING BABY 😩

we've had 2 hours of quiet.... and the moment she starts wailing (hungry and tired) I get inane questions directed at me. Like ' has the postman been'.... 'shall we have chops for dinner?'.....

Is page 13 too late to join? My twins were born mid Dec

Wow twins!
How are you coping with that?

I'm having my first night away from little man . Booked a spa break back when I was sleep deprived and felt dh wasn't pulling his wait but now I'm just missing him
Tho I do think dh needs to spend a day on his own with him as he still just hands him back to me as soon as cries etc

We're surviving, just. I have very low standards on everything haha

Sounds like it'll do Daddy good to get some unavoidable parenting time in!!

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Honestly I wasn't this stupid before I had the baby

Ahh twins... no idea how I'd cope with two, one is hard work sometimes!

That spa break sounds nice but not sure I have it in me to leave my baby yet for more than a couple of hours (done this with my parents).

Bit of a personal one - has anyone had their first period after the initial bleed post birth? I have now been on for 12 days 😫 seems to be never ending and I used to only be on for 4 days max pre pregnancy. It's making me feel so tired and all I want to eat is rubbish which isn't helping the slimming world.

I haven't but if you're losing lots of blood and feeling really tired etc is it worth getting your iron checked?

I don't really know how we cope with two either, perpetual sleep dep!

So i have switched to cloth nappies! Never something i would have considered doinh and not totally sure why i have tbh lol but so far so good. Its a different experience to disposables but not really any harder. Still using a disposable over night though til im confident about no leaks! Anyone else using them nd have any tips?

@jpaws no coz im breastfeeding but deffo get checked out - had this after my first baby and it was infected retained products (sorted with antibiotics) its probs nothing but best to be safe!

@sleepingstandingup congrats! What sexes are they?! How do you cope with existing?!

@mamabear12 i was so smug last time as the weight just melted away but this time its holding on to the pounds. Im running 3 times a week, walking everywhere and eating well (logging all on mfp and weighing out portions) and not losing anything. I know itll drop off when i stop but its bloody annoying lol

@alicethecamelhasfivehumps lol yes to the inane questions. I was clearly breastfeeding him in asda the other day and someone asked if they could have a look at him i was like err.... not a great time!

Identical boys, altho is weird the differences in personality from so early on!!

Morning! I can’t remember if I’ve joined or not 😴 but hello again if I have!

My LG was born on 29th December. Reassuring you read your posts about sleep & feeding! She’s my second so you’d think I’d have more idea this time round.

@SleepingStandingUp Congratulations on the twins! Love that they have different personalities already 😍

@primarywoodle I’m using cloth too (also my eldest but didn’t switch until he was 18mths). Completely unnecessary but i’ve spent an absolute fortune as I love the different prints, oooops. I’m using a Little Lamb shaped nappy with a fleece liner and a Motherease Airflow wrap during the night. She doesn’t 💩 so I don’t change her anymore and that lasts from about 10pm until 6am. It’s easy to boost if need be. Shout if so can help x

Those with children already, how are they coping with the new(ish) arrival? My son is very sweet with her but he’s clearing struggling with the lack of attention from me. It’s heartbreaking. Full on mum guilt that I’ve ruined his little world as he cries in his most nights saying ‘I want my mummy back’.

Typical that I posted about it and then its stopped. Record 13 day for me though so hope the next one isn't as long.

@lazybutton aww bless him and you, that must be hard to hear. Hopefully it will get better/easier for you both x

Mines 4, he adores the twins and copes admirally but I think they all struggle a bit. Soon babies will be more fun and the older ones will have proper buddies for life

My older one is 4 almost 5 and in the early weeks he struggled, loves baby to bits but he struggled with the lack of my free time and I felt massively guilty and like I had ruined his happiness. However fast forward to now and he's my happy little helper, he adores his brother and is great at helping mummy out while I get dressed/wash pots etc and loves it when baby smiles and giggles and him. It does get better

Hello everyone :)

We are a bit late to the party but hope we can join in!

Our second DS was born 31st December by c-section and it's been a rather bumpy 7 weeks. Struggles with breastfeeding, recovery was alot harder than expected, and managing the school runs!

Sound like everyone is having similar struggles with feeding, sleeping and a side order of mum guilt with the older ones!

I struggled with PND when my first was born and hoping not to head down a similar path, but I can already feel myself becoming stressed and emotional about the lack of routine and a baby who won't sleep longer than 30 mins at a time during the day.

Anyone struggling with the daytime routine/naps/mood in general?

@lazybutton oh my god that is heartbreaking! In sure you already know but what comes out of their little mouths doesnt reflect what they actually feel most of the time! My little girl (3 going on 13) is doing ok but has gone from spending her whole life attached to my hip and hating everyone else to suddenly wanting daddy - i know its irrational but it makes me feel like she hates me! Shes fab with the baby though

Im using the littlelamb shaped nappies too - are the motherease wraps better? Im so nervous about night time as his nappies are soaking after about 3 hours and at the moment he goes from about 10pm to 7am without a change!

@mrshp1986 congratulations! How is the section recovery going now? Ive heard from friends and on here that often recovery from a section, especially if not planned, can contribute to pnd. Do you have a perinatal mental health team or anyone you can access? Even if you just keep them on standby?

At the moment im so lucky that Ash is really chilled and good at sleeping but DD was the absolute devil. Without a sling i would not have been able to cope - are you using one?

@primarywoodle

We're using cloth too... Using totsbots bamboozle at night...but DD wakes at 2/3 (from 9pm) so gets changed then... But once slept through to 6am and it was fine 👍

We've had 4 nights in a row of Joe sleeping for 3.5 hours in a block, then last night it went to pot... He was soooo windy, couldn't shift it so was only comfy being held up a bit, every time we put him down he was so uncomfortable ☹️ Gave him extra infacol this morning and he seems better so will keep on top of it today and hope he's better tonight.

How's everyone getting on this weekend? Xx

I’ve been feeling a bit low on Thursday and Friday but seemed to have picked myself up over the weekend.

I find it a little frustrating that we seem to have a bit of a nap routine in the week yet at weekends it just goes out of the window and then I end up stressing because I know he’ll be overtired and less likely to settle in the evening and wake up more frequently at night! He definitely sleeps better at home in his crib and when we’re out and about all weekend it just doesn’t happen. In the week he will have his shorter naps in the pram / out and about but generally his long nap is when we’re home. I didn’t want him to be one of those babies that would only nap in his cot but I can see it happening despite trying otherwise!

@forevercurious i cant remember if you have older ones or not but their ability to sleep and sleep routine changes so much through the first year that the habits they have niw most likely wont be the ones they have in 2 weeks, and will change again, nd again and again. It is frustrating but even if they wont do long pram naps now doesnt mean they never will ❤

So for the last 2 nights ive been putting Ash to bed at 9ish and then i go up at 10. Im sure i didnt do it this early with Annie but he was getting so overtired and miserable and refusing to stay asleep downstairs and now he sleeps so muh better - doesnt wake up again til some time between 1 and 2. Anyone else putting them upstairs earlier than they go yet? (Ash is 9 weeks)