Ttc first baby catch up with our babies!

[Fivebyfive2]

Just putting this on in case anyone wants to catch up? We're all at different stages, so might be able to help each other out?

@Delilah7 @RanchoRelaxo @MrsR16 @thumper59 @trashkitten10 @Bostonfern @crossfitgirl sorry I know I'm missing people, I'm blaming newborn brain!

I'll leave the link on the 'pregnancy' catching up thread xxx

@Lemonysherbet - it took me a good few weeks to get my head around everything and feel myself again so you’re doing really well!

@MrsEG - I’m pleased it made you laugh! I’ll be doing BLW too I’d imagine but totally with you on things not going to plan!
Finn somehow managed an 8-5 so I’m super impressed and feel refreshed! So pleased the boys were good to you!
We were just talking about when we’d be able to gym it again. I hope your run was good!

@thumper59 - he’s gorgeous!! We’ve got a nursery for September but I’ve not heard from them since the covid thing kicked off. Bit nervous about if he still has a place! And the separation anxiety thing is exactly what I’m worried about as nobody apart from me or DH has held Finn!

Hopefully going for a family drive as the weather is rubbish! Have a wonderful Sunday all!

@thumper59, aaaahhh Freddie is so gorgeous and I love his elephant rocker 😍 I know what you mean about it putting things in perspective, our town had a very peaceful, social distance blm protest and a 'counter' protest, ie a bunch of drunk overweight losers doing some questionable chanting. It's so depressing, but I look at Joe and he's so innocent, it's a weird feeling...

@MrsEG, glad you had a good night! I'm actually starting to think we may end up doing blw soon, Joe keeps trying to grab the spoon and do it himself! He doesn't quite have the coordination for that though, so we could find ourselves just letting him pick bits up and have at it?? We'll see how it goes this week. Ha ha your comments about the pouches made me smile, we've got some fresh veg mashed up and in the freezer but also a couple of pouches in too! He had a good couple of mouthfuls of ready brek yesterday evening, messy but really funny. He seemed a bit more excited for that than he did for the brocoli 🙂

@ELW85, I loved that article! The bit about eating the butter 😂 How did Finn do last night? Joe was OK! Tried getting him settled about 7 but we had a really bad thunderstorm and it freaked him out so was close to 8.30 by the time he was properly down. He woke at 6 and had 3 short wakes for feeds, so I'm classing it as a good night 😀

@LokiCat - cross post! You sound like me with naps a few weeks ago!
Everyone has a personal situation and it’s all what’s right for you and DH but honestly I wouldn’t do any sleep training at all at her age. I’m even considering pushing Finn’s back to 5 months. She’s so young she will still feed to sleep which is totally normal.
The ‘sweet spot’ for sleep training is between 4-6 months, as that’s when they’re developmentally ready, apparently.
They will all have sleep crutches but nothing that can’t be sorted out. My friend fed her LO to sleep for a year and trained it out of him in a week.
I can’t stress enough that I’m not judging anyone as sleep is a huge and personal thing but if I were you, I’d keep naps on demand for the first 3 months or so and then as her wake times extend, you’ll see a pattern. Maybe give her the opportunity to fall asleep in her own bed? That’s what I’m going to do with Finn but probably not rigidly train for a little while yet.
I don’t think either of us are ready for it.

This morning was funny; he was stirring at 4.30, eyes sprung open, I reached over to reassure him, he batted my hand away and settled himself!! Mama not required 😂

@Fivebyfive2 - that’s a brilliant night! Go Joe!! We had a lovely bath and cuddles with Finn, little milk top up then he was out from 8-5. It was hilarious that I tried to resettle him and he batted me away!
He’s currently napping on me as we’re watching Bolt in bed 😂 so much easier when DH is here; I’ve even had breakfast!
Are you up to much today?

@LokiCat Oh fab thanks I’ll look up that account! We used to swaddle for day naps and it really, really helped - swaddle and dummy and off they’d go! I understand the pram alone feeling - it took me so long to go out with both boys in the pram without DH - now I wonder what I was so worried about!! But the fear is real! Honestly once you do it once, you’ll be fine!

@ELW85 8-5! Amazing! What a stretch! Well done Finn! I bet you feel so much better for it too!

