August/September 2019 Babies (Due in Sept 19)

[IVEgottheDECAF]

Couldnt see a post natal group so have taken it upon myself to start one! Will obviously still keep up on antenatal also until babies have all arrived!

Shall we start a list of arrivals?

IVEgotheDECAF - DC5 - boy - 07/09/19 - 9lb1oz

@stroan the things that got us admitted were retractions- so her chest really pulling in hard below the ribs with the effort of breathing (they kept talking about "the work of breathing"). You can see it at the base of the neck too, but that's more normal. There was a video doing the rounds on Facebook a while ago, so presumably on YouTube?
Also we had a steep drop in wet nappies, and in milk taken (I realised in the evening that I'd offered her all her feeds that day rather than her asking, and I was feeling very full of milk) and she'd been asleep basically all day. She was actually quite hard to wake when we rang. She didn't have a temperature, although one came on while we were in a&e. By the time we got to the hospital her legs had gone mottled too, from low oxygen. I was like you, I wasn't really worried, I was pretty shocked when they whacked an oxygen mask on her and kept us in! So if you are thinking "should I ring?" you probably should. They saw us incredibly quickly (tiny baby potentially having trouble breathing is top of the queue) so if your hospital is close it might be quite quick even if it's nothing.

@IVEgotthePUMPKINS 3 years 4 months now too, in England (DD had hers today) they wouldn't do her flu spray at the same time though, pah. So get that in even if it's too early for the preschool booster, otherwise you will have 3 appointments to deal with!

Ty stroan and dusty DC4 is only just 3 so too early for jabs. I had heard that gps dont have the flu spray yet? Maybe thats an area thing

Hope baby is doing better this morning stroan

@Stroan how was the night? Did you ring? Hopefully all is well!

@Decaf ours just got the sprays in this week, so it might be soon? I was all pleased we were going to get both done at once, no such luck...
I'm going to pay for the jab for me this year I think, enough illness for me this year!!

dusty i was thinking about paying for it for myself and dc1 (11) everyone else except baby who is too young will get it free

@DustyDoorframes that explanation was super helpful. He's definitely not that bad, so just a bad cold I think. He didn't sleep between 3&5.30am as he was so congested but has been much better today. Yesterday wasn't a great feeding day so offering lots of feeds today to build back up.

I'm definitely paying for a flu jab for DH and I. He has man flu just now and I'm not risking the real thing! Also, to try to stop DS getting it.

Baby Catherine has had a nasty cold too, think she got it from DD1! The joys of toddler germs. We had a couple of horrible nights where if I laid her down she choked and spluttered and sounded like she was drowning so I had to hold her upright all night- resorted to putting her in her vibrating chair to try and get a few hours sleep. She still has the cold now but she's on the mend and the last two nights I've swaddled her tight and she's only woken twice which feels amazing (though has meant I've flooded the bed with milk!)

Sorry to hear about all the poorly babies, how's everyone doing today?

Dusty that sounds like a very scary experience!!

We've also had a tough time illness wise. 2yo has had a really bad dose of hand foot and mouth followed by a nasty cold that baby also has. Rang 111 to ask if I could give him Calpol and was sent to out of hours GP who sent us to children's ward bc heart and breathing rate were too high so that escalated quickly! He's absolutely fine though, they are just (rightly) very overcautious with the tiny ones aren't they.

All this whilst navigating a house move. I think one of you asked if I'm nuts. Clearly the case.

How was Halloween??
Toddler loved answering the door and dishing out sweets and was only scared by one of over 40 knocks on the door

@Stroan very glad to hear he's doing ok, and baby @Littlehouseinthebigcity too. Argh to bed flooding!
DD has had a load of wet beds and accidents this week (she's been dry for months!), so I've ordered a double bed sized mattress protector as she keeps coming into our bed in the night. Feels like she's bound to flood our bed sooner or later- probably while we wait for the delivery! Not sure if it's sibling related regression or a UTI, it's come on quite suddenly.

@danigrace house move!!!! That's much scarier than Halloween! You are bold and brave!
Someone else moved just before giving birth, who was it? @Fortheloveofscience was it you?? Are you settled in now??

When we were in hospital DC3 was sleeping in a cot (had to be with all the tubes), and no chance of me fitting too, so I half planned to have her in her cot more once we got home. No chance, we are still cosleeping big time! In hospital she was doing stretches of several hours happily, at home she wakes the second I put her into the cot. Oh well. We do get a good sleep so it seems mad to mess about with it, really.

That's how we feel Dusty, we sleep well whilst cosleeping and enjoy it so certainly don't see it as a 'problem' for us personally.

New house is completely gutted and rewired and had all radiators off and bathroom and kitchen plugs/pipes/gas moved to the right places so time to start putting it together now. Was thinking DP and I had been coping really really well with it and all we've been through but that ended today when we had a 3 hour argument (very rare for us to argue in our 13 years living together since we were 19) and the argument was over... plug socket covers

@DustyDoorframes it was me moving house. Stress city! Still have two rooms filled with boxes, and finally managed to get Indie's clothes unpacked last week. @danigrace it's so hard, isn't it! We're not touching the renovations just yet, and we still bicker about what and when we're going to do. Very settled though, best thing we could do.

Dusty, how bizarre that little one won't sleep in a cot after that- you really would assume the opposite! We're co sleeping still, which is a bit pants as I'm ready for a beer! But Indie quite often will kick off to come in bed, then kick off I'm touching her, so I end up squished over while she sprawls like lady muck.

Aaa @KnobJockey I did wonder if it was you! Just two rooms of boxes? You are doing well!
@danigrace that sounds like utter hell with a newborn, but will be so glorious once it's done! We did a very minor version when DC2 was around 1, and it nearly finished me off. V glad we did though! And fair enough to be having 3 hour arguments in the circumstances!
Yeah, re cots, I'd never really seriously tried to get her into it so once home she happily reverted to the big bed. It's a sidecar cot anyway, so basically an expensive bed rail...

Haha we're another owner of expensive bedrail! Or in our case expensive water bottle and bedtime book holder. It's been there since just before DS1 (27 months) was born and has been slept in for about 20 minutes in that time!

Glad to hear there's light at the end of the tunnel with moving / sorting house. Right now I'm just all of a sudden feeling incredibly overwhelmed with life in general and very teary then feeling super mega guilty to the kids for me feeling/being like that... Worried for DPs mental state at the moment too. I just hope things start to settle when we get in new house which can't come soon enough.

Hi everyone, hope all doing OK. Got a BF question. How do you manage when little one favours one side? Do you offer the least Fav first each time? My left is like a milk bottle, the right OK, but nowhere near as productive. What would be the recommendation. Should I pump that side too do you think??

Hi Gee, do you have local breastfeeding support groups at your children's centre or similar? My sister had this (called one side her workhorse boob!) and in her case she was holding her LO very differently on the other side without any of us being able to realise it and after 5 minutes working with a breastfeeding counselor she was feeding much happier on the other side

@Geegrl19 depends how much you mind being lopsided... although, my left is much more enthusiastic than my right, and by the end of feeding DC1 was much bigger, so with DC2 I offered the right much more often and evened them out. The second I got a BFP with DC3 the left was huge again, so you can't win!
I'd just offer your less favoured side slightly more often and hope for the best. If your baby refuses one side it might just be one of those things! (Although if it's that extreme it's worth getting that side checked out as very very occasionally it can be a sign of something being wrong. Extremely rarely!)

@SJP3 how's the tandeming going?? I keep thinking of you and forgetting to ask.

How are all the snotty babies doing? Hopefully all good!

I've bitten the bullet and broken out the washable nappies, argh! Rain now forecast for the foreseeable... Our old ones are collapsing so we are trying a few options, not wildly impressed so far. Any recommendations gladly welcomed!

Sorry to just post with a question and run but... DS is 9 weeks on Tuesday and still seems to find passing wind really painful - he pulls all kinds of faces and grizzles, pulls my hands into himself etc. It's quite upsetting to see. He's exclusively breastfed, I always spend about 10 mins trying to burp him after a feed but if there's anything it comes out in a rather resounding burp within a minute or so, I never get anything else... any ideas?

Thanks @DustyDoorframes and @danigrace. Will keep offering the least favoured side first each time. Could be a position issue as he likes to have his arm clamped up tight to his cheek and I struggle to move it sometimes! There is a clinic with drop in session each Thursday arvo so might drop by if I think it's too much if an issue. I suppose it's like everything in your body that comes in pairs not being identical!

@kyles101 that sounds very sad, poor poppet! No brilliant suggestions I'm afraid. Cranial osteopath? It's worked like magic for a few friends with miserable babies.

@kyles101 have you used infacol yet? It really helped us (still is!)

@kyles101 another vote for infacol here. Always found it effective in getting wind out after a feed, although if baby has any issues with reflux or silent reflux it can make it worse because of the orange flavouring (ime anyway).
Dentinox also do something similar that helps wind without having the orange flavouring.

Can I ask a general question about daytime naps?
We're at 6 weeks so still nowhere near a proper routine, but I am sticking to keeping awake time between 45-90 minutes where possible which so far seems to be working well at preventing over tiredness and following the 'sleep breeds sleep' mantra, so far is helping to encourage good sleep at night.
BUT almost every time putting A down for a nap is a battle and she cries.
We have a 'routine' (nappy change, white noise, into swaddle suit, cuddle, vocal cue) but as soon as she goes into her sleepyhead she cries and then it's 10 minutes of pick up and soothe and put back down once calm and slightly sleepy.
Is this normal? Does anyone have any better tricks? DS screamed for 10 months and only slept with a boob in his mouth so I'm in new territory!

We used Infacol for about 3 weeks, it really helped her get wind up as we were struggling. Stopped it a few days ago and she’s now ok without it-brings herself off the boob to burp then re-attaches! And her farts are now epic.
She does strain for farts and poos but doesn’t cry.

@Stroan was it you who had the neon sign made for the nursery? Can I ask where you got it from please? If love one for Indies room when it's finally decorated!

@RolyHappyNorrieTagBetty I've never actively put a child down for a nap, we just roll with sleep as and when it comes (boob, sling or pushchair, mostly!). So no useful suggestions from me!
DD is 6 weeks old today, milestone! I have my 6 week check on Friday, and then hopefully can get back to Pilates, my back is in dire need.

@knobjockey it wasn't neon I'm afraid. It's made from wood and painted. I got it from Twiggi Owl Designs.

m.facebook.com/pg/TwiggiOwlDesigns/posts/

I've finally caught the horrible cold everyone in my house has had and it's grim. I'd normally blast it with night nurse but can't while BFing. Thankfully DD is at nursery today but DH has an event tonight so I'm on my own until about 10pm. I miss decongestant.

Thanks anyway! That sucks about the cold, lazy day with the little one today? I feel your pain about the decongestant- being allowed ibuprofen again was one of the happiest things about not being pregnant any more!