@Fivebyfive2 Yeah I’d say so! My sister used to give her daughter just like carrot sticks and sticks of cucumber and stuff and she’d just mess about with them!

@MrsEG - I feel amazing for it! I keep convincing myself he’s got bags under his eyes and must be lying awake the whole night. Wonder if I’ll ever stop worrying?!

@ELW85 I was told if they don’t wake you, they don’t need you. It helped me a lot! I often wake in the night and see one of them having a wriggle or even his eyes open but they’re perfectly fine and eventually drift off again. If they were hungry or wanted Mum, they’d let you know about it!!

@MrsEG - you’re totally right you know, and I’m such a light sleeper since we’ve had him. I find myself waking up to check on him and he’s always spark out. When he does wake up if he needs me I hear about it pretty quick 😂

A gradual progression in weaning, told via facial expressions 😂 @MrsEG, he was properly determined to do it himself once we'd helped get started...

@Fivebyfive2 - brilliant!! That looks like so much fun!

@ELW85, it was, dh was soooo chuffed when Joe started practically doing it himself! They've had some bonding time this afternoon while I got busy in the kitchen doing tiny meal prep... should keep Joe going for a bit! Feeling very organised, it won't last I'm sure 😂 How are you getting on?

Everyone have a good weekend? How is it already Mon tomorrow?!

I did not know this thread existed!! Hi all, how is everyone doing?

@mrsEG he is actually just over 7 months now! Can't believe he's closer to one then a newborn... which must mean I'm closer to 25 than 24 😂 aww that's fab! I'm looking forward to it for him, because he just loves playing! I think he'll have the time of his life. I'll miss him so much but I am ready to get back to work properly. Glad the boys had a good sleep! Hats off to you, I don't know how you do it with 2 you are superwoman! And a run wow you really are fab!!

@lokicat thankyou, I think you'll enjoy getting out with the pram! It always helped get Freddie to sleep when he was younger too and I enjoyed getting the fresh air

@elw85 it's just crazy getting them sorted for nursery isn't it! The time goes so fast. Yeah it's a hard one. Hopefully they're young enough for it to not effect them much but my heart still breaks when he cries just for me.

@fivebyfive2 that's exactly what it is! They're so innocent and new aren't they. I'm glad your nights with joe are improving!! He's getting it now hopefully 😀

@AngeloMysterioso, helloooo! How are you doing? Xx

@thumper59, well last night was... Random! Joe conked out at 6.30, up at 7.30, asleep by 8, up at 10.30...didn't get him back down until 1am 😢 He then slept until 5.30 and dh took him downstairs. Ah well maybe tonight will be better!

It's a new week ladies, I'm feeling good this morning 😀 Hope everyone is OK this morning? Now the shops are open I need to buy about 10 cards for various occasions, god help me!!

@fivebyfive2 aww no, he's just a night time party animal isn't he! I feel for you, now Freddie (usually) does 7-7 if he throws a random spanner in the works it absolutely knackers me!!

Morning all!

Finn had another amazing 8-5 night with a feed and then asleep til 7.
Just had to deal with a screaming nightmare just there as I missed his tired cues, but you know, swings and roundabouts I guess!
I’m torn about not feeding him to sleep and breaking that habit or just waiting until we decide to do full sleep training in 6-8 weeks. I’m just very conscious he’ll be at nursery in October and I don’t want him to not be able to nap!!

@Fivebyfive2 - ah no! What happened Joe? It’ll be all the weaning excitement!

@thumper59 - I honestly don’t wanna go back to work.
I’m gonna extend my mat leave I think to about 7-8 months. Never thought I’d say that!!

@ELW85 Great sleep from Finn! So, we broke the feed to sleep habit really young. Mainly with me because it was so exhausting with two of them and I couldn’t carry on with it. But I managed it so, so quickly - whereas some mums in my NCT group are really struggling with now at 4-5 months old. So, literally just from my own experience, I’d say try that (and that alone if not sleep training yet!) now if you can. The easiest thing we found was if they were drifting off on/after the bottle I’d just go and change their nappy, that quickly roused them. And then once awake again I’d go for a wee wander around the house for a chat haha, or pop them on the playmat. But we literally zapped that within a week. I think at around 10-ish weeks. Then it gave me way more time to try and figure out how they actually liked to be settled to sleep!

@Fivebyfive2 Oh dear, Joe!! I bet you’re exhausted!! Looks like you’re nailing the weaning already! I have some little trays like that for baby food prep, I have a whole cupboard now just full of weaning stuff! I’ve got an NCT training workshop this week about it too. Feel like 6 months will be here before I know it!

@AngeloMysterioso Hello!! How are you! How’s the little one??

@thumper59 Ha sometimes I don’t know how I do it either haha! Some nights by the time I get them both to bed the house looks like a tornado has run through it haha. 7 months! Doesn’t it feel like this time is flying but pregnancy felt like it lasted about 2 years...

Boys had another great night; 7-7 - Conor woke at 5, which woke me, but he just had a wee chat to himself for a bit then drifted off again. I hope to god the 3 weeks of hell were the regression and it’s over now!! They’re 19 weeks old tomorrow, I can’t understand where all the time has gone. It makes me a smidge emotional!!

@MrsEG - I’m giving myself this week to break the feed to sleep habit. Did you have tears? Finn gets a bit upset but I never know if that’s just because I’m getting him down a bit later too.
One of my mates just told me she fed to sleep until 15 months so I guess everyone is different!
19 weeks? That’s insane!! Totally agree about pregnancy lasting years 😂

@ELW85 My sister still does it 🙈 Her daughter is 2 and is still boobed to bed, she hasn’t ever had a night away from her. So it totally is personal preference for sure!! They’d sometimes get a bit fussy yeah, but they did all the time anyway at that age haha! It helped enormously with Conor too as I just felt he had so much more time to actually digest his milk. I used to find so many milk stains in his cot and worry he was bringing it up in his sleep :(

@MrsEG, I'll probably be like your sis with Joe 😂 I know it's not good in some ways but to be honest he's so easily distracted in the day now, it's nice sometimes to have a calm, quiet night feed... And it's just so tempting when I'm exhausted and he won't settle because I know most of the time it will work! Must try harder...

Christ. What a morning. Naps obliterated by Royal Mail etc and mother telling me I should be putting Finn down to get on with the housework etc.

@MrsEG - at least breaking the feed to sleep is going well. Sort of!

@Fivebyfive2 - I’m starting to see feeding to sleep as less of an issue given the feedback from my mates, I wouldn’t worry (I know you’re not, to be fair!!)

@Fivebyfive2 Do whatever works for you, whenever it works! The main reason I had to stop it was especially with the evening feeds, I’d feed one - he’d fall asleep in my arms. While I’d been doing so, the other had fallen asleep in the bouncer next to me... I’d have to wake him up just feed him and settle to sleep again.. And in doing that he’d get a bit aggy and wake the other back up 🙈🙈 It was such a dream when they just stayed awake after a feed and all I had to do was settle them for bed after a bath! Just do whatever works for you and Joe :)

@ELW85 oh no 🙈 Our mail man is wonderful now you know and doesn’t even ring the doorbell. He’s so lovely. We got him some brownies last week as a thank you for the zillions of parcels for the boys I order!!!

@MrsEG - and it continues...Finn’s reflux had massively settled down but I noticed last night for the first time in ages, he was refluxing after a feed. Well today he’s been woken up no less than 10 times in one nap with his reflux.
The stupid thing is, when I feed him to sleep, he doesn’t get upset or reflux!!

@MrsEG, oh I totally get why you were driven mad with feeding 2 to sleep! It's weird, as we're gradually starting to see people / do things again, it's lovely and I think Joe does enjoy it but it's a bit much for him sometimes... It's actually nice to have an excuse and jus say 'I think I'll take him in and do a feed' or whatever and he can just relax and do something very familiar, if that makes sense?? Lol I bet your postie appreciated the brownies, how thoughtful 😀

@ELW85, oh no poor Finn with his reflux! I hope he's better tonight xxx

@Fivebyfive2 - I’m devastated. It’s awful seeing him so uncomfortable and the more he cries, the worse it is. It peaks at 4 months so I guess it’s just ramping up. How’s your day been? Xx